andromida:


I feel so sorry for what you are going through.

This failing and your Dad screaming at you i hope you know its not because you failed if you will be honest with yourself you know the dysfunction goes way back. Its not only when you are doing great parents should love you i feel parents should love you through thick and thin support and build you up when you are down.

Maybe this is your father's version of tough love. Decide that he will not frustrate you whatever funds you get from him manage it i don't get your mom in all of this but i want to believe she can help set you up in something you can use to get by as per the hostel so sorry to say this as it is really inconvenient but if you have a friend you can put up with for a while do so.

ur right it goes way back, to wen I didn't get admission, stayed at home for 2years and he frustrated my life. Mum has been helping with wt she can

thorpido:
It's a tough one but you will pull through.The experience will make you strong.
Start looking at some petty jobs. You can do on the side that can bring some income for you.

. I. Pray so, will try looking for petty jobss

thorpido:
Do you speak with your mum?Try to get your mum to talk to him.
Discuss this issue with any of your father's trusted friends too.
You may have to persevere and be patient for now.

yup she has tried talking to him, even his friends but he listens to. No one.

thorpido:
What's your position now?You were asked to leave the department,have you done that?
Is your dad no longer giving you funds?

I moved to another department, bu things are nt the same with my dad anytime irequest for funds he starts yelling. I asked for funds lasst week but uptilllnow he hasn't sent anything if I call. Him he will just frustrate. Me more so I don't want to call him. He wasn't likethis back then. Beforehe would send me funds the next day, and he has refusedto pay formy hostel. Dontknow wt to do

You guys talked to. Me the last time. And I was getting better but nt any more. My dad is justfrustrating my. Life and I don't know hw long I can take. It. My dad. Makes me. Feel like. Iintentionallyfailed. God in heaven know I. Read my books and I never wanted to fail but y is my dad making me feel this way

bellong:
Anna5,

You are too young to be forced into a marriage. Like Thorpido told you, it is only a matter of time, your dad will calm down.

What you need now is to refocus your energy on the next step and way forward.

thank you I feel a lot better now, my mum said it will never happen that I should leave him until he calms down

thorpido:
So marriage is another department?Your dad must be joking.
If the rule of your university demands that you leave the department,wait a while and have a talk with him.Let him know the school rule is that you have to leave the department.
The choices you have is either to enrol for UTME and try to gain admission into another school or you change to another course in the same university.Talk to your mum about this or any of your dad's confidants and let them talk to him.He will eventually calm down.
The reality of life is that a lot of people fail in the university but many later pass and are doing well in life.You on your part has to be very focused.Medicine and surgery is not for people who want to play

the want thing with my dad is he doesn't listen to anyone, I might just leave the house for hiim the problem is were do I go to. am nt playful just that I have always had problem in math it by luck that I passed it in waec

thorpido:
Who's idea was it to study medicine?Yours or your dad's?
If you have to leave the department of medicine,can you change to another course?
If I may ask,what is really your own desires as per academics?

my idea but the way he just kept mounting pressure on me made it worst. I only said I wanted to do medicine because my senior bro also said he wanted to do it and everyone was proud of him so I wanted the same thing. I can change to anothe department but my dad said if that should happen I should get married

hi as I write this now I don't know if I will be able too see tomorrow. if nt because of my mum I would have popped the pills a long time ago. I gained admission for medicine last year but our second semester result came out and I failed maths which means I will have to leave the department. it happened a month ago but I just told my dad today. and as I expected he told me that if am nt able to fix it then I should get married and leave his house or he will sell all his properties and pack out. he said it as if I wanted to fail. he has always been like this, always driving me to the edge. I don't even know y I wanted to study med in the first place, I wish I had gone for something else atleast I would have rest. I don't know wt to do with my life, ending it seems like a gud choice but my mum will be greatly affected as for my dad I would want him to feel great pains knowing that he is the reason y I did it.
he has so tormented all of us in the family if nt for the fact that he pays our school fees we would have put him in his rightful place a long time ago. he acts as if haveing us as children is his greatest mistake. he treats other people's kids as gold but us as dirt