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raumdeuter:
^^ Did you attack him in anyway before he started beating you

Or he just got up from a delicious meal and decided to exercise his fists on you

I wish I had the strength to have attacked him cause then it won't be beating but a fight and he would have been in a sorry state

Thanks for all your comments, I envy you who can be happy being a woman I pray you never know pain, I see the struggle of women everyday cope with abuse, I'm a doctor by the way so I should know, I see women suffer and smile, it's always being their problem, it was like it wasn't going to come my way, but then here I am, it's easy to say that a man was pushed an attacked again I say how many fellow men have pushed and attack you, why didn't you prove your manhood. If your strength is violence why not making boxing a profession and fight a similar opponent, y is the victim blamed , I once said if I get angry because I'm provoked, pushed, hurt by the shouting and insults hurled my way and I kill a man by poison on in his sleep are my justified because I'm pushed, there is my strength. as I can't defend myself physically I'm I entitled to whatever deems fit in my rage or anger. I ask you men. who kills you when you shout, insult and do all sorts
, who kills you when you cheat, what justifies your action is it your strength

I don't understand this world a man hits a woman he is justified because she angered him, when he angers her y doesn't she just put poison in his food or kill him in his sleep, or she is not entitled to being angry, is it because a man has more physical strength or is it what our mothers have taught us that we should beat women when angry, what a life, what a world. , a man does as he likes and walks away. y were women created, I don't understand this world at all.

mcdokwe:
The question is did you take after your mother, giving him reasons to want to hit you?

It is easier to say you don't want the type of marriage your parents had but still gravitate towards such or an even more disastrous one when you don't do the things you ought to to ensure you have the sort of marriage you desire.

You have a choice to make, work on your marriage or walk out.

In all, I wish you the best.

let me get your point it's justifiable for a woman to be beaten because she gives him reason , how many men have you beaten or has no man angered you.

He says it's when I doubt his love , that he doesn't have a problem with me arguing or having a contrary opinion on issues but when I say he doesn't care about me that's what gets him angry. but I don't believe him cos whenever I have a contrary opinion the way he gets angry no matter how little it is he will say he has passion for arguing and informing. He argues with everyone but I'm the only one I know he has beaten. well he said he hit his ex once before that she was taking him for granted

I grew up in an abusive home where my dad beat my mum for whatever reason just so long as he was angry whether with her , us the children or anything she always paid the price, after then he will beg like he is genuinely sorry only to do that again. The beatings were without mercy slaps .blows. dragging on the floor kicks, marching anything what soever , I grew up always wanting to leave the house don't know why she stayed. then I get married and I'm beaten by my husbands. It started with him throwing things at me when angry phone, toothbrush etc he knows how much I hate battery I never condoned or accepted it while dating, even then he said he wasn't a wife beater. but he's dad usually beats the mum that she had a bad mouth, now I was beaten I want to know is it genetic, generational, I don't want my children to grow up the way I did, I always told myself I will leave where a man to hit me, now I'm here pregnant and confused. He says his sorry, swearing with my late sons name he won't do it again but I can't trust him I know the cycle to we'll. what do I do