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randyorton:

the fact that u married at that very late age of 27 yr doesnt mean that it is right. [b]Sincerely,what good can u get out of d body of a 27 yrs old woman. why would she wait till that late age b4 she marries. To globe trot? [/b]

Pls try and be more explicit with the bold part cos i've seen couple that got married late and don't know about the enjoyment, but from outside, they are doing just fine, so bros help out!,

fekon:
Its really a pity that most of us tends to take marriage as a textbook affair where someone would just give u tips on what to do to make your marriage a success, it goes beyond that, every marriage has his own peculiarities which the couple must understand to make success out of it. The most challenging weaknesses i have noticed in most marriages is people forgetting that they must face challenges before sweetness start showing up, although some experience sweetness from the beginning, my brother/sister i advise u face the challenging part of it in the beginning so that when the sweet times start rolling in it will not get into your head and u will be able to also put others through in the time of their challenges, felix okon

i strongly believe you, i'm not about learning marriage am only after peoples experience, and what their advise for we that are yet to get married,

Da Doctor:
;DCONFIRM AND REVERT NA.

I tell you Doc.

Da Doctor:
SORRY ARE U FROM THE APE LINEAGE? JUST ASKING COS U LOOK LIKE ONE MONKY WEY MISS FOR NEKED ZOO IN OWERRI. ARE U THE ONE? TELL ME ITS A LIE

Bros she fine now,

shumno:
When you are matured, physically, spiritually and emotionally. You need all that for a succesfull marriage. You ll certainly know it when it is time.

Noted bros.

Da Doctor:
WHENEVER U FEEL YOUR DICKKK /PUZZY MUSCLES ARE STRONG ENOUGH TO WITHSTAND ANY PRESSURE !!!

Its Extremely on Point Boss!

~Bluetooth:
I wonder how a jobless guy should get married at 23 only to heap the responsibility on his parent.Most of them may have actually got the lady pregnant by mistake only to be forced to do one small engagement and live together.Apart from money,being actually ready at the right time is also important.

So many in my area, i even recently witness a 19yrs old guy impregnate a girl and now they are married, now the guy have to go look for a job to support the girl and the girl stay at her parent place, One of the reason why i started this thread!,

Da Doctor:
SORRY ARE U FROM THE APE LINEAGE? JUST ASKING COS U LOOK LIKE ONE MONKY WEY MISS FOR NEKED ZOO IN OWERRI. ARE U THE ONE? TELL ME ITS A LIE

Oga Docki, that one too much now, but make me self do aproko check for myself.

@ayolinga, it is happening for real.

Aii, I believe you, but when they both find out, i trust them never to depart, instead they will work more on digging someone else.

Ayo, :
Curny man die, curny man bury am

; You make sense die.

maclatunji:
Question: When Is The Right Time To Get Married?

Answer:

1. When you have most of what it takes in terms of Finance (for the man), physical as well as emotional maturity and time.

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2. When you find a compatible person based on parameters that only you can set for yourself who is feeling you at least half-as-much as you are feeling them.

Oro(Word), I perfectly feel you Bro.

PStylish:
Okada should be banned.

The truth is Okada does more harm than Good. How? I will explain:
1. Okada has truncated the destinies of many by either sending them to their early graves or to Gbobi (Orthopaedic hospital).Personally, I have seen a lady shriek to death on the asphalt road while the rider sat calmly on the road kerb.What an horror it was!
Okada can never be safe.Never.Ones body is the body. I pray before climbing one and dictate the speed to the rider the extremely few times I engage them.I'll rather trek especially if I know my destination.

2. Okada has made Nigerians abandon the very healthy habit and exercise of trekking.Nigerians are now so lazy as they cant even undergo a paltry 5km trek.This has impacted negatively on their general health and wellbeing.

3. Okada has increased crime rate significantly.

4. Okada riders take the law into their hands very often especially after an accident notwithstanding who was right or wrong.

5. The advent of Okada has seriously reduced the number of school drop outs and others who should have taken to apprenticeship and learnt one useful skill or the other.Instead they all go for the easier cheaper option of riding Okada and making quick money. This in turn reduces the number of available skilled labour in the country and affects our economy negatively. For how long can anyone ride Okada.

Parting shot
Let Okada be banned in Lagos and other major cities nationwide.It is not compulsory to stay in Lagos.Anyone who can not make a honest living from doing some skilled job or trade in Lagos should go back home and farm.
Enough said for now.

Swear if you never enter Okada before or even today?, for crying out loud, this is injustice, and if okada didn't send you to early grave or break your leg, so why want them ban it?, i'm sure okada have saved your day or something very important or from being late!,

sexlog:
What will happen? He knows she's after him because of his money and he's also after her because of her money.

Its very impossible for two gold diggers to date but if it happens, i trust the guy would want to flash the cash first before he start milking the lady, but they will keep going round in circle,

Oluschenco:
Marriage is problematic in ds our generation, only few are left out. D years of courtship doesnt count cos pple can hide their behavior for decades. My point of view is dat if one is a goat (morally) d oda shd try as much as possible 2b a sheep. Cos 2 goats wont find it easy to eat in a plate, odawise they break it.

I'm a Sheep and am proud to say it,

PStylish:
For a man o,
I think the right time to get married is when you have a steady source or sources of income, a house (rented apartment at least) and a car (very compulsory if not mandatory).

Tought as much, but seriously, i would rather my own house!,

olas2u:
look before you leap

I just hired google.com

Orikinla:
Marriage is good, because it is the bedrock for starting a family and the family is important to the society,  but it is better not to marry than be married and be miserable.

Paul said it in the bible that its better not to be married than to be 1 Cor. 7 i believe, but i think that apply to those who wants to work for the lord in the spirit.

afam4eva:
Like someone said, marriage has everythig to do with maturity(of the mind, body and pocket). Don't rush into mmarriage just because you now have six packs.

I don't even have a 3 pack

Floxyluv:
i dont really think there should be a specified age for marriage, so long as both parties are prepared, they should go for it.

I'm not ready, just got out of my teenage age and marriage is not on mind, just want to learn from those that are there already!.

chaircover:
IMO age has nothing to do with maturity and there are some 21 year olds who are more mature than some fourty something’s.

I do however think that life experience also does have its advantages & place because it helps in maturing people and giving people a wider view of things.

I also feel that the younger you are the more you are able to choose from; but then you have the problem of choosing the correct Mr or Miss right from so many Mr or Mrs Wrongs out there. On the other hand, the older you get, the more set in your ways you get and that makes it even harder to find someone who will match you so its not a good idea to leave it too long either.

Personal situations also matter and even if you are a man at 30 but have no means of looking after and catering for a family financially or emotionally then you shouldn’t really be getting married.

I also believe that both husband and wife should be able to bring something into the marriage financially, emotionally, attitude wise etc and It shouldn’t just be one sided.  

Marriage is not for everyone & some people are better just staying on their own rather than making their partners & their own lives a living hell.

I will surely come back a lot of time to read this, Believe me.

Fhemmmy:
It is not about age, it is about maturity and when you can afford to take care of a home or a wife . . . . When you are able to forgive without being apologized to, and once you have stop being selfish

stop being selfish in what sense?

ronkebp:
^^^^^^^^Ayo you would be surprised that all those gals you have in mind, none of them might be your ''soul mate'', the least person you have in mind usually ends up to be that perfect match for you. If you have an ''idol'' in mind (saying this is what and what i want from my spouse) and go ahead to search for that partner using the criteria you already carved out for yourself then it becomes purely physical, and the spiritual aspect is definitely not included, My advice for you is that, if you are a chriatian or muslim, go on your knees or sit on your mat, write out all the qualities you want your future spouse to possess, and pray fervently, You will definitely meet that bone of your bone and flesh of your flesh.

I'm practicing Christianity; And God has already noted that, but i sometimes don't allow my spiritual life to determine all i do, but on this one, God knows my desire!.

I couldn't agree more with the last 3 comments,

But I'm worried about these new Generation/Millennium Girls, that claim to be too expensive and not even worth shi shi, I've got the confidence to approach any girl but the fact still remains I'm finding the one that is worth my "TIME, TEARS and A GOOD COMMUNICATOR" Those 3 are high on my list and don't want a process whereby I will court a girl for 6month and jump into marriage with her(Out Of Point to ME),

Odunnu:
You know, I didnt want to specify an age because I dont believe its about age. My cousin married at 19yrs, that was 2years ago she looks very happy in marriage, the elder sister married last year at 24, dont lemme bring stories of what she's told me in a marriage less than 18months old.

I get exactly what you mean by that!, But am totally against getting married early.

minute:
Regardless of what any of your answers tell you, it's a good idea to wait to marry until you are at LEAST 27. There is
a time around your mid twenties where men and women have mini "mid-life" crises. Priorities change, and personality
changes and things that seem right and good at 23 or 24, just do not make sense for the rest of your days. Trust me.
If you force it, you'll regret it. That doesn't mean you cant be in a committed relationship, or even engaged. Just not married.

Best so far for me, Thanks, I used to think about the same thing, like being more comfortable in my own place and being financially stable to be able to support the family, cos i'm not ready to get married in a rented apartment or get married on a low income or even bring to life kids i can't care for, I pledge to get married in my early 30's cos i really want time for my bachelor life to experience things, some friends criticize that and some even swear i won't be able to hold on for that long which perplex me,

ayolinger:
Chai!, Women don suffer, somebody need help them out here ooo!

Maybe your not kissing the right frog, I still believe there are better one out there & at this age of mine, Girls have shown me , but being someone that is strong and quickly get over things, i still stand strong and hoping for the right one cos i believe each heartbreak moves you closer to the right one,

jennykadry:
^^^^ Marry your soulmate simple. I was still in school when I got married and finished studies in my husbands house. I did not even go part time, I did it full time. It is all about marrying that person that is truly yours.

I love early marriage, always have and always will as long as they are both mature enough to handle challenges.

My Soul Mate ; I doubt if there's is one out there!, Cos the ones i'm seeing right now are EOP(Extremely Out Of Point), But Giving up on Love, i don't think so, i sure i will meet the right person, thanks!,

Freiburger:
@ topic
Must you marry @ 40? I got married when i was 23 and my wife was 18, a big deal? and that couldn't even stop any of us from pursuing our main objectives in life.

Married at the age of 40?!, I don't mind as far as am with the right person, Marriage is all about making a wise choice i believe, Thou Its not my ultimate thing, just trying to educate myself that's all,

jennykadry:
I was married before 23

And your advise for we that are yet to be?

On many occasion have i seen, hear and read about women/girls referring to themselves as a b-i-t-c-h and some even brag about it.

It's more common on Social Networks( The Common Ones).

Is it morally right to do so or maybe they are just ignorant of the term "B-I-T-C-H"

b-i-t-c-h
   /bɪtʃ/ Show Spelled[bich] Show IPA
noun
1.
a female dog: The b-i-t-c-h won first place in the sporting dogs category.
2.
a female of canines generally.
3.
Slang .
a.
a malicious, unpleasant, selfish person, especially a woman.
b.
a lewd woman.
c.
Disparaging and Offensive . any woman.


http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/b-i-t-c-h

Freiburger:
Whatever.

Chai!, Women don suffer, somebody need help them out here ooo!

Freiburger:
Don't you know if ' you ve got all the money in world without a women, you 're as good as dead.
Even our own man Pac said it. Quote from all eyes on me lyrics[b] ''money bring b-i-t-c-h-e-s, b-i-t-i-c-h-e-s bring life''[/b]

I know B-i-t-c-h-e-s to be a female Dog; Not woman

ng4am:
Length of courtship does not determine how well a marriage will last, but to me at least 6months

Atleast six months for you? ; Thank God I'm not you.

Freiburger:
Money! Monye! Money! Coz money brings women, women brings life.

Women Bring Life?, How?

freecocoa:
Op don't just provoke me o,which men? The best they can do for you is help you delay achieving your aims in life.mscheeew.

Cocoa Beauty; How I won take provoke you now?

190_@:
as a Nigerian woman which i am

I prefer money

190_@, You be woman?

bandiejay:
Money answereth all things ,     Money is the root of all evil  yet we still look for it ,  Money can buy anything , you cant compare money with woman  comparing silverbird with disney land   choose one

Silverbird and Disney?, Which is Disney and which is Silverbird?

I'm driven by money thou, but women are inspiring too now,

And Please, You quote (Money is the root of all evil ) Wrong, i think the lack of money is the root of all evil, #GBAM

ng4am:
I dont think so cos if both parties understand themselves and what marriage is al about it wont fail. My opinion

Noted as well!,
One more question, in your own opinion, how many years of courtship will u suggest?

Odunnu:
Thats why I stressed it that its not about the age. You insisted on a range.

Alright I get!,

ng4am:
Dats why outstrip said maturity not age. Mst marriages fail today cos of lack of understdng. Maturity is a state of mind

is there anymore reason apart from understanding why marriage fail?

Odunnu:
My grandma married at 17years and she is still married till today. Its not about age, but if you insist on an age range, i'll say between 23 -26years is a perfect range. its expected that she would have been matured emotionally to handle marriage.

Your talking about your Grandma that got married decades(6-7) if i'm right with my calculation, Im more concerned about the marriage of our Generation and the new Millennium!. & Mind you, some women at the age you stated still ain't matured enough to handle their marriage and still seek help from either their mum or someone else to make decisions,

Odunnu:
Marriage has everything to do with maturity and nothing much of age. If you still view the success or failure of marriage as having to do with age, then you are viewing it wrongly.
When I say maturity, i mean the ability to relate, tolerate, accept another individual sharing your life completely with you, this doesnt come completely with age.

Noted, but why do majority of early marriage fail?? , and taking maturity apart, what age do you suggest and what should be put in place before marriage?

I've had experience with the two, Women have this spirit that keeps you happy and going, but we all know the threat they can pose, if not in term with them & money on the other hand is another thing that gives high spirit and smooth sailing, But still i believe we all have different perspective to life & the two stated above.

All i want is you sharing your experience of the two and the one which inspire you the most!. and for the ladies/girls/women, i want you to use the reverse i.e (Men or Money)

I Use to remember my Parent telling me, Marriage is a Blessing, but i don't think that applies to the kind f marriage we have now, I've read a lot of Marriage story and majority of them are disastrous, & even some come out to state their marriage story on NL and seek advice.

What I want to know is;

1. Why do people have problem with their marriage, is it due to early marriage and them not taking their time?

2. Is it due to, not enough time of courtship & if yes, how long do you suggest the courtship should be? and,

3. When is the right time/age to get married?

Infoseye:
I thought I was the only one too, my MTN bis was meant to expire last month ending nothing yet, no text from mtn to remind me to subscribe and I have avoided calling them to ask when its due to expire but I know its just a matter of upgrade or server restart so guy lets enjoy while it leas too bad you can connect and use BIS on laptop.

Thank God I have someone that share my Joy, Lets keep on jonzing till they find out jare, i don't mind it being active for a year at least this is not scamming cos i ain't hurting no feelings, I'm just reaping the fruit of my fellow Nigerians,

ULSHERLAN:
Enjoy it while it last, it should be due to a system upgrade or error, and i doubt if any consequence will come up cos it isnt your fault rather from their ill experts, keep pinging and they keeping paying your bills

Bros No lele!,

G-Chux:
I don catch you! You are going to pay back all the freebies you enjoyed. Post your number.

Even if I'm a Teenager, I no fool reach that level now, I no go even reveal the first 3(08X) digit!, Lolz in Zulu!.

I'm writing this not to report myself, but to know if someone else is enjoying the same offer cos i can't call it a problem;
I recently started using Etisalat Network for my BIS, after a bad run with all other network including MTN, And I have no regret so far thou and i started with the weekly complete plan which is #500; It was due to expire on 27/11/2011 which did as proposed, i wasn't able to subscribe on that day and to my surprise i receive facebook notification in the twilight of the follow morning which is 28 and PINGS including Emails, i thought it was the one from the other night not until i receive a message from Etisalat itself that my BIS has been successfully subscribed, WOW, i never remember recharging or renewing my subscription, in fact i opt-out with the hope of paying for a full month!, I waited for a full week for it to be cut off, but Hey, the merry went round, and I was due to expired yesterday which as well did and the same miracle happened this morning; Now I'm perplexed, I don't know if there is promo running on my SIM or its due to a system error, I'm the type that believe in Consequences and scared if it won't have a later effect or found myself being questioned for it, I don't think its wrong to enjoy this and at the same time don't feel it right, I'm yet to report this error cos of course I'm a True Niaja Gidi Breed and I sure know the Good this is doing me, but still i feel its wrong, So i want to know if anyone is enjoying the same offer(Like i states earlier, i can't call it a problem), Please reasonable contribution please.

Is anyone replying to my question,cos i've been charging for over two hours now and still battery low!.

I have a curve 2 that run on OS5, can i go beyond that OS,& again my Charger recently got burnt while am charging my fone and as a result of that has affected my fone and it hardly charge even when it show charging and so many errors and restarting for no reason,what the best solution?