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Gaspardd:
This is cap. If Nigerian employers have fear of God(which is impossible) we won't be seeing many jobs adverts. Even with this job posters like urs... Hook up is justifiable.
Where I work the same Filipinos doing the same work as we Nigerians are earning 10x of our salaries. Why? The same company, same work schedule, same work expertise, but different contractors. That's all.
So bro how can you explain somebody paying house rent of 10m or 15m a year but paying rubbish supervisor 120k a mth?

See dis one talking as if he knows what is called "Fear of God"

That's how most Nigerian banks operate o.
That's why it is difficult for most female bankers especially the marketers to get married because they sell their bodies to strike a deal with rich men.

Even female police officer need to sleep with their bosses before getting promoted

crossbreedwears:
Still nothing. What's the mail all about?

It's ok. Don't bother.

Thank you

JoeEeL:
You are right. Depends on the bleaching type of cream. But some of them are not very well produced, or the over-application of it leads to wear of the skin, making them have thinner faces, sunken eyes, bony cheeks, more exposed veins etc.

Thanks brother. I'm happy someone understands. Some commenters think I'm lieing but that's just the truth

Samantha125:
Haibo! This is all me...😒😒😒

Why would I consult with AI?🤔🤔🤔

And you're a South African lady?

motymop:
The issue is the op is only thinking in the term of sex.

Like is it only sex that exists.

At the end of the day, most couples should do things together,travel together and enjoy life together and they won't get bored.

Loll... I'm the OP. You don catch me true true. Na sex only I dey think

LIVINGICONREBOR:
Una still dey talk about attraction for this great tinubulation?🥱

I wonder o

Samantha125:
1. Make sure you've established a life of your own outside of your relationship before settling down... Not everything always has to be about your spouse, give each other some space to breathe... Even though my husband and I live under the same roof, we're mostly occupied in our own occupations throughout the week to a point that sometimes we can go for about a week without having proper quality time for each other apart from our usual video calls due to our schedules clashing.

Lunch time would be our bonding time because it might be the only time we'd get to see each other for the rest of the day... So we make sure to make every moment count whenever we have time for each other.

2. Have hobbies as couples, one of the things my husband and I have in common is our love for adventure and nature... We'd normally go to safaris, go camping, bungee jumping, hiking, canopy touring, river rafting, and etc...In fact, our white wedding was scheduled to be held at a safari resort, we had planned to take pictures with the giraffes and elephants on the day of our white wedding...

3. We understand each other's love languages and have familiarised ourselves with each other's likes and dislikes to avoid unnecessary conflicts.

4. We are each other's best friends, our relationship began with him as my mentor/tutor, progressed to friendship, which later blossomed into a relationship.

5. We're open with each other and apologise when necessary... Portraying traits of infallibility in a marriage will only lead to its downfall, so it's very important to be empathetic towards each other.

6. We have a common ground.

We might not know what the future has in store for us, but we're positive and hope for nothing but the best... We will of course have our shortcomings along the way, but hopefully we will prevail.

Nice one. But is this A.i ?

Aleem26:
Thanks...the guy is still yet to respond ooo

He won't be able to respond sensibly because he knows he already lost out in this argument

crossbreedwears:
I swear, i clicked on it and it took me to my gmail and can't find your mail. Let me check again

Try check well

crossbreedwears:
Yea. I noticed you email me and i dont know how to access it

Lol.. you're funny. Just tell me u don't want to respond instead of coming up with this.

Thereedemer:
After it's genetic everything else you said is false.

Lol. Can you please explain how everything he said is false?

Stephen0mozzy:
Following.
All the truths and the lies can now come in.

If you let us unmarried but dating people to talk:
Attractive does not start and stop at sex - so there are alot of exploring you have at your disposal to keep things "new every morning".

As OP has rightfully said, the law of diminishing returns affect everything under the sun - that's why you should find and be with someone who ordinarily makes a good friend - because romance fluctuates, excitement fades too - so there will be times when you both would just be familiar strangers in the same roof, but because of your vows or commitment you respect your partner and don't see them as objects of utility.

That's why it's important to find and be with a partner who shares your vision, someone that you can both find beauty in the same things that way you're discovering new ways to say "wow, I'm lucky to have you o".

You've said it all bro. He who has ears should hear now o

To the married ones and those in relationships or courtships, how do you respond to this question?
Personally, I believe that the law of diminishing returns holds in every aspect of life. Having to see someone everytime or do one thing repeatedly is Boring. Monotony kills interest.
This accounts for why most married people cheat. Sleeping with one woman/man for many years and probably, throughout your existence would make it boring and disinteresting. As a man, no matter how much you love a woman, immediately you sleep with her and c*m, you get up and the woman starts to irritate you. She no longer attracts you. You begin to look out for other ladies.

Nlfpmod Seun Mynd44 Lalasticlala

Those of you that know, could you please explain to us why some people have such veins?.
While some do not have at all, others have in quantum. A neighbor was sick and was about to be dripped, but the doctors couldn't find a vein.
Sometimes it's not about going to gym or carrying heavy objects.

Even some ladies have this kind of veins in their hand and even legs. Some ladies who are slim have it too, especially those ladies who use cheap bleaching creams. I heard that too much bleaching makes a lady to grow thinner and bring out her veins.

Fearurcreeator:
I have a friend like that then i took in then , it been 10years now he traveled,pim i no hear from him . I never maltreated him in anyway. Still didn't hear from him. I will still do it again if am capacitated. Anyhow anyone behave i dont mind. I go just do my own

That's the best way to handle human beings I swear. Help them but never ever expect anything from them. No even send Dem. God will reward us all.

nightsaint:
The answer is simple: you are a memory he would rather forget; a period in his life he does not want to relive . Take heart, bro. That is the price you pay for helping someone in need. Sometimes, the person you helped never wants to remember the time in their life when they were vulnerable.

It's well bro. Everything is done for God

crossbreedwears:
There is nothing like having your own apartment no matter how small it is. It comes with a lot peace of mind

Exactly bro.
I've seen shege in the hands of people

ruffhandu:
I had somewhat similar experience, but not exactly. I had just gotten a nice paying job, but no salary yet. Then this my tight pal called that his visa was out (I knew about the process all along) he needed some money for flight and all that. I knew it would look odd giving him any excuse at that time, we had come a long way, plus he knew I just started working (it was a time I was supposed to have received at least my first salary, but there were some challenges in my documentation by HR so the salary would come in areas.
So I had to borrow 40k in from my woman, when dolar was less than N100.
My guy travelled eventually. Once once we were in touch, I was a big boy and needed nothing from him. In fact, at the time, his salary was not more than mine down home, his was in pounds but mine was in Ngn.
First red shot. " years later my man sent some stuff (honestly till date I don't know the full content, but he had mentioned a footwear or so). He sent it to his sister, who contacted me and told me she had some stuff from her brother for me. We were living in the same town where she lived with her husband/boyfriend. I was excited. We agreed she would come by my office (which was by the road and she passes through every now and then according to her). But suddenly, the next day, she called and told me she won't be able to come (even though i told her to take her time, that whenever she is coming that direction, I wasn't in a hurry). but when she called, she insisted I must come to her house.
Me, i just laughed within me. I never went.
Second shot.
Some 6 years or so later. My guy arrived Nigeria. Some weeks later someone called me to tell me. I was so disappointed. He has made efforts later to salvage the relationship but I just felt it was not worth it.
There is an expiry to some relationships, and when the time comes, don't bat an eyelid, just let it go.

Sorry for your experience my bro.
God knew you were indeed a friend to him.
Thank God you're also a big boy now.
I'm Also glad u maintained your steeze by not acting beggarly. Bravo

atobs4real:
It's business. Since you have solution to your problems why complaining?

Exactly!

mrksquare:
Not really. I have housed a friend whose working place was close to my house. Some week, he will wear my shirt and trousers just to go to work without even returning it back. Some of his official work as an auditor, I was the one that was preparing it for him. The both of us were classmates in University, same department. Even when we were in University I was always sustaining him. Even gave him one of my phone when he had none. Even bought him goat when his father died as part of my support. What caused our problem? The Rivers state government under Gov. Wike decided to do biometrics, which lasted for over 3 months. For the three months duration Civil servants were not paid salary.

I resorted to my friend for mere #10k to solve a pressing matter. He kept assuring me he will give me the money. After pestering him for like a week, I halted. For a year, he refused calling me after the incident. After a year, he called me to check up on me. But deep down, I knew the friendship is over.

So sad.
Please just run from him. Do u know what he will start telling people now? He would say you cut him off simply because you "begged" him for 10k and he couldn't give you.

Fear people o

nedekid:
But he housed you when no one else would including your family and other friends. He inconvenienced himself for you any which way you see it. I guess he would have been better of rejecting your request for assistance when you needed it the most.
Alot of us have learnt the hard way to reject such assistance. Many years ago my egbon had this friend who recently got married and was evicted, his wife and infant child had no where to go. He met my bro, saying he was his last hope, all had failed him, no where to raise money. My bro asked how much it cost to rent another place, he gave the guy the money in full, saving him from shame.
Many years later that guy became financially sound and told other mutual friends he had a grievance with my bro. Guess what it was, he said when he had serious accommodation problem my bro gave him the money with left hand! This guy na Yoruba, we no be, so my bro no even get sensitivity of left or right hand. Him innocently give persin money, him mate for that matter, the persin turn am to beef.
Omo, I know two brothers, Yoruba and both billionaires, we their friends know their policy, they will tell you clearly we do not assist in any way, either financially or other wise. They can come to your house and dash your wife, kids or mother 1,2,3k dollars, they can send money when eg bereaved etc, but 1 naira they will never lend you. It is their policy they said the learnt the hard way.
Oga never help anybody, if you have money accommodate your family, spend your money on your self, fly your kids to London, France, UK, Turkey for good time, don't waste your money on people that will turn around to beef you years later.

Lol... It's well. Dat ur brother friend no try o. What's up with dis left and right hand tin sef?

Semaj77:
You do not know people and leave of betrayal they can go through , just stop making excuses for a story you know nothing about. I have helped 2 people like this in the past and anyone who knows me know I do not complain about anything , it takes a lot for me before I'll complain about another person , both of them ghosted me just like this person. Some time early this year one of them called me and started apologizing on the phone that he knows he has wronged me greatly. He has been in the US now for about 10 years and says he has his American passport now and that he's ready to help me , guess what he still keeps tossing my line whenever I call him on Whatsapp. The last call I made was when he I called him and he shouted on me that he was at work and very busy , since then I've said I won't pick his call or call him back again

My God!
I'm so sorry to hear this. He tossed your line , shouted at you even after the apology?
Just forget him. He felt u wanted to beg him for favor

LOVEGINO:
no vex bro cuz u dey among him helpers. Ur rewards dey heaven dey pile up.

Torh!
Amen

chi4ik4:
People are simply ungrateful. During my university days, I was the class rep, there was this big boy who never come to school, I wrote all the test, assessments and some of the exams for him. I made sure he never had any problem with any lecturer. Note: I never allowed him to pay me a dime as I did everything with all my heart. The guy picked my calls till date after graduation because I was a poor guy. Thank God today that I'm an employer of the labour with over 25 staff. People are just wicked.

Wow..
God bless you and that guy. It's good to be good. Thank God the story has now changed.