Ok I understand how this confusing this can be, I have been in a similar situation,I still am as a Matter of facts.
I sort advice from my friends and sisters infact honestly it took me time to digest it, I had been dating my guy for a year plus, 1 day He took me to go see his Family, His older brother and wife, His Mom and younger brother, but before we got there, He took me to a restaurant and told me how He had a son when he just finished secondary school but that He was too young to marry and the girl was older than He was and bla bla bla but He and His Family took full responsibility for the child and He does till now, I felt heartbroken "a Son" not even a girl, God I thought of my own kids future if I eventually marry him,I swear I almost bursted with anger for him lying about it till then but for Love
I finally followed him to see his Family after much plea and His elder brother gave us a lecture telling me He understood my fears and that the Family will always stand by me if I had any difficulties I should let them know
I won't lie I left him for months to clear my head and be sure, but we're back together now because I feel I should not leave a man who loves me as much as I love him just cus of my insecurities
I trust that when we eventually marry and I have my own kids for him, He'll make the right decisions as regards us, I pray for Gods guidance in every challenge I may face in future

Ok I understand how this confusing this can be, I have been in a similar situation,I still am as a Matter of facts.
I sort advice from my friends and sisters infact honestly it took me time to digest it, I had been dating my guy for a year plus, 1 day He took me to go see his Family, His older brother and wife, His Mom and younger brother, but before we got there, He took me to a restaurant and told me how He had a son when he just finished secondary school but that He was too young to marry and the girl was older than He was and bla bla bla but He and His Family took full responsibility for the child and He does till now, I felt heartbroken "a Son" not even a girl, God I thought of my own kids future if I eventually marry him,I swear I almost bursted with anger for him lying about it till then but for Love
I finally followed him to see his Family after much plea and His elder brother gave us a lecture telling me He understood my fears and that the Family will always stand by me if I had any difficulties I should speak up,then told him not to make the same mistake twice,
I won't lie after then I left him for close to 1/2 a year, I just needed time to think and be sure, now we're back together and I figured I can't loose a man who loves me as much as I love him just cus I'm being insecure, I trust He'll make the right decisions when we get married and my own kids come, I met his son and I see how He loves him and I'm Willing to love him as mine too, I pray God helps me in every challenge I face in future....