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RomanceThe Art Of Attracting Mature Women - Tips For Younger Men by ashleyscholar(op): 4:53am On Dec 31, 2021
If you think mature women are no longer attractive, think again because not all men have their eyes on young women. Some men are attracted to mature women because of their independence and they are less likely to be clingy. Older women already know who they are, what they want, have more experiences, have more interesting stories, more confident and most importantly they are not dating to play games. There are men who prefer attracting mature women especially those who are ready to commit.

You are sure that you want older women, now the problem is you are young and you do not know how to attract older women. Here are some helpful tips in attracting mature women.

Show that you are sincerely interested. Older women do not want to guess or assume, they've seen how men are especially those who just want to play around and just beating around the bush. Older women know what they want and they want to meet men who know what they want and know how to sincerely express they are interested. Be assertive and make her know that you know what you want. Showing your real and sincere intention is the way to go in attracting mature women.

Be presentable. Women especially those older want to go out with men who are presentable and who knows how to dress well. Most older women are decent and of course they prefer men who dress and look decent. A shave and new haircut can do wonders. Put attention to your hygiene too. Wear clean clothes and shoes. Do not forget to pay attention to your fingernails. First impression do last, so appear fresh and well-groomed to succeed in attracting mature women.

Be confident and have faith in yourself. Nothing is more attractive than a man who knows his worth, have faith in himself and oozing with confidence. Since older women are confident themselves, they do not want men who are insecure and do not believe in themselves. Yes, you are younger but that doesn't mean you have nothing to offer. Think and believe that you are attractive and you have good qualities that can attract older women. It's all about carrying yourself with confidence, having the right attitude and a positive mind-set. It takes guts and confidence to be successful in attracting mature women.

Make her feel that she's gorgeous and attractive. Women of all ages want to feel they are gorgeous and admired. Compliment her and let her know her best qualities that you really admire. But of course this will only work if you are sincere with your admiration of her so be truthful and sincere with your compliments.

Acquire more skills, knowledge and experiences. You have an advantage being young because you have the energy and the time to acquire more skills, knowledge and experiences so get the most out of it. Learn or acquire new skills or hobbies like playing a musical instrument, cooking, photography, sports, etc. not only to impress older women but to make yourself more interesting. Travel or visit new and more exciting places to acquire more knowledge and experiences. Read more and be updated with current events or latest news. The more places you visit and the more things you know, the more subject you can come up during conversations. Older women love to learn new things from other people so be that person who can teach her new things. Being interesting is one way to achieve your goal of attracting mature women.

Make her laugh. Older women tend to be more serious so it is great if you can make her laugh to help her loosen up a bit. Older women may consider going out with younger guys because young men are fun to be with and they have less issues and baggage. Sense of humor or having fun doesn't mean you are not serious but you just want to show a side of you that is light, happy and funny. In attracting mature women, sense of humor is important.

You have to know that impressing and attracting mature women does not mean you have to be a different person. You are just creating a better version of yourself to attract women and not pretending to be someone you are not. Do not be afraid to be yourself.
Romance3 Tips To Make Men Fall For You by ashleyscholar(op): 4:33am On Dec 31, 2021
Maybe you are wondering why some women are successful in dating men and you probably wish you have a magic wand to make men fall for you too. Actually you do not need magic to make men fall head over heels for you. If you have the total package that men look for in a woman, you have the advantage over other women.

Here are some tips to make men fall for you.

Reinvent yourself.

This is not telling you to become a totally different person because pretending to be someone you are not can be a great turn off to men. Reinventing yourself is about creating a better version of yourself. Everybody wants to be better but it is important to have the right mind-set that reinventing yourself is not changing who you are to please someone but making a better version of yourself to make you happy with who you are. There are things or traits that we don't like about ourselves and they often bring not so good things in our lives and of course we want to change those not so desirable traits to be better.

If you are happy with the best version of yourself, most men will not fail to notice that. You will become more irresistible than before. With a better version of yourself, you are more confident that you can make men fall for you.

Improving your appearance is one way to reinvent yourself. Your body and your face have important roles in your total appearance and you should take care of them. Maintain a good shape. Be more physically active to maintain a physically fit body. Eat the right foods to keep you healthy. Take care of your face. Always keep your face clean and moisturized. If you have acne problems, seek the best solution to get rid of them. Change your hairstyle occasionally to be more interesting but of course choose a hairstyle that looks good on you and suits your personality. Pay attention to your personal hygiene, it is important to practice good hygiene to appear clean and fresh all the time. Choose your outfits carefully. Choose clothes that flatter your best features and can make you standout. If you have attractive legs, then do not afraid to show your legs but dress appropriately and avoid sending the wrong message. Always look good even at home, who knows if someone will knock at your door and that someone could be the one for you.

Reinventing yourself is not only about outside appearance but it also includes your personality. This is more about the traits and habits that you have that are not really appealing. For instance, if you are a naturally shy person and not good at conversing with people, striving to overcome your shyness or learning to converse better with people is a step to reinvent yourself. Learning to be more confident with yourself is a good change that can bring more positive things in your life. If you are happy with who you are, you can make men fall for you.

Smile more.

Women usually wear make-up to look beautiful and more attractive. Do you know that the best make-up that you can wear is your smile? Smile more and smile often to make men fall for you. Some people do not realize the positive impact of smiling often. Smiling is the best way to communicate your happiness and it is infectious. A smile can put you and the people around you in good mood. Wearing a smile makes you look more youthful, cheerful, friendly and approachable. Of course to be confident with your smile you must have a good set of pearly white teeth so make sure to visit your dentist regularly to keep your teeth and gums healthy.

A smile is a powerful habit that attracts or magnetize people, including the opposite sex of course. Why do you think the painting of Mona Lisa became one of the most famous paintings that most people want to look at? It is because of her smile.

Smiling is a gesture that everyone can do effortlessly so why not practice the habit of smiling often to increase your level of attractiveness. Make men fall for you by flashing your infectious smiles.

Have a few hobbies or acquire some skills that not everybody can do.

If you are someone who have no passion or interest on something, you probably are a boring person which is a major turn off to men and it can be a hindrance to make men fall for you. Women who have lots of interests and hobbies are more interesting and more capable of attracting men.

Playing sports is one of the hobbies than men find sexy and attractive. Most men are attracted to physically active women maybe because they are looking for healthy women who can live long and can produce them their heirs. Aside from that, most men are physically active and they find it interesting to know a woman who is also interested on what they are doing.

Cooking is another skill or hobby that men find attractive. As the old saying goes "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach." You cooking skills can bring romance into your life.

The ability to play a musical instrument is an attractive skill that you can use to make men fall for you. Learning a musical instrument requires dedication, patience and talent and those are admirable traits that men usually look for a partner. People can also communicate their feelings through music and this is a great tool to connect with men emotionally

Of course whatever hobbies or new skills you acquired, it is important that you enjoy doing them because the joy of doing them makes you more attractive.
RomanceWhat Attracts Women The Most? by ashleyscholar(op): 3:23am On Dec 31, 2021
Just when we thought that tall, dark and handsome men are what attracts women the most, we will see men of average looks dating gorgeous women. Is it pure luck? Or are these women out of their mind? Well, it all comes down to attraction, not all handsome men have the qualities that attracts women and even average looking men can magnetize gorgeous women. So what attracts women the most?

When it comes to attraction, men and women are totally different. While men are more physical and usually detached, women are more personal and emotional. Most women are interested on people's feelings than the physical aspect. It is important to know what attracts women the most to achieve success in dating women.

Men who know what they want and they go for it. Most women are attracted to men who take the necessary actions to achieve their goals. They just don't dream but they pursue their dreams to make it happen. The drive of these men to achieve their goals is what attracts women the most. A man with a passion and doing something to make it a reality is very attractive.

Men who can connect with women on the emotional level. As previously mentioned, women tend to be more emotional so they want men who can connect with them emotionally. Most men are not emotional but it can be very attractive if men can put down their walls and let women in. Men are more attractive when they know how to listen, communicate and share their emotions. Showing your emotions is not a sign of weakness but it shows that you also have your soft side.

Men who have the time to be with their woman. Women are attracted to men who can make them feel that they are their priority and not just someone who is the last on their list. This doesn't mean that women have to be demanding but women of course do not want to be the last on your list of priorities.

Men who are spontaneous. It is important for men to always plan and do everything according to their plans to be really successful in this life but it can make them appear lifeless and boring if they are so predictable and keep doing the same things. A man who can be unpredictable sometimes and can do things out of nowhere for the sake of romance can be very attractive. He doesn't mind to look silly once in a while and he's ready to throw caution in the wind and dance with you in the rain.

Men with a sense of humor. Make her laugh and she's yours. A great sense of humor is what attracts women the most. Most women worry too much and tend to be more serious so they want to be around people who can make them forget their worries and can make them laugh. A man who can make a woman laugh and feel happy every time she's with him is really unforgettable and attractive.

Responsible and caring. Men are called the head of the family and this title means men have the authority and the responsibility to head a family. Women are drawn to men who are responsible and caring maybe because they know that men who have these qualities can be a good head of the family. A responsible man knows how to fulfill his obligations and is an inspiration to others.
RomanceIncrease Your Appeal To Women by ashleyscholar(op): 6:44am On Dec 30, 2021
There are men who simply have the charisma and appeal to women and most men want to be in their shoes. Who wouldn't want to attract women effortlessly? But not everyone have that natural charisma so if you feel that you do not have that natural appeal to women, it doesn't mean that you can't develop it. Appeal is something that can be developed. So how to increase your appeal to women?

Good personal hygiene. It is surprising how many men take their hygiene for granted affecting their charm to women. If you want to increase your appeal to women, you have to maintain a good personal hygiene. Most men perspire a lot so it is important to use a good antiperspirant to appear fresh all the time. Pay attention to your dental health to keep your teeth white and healthy and most of all to avoid bad breath. Brush your teeth regularly and do not forget to carry a pack of candy mints that comes in handy after eating or drinking something smelly. Shower at least twice a day to always look fresh. Women can notice even the small details like your nails, so keep your nails trimmed and clean all the time. Moisturize and put attention to your skin health because most women admire men with healthy skin. Always practice good hygiene because women definitely wouldn't want to go out with men who have poor hygiene.

Good grooming. Choose a hairstyle that matches your personality and your lifestyle. Get rid of unwanted hair on your nose and make sure to do it regularly. Wear clean clothes and footwear all the time. Most people wear nice and clean clothes but usually forget to put attention to their shoes or footwear so do not make this kind of mistake and wear clean clothes and well-polished clean shoes. Invest on a decent belt that matches your shoes. It wouldn't hurt to wear perfumes every time you go out. Pay attention to your wardrobe or learn how to dress sharp and appropriately. Your overall appearance can greatly increase your appeal to women but remember that you do not have to spend a fortune to groom yourself.

Stay fit and maintain a good body shape. If most men love to go out with sexy women, it is the same with most women. They prefer men who are fit and in good shape so get rid of your beer belly and start working out now. Go to the gym to lose those unwanted pounds and build lean muscles to stay fit. Getting into shape is not only to increase your appeal to women but it is also for your overall health and well-being. It is also a good way to boost your self-confidence. Men who are happy with their body are more confident and healthier.

Learn to cook and acquire other skills that come in handy at home. Men who can cook and have skills that comes in handy at home like carpentry or repairing things at home have special appeal to women. Most women are looking for a potential husband and knowing how to fix things at home and how to work around the kitchen are good qualities of a husband to be.

Have some hobbies. Using your time wisely on creative or physically challenging hobbies can be very attractive. Some of the hobbies that women find appealing include playing musical instruments, photography, DIY and playing sports. A person who is good at something is very admirable and attractive. If you want to increase your appeal to women, have some hobbies or skills you are good at. It will not only make you more interesting but it will also create a positive impact on your personality.

Leadership. This doesn't mean that you have to be a president of an organization or you have to hold a high position in a major company. Leadership is the ability to guide people to do some tasks or solve problems. The initiative and ability to lead others can be a very impressive and attractive trait. Your leadership skills can help you increase your appeal to women.

Confidence. Men with confidence are very attractive because it means they know their worth. It's a big turn off to see men who do not believe in themselves and do not know their worth. For someone to believe in you, you must believe in yourself first. Work on your confidence to increase your appeal to women.
Romance17 Tips To Become A Potential Boyfriend by ashleyscholar(op): 4:48am On Dec 30, 2021
Are you looking for a girlfriend or do you want to know how to get a girlfriend? To get a girlfriend, it all comes down to your attractiveness and qualities as a potential boyfriend. It maybe impossible to turn yourself into a perfect boyfriend, but it is possible to come close to an ideal boyfriend most women are looking for. Here are some tips to help you become a potential boyfriend and have a better chance of succeeding in the dating arena.

Be trustworthy. Your future girlfriend will entrust you her physical and emotional being and if you are not trustworthy enough to take care of her emotionally and physically, you shouldn't be dreaming of being her boyfriend. To be trusted, you have to be loyal and capable of sticking to one girl, meaning fidelity is a must if you want to be trusted. Showing qualities that you are a one woman man can help you become a potential boyfriend most women are looking for.

Know what you want and go for it. A man who can't make decisions because he does not know what he wants is a big turn off. Indecisiveness is not a good trait for a boyfriend. Knowing what you want and taking actions are very attractive traits. For instance, if you really want a relationship, you put yourself out there and let her know that you are interested not just as a friend but as a boyfriend. Of course there is a chance you'll get rejected but a man who knows what he wants is not afraid to take risks just because he's afraid of losing. Not taking a step forward or taking a risk on something you want will not get you anywhere. You will remain unnoticed unless you take a step forward and do something. To be a potential boyfriend you must know what you want and you must do something about it.

You are not insecure and you know your worth. Not knowing your worth or not putting importance to yourself could make it hard for you to find a girlfriend. No one wants to have an insecure boyfriend. You have to love yourself first to be able to love others. A man who knows his worth is more confident and this is an admirable trait especially to the opposite sex. Most women are drawn to confident and secured men.

Be compassionate and caring. A compassionate and caring person is not selfish. He has a heart that cares for others. Women are naturally caring and compassionate and they have a soft spot for men who are kindhearted and concerned to the welfare of not only his family and friends but also the well-being of other people. To become a potential boyfriend, you have to be caring and compassionate.

Be honest. No one wants a relationship based on lies so to become a potential boyfriend, you have to be honest from the start. Do not pretend to be someone you are not just to impress her. Be yourself and be honest from the start and that is a good trait women are looking for.

Be chivalrous. In this modern generation, most men behave too modern that they often lack the "gentleman" qualities that men should normally have. Being a boyfriend even in this new generation requires you to act as a gentleman so being more chivalrous can help you secure a spot to become a potential boyfriend. No matter what generation it is, being chivalrous melts women's heart. Simple chivalrous acts like opening the door for her, pulling a chair, protecting her while walking on the streets, pick her up or walk her home, putting gloves on her hands or jacket on her shoulder when she's cold, etc. goes a long way. Women can be independent but that doesn't mean they do not want to be treated like ladies. Those little courtly acts can make a woman feel she's special and can make her want you as a boyfriend.

Be generous. Being generous is not only about giving lavish gifts. If you can afford it, then by all means shower her with gifts but generosity also means giving your time, love and affection abundantly. Showing your love may include spending on gifts or dates but it doesn't mean you have to spend more than you can afford to show your generosity. It is good that a woman is aware that you are willing to spend on her but always remember that it's the thoughts that counts.

You are open to compromise. A relationship won't work if you don't know how to find the middle ground and compromise. Showing that you are not close-minded and that you are open to compromise on issues or things that you both cannot see each other eye-to-eye, makes you a potential boyfriend.

You are willing to open up. Most men are aloof and most women find it appealing at first but if you keep putting up walls that seems hard to break, it could push women away. It may be true that men want their own space but there are times that men should also open up. People including women will open up more to you if you are willing to open up too. To become a potential boyfriend, be more open and let her in.

You should be reliable. A woman should feel secure when you are around because you are a reliable man. You are consistent and always do what you said you'll do. If you said you'll show up on a specific time then show up on time. Reliability is one of the traits most women are looking for a potential boyfriend.

You are serious and not just playing games. Most women are looking for a boyfriend who do not want to play games so they are looking for someone for keeps. If you just want women for fun, do not look for a girlfriend or a relationship. Most women looking for a boyfriend want a real relationship and if you are serious, then you can be a potential boyfriend.

You are someone who takes your future seriously. Most women do not want an easy go lucky guy but they aspire for a boyfriend who takes his future seriously. To become a potential boyfriend you must have future goals, have a career and financially secured. You can support yourself and of course your future partner. If you are looking for a girlfriend, of course you have the time to invest in the relationship despite your focus on your career or else your girlfriend will suffer if you end up putting her last on your list.

Don't expect physical intimacy too soon. To become a potential boyfriend, you must be patient. Do not expect to get laid on the first or second date but wait until she's ready or until the time is right. A man who is prepared for a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship patiently waits and respects a woman's reserved nature. By patiently waiting, it proves that sex is not your primary intention but you actually want a relationship and willing to wait until she's ready.

Be a good listener. Listen closely when she's talking and let her know that you are really listening. Remember even the small details about her. Most men often think that women are big talkers and they do not think that it's worth listening to everything they say. Let her know that you are different and that you know how to listen. Making eye contact while listening to her can help you make emotional connections with her. Most women want to be heard and they want a boyfriend who knows how to listen.

Show interest on her passion. Like most men, women also want their man to show interest on what they do. A man who truly wants a relationship with a woman is also interested on everything about her including her job, hobbies and her passion. Showing support and interest on things important to her can help you become a potential boyfriend.

Become friends with her family and friends. Most women consider the opinion of their families and close friends regarding relationships. It is best to become friends with people close to her to have a solid back up and to prove that you are serious and sincere with your intentions. Taking into consideration the important roles of her family and friends on her relationships can help you become a potential boyfriend.

Always be positive. Many men encountered rejections after rejections before finding the one destined for them. Do not be too hard on yourself. Think that another rejection makes you one step closer to finding the one right for you. Enjoy the experience of dating and you will eventually find the one for you.
Romance7 Traits That Make A Woman Stand Out by ashleyscholar(op): 4:33am On Dec 30, 2021
With a lot of single women like you out there and most single men are already taken, the competition for single men is high. To succeed in dating, a woman should be capable of getting the attention of those single men. So what makes a woman stand out?

She's oozing with confidence. Take note, it is confidence and not arrogance because those are two different things. An arrogant person is someone who thinks she's better than anyone else. A confident woman is someone who knows her worth but still respects others. A confident woman knows her value, knows what she wants and knows how to get it. Confidence is one of the traits that makes a woman stand out.

She has her own style. She's not a copy cut but she has her own style and personality. Many women are victims of hypes and trying to look like someone who is popular so these women end up like replicas who dress alike and act alike. It is not bad to follow the trend but a woman who stands out knows herself and has her own style, a style that suits her personality. Having a style of her own makes a woman stand out. A woman who exudes her own style stands out in the midst of women who dress and act alike.

She looks at the brighter side. A woman who is not melodramatic and does not take things too seriously is admirable. Life can be full of drama and unexpected circumstances but she knows how to look at the brighter side and do not let stress and problems take the best of her. A woman who has the ability to look at the brighter side despite the harsh realities of life makes her stand out. A positive attitude makes a woman stand out.

She's fun to be with. Although she doesn't live an easy-going life, she can be spontaneous and can have an easy-going attitude once in a while. She doesn't make a big deal out of everything. She knows how to have fun and she's fun to be with.

She's good at something. What a ballerina, a woman book author or a writer, a woman who paints and showcase her works in art galleries or exhibits, an excellent cook, a woman who designs clothes, a woman who can play musical instruments and a woman who plays sports have in common? They stand out because they are skilled and good at something. Not all women who are good at something were born gifted but they are women who are passionate about something and coupled their passion with actions. You can do the same if you want to stand out. What is your passion? Are you doing something about it? Being good at something makes a woman stand out.

She can express herself and can make decisions. Many women avoid making decisions and airing their opinions because they are afraid. They leave those things to men which some men find a little burdensome. The ability to make decisions and speak her mind can make a woman stand out. She doesn't have to be forceful but when asked, she should be able to express herself and make decisions.

Her independence. She's not clingy. She's comfortable on her own and she knows how to handle her life. Although she wants a man in her life, her world doesn't revolve only around men. She has her own thing going and she's in control of her own life. She can live on her own and not needy.
RomanceHow To Beat Shyness Around Women - What Men Should Know by ashleyscholar(op): 4:24am On Dec 30, 2021
Many men are confident and know their way around women and this is an advantage and a skill they can use to succeed in dating women. Unfortunately, there are men who lack confidence and so shy that they cannot express themselves around women and so they end up dateless and loveless. For these men, knowing how to beat their shyness around women is important for them to have the relationship they've always wanted with their dream woman.

So how to beat your shyness around women?

Decide to do something to conquer your shyness around women. The first thing to do is to make a decision that you will act and do something to beat your shyness around women. If you want to have a good job will you just sit there and wait? Or will you go out and do something to get that job you really want? Anything you want can be achieved by making a plan and taking action whether it is in your professional life or in your personal life. If you want something in your life, you have to do something and go for it. The sooner you start, the sooner you'll get over your shyness around women.

Pretend you are confident. Building confidence is one of the secrets of beating shyness around women. The thing about building confidence is that you have to start somewhere and pretending or acting as if you are confident is a good start. You don't have to be really confident from the outset but you have to learn to appear and act as if you are confident. Start with your appearance. Be a good dresser, always practice good posture, stand and walk taller and maintain eye contact. If you act like a confident man, people including the opposite sex will start to recognize you as a confident person which can help you gain more confidence that eventually you will find yourself not pretending anymore.

Practice approaching women. If you are the shy type, approaching women is nerve-wracking. You'll get anxious, palm sweating and butterflies in your stomach but if you really want to conquer your shyness around women, you have to take the first step and do it. There is no especial formula in approaching women but to keep doing it. Sure you will experience rejections and failures many times because of your shyness but if you want to beat your shyness around women, you have to keep doing it until you became comfortable approaching women. The more practice you have in approaching women, the less nervous you'll become. Remember that real failure is not about trying and failing, real failure is about not even trying. Having the courage to approach a woman and say hello whatever the outcome is already a success. Who knows if in one of those tries you'll meet the one woman who will become your lifetime partner? You'll be missing a lot of opportunities by not trying.

Talk to people more. Another secret to overcome your shyness around women is to put yourself out there and be more sociable. Talk to people more, not only to the opposite sex but also to men, older people and people of your age group. The more people you talk to, the less pressure you'll feel and the more confident you'll become in talking to everyone including women. Get yourself out there and become a more sociable person.

Exercise and keep yourself healthy and fit. Shyness around women can stem from being not too confident and happy with your body and your looks. People usually feel confident when they like what they see in the mirror. Hit the gym and exercise regularly to shed off those unwanted pounds and beer belly. Adapt a healthy lifestyle, keep yourself active and fit. If you are happy with your looks, it will boost your confidence and you will be more motivated to work on conquering your shyness around women.

Realize that women are people too. It is important to realize that you are not the only one who are struggling from shyness. Women can be as shy and nervous as you are around the opposite sex. So there is no reason for you to feel threatened and afraid to approach or talk to women. You can even help each other beat each other's shyness and become comfortable with each other.

Shyness is a habit that puts limitations on what you could have or achieve in your life. It may be a habit formed in your childhood or it started at some point in your life for whatever reason and it became a part of you. The good thing is that habits can be unlearned and changed. You can train your brain and your body to acquire new habits that are beneficial to you and can help you achieve that things you passionately want in your life. Don't let shyness get the best of you and stop struggling from shyness.
RomanceTips To Avoid Being Friendzoned By A Girl by ashleyscholar(op): 4:43am On Dec 29, 2021
You wish to have a relationship with a girl you like but eventually you got friendzoned. It can be really frustrating when you are interested in a romantic relationship with a girl but eventually she wants you to just be friends. So how to avoid being friendzoned?

Be more mindful in picking your match. Being friendzoned sometimes lies on picking the wrong match. If you keep picking the girl not matched or not right for you, it is more likely that you'll be stuck on being friendzoned. There are signs and body languages when women are interested in you. You must know how to read those signs to know if she's into you. It is best to pick a woman who is more interested in you from the start to avoid being friendzoned.

[b]Learn to be more attractive. [/b]Sometimes men are friendzoned because they are not attractive enough to the opposite sex. The good thing is that attractiveness is not an inborn trait, you can learn how to be more attractive physically and personality wise. By increasing the level of your attractiveness, you can avoid being friendzoned. If you are too shy and lacks self-confidence, you can learn to be more sociable and confident to increase your level of attractiveness. Social skills can be very attractive to the opposite sex. When it comes to physical appearance, there are physical aspects that you can improve to be more attractive without a major plastic surgery. You can improve your physical appearance by learning to dress well and groom well. Keeping a good posture, staying fit or staying physically active and healthy are attractive physical traits to most women.

Make your intentions clear from the beginning. What most men are afraid of is outright rejection so they sometimes choose the safe path like acting as a friend because it is easier. This approach creates confusion to the other party and uncertainty on your part. Creating confusion from the start by not communicating what you really want may hurt more in the end if you eventually get dumped or friendzoned. It is best to be clear with what you want from the start and face rejection upfront if she's not interested than use friendship as a cover but in reality you want more than that. You can move on as soon as possible and find someone who is interested in you. Stop wasting your time on someone who is not interested and get hurt in the end. Make your intentions clear and avoid being friendzoned.

Don't appear too desperate. Sometimes men are friendzoned because they do all the work, give all the favors and act as if they are too desperate to get the girl. There are women who want to keep a man with this behavior as a friend or she wants you to stick around without the responsibility of being your girlfriend. They want the benefits from you but do not want the responsibility of having a relationship with you. To avoid being friendzoned, stop being too nice and doing all the work. It is best to allow the other person to value you and do something for you in return. After all, a relationship will not work if one is always the giver and the other is always the receiver. Both should contribute to satisfy each other's needs. Don't settle for less than what you deserve.
RomanceTips In Dating Younger Women Successfully by ashleyscholar(op): 3:50am On Dec 29, 2021
When men are getting older and still single, there aren't many women their age still available for them and so they can't help but date women half their age or women in their late 20s or early 30s. For men in their 40s and those approaching their 50s, dating younger women is something they cannot avoid. Of course, they are more than happy to meet younger women, not to mention younger women are more appealing, exciting and attractive.

While you may consider yourself a competent guy in the field of dating, the age difference could be a challenge and you may find yourself wondering if you can handle dating younger women. There are things that you have to bear in mind to successfully date women younger than you. Here are some helpful tips in dating younger women:

Let your maturity and wisdom shines. While most women are complaining how immature most younger men are and how they wish them to grow up, you have a great advantage by being mature and full of wisdom due to your age. You have more experience and you've worked hard to reach the maturity and wisdom you have now so let them work to your advantage. Let those traits shine and put them in display when dating younger women. Most young women find an accomplished man full of maturity and wisdom sexy and irresistibly attractive.

Treat her the same way you would treat someone of your own age. Yes, you are older and mature but this does not mean you have to treat her like a child. Although she is younger, she's not a child. Keep in mind that despite her age, she is also an adult like you so treat her as one. She is not your daughter who needs preaching or scolding. Dating in general whether with younger women or with women your age is challenging enough so why make this dating more stressful by stressing on the age difference. Treat her as your equal to make the dating more fun and exciting. She may be younger but she is also an adult and she is capable of giving you her genuine feelings like any other older woman.

Be honest about your life. Since you are older, it is normal that you've been through a lot and you have more life experiences than her. Be honest about having kids or being divorced. Although you do not consider those things as issues, some younger women may consider them issues so it is better to be honest with her about those things right from the start. Not being honest with her can make things more complicated. When dating younger women, do not be afraid to open up, she may be younger but that does not mean she lacks empathy or she cannot relate to your situation.

Do not assume that you always have to take good care of her. She may be younger but she's not totally inexperienced and unschooled in everything. She is a grown up independent woman who knows what she wants and she also has the capability to take good care of you. If she offer to split the bill on one of your dates, you can politely say that you want to treat her but if she prefer to split the bill then let her. However, if you are really uncomfortable splitting the bill, just ask her to treat you next time. If she is a good cook, let her make you a great meal to make her feel that she can also take care of you. Dating younger women doesn't have to be like raising a daughter. She is your date, not your daughter.

You can be generous but avoid showing off. Being older, it is normal to be more financially stable than her. Being a gentleman, it is normal to be generous when dating younger women but being generous is different from showing off. Flaunting your fat wallet or the extravagant things that you can do for her may offend her or it may push her to take advantage of you. Be realistic with the situation and being older, you should know how to impress women sincerely with your heart rather than with your fat wallet. There is nothing wrong in being generous as long as it is coupled with a sincere heart and not because you just want to show off.

Be confident. There's nothing to be ashamed of your age when dating younger women. If she agreed to have a date with you, she must be tired of inexperienced younger men and she is ready for a change. You have the advantage being older than the men she used to date so be confident and take advantage of what you have and what you can offer. Instead of feeling awkward and uncomfortable, be confident that you have the means, the experience and the skills to impress a woman younger than you.

Live a healthy life. In dating younger women, you have to keep up with their energy and to be able to do that you have to be healthy. It is important to keep a healthy weight not only to look good but to be physically fit. Know the best exercise, physical activities and diet good for your age. It is not too late to live a healthy life to enjoy dating younger women.
RomanceTips For A More Enjoyable First Date - What Men Should Know by ashleyscholar(op): 3:39am On Dec 29, 2021
Dating should be fun but for most people, first dates make them anxious maybe because they want everything to be perfect. A terrible first date could ruin your chance of creating a wonderful relationship with your date and so you want everything to be perfect to have a great start. First dates can be stressful if you do not know what to do. The following tips can be very helpful if you want a more enjoyable first date.

How to prepare for your first date?

To make a more enjoyable first date, you have to do your homework and know some basic details about your date. It would be too awkward if you happen to ask the wrong questions. Focus on your date and prepare on how to make her comfortable on your first date. Some men do practice their lines before their first date and there is nothing wrong if you will do the same. Turning the focus on your date can help you forget your nervousness and you'll eventually become more at ease.

To create a more enjoyable first date, avoid Friday night date to avoid the pressure. Keep the date short to be more considerate of each other. If you or your date can't feel any connection, keeping the date short will save you both of the awkwardness. Keeping the date short doesn't mean you have to be rude if there is no spark on your first date. Treat every first date as an opportunity to expand your network of friends. Who knows, your date might offer to introduce you to her friend who could be a better fit for you. Be a gentleman and treat every first date with good manners. If there is a connection and you are both attracted to each other, keeping the first date short means there is something to look forward to, which is your second date. The anticipation for the next date can be very interesting for both of you.

Be punctual on your first date or call if something came up and you cannot make it on time. It is important that you make her feel that you respect her time and remember that being considerate or respectful of your date makes you more attractive.

What to wear on your first date?

The clothes you wear on your first date affects the level of your attractiveness. Dress sharp and look your best on your first date. Most women love to go out with a guy who dress well but this does not mean you have to spend a fortune for your new wardrobe. Wear something presentable, clean and appropriate for your date. Wear clothes that flatter your best physical features and minimize your less attractive features. Of course to have a more enjoyable first date, you also have to be comfortable and confident wearing your outfit because you do not want to feel tense or uncomfortable with your outfit while on a date.

Experts recommend that men should stick to dark-colored pair of jeans, long sleeve collared shirt with slight patterns or not too loud patterns and with loose tie. For a casual look, a nice polo shirt and sports jacket are another option. Tucking in your shirt makes you appear clean and presentable. Avoid wearing khakis which makes you look like going to a workplace than a date. Avoid loud prints and stripes if you want to look good and impress your date. Choosing loud colors can be distracting, if you want to stand out, choose the colors that are most likely to attract women like white, black, grey, blue and green. Colors like cobalt blue and maroon can be attractive too. Flashy clothing or accessories are not appropriate for a date because it will draw the attention away from you.

Of course do not overlook your hygiene. Pay attention to your footwear, have your shoes polished to make them look clean and wear the appropriate socks. Put attention to your hair, your fingernails and nose hairs. If ever you end up wearing the wrong outfit on your date, relax and just be yourself and enjoy the moment with your date.

Where to go on your first date?

Most people choose to spend their first dates on places where they can dine or sit opposite each other to talk and know each other better but the problem with this setting is that the date may become more of an interview than a date. Meeting for the first time on this kind of setting can be too formal and you both may find it difficult to come up with subjects to talk about that may lead to long silence or awkwardness.

To have a more enjoyable first date, it is best to include enjoyable activities that you can do together like attending a cooking class, painting class, country fair, bowling, biking, ice skating, karaoke, etc. or visit places where there are many things that you both can look at and talk about like museums, zoos, theme parks, underground aquariums, botanical gardens etc. A walk in the mall or shopping for small things is also a good way to spend your first date and get to know each other better. Talking while doing things together is not only enjoyable but it creates new experiences and memories. As much as possible avoid concerts, plays and movies on your first date. Dates should allow you to talk, interact and connect with each other and it is hard to accomplish that if the environment is too noisy or you are both busy watching a movie or a play.
RomanceHow Can You Keep A Woman Happy To Make Her Stay? by ashleyscholar(op): 3:10am On Dec 28, 2021
Are you at a loss on how to keep a woman happy to make her stay in the relationship? Here are 8 tips you can easily do to enrich your relationship and make your woman stay for good:

1. First of all, remember that you don't really have to be someone different than who you really are to make you appealing to women. So you may think that only the good looking men can get matched up with the sexiest, coolest women around. But hey, have you noticed how many unpleasant looking men are hooked up with the prettiest women? That's because they are oozing with confidence that most women find attractive. So work on your self-esteem and it will work like a magnet that will bring women to your doorstep.

2. Women crave small shows of affection. You don't really need to do big things for her all the time (although she would like that, too!), but make sure you pay attention to the little things that matter to her. Send her an ecard about how she completes your day, bring her her favorite snack or even buy her her favorite girl magazine. These tell her you do know those little things about her and that you pay attention to the things that please her.

3. There may be times when you can't help but appreciate beauty and your eyes start ogling beautiful woman you see around. Well, there's nothing wrong with that, because that's just so natural with men. Just don't do it while she's with you or the green dragon in her may just wake up! She may think that you're looking at other women because she's not enough for you. So never ogle other girls while you're with her!

4. Humor her. Men may consider good looks top priority on their list when it comes to women. Women, on the other hand, would often look for a strong sense of humor in a man first. So if you want her to stay, work on your sense of humor and keep her laughing.

5. Keep yourself well groomed. Your girl will appreciate it when she sees you're still trying your best to look good for her. Shave regularly, take care of your personal hygiene and keep yourself informed with the latest trends in men's fashion. Remember that she can easily be turned off seeing you getting sloppy with your looks.

6. Be sensitive and always consider how she feels. Women are an emotional bunch, and their moods change more often than men's because of their hormonal make up. So try to think the way she does, and if she's in a bad mood, try to either calm her or cheer her up. If these don't work, just leave her on her own and she'll come around after the mood swing.

7. Try new things. When you just started the relationship, everything seemed new and exciting. As the relationship progresses, your relationship may suddenly fall into a rut and things become boring and bland. Work your way back to an exciting relationship by trying something new.

8. The best piece of advice that you need to remember is that you need to show her your appreciation, even for the smallest things she does for you. This will tell her that you value her and that you are thrilled to have her in your life.

There, 8 things you can easily do today to keep a woman happy and make her stay. With these simple steps, you can make your relationship alive and exciting. They may seem like common sense tips, but men can be insensitive sometimes to women's needs. I was that way, too, which almost drove the love of my life away.
Romance7 Steps Towards A Lasting Relationship by ashleyscholar(op): 10:07pm On Dec 27, 2021
Just like fairy tales, we all dream of a perfect partner and wishes on the stars to make a relationship last. Who would not want to have those dreams and wishes by the way? Of course we all want to have it. A strong and a good relationship are one of the best supports that life can offer. Good relationship mixed with true love can change your life completely; It can strengthen your health, it can change your way of thinking about things from negative to positive, it can also change your ways of living and it can put a big smile on your face that when everybody see such a wonderful smile, they smile back at you. Poor relationship can also change you but not for the better. It can actually destroy you and eat you whole especially when you get drained of loving. Good relationship leading to forever is to be worked out with commitment, effort and the awareness to accept change. Unique as we all are, there are still common principles in all relationships for it to be meaningful, essential and exciting.

1. Establish a deeper connection with your partner. Get involved with your partner. Instead of focusing on his flaws, divert your attention to his good attributes, his willingness to love you until the end. Always find time to do activities together such as cooking, baking, walking, watching television and eating because in that way you will know him more and the connection between the two of you will become stronger.

2. Solve the conflict. Conflict is the spice and the unavoidable thing to any relationship. It is important that at the beginning, both of you acknowledge the problem. In that way, you will be able to talk about the issues and if you are to be blamed why it happened, accept it whole heartily and say sorry for what you have done. Doing so lightens the conflict and the partner will also take an effort to solve it. Keeping quiet is never a solution to it; it will just heighten up the issue.

3. Communicate. Communication does not only mean that you have to talk, it also means that you have to tell anything about your partner in all honesty. Direct communication is essential of all communications because when both of you shares openly your desires, needs, fears and worries, both of you feel that you trust each other.

4. Keep the element of surprise. Once in a while, surprising your partner is also helpful to make a relationship last. Even small things are memorable to each one when you give them surprisingly. Cooking for them is also heartwarming, as they say; "a way to the man's/girl's heart is through his stomach". Even if you feel the relationship is boring for a moment, surprising him is of aid to bring back the spark and spice of the relationship.

5. A habit to laugh. Even on the hardest situations, humor is a great therapy. Once in a while, show your partner the funny side of you, throws jokes even if it's senseless and tickle him until he tickles you back. Both of you may have not laughed at your jokes, but you may all laugh at how stupid you get because of each other.

6. Compromise. Healthy relationships are built on Give and Take. Never expect more on your relationship because disappointment will happen. Removing the expectation of perfection allows one partner to make a mistake without judgment, fear, or betrayal. Always recognize what is important to your partner as it builds feeling of support and compromise.

7. Expect ups and downs. One nature of relationship is going through the highest and lowest points in your life. Downs are the stressors that cannot be avoided and it can make you short-tempered, thus adding more conflict to the problem. First, always accept that both of you are going to such problem and do not blame each one of why it happened. Instead, take time to solve it and if there's a need to change, accept the change.

Building a relationship is an investment. You need to work for patience, acceptance, trust and willingness to learn and develop new skills. Relationship is never perfect, you cannot always be happy. Sometimes, you need to be hurt to learn because by learning, you appreciate more the relationship you and your partner established. To make a relationship last, you do not need to be perfect but you need to be imperfect so that you will see and learn how you love and how have you been loved despite of what you are because of him.
RomanceThe 7 Common Commitment Issues In Man by ashleyscholar(op): 9:55pm On Dec 27, 2021
Man commitment issues are under the influence of fear as their commitment is being removed from their vocabulary. Their fear can be related to fear of compromise, financial damage, loss of freedom, and loss of privacy. Nonetheless, there can be a lot of justification when men faces commitment issues, but whatever justifications to give, the reality tells us that all women involving in a relationship should have a certain requirement and obligation to know if the person is ready for a commitment or not. This is very significant for all the persons involved in a relationship especially those who are not aware of commitment issues, and who still are not attempting to ask their men if they are into it or not. Do men have more commitment issues than women? According to a reliable source, out of 10 guys that you date, 8 turn to have a fear of commitment.

The most horrible thing in the world of love is falling in love and devoting oneself to a person who doesn't have any plan to commit without you knowing it. If heartbreak is painful, so is love without commitment. The most painful part is when you thought you will be forever as married couple yet issues facing men on their commitment drive them away without giving you warning.

A fulfilling relationship, as they say, always asks for a nurturing from both men and women. However, when your men are fearful in terms of problems that will come on their way during the relationship. Once they get into it, they feel like being frozen, trapped and find their way out, then you need to find ways on how men with commitment issues can overcome it and can eventually say, "will you marry me?".

Although you are facing with such dilemma, it is important to note those men commitment issues that hinder them to bravely face the relationship until the end.

Loss of Dating More Than 1 Woman - Men accept the fact that they love dating multiple women and would even go after them. As such, when commitment is established, then dating times are to be removed. It is a must to focus only to one woman whom he is committed with. That's the time that men feels trapped and controlled causing them to leave the woman.

Scared From Other Married Men's Stories - Men usually hear this at work from co-workers who tell stories that their married life force them to do things that they never wanted to do before. They even emphasize on unpleasant things in marriage, their newly adopted life and the new responsibility attached to it. Men hearing those stories make them step back and would stay only on a dating-dating relationship without strings attached.

Mama's Boy - We cannot erase the idea of men becoming so close to their mother to the point of listening more on their mom than to the girlfriend. When their mother talks of commitment issues and facts about marriage (pleasant and unpleasant), then men are discouraged to commit in a long-term relationship and fear deeply of the responsibility.

Financially Unstable - Men's ego plays an important role in this issue. As men, they are responsible to support their soon to be family financially. If they think they cannot support them at this time, then commitment is a NO for them.

Dependent - The idea of commitment for men are to be independent in deciding and problem solving. When men are dependent, they are more likely on a home where they can ask whatever they want and are just going with the flow. Entering into a commitment for them can change them whole, and that is one of the reasons why they fear saying I LOVE YOU or WILL YOU MARRY ME.

No Firm Decision - There are women who believe that their men are honest when they say they want to be in a committed relationship, and somewhere in the relationship men change and decide that a fully committed relationship is not for them; frustration, hurt and depression happen in women.

Emotional Damage - This is more likely an effect of the past bad experiences men had on their relationship. They may have a hard time getting over with it and they cannot afford to trust anyone especially in a relationship.

Issues like these imply that men are truly afraid of commitment. When women who are finding a long-lasting relationship with men, who have all those issues and cannot afford to commit, can only give them unhappiness and frustration. On the other hand, it is important for women to decide firmly whether to stop or continue getting hurt. It is for every women's perspective on how they can solve the problem and get through with men commitment issues, and it is also for every men's perspective on whether to commit or not. However, issues call for responsibility, independence, maturity, firmness and stability should be faced by men and not to be disregarded. When men are afraid of responsibility, they should start becoming responsible. When will they start being one? When they are too old enough? When men are not prepared for independence, then start deciding simple and basic things. You cannot learn to take in control of your life when you don't allow yourself to be one. When you are not firm on your decision, then make it a habit to say YES or NO all the way. It takes weeks or months to form a habit, so do it daily as you can. When men are unstable, and then learn to control money wasting. Stop buying those unnecessary things and save for rainy days. As such, issues must not hinder men to commit. Remember, you could not ask for more when you get into a relationship with the desire to be forever happy with him/her.
RomanceHow To Make A Man Feel Good In A Relationship! by ashleyscholar(op): 8:56pm On Dec 27, 2021
If you want to make your relationship work, then it is only right that you do your best to make your man feel good. Too many relationships fail because of the inability in a partner to keep the other happy and content. These effective tips will help you to make your man feel wonderful about being in a relationship with you.

Make sure that he gets his time alone
Don't become a parasite and cling to him too much. He needs his space and the faster you realize that, the better for you. Let him have his night out with his buddies and don't grumble about his fishing trips once in a while. Show him that you trust him by giving him his space and he will love you all the more.

Don't stop respecting him
If you want your man to feel good about himself, then give him the respect he deserves. Appreciate every little thing he does for you and let him know that you need him. Remember that your man cannot read your mind any more than you can read his! He needs to be told that you love and appreciate him.

Don't stop flirting with him
Remember how you flirted with him at every opportunity you got in the beginning? It made him feel good and flattered with all the attention you showered on him. There is no need to stop this just because he belongs to you. Continue to flirt with him and the romance will stay alive.

Be the type of woman he wants you to be
Don't go changing and show him that you are his ideal and "perfect" woman. You don't have to try too hard because in his heart of hearts he knows that no one can be perfect! He will love you for who you are and not who you are pretending to be! This way he will love you despite your short comings, faults and quirks and feel good about you.

Take care of how you look
Just because it has been some years now that you are together, it does not mean that you let your looks slide. While it is a fact that you don't have to look like a model in a fashion magazine, it is also a fact that your man would not like you to lose your figure and get fat and sloppy. Keep in shape and look attractive and he will feel proud of you.

Cater to his tastes
If a man can come home to a delicious home cooked meal - he is thrilled to bits! Moreover if you can feed him well and make him look forward to coming home to his favorite dish, you can be sure that he will stay happy and content with you.

Be passionate and responsive
Be sexually compatible and make him also look forward to having sex with you. Be bold and daring and let him know what you like. Be prepared to change and allow him to take charge. The more you keep him sexually attracted to you, the better chances you have of keeping him happy and feeling good in the relationship.

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