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Koppaguard:
Op I was in your shoe last week, Imagine a girl I wanted to marry, I got her contact from a match making platform, coincidentally, she happens to come from my Village, my clan to be specific, she is 24 by the way. Our chats were going well until she asked me my age, I told her that I am 30, this girl get mind talk say I don old, na once I ended the chat, she later said that it was a joke but I have lost interest already.

you too ash abeg take this easy. She was just trying to be jovial.

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Na you know where you for dey see this kind women. My woman don't tell me shit.

Save and invest. If you fail, learn, safe and reinvest. Build a system, employ staff do run your business.
The secrete is own a system.

He stylishly use money to push the boy off him. Is not easy to cope with such a person.

What makes you succeed in life is mindset.

Na stress, they make Nigeria quick die. Working from morning till evening everyday with no retirement plan

Why not just traveled out and invest the money in UK, must everything be school

Prophecy must be fufilled

Citroen19digit:
Flowing from the lessons i am learning about marriage and sex and all the information gotten from commenters in my threads, now I have seen another thing that hits us husbands in our marriages.

Now flowing from my last thread
https://www.nairaland.com/8607331/never-marry-not-rich-small and my experience this afternoon, it has just hit me big time another reason why we husbands cheat, no, scratch that, have sex with another woman, for, for today i just experienced a very great and strong need to leave my wife alone and go out to get satisfaction from another woman.

And now I appreciate that, that same tiredness will still fall on the second woman, so reason will dictate that i should not try to have only one woman most especially as I am not even trying to sololize her, so she is free to be unavailable, hence reason immediately tells me that i am free to have women in the waiting.

And so, now I see how amd why a faithful devoted may go straight from there to a man with a string of girl/women sex friends.

Or, if my wife had a sister, cousin or friend too close who has been calling me since but I was ignoring, tomorrow, if I still feel like this i just might answer their call or may even make the call myself.

what give your wife pleasure and satisfaction is commitment and not sex. Weak men care about women sexual satisfaction. She has no right to deny you sex what so ever time, and you have no right to deny her commitment what so ever time. If she tells you no sex, tell her no commitment.

You try, he nor get any thing wey cheap this days.

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Pukkalolo:
Your response, only proves that you don't truly understand female sexual nature, or you're unaware of how dangerously manipulative many women can be.

Please read this with an open mind. I hope it removes the scales from your eyes.

First of all...

What does it mean for a woman to have genuine, raw desire for you?

Genuine raw desire is that primal “I want to rip your clothes off” energy. It’s involuntary physical reactions: dilated pupils, racing heart…when she thinks about you or is near you, not because you pay her bills or elevate her status, but because something in your presence, masculinity, or raw essence triggers her deepest anomalistic circuits.

Many men only experience affection tied to the provision and security they offer a woman, yet they mistake that genuine, raw desire.

She stays with you for years… you think she genuinely likes you. She gives you sex… you think she desires you. She says “I love you”… you think it’s true love.

But remove the financial security or social status you provide…or once she’s finally gotten what she wants from you…and suddenly her true colors suddenly emerge.



I have female Bleep buddies who are getting married to men they’re not attracted to at all.

One time, I asked one of them, “Babe, why are you settling down with a man you’re not sexually attracted to?”

She looked at me like I had three noses. Her reply: “Na sexual attraction I go chop? Abeg, leave me. The man has money, biko. I’m the firstborn, I want a man who’ll take care of me and my siblings.”

Another Bleep buddy, who was marrying an “odogwu,” told me she can’t even stand his ugly face and big stomach, but she needs to secure her future first.,


I'm gonna tell you the truth:

Women know how to separate the concept of “love” from “raw desire”.


Women rarely marry the man who triggers genuine raw desire in them…this is because the man have sexual options and are often not in a haste to commit to one woman.

So women, often relegate him to the role of secret lover, low-key affair partner, or occasional sexual escape.

They reserve marriage for the “nice guys” and “good providers” and available men who offer her financial security, stability, and emotional safety.

But these women secretly cheat on her stable provider boyfriend/husband for men who turn her on and give her nothing but intense feelings.

These women often regret it logically later… but the desire overrides logic.

Raw sexual desire very vital for long term relationships e.g marriage.

Without it, you’re basically signing up for a slow death by roommate syndrome.

Think about it:

If she never had that primal, clothes-ripping hunger for you in the first place, what exactly do you think is going to sustain the spark after years of bills, kids, stress, and routine?

You think is Friendship? Commonality ? Maybe But that’s not what keeps couples tearing into each other at 2 a.m. ten years in.


When raw desire is missing from the start, women often settle for security, stability, and “he’s a good man.” And for a while, it works.

She convinces herself that raw desire isn’t that important. Until one day, some raw confident smooth talking dude walks talk to her in way that triggers that animalistic desires in her and make her panties wet for no logical reason, and suddenly she’s “confused” about her feelings you — who has invested in her for years.

Smh.

Don't be fooled... Genuine Raw desire is important for all can romantic relationship, whether is marriage or just short-term affairs.

Be wise, brothers.

Your write up makes a lot of sense but when it comes to realty is not always true. there are guys who triggers these raw desire in women and as well rich or financially stable to marry this women. Red pill here on nairaland always referring to rich and unattractive dude as always the provider is not always correct and always come from men who has not succeed financial. Money buys attractive and raw desire as well. And women also married men they have raw desire for and this men are rich as well.
Ballance the scale to avoid bitterness

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JESHAL007:
a woman is not traditional, then yes, she benefits from marriage more. It's like buying a man's husband's duties and lifestyle with fake currency. The juice is not worth the squeeze.

If her traditionalism is based on subscription, when it only applies when you have money, are loyal to her emotions, and are a repentant street girl, then you should marry a man because at least both of you will pay during the date.

Otherwise, men and women benefit from marriage, if done rightly.

stop preaching gay and focus on the red pill .

See

Pukkalolo:
This is an interesting one because there's a hidden dynamic at play here…

Please read this deeply… because there's a big lesson to learn here.

You see brother, there can be a million reasons why she suddenly started ignoring your calls… it can be because
- She felt cheap after having sex with you.

- Her sister is angry with her for going out with you and the sister advises her against
continuing any sexual interaction with you…

- She suddenly got a text from her ex

- Or whatever millions of other reasons your human brain can come up with

But the truth is… none of those reasons actually matter. Because the moment you think it matters is the moment you start failing the low-key shit test being thrown at you.

This low-key shit test is called: “Guilt-tripping” or “Induced Insecurity.”

This is when a woman makes you feel like you did something wrong. Or she makes you feel like you’ve “messed up”, so you start chasing her more.

Example pattern:

She initially show high interest in you…then

- she suddenly pulls away and starts giving you the impression that she's losing interest in you.

- She starts ignoring your calls or messages without saying why.

- Even when she doesn't ignore your calls or messages; she gives you attitude and gives you short, dry responses like “ok,” “k,” or “hmm.”

The goal of this shit test (consciously or unconsciously) is to make you feel like you “messed up” somewhere somehow. So that you start trying to fix the situation…by calling her or text her multiple times, simping for her and chasing her.

Most Men fall for this shit test because it is a Trojan horse kind of shit test: you won't realize she's playing manipulative tricks on you.

One reason guys(even redpillers) easily fall for this manipulative shit test is because most guys have the mentality of being in control or trying to fix situations.
When it comes to women, we have to go against this mentality: instead of trying to control and fix situations with women, we need to think differently…

Here's what I mean…

In my simping days, when I look back at all of my past failures or mistakes with girls, I would say that 80% of the failures came from trying to fix situations when the girls started ignoring me or misbehaving.

Back then I never knew these girls were giving me the Guilt-tripping” or “Induced Insecurity” shit test. They were low-key making me feel like I did something wrong, so I can now start getting worried and start chasing them more.

Now, I'm very experienced. I understand all kinds of "Guilt-tripping” and manipulative shit tests women execute to control men.

So in order to conquer those shit test, I follow the “Do nothing” principle.

Let me explain…

A few weeks ago, I started talking to this girl I really clicked with. And honestly… I like her. She’s very beautiful, super feminine, and has the sweetest personality.

At the beginning, she showed interest in me. About three weeks ago, we had our first date…just a chill evening walking around ShopRite and vibing.

At one point, when we got a corner where no one could see us…we had our first kiss. After the kiss, I teased her saying, “Wow, you’re not a good kiss at all,” and she laughed, playfully smacked my arm, and tried to prove me wrong by saying she was just shy because this was our first kiss.

Our vibe was perfect. It got late, so I walked her to her estate gate and made sure she got in safely.

That night, I sent her a simple text on WhatsApp: “You home safe?”

Two blue ticks. Meaning, She read it. No reply.

The next day…Sunday…still no reply from her. She even posted on her WhatsApp status: a video of her whole family dressed up heading to church in her dad’s car.

So yeah… she wasn’t busy. She was intentionally ignoring me.

As an experienced guy… I instantly recognized what was happening: a classic guilt-trip shit test. She ignores the message on purpose to see if I’ll get anxious, and start to chase her by double-texting, calling, trying to “fix” things.
That’s the trap. I didn’t fall for it. I did absolutely nothing.

Three days passed. No reply from her.

But she was posting statuses daily, so she definitely was active but purposely ignoring me.

She's very beautiful chic, so at that point, most guys would start over-thinking: “What did I do wrong? Where did I mess up?” they'll be tempted to reach out and fix things… but I stayed disciplined and did nothing because I understand female manipulative games.

Two weeks later, out of nowhere, she hits me up:
“Heyyyy, sorry for the late reply… I’ve actually missed you though.”

The rest, as they say, is history.

Here’s the truth: if I had chased when she ignored me, her attraction would’ve died instantly. Instead, by following the “do nothing” principle…I gave her space to wonder, “am I not beautiful in his eyes? Why isn’t he blowing up my phone like every other guy?”

Because I did nothing, she became intrigued and curious. That’s what pulled her back in, stronger than before. Her attraction for me sky-rocket.

So KennethIbe59, with this girl you’re dealing with right now: follow the “Do Nothing” principle. Don’t try to fix it. Don’t explain. Don’t chase.

When a woman realizes you’re not panicking or running after her, something clicks. She starts wondering what makes you different. That’s when her respect, and attraction…skyrockets.

Stay solid, king.

Stay blessed.

a woman replied you after 2 weeks of ignoring you and you replied her back and accepted the friendship shows nothing that you are a back up plan and as well suffering from women scarcity mentally. Spit🤧

sjx566:
‎Brother, here’s the reality, sometimes a person isn’t attached to you, they’re attached to the world you’ve built.
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‎She celebrates the trips but not the man who paid the price to earn them.
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‎She praises the shine of your car while ignoring the character that made it possible.
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‎When you’re spending, she’s present; when you’re saving, she suddenly becomes “busy.” She showcases the lifestyle online but hides the one who created it.
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‎And her commitment rises and falls with the benefits she receives.
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‎You’ll notice it in the little things. When you win, she says we. When you struggle, she says you.
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‎She treats affection like a transaction and speaks in the language of entitlement.
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‎She’s attracted to the provider role, not the partnership. And the moment the pace of your lifestyle slows, she quietly shifts her attention elsewhere.
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‎That’s not love, that’s convenience disguised as affection.
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‎A man on his mission must learn to see beyond smiles and softness.
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‎Like I explained in my book Battle of Attraction, true connection responds to your presence, not your possessions.
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‎Build wealth, build discipline, build purpose, but never let anyone confuse your lifestyle for your identity.

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4500, at times it exceed.

We need to ask AI

Nijaforward:
They are the ones that end up on mountain praying for husband

not true, this once get husband easily because she knows what she want by dating already made men at young age.

If someone can eat well, pay rent, care for their health, and meet daily needs , that person is not poor, even if they don’t buy luxury things.

It for multiplication, so humans can fill the earth. The earth is already filled with humans now. No need for excess konji

Benin women are very sweet but na bad character spoil them

emmaodet:
A man can die of hunger and food would still be served at his funeral

not true, you are drifting from facts to motivational quote .

zenithgroup:
Which kind of mindset is this, have you been following this forum at all? You want him to gamble his future under probability. What happen to all the lessons you ve learnt.

if she wan work make she work, if she nor wan work make she dey go. In business, workers come and go, customers comes and go also, but business remain. Na simple logic bro. Any body can work under my business enterprise, either it be girl friend, sister or mother. They are also free to step down if they disobey my business policy. Stop being emotional in business, follow rules.

Streak47:
I have a question for the veterans in the house. They will have many experiences in the game. Good and Bad.

Has anyone been in a situation where you entrust your business and monies with a girl you have had something with either currently or actively smashing(situationships). For example, a sales girl.

How did it turn out with finances & other aspects. Is it advisable?

which ever way u choose just monitor the finance of the business.

Streak47:
I have a question for the veterans in the house. They will have many experiences in the game. Good and Bad.

Has anyone been in a situation where you entrust your business and monies with a girl you have had something with either currently or actively smashing(situationships). For example, a sales girl.

How did it turn out with finances & other aspects. Is it advisable?

girl wey go work go work whether relationship or not. Girl wey nor go work nor go work weather relationship or not.

They don,t know your worth
yet. Don't ask them to be your girl friend instead show them your worth by talking about your business a little, invite her to your apartment for her to see how comfortable you are. dress like a nigga and not a church man. Don't show despiracy by ignoring are bad behavior rather confront her. If she likes you, she will vibe with you, then pick up from there. You will be surprise she will be the first to call you her boy friend. But if she is making things difficult, don't border asking her to be your girl friend, rather move on to the next available woman who has given you green light.

The pastor deserves it. While not call the woman to your house, or go to the hotel if indeed he want privacy. You can not be sleeping with some body pregnant wife in the awareness of the public and expect people not to react.

Before the existence of money,how did man kind survive?