₦airaland Forum

Librate:
Corper wee

Jphils:
Thank you very much.
I have my statement of result, fee clearance card and university certificates. Even my school fees receipt from yr1 to final year dey, so i guess I'm covered.

Jphils:
I've got a problem. I hope someone here can help me with ideas or a solution.

So I've been posted to Lagos and I've been in Lagos for some months now but i schooled in Calabar(Unical).
Now the problem is i don't have a recent id card and i can't start heading to Calabar now to get it and even if i could, i wouldn't be able to get one before Wednesday. So any bright ideas would be really appreciated.

Thanks in advance

Neminc:
Serves them right. Why would they hold an open air event and forget to settle the rainmakers in town. He is lucky it's kenya. If it was in my village, At least ten people would have been struck down by lightening and Wizkid would have gone home with hunchback and bow leg. You need to settle the terrestrial powers mehn or get what's coming

mrletsgo:
Really. I thought things were always more expensive in camp. Thanks for clarifying.

wintersnow:
I Guess batch B will be 2019

seantei:
na hell you don the prepare for your self for
na hu u wan turn mumu
take your time oga titus
no b only NYSC DG na Minister of Youth

jocelyncherish:
Camp will commence 24th.Next week Monday

alabi484:
Use chrome or ucbrowser...and don't visit the portal directly, go through the normal website... You'll still see the heart breaking message we had since may

opalu:
Everybody is hung up on domestic abuse by men against women. Nobody spares a moment to find solutions to the equally devastating verbal abuse men suffer in the hands of their wives. It is worse because men can't discuss what their wives do to them for fear of scorn and derision. They suffer in silence. Timebomb.

Unfortunately, the Nigerian society has little or no support systems for this kind of situation. Little or no counselling services. It's been mostly left to the church to deal with. What happens when the man doesn't go to church? What happens when the woman doesn't believe in spiritual intervention? These women are raising daughters. Their daughters are hearing and seeing how they speak to and treat their husband. What kind of wives will they grow up to become? Those that treat their husbands as kings or those that believe husbands are nothing but verbal punching bags?

We've all agreed and rightfully so that a man has no business hitting his wife. So how then do you stop a wife raining verbal missiles at you? Leave the house? Okay. But you'll return and it will continue. What next? Leave again? For how long?

Recently, I visited a senior friend, an important man in the society and while we were downstairs gisting, the voice of his wife could be heard upstairs. She was spewing unimaginable bile against the man. She called him all sorts of unprintable names. Impotent, wretched fool, miserable man that was nothing when she married him, etc. This is a well respected man. A father of 4 children. She tore at his very core and mocked everything society respected him for. She said he'd soon crash and she'll be there to laugh at him.

I was so uncomfortable as I beheld the man. He was shrunken before me. He was deflated. He tried to gamefully continue the gist to distract me but it was not working. The woman's vitriol was a ceaseless torrent. Uncomfortable silence ensued. I excused myself and left his house.

I was really sad.

You want to know the truth? This is what most men go through in their houses. They labour and toil and build respect but when they return home, the one who ought to speak to the king in them tears them to shreds and tries to deflate their self-esteem. When they are outside, they try to act cheerful and happy but back home, they are shrivelled because the person they live with makes it a point of duty to verbally assault them.

A sad story comes to mind. There was recently a Nigerian Ambassador who was recalled because his wife released a story to the press that he beat her. She also released pictures showing fresh injuries on her body ostensibly inflicted by the man.

In a dramatic twist, their children came out to debunk the stories and said their mother faked the injuries to embarrass their dad. Grown up children.

A particular sentence by the 1st son saddened me. He said it was as if their mum woke up every morning with one mission in life: how to make their dad miserable. They said they were witnesses to how their mum constantly harassed and abused their dad and wanted the whole world to know that their dad was not who their mum was painting him to be.

Yes, opinion shifted on the scandal but the damage had been done. The Ambassador was recalled and nobody heard from him again.

A family is currently at odds with the widow of their son and brother. The wife was constantly verbally assaulting him. Nobody wanted to visit them because each time they were around, it was always quarrel and the wife would call him unprintable names. Even in their presence. When they try to interfere, she will give them their own. The man died recently of heart-attack caused by high blood pressure. He was in his late 40s. The family insists his wife sent him to his early grave with her verbal torments.

Our bars are filled with men who are afraid to go home to their wives for fear of what verbal torment they will go through. Men are finding every excuse to travel because they'll rather be anywhere than in their own homes.

Everybody is focusing on men as culprits in domestic abuse. Who is talking to the women? The impact on generation next?


_There's always two sides of the coin. But as Kingdom Oriented People, we must live to make The Different and Raise A Godly Family Example_

*It's our calling n responsibility as Godly Parents!*

UnknownT:
Did Adeleke dance?

Trinaxx:
Thanks for sharing the chat. However, it says "a date would be fixed..." not "a date would be announced". They mean two different things.
Nonetheless, we should remain hopeful sha.

Trinaxx:
By whom?

oseka101:
very useless question

Hotshawarma:
nigerian industry??

holatin:
guy watch out, your mild depression is becoming chronic depression, suicide isn't too far from chronic

olu911:
It's out guys!!!!
It's finally out!!!!!

olu911:
It's out guys!!!!
It's finally out!!!!!

holatin:
when I have mb, I will buy money and when I buy money, I will download the song.

Next !!!