Jman06:
I'll honestly advise you not to try making the first move on a guy next time. Never mind all these guys encouraging you to. It doesn't work that way! Guys are wired to go for the chase while ladies are to make all the 'shakara'. That's the normal natural arrangement. If you did biology in sec school, you would have noticed that in genetic crossing females are represented with a straight symbol while males are represented with a bent symbol pointing towards the female's direction. If you want to hold your head high in the relationship, let the guys chase you not the other way.

Speak for yourself dude!!

There's nothing more attractive in a woman than confidence and humility. A lady that's confident enough to make the first move is all shades of awesome!

Hello guys,

So there's an event tomorrow at the national stadium surulere. Why don't we meet there - well I'll be going...

Will be a great way to put a face behind all this chit chat on here.

If you're interested to join me, my number is Ho nie ho tiri, tiri fif ho, wan nie sis ho

It's a food and drinks festival by the way

Elsielex:


And fvcking is supposed to be paramount in life.
Pls buy yourself some brain with the fvcking you've had since you started fvcking.

Guy park well abeg

Wow!! This girl has some fire in her! Oh boy!!!

Oh and one more thing before I go to bed...

Mr Toks, what do you think about inviting all the nice ladies here to a public event. There's an event this saturday at the stadium. How bout if all the interested folks go there, maybe meet, and see what happens. If you don't like any of what you see, then you can enjoy the event anyway, but if you do... well that may be a first step to a "happily ever after" moment.

What do y'all think?? I'll be going to the event anyway regardless. I'm not sure if I'm allowed to drop my number but I'm sure you can find it if you really want to

Mehn,

Just found some two absolutely gorgeous girls on here... @Mariolae and @ Lilyqueeny

There's prob a few folks sliding into your dms now so I'm not going to join the crowd... but eerrr how do you ask for a date on an open forum sef??

And besides, the email of this NL account doesn't work (I'll need to sort that out)

_{my other account is montyng}

There's a difference between going for a Boy and going for a Man... Only a Boy will do such a thing! Don't be scared to make the first move! Afterall the main goal is the "happily ever after" Will it matter that you made the first move in the grand scheme of things??

SPEEDEPITOME:

You call it 'Forming', I call it conforming to the society's standard. Some guys think it is bad for a lady to put herself out there, she's just supposed to wait, make no move until she's 'found'.

And most ladies cannot handle rejection the way guys can, so we'll rather not walk down that path because you don't know if your target (guy) is one who'll make a big news out of the fact that you made the first move on them.
Forget what these guys say online, the whole 'I don't mind a lady talking to me first' thing is a lie. A Lady sends them a PM, they already have thoughts in the head.
Until guys learn to handle this part correctly, more ladies will keep to themselves.

Toks2008:


Very insightful and I am indeed delighted and honored that you chose to make your very first comment on this thread despite being registered on naira land for about good 7 years....I must admit there is something good about the thread.

I understand your stand view but we can only pray that we end up marrying a good woman.

Yes o... THis is the daily prayer ooo! Good women are not so easy to find nowadays, although they are out there!

THe most important decision a man can make in his life is who he chooses to marry! This must be someone who can take him to the next level of greatness, unfortunately, most girls are just looking for a guy they can leech from and live a comfortable life

One day one day sha, we shall find this girl!

Another painful thing I see regularly is a good girl marrying an a$$hole

Titugirl:

Thanks...I'm a classic mfm member.

sesi geh

SalC:
Had to check you out when you followed me.

Good to know this thread dragged you outta you shell

Hmmm didn't realise I was in a shell!

Ok gotta make a confession, I initially opened this account but didn't like the name, so I abandoned it and opened another account and I've been using that!

SalC:

Bros no vex make a state small observation

You registered this handle since 2010 without a single comment till this thread came up.
Wow what a thread!

Lol... Nice observation

But anyway... so you've been checking me out huh?

schendy:




I understand, but also know that some persons are extremely shy, the main reason they find this faceless forum a safe haven.

That's true... But sometimes, to make a change, you just have to drag yourself out of your comfort zone

SPEEDEPITOME:

Funny how 'Speedy came late' to a thread like this.
How are you?

How am I?? Hmmm... you don't want me to start o... Not enough space in this thread!

Let's not disturb the others...

dogoFara:


This is a fact

So where can we find these girls? Do we have to go drag them from their hiding places??

SPEEDEPITOME:

Hi Latecomer79

Hello speedy

citas:

So I'll say, don't let your age scare you... What will be will be... But you do have to be open minded and know yourself enough to know what traits you can compromise on and what traits you can't.

(P. S, the 79 on my username is not my birth year or my age ) lol

gbam, u nailed it dear

Was being sarcastic dear...

Toks2008:
All the timid ladies forming here that they can't upload their pics even if they have to stylishly cover their face with their phones I say a big sorry.
Out there is no different from right here cos we have great minds online...on this thread are great guys and ladies..professionals,achievers and these people are hardly seen in the real world but would gladly interact here at their leisure time
No one wants to be a friend to a masquerade and any lady wey no get dp should better not bother making comments cos it will only end there as she is anonymous and perhaps on a rare case strike friendship.
Humans are selective and if I have to be your friend for a salient purpose of romance,I will really want to be with a lady who is physically OK "by my standard"
and of course a pics will give me an idea of how you look....remember..attraction first before interaction.
So ladies must understand that this is not about wanting a man by all means or being desperate....it'd just logical...
Please avoid timidity and be liberal,open minded and sociable.
Wishing you all a fruitful week ahead.

Bros, I don't fully agree o... In as much as physical attraction is crucial in a relationship, it's not the be all and end all.
The most attractive trait a woman can have is humility, followed by intelligence. Anyone can get dolled up one day, and post a pic... There are some girls (maybe most) that when you see their natural face, you'll run... But you got attracted to the makeup.

I believe that guys at this stage (30s) shouldn't be fooled by looks anymore. They should fall for the girls mind, and then looks not the other way round.
Again not saying looks are not important... A super smart, humble girl that makes no effort in her physical appearance is still a no no I'm afraid!

Wow, just found this thread from the homepage so arriving a bit late... Well 29 pages late!

My take in this matter, I'll say I'm a single guy and kindof searching! Reason why I say kindof searching is because aunties, uncles, married friends have all tried to hook me up with someone but it's never worked out. Like someone mentioned in here, this naija is full of slay Queens who are more interested in their phones and are only capable of taking selfies than holding an intelligent conversation.

Might just be me though but if I speak for most guys in their 30s, we are intelligent enough to know what we want in a woman and are pretty much not willing to compromise on certain personality traits.
Might be the same for the ladies but can't speak for them so I don't know.

For me now, I can't hook up with a passive chic, I'm from a family of strong women so I have no attraction for a passive lady who has the opinion that her only role in a relationship is to look good, provide sex, raise kids and that's it! I know myself, and I know I will get bored in less than a month. In that case, what's the point of entering such a union that should last FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!

So I'll say, don't let your age scare you... What will be will be... But you do have to be open minded and know yourself enough to know what traits you can compromise on and what traits you can't.

(P. S, the 79 on my username is not my birth year or my age ) lol