Lalasticlala, rocktation, farano
Biko help move this thread to the glorious land for more input. Thanks

joceey:
My brother,listen to your mum advice and pls dont mind that your fiancee ,you are the person paying all the bills for the wedding both trad and white.Na you know how your pocket be.If after the wedding no money again na your mum ,you go still run meet while she go sit down dey look and dey talk say she be corper be wise my brother.

Thank you brother. Much appreciated

annro101:
How much will she bring for the wedding anniversary. Let's start from here

Carchoice:
Did She pay the bride price with her own money?

Either way it turns out, one of you will be angry on the wedding day.

duduade:
Red flags

Are you sure this one will hear word in the house like this... Marriage isnt about the wedding abeg.. And i suppose till now she hasnt called you to "lets sort this out" ... No communication... This one will bully you till you fall for her demands... Is this a wife material...



She wants a dream wedding and isnt ready to contribute to it financially


The 500 to 600k is money that can be saved and diverted to something else better. Her priorities are different from yours... Obviously not well matured...


I were in your shoes... I will put ALL PLANS on hold until both parties come to the middle..


In short walk away why you can... Cancelling an engagement wont kill you...

I'll try to make this short.

Yesterday I was having a conversation with my fiancée about my mum's suggestion about how to go about our wedding which is scheduled to take place Jan next year. My mum suggested that we do both trad and white wedding on the same day to cut cost. She opined that we do the white wedding in the morning and hold the traditional marriage as a reception in the afternoon. I pretty much see reasons from her perspective considering the harsh economic condition in Nigeria.

I was relating this to my fiancée yesterday in a phone call, when she flared up and said I should have consulted her to seek her opinion on this marriage arrangement before going to my family to seek theirs because I said my mum's advise seems okay.

What I deduce from her plight was that she wants the trad marriage at the village (south-east) while the white at the town where we base (South-West). That was what I initially wanted but due to high inflation in the land, I'm actually tilting towards my mum advise because I can't go bankruptcy just because I want to satisfy her. Why not use a stone to kill two birds?

She wants a cream-de-la-cream kind of wedding but she's not ready to assist financially to make that happen. (she's an awaiting corper)

I told her that the cost of transportation and lodging people from the village (hers and mine) to the city for our white marriage alone is gulping about 500/600k. That's transportation & lodging alone ooo.. I'll now spend if not x2 of what I spent on trad for white.. Why not just do everything in the village and move on with our lives? We can actually have it in the village and it will still be all nice and glamourous.

She said she wants to have a say in how her marriage will look like. Her imput is welcomed. But if she still insist on having the white wedding and not putting finances into consideration. I'm thinking that she want the white wedding on the city because of her friends who will attend which is not enough reason to go bankruptcy for.

It was a heated argument yesterday. We both went to bed angrily and not in talking terms till now

Pls advice accordingly. Thanks