PLease could someone translate:
OMO O TI JO O

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I would have married him if he had a child prior to the birth of our own child, but this is a child born within our marriage and which is younger than our own child, that is not quite as easy to explain to our child and family. He wants me to accept it whilst he lies to his family about its existence. I have told his family but they refuse its exitence saying the only child they accept is ours. I wanted another child but he said he wasn't ready yet-making us always use condoms-so imagine how i feel when he was ready to have another child with somebody else by not using condoms!

It is not possible to take the child in a the mother wouldn't allow that and I couldn't bear that anyway, as my own child would end up surely without a mother with the heartbreak it would cause. I canot see her as our child as she is not. In our child I see us in her, in that child I would never see that only betrayal and pain. U expect too much i'm afraid I'd like to hear you say the same to a nigerian man to acept his wife's child from another man!!!

@Deluxecad, yes I can choose to let past go and move on and look forward to future or live in past and let it kill me, question is whether staying with my husband can ever let me move on and let past go, I fear I can't.

Well I don't know what to do to be honest I never want to see that child again and I certainly would never want her coming into our home. The pain of knowing that child exits for me is pain enough. It make me wish (of course I wdnt) I had another man' child so he would know the pain-he has said though when I put that to him )so he ould understand pain) he would leave me straight away. He wouldn't tolerate it but i am meant to have no choice but accept.

MRbrownJAY:

your post had me thinking about what kind of "friendly" step mother you will turn out to be if you ever stay in this saga.
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MrBrownJay, that is the exact reason I don't know how I can live with this. I adore children, and do feel sorry for the child but I dont think I could pretend to love this child or talk less of having her mother interject into our lives whenever she chooses. Thankfully the child is young and lives 300miles away, so I just pray her mother meet a someone else and leaves us alone-altho i know that would be painful for my husband to see another man as more of a 'dad' than he is. Irregardless many people will be hurt. In all honesty I could accept her into our family as OUR child, but her mother wouldnt let that happen understandibly

I am in a dificult situation and not sure what to do as both situations seem to bring a lifetime of hurt. My husband a few months back found out he has another baby from another woman, conceived in a period when wen our relationship was very rocky.

We have a daughter, but I don't know what to do, I love him but he wants to do his duty to the child but I don't think I can handle seeing or even hearing about this child in the future-knowledge of it is bad enough. Having our daughter was the most wonderful thing and I feel like he has just given that specialness to some other woman and robbed me of my joy as a mother.

If I leave I will mourn my love for him forever, but I cry every day and don't think I can watch him be father to another woman's child. I know there will be a pull to the child that could cause problems within our family and I worry that a) I will never cope with the fact he has another child and b) I will forever stay angry with him and ruin many people's lives. I know the child is innocent in all of this but I don't know what to do.

Has anyone else been in this situation?