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ekitimanalways:
The fact that someone has done something unjust or dishonest is no justification for acting in a similar way.

Thank you!

anthonyuncle:
look inward yourself for faults he dislikes.
report him to the family.
if he doesn't change, opt for divorce

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onumadu:
Not sure if anyone had already asked this question, but HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN MARRIED?
If your marriage is still "young", like under 1 year, I would advise you to be patient, and simply pray for your husband/marriage.
Young marriages go through crazy stuff like this when the couple is starting to live together and build together.
There are spiritual forces that need to be dislodged first. They are usually dislodged after the first or second year (usually the first year).
Then things settle down, and everybody starts behaving well.
Even this your thought about cheating may be coming from such forces.
But if this marriage is above two years, then seek divorce because it forebodes the future entirely.
But in all instances, cheating only complicates things and make them harder to handle.
Thread cautiously.

Thank you so much (3 years)

Stargurl20:
No dey reason am. Consider yourself has one who has no one in the world. That way, whatever he does wouldn't move you anymore.

It's the stupid advice from men who are asking you to pray for him for me. Is he an handicap that you're praying for? A full grown man who does things out of his own will is who you're been asked to pray for. Will the same be said to man if the reverse was the case?
I know cheating doesn't favor women, and I'm not asking you to cheat, but if you've called his attention it severally and it doesn't seem like he's gonna turn a new leaf, ma'am, perform your wifely duties, but stop giving hoot about his cares, attention or other things. After all, you were all fine before his arrival into your life.

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Saintmary:
If you're not wanted in a place, leave.



It's not childish advice, it's meant to teach you to value yourself.



You have low self esteem, that is why you can open your eyes wide and marry a man that refused to help you when you were sick.



Is he rich, are you poor, do you have a job?


How old are you? How old is he?


Leave him, don't try to change him because he never loved you and he will never love you, he has the right to either love you or not. It's up to you to respect yourself and save your tattered dignity.


Take it from me as the Cardinal Truth:



You will survive.

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yemmit90:
Firstly madam, you need to ignore all these inexperienced children telling you to quit or cheat on you husband. The problem started when you attached too much emotion and happiness to your husband.

All you need to do is to love yourself and find true happiness in yourself. Stop complaining and ignore him totally. Dress well, take care of your body, let him see that true happiness in you. When he is around, don't try to frolicking around him, instead, do that alone with good music. Make calls to your family and friends and laugh to it.

He would want to find out about the new person you became, at this point, don't back down or give a damn Bleep about him, continue with what you are doing.

Everything will gradually fall in place except he doesn't want you again in his life. Humans generally don't respect or value anyone who can't do without them, your husband is only taking advantage of this, having know that your true happiness depends on him.

Thank you so much

Socratiz:
Have you ever called his attention to his total neglect of you while he lavishes his attention to outsiders?

If you did, what was his response?

It's possible there's a reason for his behaviour which he may not even be aware of.

As a wife you have the right to have his attention but since you're being denied, it's necessary to find it why.

Infidelity is not the solution. It would further complicate the issue.

It's difficult to predict what may happen if he discovers your unfaithfulness.

Try to find a solution to it.

If need be contact a professional counsellor.

I have Calle his attention times with number but all to no avail
I can’t remember the last day he asked
“How was your day?
Even when I’m sick he doesn’t care at all
I have cried
Still no change
Reason why I thought of cheating so I wouldn’t care anymore
I won’t disturb him and I’m sure he’ll be fine

Kobojunkie:
I will never ask you to condone his cheating on you as that is an insult of the highest order. If you had been the one who cheated on him first, he would have gone berserk and put the curses of hell and the world on you for that. So, I see no reason why you should accept that for yourself either.

Also, It is better to at least keep your dignity than to roll in the same muck with him. Divorce isn't the end of the world. Instead, it is a chance to take the lessons you learned from your past experience and apply them in order to better yourself should you consider relationships again.

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mokset123:
no cheating isn't the way out, rather you could separate from him for a while, they say distance makes the heart grow fonder. I know you wished he did change when you both got married it might take him a short or long time to come around and act as the man who married you.

*I just feel you should have stayed away from marrying him*
when he showed signs that he wasn't going to invest as much energy as you were in marriage. My sister, marriage is hard work.

Thank you so much

Afodot0022:
My advice for you is that you should not cheat cos you will be the one at the loosing end. Your husband got nothing to loose and you will be blamed at the end even though he was the one that pushed you to that limits. Men are likely to be distracted at some stage of their life, thats when you need to understand him better that one day he will come back to his senses which am sure he would. Just pray for him and ensure you do things that makes you happy so that what he does wont bother you. I wish you goodluck in you home .

Thank you so much

Richy4:

Please don't cheat on him..
<< Just pray for him dear, there is nothing prayers cannot do... Try and watch war room, u will understand the power of prayer..

<< Dress nicely for him too...men likes neat ladies...Invest on underwears like Thongs and Bikini Panties.. Calvin Klein got good quality materials of Bikini Underwears..

<< Call him sexy names.. do not say things like Papa Ephraim, food is ready...

<< When he is going to work, escort him to the gate.. if u have no gate just escort him to the park.. that will secure him..and shuwww away unwanted distractions

<< Finally, do not deny him sex... Even if he wasn't doing it right, or hitting the right button, just keep screaming that he was killing you...
U will see how the attentions will come over night....

Please on a serious note, if he wasn't given you attention check which is better for you a Divorcee or an adulterer...I believe u are smart enough to make a wise decision..

Thank you so much

Kobojunkie:
It is never OK to cheat on anyone. If you don't like the marriage, you can always get out of it. Choosing to cheat on him shows you are no better an arsehole than he is.

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Bethanybethel:
No

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frozen70:
Cheat or no cheating, it doesn't solve any problem

Focus on your children and build your self

A time will come he will need your attention and audience, by then it will be too late as your would have been more occupied with other meaningful things that needs your attention


Just take charge of your emotions and things around you
While he is busy chasing shadows

Thank you
No kids yet

Nehe007:
I have a question for u...
1.was this his behaviour when you guys got married ealier?
2.did u offend him and didn't appologise?
am a guy,guys can do anything just to make their partner jealous...etc

This was his behavior before we got married, but he is now worse
He is a nice man to everybody not to me

brain54:
What does your conscience tell you…?

My conscience wants me to…I’m losing my mind
It hurts seeing other ladies happy because your husband treats them right, but he abandons me

rickpat:
no need CHEATING..if the marriage is destroying you emotionally..just quit and have peace... cheating would complicate your life more...for the records any man not caring or loving is wife is caring and loving another woman..

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yrhuhfy113:
Errrmmm it is NOT OKAY to become MAD just because a MAD PERSON lives in your neighbourhood.... IT IS ALSO NOT OKAY TO BECOME SICK because someone else living under your roof is SICK.

You are MARRIED right? You chose the man, no one forced him on you, so you have to find a solution, even if it means reporting him to his parents.... alfas or pastors.

You need to take his matter up to someone he respects and listens to, so that the person can call him to order.

You both need couples counseling, probably there is something about you he doesn't like hence he goes OUT.


if you CHEAT and get HOOOKED... you will never be the same again and you will be forever blamed... especially if you get PREGNANT... no one will blame the man.

NEXT... learn how to hacck his phone, confirm he is truly cheating before you made bold moves.

NEXT .... protect yourself from STDs

If all these are done and yet no change, you may need to confront his side chicks and warn them.. SEE, THIS IS MARRIAGE, YOU HAVE TO FIGHT TO KEEP IT.

Thank you

What would you do if you are married, but your husband isn’t nice to you
Doesn’t show you attention, care or love but he has time for the ladies around him, gives them enough attention and care even though he claims he is not cheating
As a married woman who is lacking all these from her husband, is it okay for me to cheat on my husband?

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JovialJune:
I have to say my mind sorry,

All you men dating women for 5, 10, 20 years, even if you marry her at the end, are simply mean and wicked.


That said, hml.

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