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LifestyleTonite:
So sad to read the comments supporting having baby mama. It's sad because they are coming from the same men complaining about how girls are becoming degenerates. What do you think will happen if your baby mama gives birth to a girl and raises her alone? It means you are adding to the already awful amount of ladies in the world who lacked proper upbringing because both parents were unavailable under the same roof. Yet, you will turn around and slam women.

What do you think will happen to your son under the care of baby mama? Your baby mama's boyfriend will be sending him to go buy cigarettes and drinks to boost his energy to pound the hole your son came from. You might think Davido is not worried, but other men must be sleeping with his four baby mamas.

Don't you know that children from broken homes usually end up miserable or even in jail? A father and mother figure has to be present in a kid's life.

Any man who wants peace in his old age should avoid baby mama. Get married and raise your kids with your wife. I can't even believe it is being preached to guys to have multiple baby mamas. That's a recipe for disaster.

Don't allow the few rejections from girls make you dislike marriage. Yes, marriage is being messed up today. But having a pessimistic mindset will either prevent you from getting married or make you fail in it. If others are failing, don't see that as your portion. That's the mindset you should have.

And to the guy that tried to rubbish genuine desire from a woman, I pity you. Perhaps, you are not attractive enough to get a woman to genuinely desire you. The moment you overlook genuine desire from a woman, that's the moment you end up in a loveless relationship.

Light999333:
Go and sit down. You ain't the one to welcome me. Who the hell are you? Some redpill professor?

Light999333:
Genuine desire could come to an end. A woman could be crazy about you today, and in the next 2 years she doesn't see you as the man she needs. Genuine desire in the mud. With women, anything can happen. Well, if there's anything that I've benefited from the redpill, it is the need to be prepared for the worst at anytime. However, I'm still surprised by the acts of Eedris' wife.

Light999333:
But the redpill says all women are the same ..awalts.

Or aren't all women the same, anymore?

Light999333:
People must understand that even if you are so attracted to a woman, and she doesn't like you or she makes things difficult for you, it's okay to allow another man have her. But what isn't okay is you not severing the lines of communication with her. It's important you stop communicating with her for your mental health ( to forget about her quickly), and not because you want her to miss you.

Light999333:
There's a consensus about black South African men being lazy.

Light999333:
You are certainly not aware about Eedris coming online to ask for monetary help. Dude has been coming online to seek donations from good spirited Nigerians. I saw a post last week about him needing financial help, but I paid no attention. Then, yesterday I understood why he needed the money- the surgery was the reason.

Light999333:
Like I don't even expect a wife would that for me. The redpill has trained my mind to accept that a woman will leave you for another fellow when you need her the most. So, ever since I got to know about this dark side of a woman, I couldn't bring myself to fall in love comfortably with a woman. So that when she eventually leaves, I'm not shocked. My guard is always on. But this thing Eedris' wife did for her husband, challenges the theories of the redpill.

Blackavast:
Good morning guys
Please I need your help I have some issues of myself I'm trying to work on.

I don't know how to interact with females I'm attracted to
I don't know how to flirt with girls
I don't know game.
I've never had a girlfriend
Anygirl I chat with finds me boring due to lack of communication.

I need help on this issues. Please note I'm not a womaniser. I'm just trying to improve some aspects of mylife. I'm in my late 20's.

Zabiboy:

You wan dey serious with people wey neva wan dey serious ...
Even if you see one to settle down with, dont you think its because of your "resources" and nothing else.. Which leaves the door open to frivolous cheating , divorce, partenity fraud etc etc ..

How someone who went to a nigerian university and did NYSC can be so fired up about marriage is my 8th Wonder of the world

Omor i don type too much this night

Babangidayaro:
How do you look a young man with a promising future ahead of him in the eyes and advise him to impregnate a woman to keep her? This is very disappointing.

My only hope is that we still have young men reading these exchanges that can still reason logically and can learn to detect and discard posts that only seek to brainwash them.

As a young man, planting your seed in random women is not just irresponsible. It leads to financial ruin and kills dreams. I am not telling you what I think. I am saying what I know.

Most young men with baby mamas do not end up doing well in life with all the distractions. In life there are always exceptions. Please stop using exceptional cases to prove your point.

Any young man that realizes that there is more to life than sex sex and more sex has won 90 per cent of life’s battles. You don’t need random sex to live a fulfilled life. You can be getting all the sex in the world and still be very lonely. Sex can be bought. Fulfilling relationships cannot be bought. And having strong bonds and fulfilling relationships (with family, friends and partners) is what keeps men going during rough times in old age.

You don’t need to be married to have fulfilling relationships. You certainly do not need to plant seeds in women to have fulfilling relationships.

Lagosanambra:
Growing up, I tried to concentrate in school even while at the university, to avoid distractions.

I had just few girls around.

I have since the past 3 years--- after relative success in my field--- had few flings, wooed and slept with a few girls too from all tribes; had like 3 living with me for weeks at some point.

Now in early 30s I feel like I should seek something serious.
I find myself picking phone numbers from girls but then I come home, initiate a chat introducing myself but I have no zeal to take it further than that.

I just get tired of the whole thing.

Again, some of them seem uninterested.

You notice this lack of interest from the way they respond with monosyllables, respond after several hours or days or even abandoning the chats outright.


This is more pronounced if you come off too as gentle, without bragging, showing off etc.

I have no difficulty giving girls things occasionally but I hate to feel used or feel a woman is interested in only what she can gain in the short term- immediate gratification.


Going on dates would have been a good option as many girls would hardly reject free food, drinks etc but I don't have the time or energy hence deem it otiose, that's beyond the financial implications as many of the girls are coming to the dates to access you, not necessarily to know you.

And I hate showing off.


How do you guys navigate around this conundrum please especially if you are looking for something serious and not just sex?

heartofcity12:
If I'd go down the baby mama route, I’d rather do it with a rich girl or a rich man’s child, that way she saves me from most of the financial pressures and responsibilities associated with child support, that gives me more freedom to enjoy my singlehood, knowing my seed is in good hands and getting well taken care of, otherwise it’s not really worth it to me. You can’t be my baby mama and still be broke and expecting me to pay your bills in the guise of child support, hell no.

heartofcity12:
Oh well bro, we can’t say because no man is immune to getting cheated on or AWALT and start playing the game without caution. It’s like going for a wayward woman instead of a decent one because any woman can cheat anyway, it’s like becoming a simp because women cheat on Alphas too anyway. Then what’s the purpose of being here?

One thing I’m certain of is that most women cheat for different reasons, either for sex or for financial reason or other reasons known to them. The best you can do as a man in a relationship or marriage is to be with a woman who genuinely desires you and you always try to level up financially, work out and lastly always have an abundance mindset should in case she wants to screw up. It’s all about choosing the lesser evil than settling for the cold plain evil.

Zabiboy:
Man.. I limited my quotes on your posts when you said you are here for "the pussy". And so as someone who cares 0% about "the pussy" (believe it or not) we are definitely not gonna align in most debates. But i wanna touch on the message above.
Let me keep it short:
A poor man would say he's unhappy because he has no money.
A rich man would say "Money no dey bring happiness".
Meaning: if you cannot find a way to be happy as an individual without external influence( women and sex here based on your post), then money wont solve your issue, it might hide it tho..
Same with loneliness. If as a guy, you cannot create/have fun with yourself without external influence, then you'll remain lonely.

Finally, w.r.t the bolded above, as far as Me, zabiboy is concerned, No human on earth(not to talk of one gender) would make my Wins and successes a miserable existence.

Zabiboy:
Anything from Esther Vilar is always a Banger..
Sadly, men dont mind being slaves. Infact, they WANT to be slaves provided you boost their ego by giving them that illusion of being in control ( submission) and sex.

Nice quotes man... Goodluck to Patriarch's once again

Reminderz:
guy, blur out the number asap... why do you guys forget about this?

Johnny4you:
Are you a girl or a guy?

Why the banny dey cap say make your bf leave you

hammer567:
OBJ SEEM UNCOMFORTABLE AND THEIR BODY LANGUAGE WAS OFF.

emmaodet:
lol.....i get where you are coming from.
If these are the only countries in the world, there may not be capitalism because ven your US won't be able to bully the remaining 3 and will literally look like the remaining 3 economically.
So there won't be any reason for migration in the first place.
To answer your question, i will stay put wherever i find my self out of the 4.

tayewomi:
imagine asking someone to gift you money,and they immediately send u their acct number..I'm done with this type of beings ��

Johnnyboy6757:
I just thank your god, if na me I for give you black eye first before u even open ur mouth to say anything.

BigBashiru:
Why do men celebrate so much on their wedding day?? Don't get me wrong I will be happy and smiling but not excessively happy like most guys typically are...@ the bolded most guys these days dont even care so d girls are smart and eat their cake in youth and still hv it in marriage....

Martinez39s:
There are some attitudes growing up around many sisters will teach you even without swallowing the red pill eg. taking a female's sobs and tears with a grain of salt. I am sure you have this attitude from childhood because you have seen how they can manipulate and lie greatly while appearing to cry seriously. They will even swear on top to convince you, meanwhile they are lying and trying to manipulate you.

Uzomacharles:
Me I'm built around 2 junior sis...

Some guys dey see sha especially Simpsons...

Uzomacharles:
You go sabi beef women ooo...

How do you feel when guys approach your sisters?

Do you like schooling with them in the same School?

sollolucci77:
I'm telling my guy...the reason why women look at men as idiots is because we havent put them in their place...it has gotten so bad to the extent that women think they're equal to men in every aspect of life