₦airaland Forum

jamifa:
Dude, there are two things at work here. Its either you married her for convenience or you just been inconsiderate. Marriage is about compromise, its either you shape up or ship out. Harsh, but its a truth. By the way is your wife German or Dutch? If she is one of the two, then dude you in for one helluva a ride.

No she is a Celtic woman but I ain't saying whether she's french, irish, scottish or welsh!

I love her too much. I am afraid of hurting her in the future.
To be honest with all of you, she is too good for me!
I am a Yoruba man and I know I am going to hurt her at some point.
Thats why at her young age I want to let go of her and set her free.
I feel she deserves better, a man that pays more attention towards her, i.e a white man

I didn't marry my wife for hard sex or mixed children. I married because I love her and I still do.
I just wish she would change some things'.

What is her problem? Why is my wife so uptight? Why does she care about other people think?
Why does she have to feel she has to be perfect in every way? She's abandoning me and my
feelings.

SEgbo:
Please do not generalise about white women it is not fair!

My wife, if you only knew her.
She is so self centred. All she cares about is her looks!
Everytime she eats she goes straight to the bathroom and
throws up her food. No wonder she cannot get pregnant. She
is starving herself. do you know how it is affecting me?

I don't know where this myth about white women being good in bed is coming from??!!
From my experience nigerian women are much better.
Those white women, they care more about what shade of mac lipgloss they have on or
cooing over puppies and kittens than satisfying their man.

I am going to wait until the end of the year and see how it goes. Anyway, we have to go over to Naija in August for my brothers wedding. She is really looking forward to it , I took her there 3 times already and she enjoyed it and she was suprisingly unfazed by it. I am from Lagos. I am actually going to take her on a surprise holiday in the next few weeks so we can spend quality time together and see how things go from there.

Leilah:
Well do you think your Nigerian wife would be happy with you dancing around discos on the weekend?
I[b] have seen them here in the vaults in Dublin walking in heavily pregnant looking for their husband and asking their husbands to kindly leave, and I don't blame them[/b]!
Eventually she will cop on.

Do you think Nigerian ladies would not be into handbags and glad rags?
Do you think they don't sit around in each others houses gossiping?
All women do!!!!!!

Good luck to you.

So you are a married woman, judging from your post you go clubbing!

I have never cheated on her.
I would never do that to my wife.
Just because I go out every weekend does not mean I cheat on my wife.
Can an adult not go out with his/her friends to chill out after a hard week?

Why are all of you women bashing me for. I am going to divorce her for one of your sisters.

I didnt marry her for papers. I had plenty of white women before her offering me to marry them but they were middle aged and obese. Please, the papers were only a bonus. I married her because I genuinely liked her. I am actually in contact with a girl back home. She is pretty, intellegent and shes only 21 so I hope it progresses.

stillwater:
Do you ever discuss with your wife?

I go out with my pals every weekend so I think it would be a bit unfair to tell her to stop seeing her friends especially since she's known them for so long. I just want a divorce because we are not compatible and I cannot change her. I love her always but I need a proper naija wife who I can relate to. We do not have any kids yet. The thing I'm most worried about is how she's going to take it. I know she won't be happy and secondly my folks won't be happy either. They think the sun shines out of her so I'm afraid they might disown me.

[quote author=Ebony-Silk link=topic=254031.msg3648424#msg3648424 date=1238120001]I just noticed something:
Poster, when I first read your post, you said sth about marrying her at 20. did you edit it?

Anywayz, the numbers does not agree with your post[/quote]I started dating her when she was 20 then we married 2 yrs later.

OgidiBoy:
My good friend, the grass is not always greener on the other side. If you have any love for this girl try and work things out, you may divorce her and find you an African wife. I don't know if anyone has told you that some Nigerian women have some very serious issues.

Actually I think I am going to marry one of my own. The final straw for me was when my wife came up to me last week and told me she wanted a boob job because her friend got one and she looks great in a bikini. Now my wife wants to look great in a bikini but cannot screw her way out of a paper bag

David, she is currently a studying for her masters degree. She has never had a job yet.

Sorry I don't want to come across as disrespectul to my wife. She's just really frustrating me.
I have had plenty of babes back in naija to confirm that I am a great lover.

I am a naija man and I am married to a beautiful oyinbo girl for the last 3 yrs.
However there are 2 things about her which I cannot stand and I am seriously considering a
divorce.

1. Her friends
    My wife has the same group of friends since she was 12 . They all went to high school together.
    They're is nothing wrong with these girls. They are not riff raffs or anything. It's their childish
     and immature thinking that gets to me. They act like 16 yr old schoolgirls, my wife included. All
     they care about is who has the latest handbag, painting their nails, how they look, etc. These
     bimbos come around to my house every week and have a catch up with my wife. The conversations
     they have are unbelievable. Making snide remarks about random people and giggling away to them
     selves. They are truly nothing more than a shallow bunch of Barbie dolls and its getting on my
     nerves. I admit that my wife was also like this when I met her but that was 5 yrs ago and I thought
     she might grow up. But shes just turned 25 and I am really tired  i want to start a family soon but I
      don't think I can when she's a child herself.

2. The sex we have is extremely boring. She seems to have no interest. I admit she was also like this
     when I started dating her but I thought I would turn her into a freak in bed. I am always the one
     doing the work yet she just lies there saying " are you finished yet?'' I think she's a frigid or some
     thing. I was wondering why white men left this beautiful girl to waste. Now I can see why.

     Other than that she's a very good wife, very respectful towards me, cooks my meals, would do anything
      for me and very reliable. I love her in so many ways. But I still want a divorce and get a matured woman.
      My family will not agree as they love her so much but I can't live like this anymore
      Any advice??