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Lol, better heed the warning wey we dey give female prostitutes, make dem no go use you do rituals.
It can happen to anyone, anywhere.

blaquebelle:
If you ask me, relatives of those involved in ritual killings should be incarcerated as well. Maybe that way people can begin to caution their loved ones and monitor them for such acts. Especially those silly parents that encourage their kids into yahoo and rituals.

Just imagine the parents of that Jos yahoo killer were already trying to help him escape.

I get where you are coming from, but that measure is a little extreme. Lemme ask you, can you absolutely vouch for what your relatives have done ,are doing right now or will do in the future?
You never can know what's truly in the hearts of men

Moneyboyz:
Years ago, a woman sent her son to buy something from a trader not far from their house, while the trader stood up to go bring the product the boy stole peak milk and hid it in his clothes but the woman caught him and gave him a dirty slap.

The boy went home crying to his mother, instead of her to caution the boy, she stood up and followed the boy back to the trader shop to fight.
Naso she carey that tin milk can and threw it at the woman, the woman fell, hit her head and died.

She was arrested and the rest of the family moved out of our community and abandoned their house till now. But till today people still point at that house as the house of the woman who killed iya lagbaja.
This happened over 15 years ago.

Exactly, these stains have a way of enduring through time. Na so the gist will be passed from generation to generation.

It's even crazier for the yorubas who do family background checks before marriage

OceanEye:
Life is not just fair . ... Alot are there, coiled in a corner.

But then, we have to understand that we too much celebrate crimes in our society, especially those 'soft crimes'. Must parents think it is like mining gold from a magic box?

I swear, only the people who are in this situations would understand, coiled in a corner as you put it.

Las Las its all just luck cause you can never vouch for your relatives or friends.

Say now them catch my brother for armed robbery. To the people within my proximity, my secondary description becomes "the armed robbers brother"

God help us

phorget:
Why would you categories fraud and nudity to crimes like kidnappings, murder or robberies? Crimes are in different league for sure.
Most relatives in Nigeria would always be proud of their sons or daughters who is into fraud of course.

Not like I am putting them in the same league, but say someone close to you has a leaked sextape. How would your mutual friends react to it?
Say how far, that guy wey just hail us pass now, him sister get sextape.
You get

I had never really given much thought to what happens to families and friends of people who go viral for one scandalous wrong reason or the other be it fraud, nudes, violent crimes etc.

Until recently when I was passing an area and my friend who I had gone to visit pointed to a house and told me of how the owner's son was involved in the act of kidnapping.
And then it hit me, the lives of their families will never remain the same. They would forever live with the stigma and shame of what their relative had done.
For me, once I close tab,minimise browser. E don finish but for others, O o o.

Take for example the case of the 4 young ritualist wannabe yahoo boys in ogun state. How would the people of the area relate with their parents, brothers sisters etc?
OR The proprietor who killed Little Hanifa in Kano? (I even heard his parents ran away)
OR The human eating cannibal in zamfara who has 19 children. What becomes of them? How would you grow up knowing your father was a cannibal?
Is society tolerant of such people despite their innocence?
I even asked a friend if he could marry a girl whose dad was a cannibal despite ticking all his boxes. His reply was an emphatic NO.

For the benefit of all for all, anyone with first hand experience of what life was like for the relatives of any of these criminals that others only get to read about in the news should please share.
Please share so people may know that the principle of "collective responsibility" is not dead and be guided accordingly. One person may commit the crime but a lot of people would pay for it in one way or the other.

Mods, pls do the needful.

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