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miracle139:
HOW TO TELL YOUR PARTNER WHAT YOU WANT IN BED

(LADIES)

1. Be as specific as possible.

It’s your responsibility to tell a person you’re having sex with what you want. Tell him specifically what you want at each moment. “I might want to have sex. Why don’t you kiss my neck and try to turn me on?” “Let’s stop for a minute so we can pull back and you won’t come so fast.” Do this every time unless he starts (and keeps) doing what makes you feel good every time. And you might have to keep reminding him. If he won’t pleasure you and balks about being asked, he’s too immature for a romantic relationship and it’s time to leave him.

2. Feel free to show them what you want, rather than just telling.

He can't read your mind. Tell him what works, what doesn't, and what you like. Grab his hand and say "do this".

3. Don't be subtle.

Your first mistake is not wanting to be explicit. Be forward, guys like that.

You can't expect him to decipher some convoluted combination of subtle hints. He might but not until long after you're both frustrated.

4. Don't worry about ruining the moment.

And telling him what to do, how to do it, what you like and where you want it is never going to ruin the moment or "break my momentum". Guys love it when women tell them what they want so they know if they're doing things right.

5. If being direct in person feels too intense, try sexting.

If you can't communicate your desires to someone face to face, start by sexting. So many people are more comfortable expressing themselves in writing than they are talking about it.