boyjo:


What of data? For all you know, he may be subscribing to the N25/day data at the moment.

All I did was proffer a suggestion.

If you care so much you could provide him data

grandpoh:

I regret not going to a private university even when my father insisted funniest part is that stupid me just wan explore ni ooo
Secondly I regret being so wasteful I could remember vividly when I was in 200 level my pop got really sick cos of diabetes issh and he called me and said it might be now or later but take this to fund your education till graduation,stupid me I wasted 2 six figures fortunately for me he didn't die.
Thirdly I was waiting for my trv to go for my MBA abroad when my father died and I lost out as cash no dey coupled with the fact that its a polygamous family of 8 wives ,chai depression almost killed me but I survived...
Learnt a great lesson the hard way..

Good thing you learnt from your mistakes.

I always tell people, if you can afford it, opt for a private university. Not just for the quality of education, but for the network and contacts.

Deepocean:



There're many places you can go, don't allow that excuse to keeping on keeping you from taking the bold step, I was once in your exact condition, it wouldn't be easily but I bet it with you that it'll be a good decision if you can take to this advice.

When I finished service and returned home, the experience wasn't palatable. Pressure coming from parents and the shame in the neighborhood was a big mess on me. I was confused and depressed. I summoned courage to leave my environment, I organized home lessons for primary school pupils and junior secondary school students to gather some money to move, this wasn't easy as I was running classes throughout the week not excluding Sundays, as I was gathering the money some expenses were surfacing which couldn't allow me to gather much.

I've knew of a town in the neighboring state ánd I relocated I checked for secondary schools around and I got one, though the payment isn't encouraging at all. But it's better. I coupled this with acquiring photography skill. If I have money to set up with the business I will, but for now I can't.

My Advice: You can do something similar, check for a town that has regular supply of electricity as the constant electricity will help you in many ways, even with the intending skill you wish to acquire. Don't go to a city if you don't have an understandable person to stay with (but I will advise you to try start your own life) at the same time don't go to a village, find a town that's not too expensive to go. All wil be well.

This is wise advice. There's something about leaving your comfort zone to start on your feet afresh.
Abraham did it. Jacob, Moses et al

OlawaleBammie:


Sure, ur siggy says it all

But to me, what do i even have to keep in privacy?? and for me, clamouring for privacy is to seek an Avenue for cheating

Lol.

Over familiarity squeezes out the juice in a relationship.

OlawaleBammie:


Sorry maam, but me i wil never agree to a condition of dont visit me unannounced in a relationship....NEVER.

And as my partner, i wil tell u that u shouldn't visit me without prior notice,

what is d meaning of a relationship that is bn run regimentally just cus of privacy??

who are u to me that i wil b keeping a private life from, aren't we partners??

I dont do privacy stuff with the person i know i love wholeheartedly, what is it about me that should even b kept from u at the base of thins?? Na wayo relationship dey reek that.

The fact you're in a relationship doesn't mean you should throw privacy out the window. Some folks love their own space.

Lamanii22:



Amen


What an interesting thread... It's front page worthy...

Indeed. I've learnt a lot.

Emioga:
Yes what I mean is when I was with my ex my sisters didn't like him. They treated him badly to his face. When the guy decided to break up with me he gave the reason that my sisters didn't like him and disgraced him out of church. When I then met my present husband I didn't show him to any one and he was busy pulling me away from my family which was easy because I didn't want to show him to my family. That is how I got into this mess. If my family had left my ex alone I won't be in this mess

In other words, you wished you had gotten married to your ex?

Emioga:
What I regret most is my marriage. Wish I married someone who made me a better person. Now I'm a shadow of my former self and my family can't even come to my house to say hello. Please family should treat their daughters/sons intended spouse good even if you don't want them to get married to the supposed spouse. If my sisters had treated my ex well I wouldn't have been so secretive with my present spouse

Could you provide more info to this?
I feel I can learn something from this.

novice22:
my biggest regret is going into betting , now it has eaten deep into my life and i have discover that it's a waste of time and resources.


I dont even know whether i can make it in life anymore .

this day april 13th 2020 i promise to part ways with anything related to betting....so help me God.

It's never too late to begin a fresh start. Your past doesn't determine how far you go. What matters is what you're willing to do now. Take responsibility for life and have faith in yourself.

diamondagent:


I don't have much idea about that, besides it could still involve money for me to learn which I don't have at the moment

There are a lot of free courses you can take online to master any skill of your choice. As for digital marketing, Google offers a comprehensive course on the subject matter and you'll even earn a certificate of completion at the end of the course. Absolutely free.

Here's the link
https://learndigital.withgoogle.com/digitalgarage

Goodluck

diamondagent:
I'm regretting that I didn't learn any skill before going to the school and studying what is not helping my situation, soon I will be 26 this year, yet don't have a thousand naira in my bank account currently, no job, no money to even learn a skill, all efforts to look for jobs has been in futility

It seems as if the future looks bleak on my side, I'm ashamed and most often depressed that at my age I can't afford to provide the basic needs of life for my self

This lock down is even making things worse, hunger has reset my body system

Things will get better. Hang on

DonroxyII:
At the final stage jare , just few papers to go.

best wishes

DonroxyII:
Hope they are married !

No. But whatever makes her happy anyway

rockstarB:

I want to assume the guy didnt come back because he saw her break down due to the breakup. I really hope it is real this time, else the second heartbreak will be worse

For her sake, I hope not. The first almost ruined her.

Well, do you have a licence?

You can't go about ditching out advice and experimenting with people's lives.

These are valid questions.

Unfortunately, these questions won't help your countrymen since they lack the inherent ability to think.

Hello dear.
I sympathize with your condition and I really do hope things get better.

If you're seeking for a loan [rather than a handout], there are various financial platforms that can help you in that regard.

An example is OPay. Download the app on Playstore and proceed to request for a loan. The process isn't cumbersome and it shouldn't take too long to get a response.

Bless you.

tensazangetsu20:
I won't call it a regret per say. If I could rewind the hands of time I would get a job straight out of the university and not run to do a business. Running a business in Nigeria is very very hard and the country seems to get more difficult and poorer with each passing year.

I've always found entrepreneurship thrilling. The rush, the risks. Taking a chance at your self despite unforseen odds.

That takes courage. And it's admirable.

rockstarB:

When someone is in love, everyone else sees clearly aside the one who is in love. People that has it easy when it comes to relationship dont know what God has done for them. I really hope your friend is fine now?

Yeah, she's great.

However, she's back with the guy.

rockstarB:
It has to be my first boyfriend. I regret ever dating him. I thought I was smart. I told myself i wouldn't date a guy from school, i needed a long distance thing so i could focus on myself and school. I rejected the guys from school because of him.
My village people reasoned my matter and gave me a liar, I was with him for over 4 years, I saw the signs but couldn't let myself free from him.
Women and mothers here, please educate your daughters on sex, a lady doesnt have to be ashamed for having sex, I was too naive, I told myself "i cant break up with him, he has seen my naked body..."
I enjoy my privacy so I give him the same. I dont visit him unannounced, it has to be him that tells me to come. I was unable to catch him red handed because of this. I supported him financially, emotionally, I pray for him and all of that.
I really dont know how some guys can be intentionally wicked to a lady that clearly loves them, all his family members knew I wasnt the only one he was deceiving. 80% of the money I saved while in school or during service I borrowed him because I believed God would have found him a job before I needed the money. I didnt know my boyfriend was an SSCE holder, he had lied to me all along, even told me about how difficult it is to get a job after school, how his dad has sent his CV to a rich uncle so he could work in his company, yet this guy was an SSCE holder!
Rumour has it that it was me that even paid part of his 100L school fee when he eventually got admitted, he lied he needed the money for something bla bla. He had no bank account and I gave a spare one of mine, the day he started making money he saved them with his new gf. He is out of school cos the guy couldn't even get serious with his educational life. I could go on and on. I didnt curse him with my mouth, my heart does that everytime I remember.
I shot myself in the leg when I concluded not to date a guy in same school as me.
I'm happy I broke with him when I did, it would have traumatized me if I had broken up with him earlier. By the time I did, the love don clear for me eye. I was free from him, he had no hold on me anymore.
Sorry for long post

This is very touching.

A similar experience happened to a friend of mine and it traumatized her to the extent her mental faculties was slightly affected. Therapy was what helped her.

I'd say you were really lucky to have gotten out of it in one piece.

DonroxyII:
Mine is not writing my Professional Examination immediately I graduated especially during my NYSC and Immediately after ..... My brain told me , aboy u will regret this thing, do it now !!

I tell am make e forget, I know I will regret it but I will just shrug it off !! ... So , Here ayam !!

Well, you can always take the exam at anytime. Or you feel your brain has parked the bus
?

DonroxyII:
Experience is the best teacher , it makes us stronger .... You already take one for your generation. Now, they have someone to tell them never to live for another soul. live for yourself ....

Only give what you can afford to lose without having emotional and psychological breakdown.

I have never had a bad relationship and nobody teaches me about relationship but as an avid reader from the days of Hints, Thrill and Boom and Nollywood movies during the day of Eucharia Anunobi, Sandra Achums , Alex Osifo .....

I have always protect my Heart in any thing I do !!

Matters of the heart are usually the most painful.

sassysure:

Assuming it's always at the forefront of your heart or among the nmfirst 3 wishes of what u will do in the next five yrs, u would have been working towards it unconsciously.
U can still do that if u want to.

The ish is not being able to give it another shot. But the regret is struggling to get what was previously offered to you seamlessly.
Only someone who's been there can understand

sassysure:

That's how an average naija behaves na
It's in us
Make 150k a month, drive a car of 3m instead of investing it first or buying a cheaper car.
Competing and ego spirit

We compete even in essential goods

Lol.
It's inherent in a lot of us. That feeling to competition. The desire to prove what no one cares to know.

sassysure:
Seriously regretted not airing my view when growing up.
Why did I even do that?
Me that's a parrot now

Being a parrot necessarily doesn't make you a more effective human being. Knowing when to air your when is what matters.

sassysure:
Seriously regretted not airing my view when growing up.
Why did I even do that?
Me that's a parrot now

Not airing your view?
Well, was it on matters that were important?

Kenplay:
My biggest regret was using large money to furnish my apartment, things later went sour and I started selling those appliances.
This taught me a big lesson to first financially establish myself before trying to buy expensive things to please people.

I just entered 24 but the lessons life has taught me should make me very wise in my later years.

Good thing you learnt from your mistake. With such knowledge, you're already armed for a brighter future.

StPete:
I regret not traveling out to the US when I had the chance. Very similar to the OPs, it was during my NYSC, I had started the process, gotten everything else, even paid for my interview at the embassy. I had someone in the US back then pulling all the necessary strings. Everything was smooth but I just lost interest in going for the interview when it was time to. Told myself I would round up nysc, get my dream job, then go to the US on holidays without any fuss but here I am 10 years after. This country wrenches my heart everytime. It's so so depressing living in Nigeria

What makes the feeling even more aching is the fact that the country isn't improving. If it were stagnant, that would have been manageable. But Nigeria retrogress each passing year. Trumping its previous failures and takes it to another level.

Well, all will be fine.

MurphyG1:


So have you tried to relocate by yourself? Not necessarily to the US but to another country where your potentials will be utilized more. That will take care of initial mistake made I think.

I have it under consideration.

teresafaith:
Hope you didn't promise any lady marriage and later disappoint her.
Hope you didn't ruin anyone chance of happiness, by scattering their marriage to a friend of yours or family
Think deeply, cos it's obvious it's a spiritual something.

Hogwash

iyke926:
The only regret I have is been born in Nigeria. The country was supposed to be a good one but it's unfortunate how the Black owners turned things around after their colonial masters left.

Honestly. The present reality of this country is a pity