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if u will marry ur guys then its cool for u to keep putting them first, if u love ur guys more than ur woman, then its cool for u to keep putting them first

the fact that u are asking if u are wrong to so so, means that u are not sure about ur feelings for ur woman, when u find a woman u are totally into, she wont have to talk to u about how much time u spend away from her and with ur guys, infact, she will be the one reminding u that its important for u to hang out with ur guys sometimes,


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I can relate to you brother cos I am very much like that, i'm too scared of being lulled into a false sense of security then being kicked off the edge, i think my past has left an indelible mark in my subconscious (i've been hurt badly twice) and that's what prompts me to behave like i do once things start getting serious, its almost like reflex action - unplanned, i can be with someone for 2/3 yrs as long as it seems like we are just friends (friends with benefits type arrangement) and they're not telling me they love me or behaving like they cant live without me, once i sense a form of attachment, from me or them, however remotely, i scram, i know i have issues and i have to sort myself out at some point, at the same time, i think it cos the right person hasn't come along yet, so my dear, dont worry jare, keep having fun, when the right girl comes u will be surprised at how easily u commit, no questions asked!

lover = RUN and FAST too, imagine the person with sporadic bouts of madness running mad again on the wedding day! lawd have mercy, or worse still, that it is hereditary and ur friend then goes on to have mad children! olorun ma je oh!

Spouse = not so easy, prayer I suppose, is the key, just make sure they are admitted to a mental home

kola oloye:
My sister but we read it in the bible where Jesus said "ask the father in my name and He will do it".
Do you think that we should be making our request in our own name based on the knowledge that we are one with God?
He even said that no one can come to the Father except through him? Now what are we to do

as you know, the bible was written hundreds of yrs after the death of christ by ppl with different agenda's all claiming to have been inspired by God. but i tell u, in as much as jesus was a highly spiritually evolved being which is evident from the love he showed all and the 'miracles' he performed, he cud not have said that cos he wud hav known better and if indeed he made those statements then tgat wud automatically call his authenticity to question cos both statements are BLOODY LIES! how else where the 'powers that be' supposed to control the ppl using religion if these statements were not added to the scriptures? what then wud have been the thread that followers needed to hang on to inorder to be loyal to christianity and its teachings if they were told that jesus was not a prerequisite for communion with the divine?


at the end of the day Kola, NO ONE really knows the truth (although its obvious when its a lie!), we can only engage reason/common logic when analysing religious teachings, or infact teachings of any kind, i do not mean to belittle your beliefs cos one's beliefs are as important as life itself , so pls hold on tight to your belief in the bible if it serves you.

kola oloye:
90% of what you saId have been proved in the past to be correct.JESUS IS NOT THE ALMIGHTY GOD,HE IS THE SON OF THE MOST HIGH.

i think this is where christians get it all wrong to they take things to literarily, if i say i am the son of the soil doesnt mean the soil gave birth to me or that i am male, it just means i am from the land e.g.an egba man called the illustrious son of the soil only refers to his place of birth(or that of his parents) and does not mean that he came out of the soil literarily (altho if u are yoruba it may be hard for u to understand this as u guys believe that oduduwa fell from the sky!)

anyway, we are all sons and daughters of the divine and we are all divine beings in physical form, jesus knew this and so do many other gurus, we are all one with God, the fact that we do not realise this does not mean that it is not true, He is love and the true nature of man is love (unless u r a follower of freuds theories), its is fear that makes man do all the evil we do, be it fear of losing, appearing weak to the next guy, being hungry, poverty, being lonely, being hooked up, u name it! if u closely examine the true underlying reason u have done something 'bad' in the past, u will see that consciously or uncpnsciously, ur action or inaction was motivated by fear, every human being was born a loving spirit, it is experience that makes the majority of us lock the love and compassion away inside so as not to 'allow ppl walk all over us',

jesus wasnt lying when he said that him and the Father are one, but he surely didnt mean that literarily as per the 'trinity', we are all one in the world and one with the divine too, we are all a part of Him and He of us, please believe that and realise that u DO NOT have to go thru jesus or mary or buddha or mohammed or whoever to get to him cos he is already in you and with u!

much luv

olabowale:
@Aunty mary« #46 on: Today at 02:41:10 AM »
You can fear a lover, too, by not doing what will make him/her unhappy, sad, disappointed, etc. Parents are feared by their offsprings when they do things that make the parents happy about them. People will do whatever pleasure them, if there are no rules, or fear of disappointing some entity; self, family member, community, family heritage, society, authority, or Altimate Authority, who is GOD Lord who created. Of course thats not Jesus.

Fortunately, Judaism, was not even a named religion, during the time of Moses. Whoever thinks it was, should provide Proof. So Judaism was not the religion, also, pre-Moses. This, no one in his/her right mind will attemp to prove. Judaism as a religion or tribal name was carved out of the name Judea or Judah. If Judea, we see that it is even after the reign of Prophet and wise King Solomon (AS). If from Judah, we see tat it is from the nation of one of the children of Jacob.

So therefore, Judaism is also a man made religion, just like Christianity is.


Thank you. We have been saying this same thing over and over to the Christians. But they tend to actually grasp it.


Since you are from a Christian back ground, I see that you spoke from Biblical experiences, alone. Now I advice you to pick up the Qur'aan to have a full knowledge about God and His ordained religion on mankind. Then you will be able to truly speak about religion. While I agree with you that Judaism, Christianity as well all the other "isms" in world religions are all man made, Islam is not. You sound non-nigerian because you have qualified yourself with the "nigerian potential suitor." So use the global experience and opportunity at your disposal to get a Qur'aan, a life History book of the last prophet to mankind Muhammad (AS). Read with open mind. And please forget the Muslims and their deviant acts away from Islam when you are doing your reading. Then read ahadith/sunnah. This is when you can talk about religion.

There is Islam and then the rest of the man made systems, being hauled at us as religions.

Olabowale, you seem to miss the point, fear and love/compassion are very separate and distinct emotions, one can fear someone/something and not love them, but one cannot love something and at the same time fear it, if indeed love is the underlying emotion behind one's actions towards a loved one, naturally, one wud strive to do only the things that will be pleasing to them, it is not (as you say) the fear of making another unhappy but rather the wanting to make the other happy out of love, do not confuse the two, as they say, fear is of the devil and love is of God, no matter how you try to spin it, it doesn't change the fact, fear is fear and love is love, fullstop

with regards to Judaism, i totally agree with u that judaism as with any other religion is manmade, however, again u seem to miss the point that i was trying to make to the christians especially the lady here that commented that God's religion begins and ends with jesus christ, that if indeed this were so, then God wud be a jew becos jesus was a jew, and even in the church when they hail him, he is called the lion of the tribe of judah, christianity itself in only a denomination of judaism anyway, afterall the old testament is the jewish torah.

i do not need to read the quran to know that it was written by a man, who like others in the bible and in other religions claimed to be inspired by God, its not rocket science to know that iif God is transcends human tendencies, then surely He doesn't need us to worship him as He is not egoistical (altho again christians like to believe that He is infact a jealous and angry being), it is also not rocket science to understand that the clothes a person adorns or how ever many times they chose to hit their head on the floor facing the east (some 'sacred' stone in mecca) does not have any bearing to the spiritual, God is a spirit and as such is omnipresent, whether u face the east or west, north or south, He is there, spirituality and routine rituals (religion) are separate, infact, any form of 'spirituality' which lays down 'acceptable' forms of dressing for its followers CANNOT inspired by the Divine as it confuses the physical with the spiritual, without going into the thousand and one other reasons why religion fails to convince, this in itself shud tell u, ur islam is NOT and was NOT created by God, and tell ur muslim brothers to stop the mindless killings in the name of Allah in the hope of being presented with virgins in paradise, the only virgins they will find are here on earth and they better take advantage of that while they can cos there is no paradise/heaven, everything is here on earth,

how strange! i was speaking to a 'suitor' yesterday night and he has been bothering me for yrs to have a relationship with him. yesterday, he was telling me he wants to marry me, so i told him nigerian men find my views on life and religion in particular, a bit 'unconventional' and i dont think he wud understand or respect them either, he was adamant, then i gave him my opinion about religion, the long and short of which is simply - i do not identify with any religion although i was born a christian for the simple fact that religion was not created by man, he was shocked and begged me to reconsider and went on to tell me about how jesus is lord and God and how he wud like for his wife to fear God/Jesus,

so i asked him 2 questions; which i pose here as well:

1. why fear God if the creator is not a monster? why not love God? afterall love and fear are two distinct emotions and shud not be confused and of the two, love is the greater,

2. if indeed jesus is God (which i do not believe and is the primary reason i left the church), then does that not mean christians are on the wrong path as jesus was born and died a jew? would that not mean that if indeed God had a religion, it wud be judaism?


and before anyone comes and starts regurgitating answers given to them by their pastors, please try to think for urself. jesus did not 'come' to start a new religion, his followers did

in anycase and in answer to the topic, no, God did not create religion, religion like culture, the legal system etc was created by man to control other men by fear of punishment in the afterlife and deluding them with promises of bliss on the otherside if they conform, the by-product of this control is further segregation (in addition to the natural differences/barriers of race and sex) based on religion,

religion is EVIL and shud be stamped out!

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tonye-t:
point of correction dear, christianity only taught us to love God, and our neighbours and not our own selves, i think that it was from this idea that many so called pentecostals are beginning to do all sorts of disdain things all in the name of the gospel

loving oneself are signs of the endtime, bible say" IN THE LAST DAYS MEN SHALL BE LOVERS OF THEMSELVES"

pls get ur facts right before coming on here and spewing garbage, even I, who's not a christian know that the bible teaches to love ur neighbour as you love urself,

some bible verses to boost ur knowledge here, pls learn ehn? dont worry, thank me later

LEVITICUS 19:18 NKJ
18 `You shall not take vengeance, nor bear any grudge against the children of your people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself: I am the Lord.

MATTHEW 19:19 NKJ
19 `Honor your father and your mother,' and, `You shall love your neighbor as yourself.' "

MATTHEW 22:39 NKJ
39 "And the second is like it: `You shall love your neighbor as yourself.'

MARK 12:31 NKJ
31 "And the second, like it, is this: `You shall love your neighbor as yourself.' There is no other commandment greater than these."

LUKE 10:27 NKJ
27 So he answered and said, " `You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind,' and `your neighbor as yourself.' "

ROMANS 13:9 NKJ
9 For the commandments, "You shall not commit adultery," "You shall not murder," "You shall not steal," "You shall not bear false witness," "You shall not covet," and if there is any other commandment, are all summed up in this saying, namely, "You shall love your neighbor as yourself."

GALATIANS 5:14 NKJ
14 For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this: "You shall love your neighbor as yourself."

JAMES 2:8 NKJ
8 If you really fulfill the royal law according to the Scripture, "You shall love your neighbor as yourself," you do well;

Hi All

Long time my pipu, i don lost tay tay! but i remember una today as I stumbled accross this blog post and thought it raised some interesting
points, so knowing my Nairaland brothers/sisters have strong views, i say make i share the post with una, make una comment,

oya, over to you;

http://ironlaydee..com/2007/06/just-wondering-about-nigeria.html

Hi All

Long time my pipu, i don lost tay tay! but i remember una today as I stumbled accross this blog post and thought it raised some interesting
points, so knowing my NL brothers/sisters have strong views, i say make i share the post with una, make una comment,

oya, over to you;

http://ironlaydee..com/2007/06/just-wondering-about-nigeria.html

thats a gud boy!

i just relax by going to get a massage sumtimes
othertimes, my boys massage me

sex sex sex is gud to relax, i like to 'hang out' in my jacuzzi

muki, abeg if na joke, stop am oh!

debo, uv upset me , u need to apologise, i cant have sumone thats my son's age group
direspecting me!   afterall, i have gud intentions and gud plans for u and i was onlly trying to
be open and honest with u cos i prefer no secrets relationship

so r u really a radio without battery? NL's resident olofofo? cos i dont wnt ppl
selling my gist to city people magazine oh

oya debo rest, no come insult me cos i wan2 play love with u, i
no want again,

debosky:
i'd like to know a lil more about u before taking it any further, like do u have a husband? send me your pic on yim, so i can see for meself.

am about to divorce my husband ( my 3rd marriage! _{yes oh! marriage is not easy esp with handsome
young boys like urself}), forget my pic, aask me questions, what do u want to know?

Teezy:
roflmao *dies*

damn your hella funny. emmm so how old is your son? j/p

ha! TuFiAKWA! dont die oh! u wont die my daughter abi do u want my son to marry
a dead body?//

kiki:
damn i just can't dtop laughin

pls dont laff oh! am very serious

debosky:
that claim of being succulent has to be verified. from your post you're at least 40 years old. i doubt if you can withstand the attentions of a young buck like myself

if u mean sexual stamina, then u must be a real baby! by d time i finish with u my dear, u will retract that
statement, u wont even hav sweat to sweat anymore not to talk of 'cum' to 'cum'

but i like ur confidence, very attractive

Teezy:
_{*speaking in her bad nigerian accent*}

eemm auntie mary u no know sey Debo na aproko for nl, well im his sista so emm im also aproko too. So im sorry but i cannot vamoose

oya, u r a gud girl, mayb i go let u marry my son, he;s very handsome like my 'Dee'

but u must help me first, abeg, use ur aproko advise sugar lips to consider me, i can buy him a nice car n a plot
of land in GRA Enugu or even Lekki in lagos, infact that canada sef, i can buy him house there
if he treats me gud, by the time am finished with him he'll be the cynosure of eyes and envy of his friends!

i want to polish him very well so he can go with me to society 'creme-de-la-creme' functions _{because his fashion
sense seems very poor with the camou shirt he's wearing}  but am ready for him, i truly am,
help me relay this to him and pm me ur acc details so i will give u sumthin for the wkend

debosky:
just how old are u? besides you don't even know how old i am either.

heheheeeehe! *sniff sniff* i that interest i smell? so we r on d same page
if i tell u my age u may run away cos u may think am too old but i assure u that am still
as succulent as a 16 yr old girl, infact all my friends call me sweet16 despite the fact that
i was 16 between 20-30 yrs ago

so say sumthin nice to aunty now, ehn? oko mi to n fine ju!

Teezy:
Lmao wtf? Jealous? haha Debo is my brother aii

i hear u, jus leave me to do my thing jo! carry go what r u even doing in dis thread?
aproko! is ur name debo oya, i command u to vamoose(sp?)

























































j/k

debosky:
easy babe, i'm old fashioned so i don't kiss on the first date

okaaaaaaaay! lets start again, hi, my name is aunty mary, u can call me aunty cos am alot older than u
i like younger guys n u seem like my type, ur ips r driving me crazy, is there any chance of us
having an e-fling

Teezy:
Lmfao. awww this is too cute yet stupid

_{plz not again *rolls eyes*}

na u sabi! *rolls eyes*

*goes into singing mode* 'jeeeeeeeeeealouseee , kparararam,
jeeeeeeeeeeeelouseeee, kparanranran, jelaousy is d root, tralalalala'  

[/quote][quote author=debosky link=topic=20441.msg561038#msg561038 date=1155334405]@ topic, i'm 6' 2'' tall and i'm definitely not blind

my baby! ade ori mi, ololufe, welcome oko mi,

i just wan2 grab u now n kiss u! pucker up!mwwaaaaaaaaaah!

debs sweetie, can i call u sugar lips  

cum now, where r u lets flirt n play small e-love!

just saw his pic, and gosh! d lips, mehn! d lips! its all about d lips

pls marry me, u too fine! hope u aint short sha n u aint blind cos i cant c ur eyes

asthma inbabies is not caused by a smoking mother. however, i do not pllan to smoke while pregnant.

as i said, i dont even want to be involved with a man who has a one track mind. i am mature enuff to know that it is what lies beneath that matters in a person i.e personality, mentality, intelligence and sensitivity. i am a woman of strong character, integrity, charisma and intelligence and whoever fails to see and appreciate that because of 'smoke' is unfortunate and its only his loss.

nuff said.

Listen to all of them saying they cant marry a girl that drinks and smokes *shakes head*
u nigerian men need to be more open minded and drop the 'african man' idea cos it sucks.
whats wrong with a girl that smokes? is smoking the only habit that can have fatal consequences?
why is it so stigmatised these days when in the early days it was actually considered elegant and a thing of glamour and status esp in women?

I smoke and I drink (everyday for that matter). I have never been drunk and I dont think
there is any amount of alchohol that can get me drunk but I try to drink sensibly (bout a bottle of wine/alize a day)
I have never had a problem finding a man and out of all my exes, only 2 smoked (i.e less than 30% of all my exes.
my current boyfriend does not smoke and if he chooses not to marry me cos I smoke, then he's obviously not the one for me and sure will not be missed!

I do not hide the fact that I smoke from anyone (apart from my parents), so the guys know from the start. I therefore get very angry when they try to 'force' u to quit later in the relationship.

I'm not saying I will smoke forever. But I will not drop the habit just to attract men. The ideal man will be one that if he is unable to 'accept the fact that i smoke would 'respect' it and not attempt to force or threaten me to quit but one that will encourage me in 'subtle' ways to quit.

All am saying is, u guys need to open ur minds. U cannot judge a person solely on one habit. thats why u always end up with the 'good' girls who show u pepper. All that glitters is not gold and u cannot judge a book by its cover.

Nuff said