God is so good that my husband took me to Nigeria and I did not want to come home. My In-Laws embarrassed me with open arms thanking me the entire time for the five boys that I gave them. Spoiled me the entire time and now if he does anything to me all I have to do is call Mama in Nija and talks to him. He is in church more now and we are doing great. Please go to the market while your there you will love both the fish market on Victoria Island and the Large Market in Lagos. We stayed ea month and one week I begged my husband to stay an extra week.

Igubosa

It is true that some Nigerian women do not like American Women but it is also true that some American women do not like Nigerian Women. The problem is this, neither sides try to get to know who the other person is. Am the one who usually breaks the ice. Some break down and some don't. Now when I go to functions they all come to me and speak. We come from two different cultures and it just take for them to understand who we are and for us to understand who they are. One thing that many of my new friends have learned is that when it comes to disrespect I AM NO JOKE! So they know not to go there with me and then you have those who are just naturally respectful accepts all cultures and assimilated into the American culture and love it.

Being married to a Nigerian man has not been an easy task. I was married ten years the first time and twenty three years to my present husband; the problems I encounter was cheating. In their culture they are allowed to have multiple wives and for some reason they want to continue that life style here in the United States. Also in the Nigerian culture if a Nigerian man married to an American Woman marriage is not considered valid and the American Woman is subjective to abuse from the Nigerian Women. They flirt with your husband in your presences as if your not their. Just like in any culture women experiences this type of disrespect but this causes your husband to try and work hard for validation among his peers. Eventually he will find himself trying to force his culture on you. Remember what you tolerant in this marriage is up to you. It has been my experience that if you stand your ground and practice zero tolerance he will either leave are give you the respect that you are entitled too. Never have a fear of them leaving you it take two to tango. Dr. Phil said it best "You teach people how to treat you". Igubosa (My husband gave me this Name) Which means a gift from God). Igubosa