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SAM MILLA:
yes and i could teach her, what does marriage mean to you, is it about food, Obviously not,

Well, my mom is on me b/c I can't make Nigerian dishes anymore (since I moved to America, I stopped cooking).

This is actually a question for the men here, ladies please feel free to comment too.

Men: Will you marry a woman who can't cook?

I have a tattoo; a medium sized butterfly on my lower back. I love it, no one knows I have (hence I didn't get it for show or because everyone has it). It's my own little secret, I got it for personal reasons, so it means a lot to me. It's special and I don't regret getting it.

@mochafella
I'm new to this site so I didn't know about What Do Ladies Hate in Men? thread.

@kaecy5
I didn't say a my w/o a job is stupid nor did I say anything about the size of a man's pocket. A man's lazyniess has little to do with the size of his pocket. What I told you, if anything, is that I don't like materalistic men. I would not judge or date a men because of his money, I have and make my own money, I don't need a man for that.

No I would not sign no prenup.
To me a prenup say the marriage will not last, it doesn't even have to be about money.
Prenup is preparing for the divorce while I'm preparing for the mariage. If a man asks me to sign a prenup, then we need to think twice about getting married and reevaluate our r/ship.

What women hate about single man

Men who brag about what they have to impress you
Men who lie about what they don’t have to impress you
Men without goals in their life
Men without a job
Men that are lazy
Men who would sleep with a woman then turn around and call her a hoe
Men with kids by different women
Men with a beer belly
Fat men who call themselves muscular
Ugly men who call themselves attractive
Men who are ridiculously cheap
Men who do not live alone
Men who depend on women for money
Men who play games
Men who talks about marrying you 2 ½ seconds after meeting
Men who asks if you are a virgin after a couple of conversations
Men who swears constantly

And most importantly, men who don't know how to treat a woman like a woman
Ladies help me out here…….

Nigerian men are not romantic. I am not talking about gifts. I'm talking about holding hands, a kiss on the lips when we meet in public and sitting outside at night cuddling and talking under the stars. I like those kinds of things; just showing a little affection every now and then and not just when we are about to have sex.

AnnieBear,
There is nothing for you to be ashamed about. This man is a disgrace to be calling himself a man of God. This is why most women never report rape. I was raped at 15 (three weeks before my 16th birthday) and the boy who raped me was my first. I had sex him before b/c I was a virgin and wanted to know what's it's like to have sex. After that, he came to me and asked me to be his girlfriend, I said no. So we were at my friends house setting up for my party, it was me and him left there; the subject of us came up again, stuff was said, and that night he raped me. I was so ashamed. I blamed everyone for what happened expect him. I felt like a hoe, a LovePeddler, I felt dirty. I remember going home, taking a shower and putting my clothes in the washing machine. I then went to the mall because I didn't want to be alone but I didn't want to be with people. It felt like everyone knew, like everyone was laughing and pointing at me. It felt like everyone saw that I walked differently, that something happened, like I wanted or asked for it. I never want to experience that again. I wouldn't wish that feeling on my worse enemy.

My advice to you, since it has been 10 yrs, confront him. Don't do it to get back at him, do it to heal yourself. This shouldn't be about revenge. If he won't see than you confront him in front of people if you have to. Let him recognize and remember what he did to you. A rapist would walk by his victim and even speak to her like nothing happened. Do not be ashame, it is not your fault what he did to you. Tell your brother also cause he is going to find out and it is best to be from you.

Girl, I was just like you. On one hand it is good to focus on your education but on the other hand you are missing out on dating experience. How old are you? I am 25 years old and didnot start dating until I was 23. By the time I started dating, I didn't how to date; it might sound funny but I didn't know how to be in a r/ship. It was hard. R/ships are hard but it's even harder when you never had one and everything is new to you and you don't know what to expect. I can also say it is a good thing that you have male friends; I didn't even have male friends (too much flirting was going on their part). Now at 25 I am looking for something serious and solid but (I'm embarrass to say) I am experiencing things for the first time. I am going on with higher education but I don't want miss anymore experience with dating and r/ships. When you do find someone you have to learn to balance your life. You don't want to miss out.

Thanks Bhola

Hello everyone,
I am new here, my name is Missy (but I chose angeleyez as my screen name). I just turned 25 (Oct 28). I was surfing the net and I came upon this site. I usually don't like going online but I thought I would give this a chance, maybe it would be a good way to meet new people. I don't know how much I should say about myself. Anyway, I just wanted to say hi to everyone.