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There have been wars, battles, and general uproar for as long as I can remember over the “true” stature of the African woman. Should she be fat, skinny, voluptuous or slim?

In the past, Nigerians have been known to say that the wealth of a man can be seen in the body size of his wife , the saying was rationalized by the “common” fact that the men are so busy working for the money that they don’t have time to actually enjoy it.

Infact, we can also recall the days of the “Calabar Fattening Room”, I don’t know if it still exists. This is the place where the extra rich go to put on some weight. We take the example of Happiness Edem, who is married to a prince. Before her marriage, her husband paid for a trip to the fattening room for her because “People will think I am not rich, if my woman is not fat and has not gone through that process she does not qualify for marriage”.

Happiness went on to say “When you are fat, it makes you look healthy, people respect you,people honour you, wherever you go, they say, ‘your husband feeds you fine’. If you go to a village, people can come out to look at you, because you are healthy.”

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Also common in olden day Nigeria was the search for women with well rounded hips to marry, because these hips were considered “child bearing hips.

Now to modern day Nigeria! Practically 80% of the Nigerian women think they are fat and moan over this fact. Men now largely seek women who are toned and slim, because their stature has the aura of “health” and is generally pleasing, this is not to say that the “big” African woman propagators are no longer in existence.

It then calls for a debate. What indeed is the true stature of an African woman, a baby oku? Or is there really no “true” stature because just in the same way we follow clothing trends, we also follow body trends? We can lay this blame on the influx of westernisation and global awareness, because these days people are more concious of the health pros and cons of everything they ingest and gear themselves towards the mentality of slim/skinny is healthy.

So what say you baby okus and bobo okus? Does Africa actually have a stature “requirement” before a lady can indeed claim to be “African”?

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There have been wars, battles, and general uproar for as long as I can remember over the “true” stature of the African woman. Should she be fat, skinny, voluptuous or slim?

In the past, Nigerians have been known to say that the wealth of a man can be seen in the body size of his wife , the saying was rationalized by the “common” fact that the men are so busy working for the money that they don’t have time to actually enjoy it.

Infact, we can also recall the days of the “Calabar Fattening Room”, I don’t know if it still exists. This is the place where the extra rich go to put on some weight. We take the example of Happiness Edem, who is married to a prince. Before her marriage, her husband paid for a trip to the fattening room for her because “People will think I am not rich, if my woman is not fat and has not gone through that process she does not qualify for marriage”.

Happiness went on to say “When you are fat, it makes you look healthy, people respect you,people honour you, wherever you go, they say, ‘your husband feeds you fine’. If you go to a village, people can come out to look at you, because you are healthy.”

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Also common in olden day Nigeria was the search for women with well rounded hips to marry, because these hips were considered “child bearing hips.

Now to modern day Nigeria! Practically 80% of the Nigerian women think they are fat and moan over this fact. Men now largely seek women who are toned and slim, because their stature has the aura of “health” and is generally pleasing, this is not to say that the “big” African woman propagators are no longer in existence.

It then calls for a debate. What indeed is the true stature of an African woman, a baby oku? Or is there really no “true” stature because just in the same way we follow clothing trends, we also follow body trends? We can lay this blame on the influx of westernisation and global awareness, because these days people are more concious of the health pros and cons of everything they ingest and gear themselves towards the mentality of slim/skinny is healthy.

So what say you baby okus and bobo okus? Does Africa actually have a stature “requirement” before a lady can indeed claim to be “African”?
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Not really. Just try not to upstage the bride...and don't dress like you're going club,to the movies or the office

honeydear: Nice....

We naija babes need to memorize these tips...i tell u!

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I found this interesting write-up by Okechukwu Ofili and thought I should share. Enjoy!

“These are the exact words I want to yell out every time I see a woman with a bachelor’s degree turned into a secretary by virtue of her mammary glands. I know I am male so it is kind of weird for me to yell those exact words out….but I have to…because frankly I am sick and tired of the status quo.

The status quo where women at work…especially Nigerian women are subconsciously turned into secretaries despite their many qualifications simply because they are female.

It starts with a simple “can you help me scan this file” and then escalates to “can you tell so so and so that I will not be around today and ensure that my schedule is free by 4pm.” Huh! Just like that you have become a “secretary.” Even though you have a bachelors degree from that university. Not to mention your primary work responsibilities, but somehow you are expected to start photocopying and faxing for the guys that are too lazy to figure out how those machines work. It’s like the boobs and long hair automatically turn you into secretary.

Whenever this happens around me, I always tell the females to tell the males, that they are not secretaries. Shoot! We are all in the same office so why the double standards.

Now I know some people will say all this is trivial, but it is not, it is the little things…the little cases of female discrimination that escalate into the more serious ones such as domestic abuse that is all too prevalent across Nigeria. The little things that subconsciously make any male with a dickree think that he can turn his female co-worker to a secretary, will automatically make him feel he can turn his wife into a punching bag.


We have to draw the line somewhere, actually we have to draw the line everywhere, because this attitude, the secretariaism attitude has to be stopped. Sadly, a lot of times the secretariaism issue is not as explicit as “go and make me a photocopy”…in most cases it is disguised. It could be a female engineer that finds herself constantly being asked to write documents or take minutes, while her male colleagues go out and work in the field. These little things that can transform a bachelor’s degree to a Primary School certificate!

So to the ladies out there, you are not secretaries, if you want to be a secretary secretary of state that is fine. But let no one turn you into a secretary by virtue of your sex. Push back…and if you need help reminding yourself of who you are, print out a copy of your school certificate with your highest degree and place it on your desk. So that it can serve as a reminder to you and those around you…that you are not a fucking secretary.”

culled from www.ofilispeaks.com

I completely understand this…but most Nigerian women actually bring this “secretary-ism” syndrome upon themselves if you ask me. I mean practically all women advocate equal right…but the question is, how many of us women REALLY want it?

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I went for a wedding today and a lot of people turned up looking pretty good, while some others turned up hoochie- looking… so I thought to do a post on what NOT to wear to a wedding…please share with your friends, let’s revolutionize Nigerian fashion (especially to weddings) together!

1. Black

BLACK is traditionally a no-go color at weddings — especially for women.

Black dresses connote mourning and death for many people, but there’s a difference between showing up to your best friend’s nuptials in funeral garb and wearing a sleek, little black number to an evening wedding. As long as the dress feels fun and light, regardless of how dark it is, you should be fine. Sequins usually work, as do black cocktail dresses for formal ceremonies. However, if there’s even the slightest chance it could fit into a procession for the deceased, put it back on the rack and slip into something more colorful.

2. Something Skimpy

Nothing screams “look at me” like a SKIMPY OUTFIT

There’s nothing wrong with showing off a little leg or décolleté every once in a while, but there’s a time and place for such things, and weddings aren’t one of them.

No, you’re not exactly showing up the bride, but showing off your assets is a surefire way to take away from her big day, so don’t do it.

3. Jeans and a T-shirt

We don’t care how casual the wedding is and how laid-back the bride in question might be, attending in JEANS and a T-SHIRT is not an option.

It doesn’t matter if it’s on the beach, in your mom’s backyard, or even if you don’t know the couple very well. If you’re bothering to show up, the least you can do is throw on a dress or a pair of khakis and a button-up shirt — again, assuming it’s a casual ceremony. Also, just to be clear, don’t even think about slipping on a pair of flip-flops. Pumps, heels, flats, loafers and sandals are a go, but plastic footwear is a huge wedding no-no. (Possible exception: If the wedding invite explicitly states that it’s a “flip-flop casual” beach event, you may wear them.)

4. A Tux

There’s only one guy in a PENGUIN SUIT here today, and it’s not you (unless, of course, the ceremony is a black-tie affair, in which case you, the groom, and every other male in attendance is bowtied out).

However, just as it’s in bad taste to upstage the bride, you shouldn’t go out of your way to one-up the groom. Although it’s doubtful he’ll run into a closet and weep or complain about you to all his friends if you show up looking better than he does, it’s just not polite. Yes, we know you can’t do anything to tone down your innate good looks, but the least you can do is dress them down in a sport coat and leave the super-suit to the man saying “I do.”

5. Bellbottoms and Other Dated Attire

BELL BOTTOMS may work for a stylish night out on the town. But try sporting these wide-legged pants at your college roommate’s wedding, and you might as well shake, shake, shake your booty back to your place for a change of clothes. Disco isn’t cool when people say “I do.”

That’s not to say that you can’t invoke other styles and eras with your wedding guest garb. A 1960s pencil skirt will allow you to turn heads without causing a distraction, and a dress with an empire waist and cap sleeves will invoke the 1940s without making you look like a has-been. Just remember to adhere to the style of the wedding — we’ve established that bellbottoms won’t fit into even the most casual ceremonies, but a vintage sundress won’t do at a black-tie affair, either.

6. A Tiara

You’d think we wouldn’t even have to mention this one, but you’d be surprised by what attention-seeking guests have tried to pull off. So, we’ll just state it plainly: Do not, under any circumstances, wear a tiara to any wedding other than your own. Not only is it disrespectful to the bride, it’ll just make you look desperate and ridiculous.

This rule, of course, extends to crowns, ornamental headbands or anything else that could be mistaken for a tiara or any other headpiece the bride may choose to wear.

7. Your Prom Dress

Prom is like a pre-wedding for teenage girls. There’s food, drink, dancing and after-parties where . well, we won’t go there. Also like weddings, it’s not out of the ordinary for a well-to-do young lady to drop $1,000 or more on a dress she’ll wear only once — many of which look suspiciously nuptial-ready.

So, if you still have your prom dress and it’s not out of style or too juvenile, slipping it on again for a formal affair might be awfully tempting, even if you’re a decade or more out of high school. But you have to be careful, as there’s a fine line between donning a vibrantly colored formal evening gown and a white, champagne or blush dress that’ll make you look too much like a bride. Use discretion and err on the side of caution. If you’re at all unsure, leave the flashy dress for the high school kids and wear something more elegant and adult.

8. A Pantsuit

You’re going to a wedding, not a meeting at the office!

Drop the business persona and show your style in a skirt, dress or any kind of clothing that would look out of place with a coffee stain. This is a celebration of two people choosing to unite their lives together forever, so the least you can do is find something that isn’t overly stuffy and businessy to wear. We’re not just talking about your standard black or charcoal suit. This rule also applies to pretty pastel skirt-jacket combos. They might work for a dinner event, but they just set the wrong tone for weddings.

Yes, we know some very powerful women frequently wear pantsuits, but even Hillary Clinton wore a vibrant dress on Chelsea’s big day, and if she can do it, you can, too.

We’d also advise staying away from businessy accessories — trade the giant bag or briefcase for a clutch, and don’t wear any scarves that scream “I belong in cubicle No. 4!”

9. Anything Loud or Garish

People are there to look at the bride, not your obnoxious hat/dress/purse/shoes/eye shadow. Donning loud or garish apparel and accessories is a surprisingly common method of wedding-crashing women use to upstage the bride. Your outlandish choices might not be directly comparable to the bride’s traditional white garb, but everyone — including the new Mrs. — will likely take them as a sign of extremely poor taste or a desperate call for attention. You’ll get people talking, but you probably won’t like what they have to say!

10. White

It’s never a good idea to wear anything that could conceivably be mistaken for a wedding dress. But, just like the tradition against wearing black to on the big day, we think this rule can be broken — if you go about it the right way.

A simple, off-white dress or skirt should be fine, and if you want to be absolutely sure you’re not stepping on any perfectly manicured toes, get a glimpse of the bride’s dress before the big day. Make sure your white outfit of choice is dramatically different, so if she’s wearing a full-skirted gown, your slender, white evening gown shouldn’t pose much of a problem. If she’s wearing a simple number, though, pick another color. Even if you look your best in white, you won’t care what color you’re wearing when she’s staring daggers into your eyes instead of saying “I do.”

culled from http://tlc.howstuffworks.com/

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1. Open-mouth kissing allows for the transfer of hormones from a man to a woman, in other words mucus membranes in the mouth are permeable to hormones like testosterone, which a man can introduce into a woman’s mouth through kissing. Therefore testosterone increases arousal in the woman, leading to higher chances of sexual intercourse.

2. Kissing is good for what ails you. Research shows that the act of smooching improves our skin, helps circulation, prevents tooth decay, and can even relieve headaches.

3. Kissing can become your new favorite exercise, a quick romantic kiss is said to help burn around 2 to 3 calories while a passionate kiss can burn 5 or more calories. The longer and more passionate the kiss, the more calories burned.

4. When it comes to our faces, kissing is the ultimate workout to keep our facial muscles strong. Our cheeks are kept tight and supple by the engagement of around 30 different muscles in our faces when kissing. Time to workout.

5. Men who kiss their partners before leaving for work average higher incomes than those who don’t.

6. Prostitutes are said to avoid kissing their clients to reduce the likelihood of bonding or emotional attachment.

7. The average person spends 336 hours of his or her life kissing.

8. While women use kissing to evaluate a partner’s potential for a relationship, men use kissing for a simpler purpose. Men are likely to use kissing as a means to increase the likelihood of sex.
Nonetheless, that’s not to say that all kisses from a man are sex-oriented.

9. Kissing has long been recognized as a good way for our bodies to pass along bugs that help build immunity. Once you’ve contracted a bug, your body then learns to strengthen itself despite showing symptoms of a cold or flu. Kissing merely helps expedite our immune system-boosting processes.

10. Kissing creates feel-good chemicals in our bodies that help us feel relaxed.

11. Public kissing is a crime in Indonesia punishable by five years in prison.

12. Like fingerprints or snowflakes, no two lip impressions are alike.

13. Kissing releases the same neurotransmitters in our brains as parachuting, bungee jumping, and running, its exciting.

14. Just one kiss with tongue can transmit up to 278 types of bacteria. Those of us with OCD tendencies should try to forget this next time we get anywhere near a pair of lips.

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Emyo: I LIKE HIM

I think he looks really untidy...plus he doesn't seem to have the swag to carry it out.

armadeo: Since the name tonto was mentioned it might get to fp so here goes






1st to comment.




On a serious note op verY daft thread..m

That means u must be "daft" as well to have commented

picaro: This is just sad and stupid. Oh, not the guy with the blonde brain er hair. I meant the author of this silly thread. Sad and stupid indeed.

That you decided to open AND read "a sad and silly thread" equally means ur sad and silly....go figure

Silverbird cinema is the FIRST place that comes to mind when Abuja residents decide they want to do something entertainment- wise. It’s always a situation of “Kels what should we do today?” and the common reply “Let’s go see a movie, Amanda!” And the brilliant part about this is that there are precisely two cinemas in Abuja, one in Ceddi Plaza and the other in Silverbird galleria and both of these are owned by Silverbird.

The fact that the two cinemas are owned by Silverbird is in itself not a problem, what IS a problem is the service. Last week Friday, my company had a “team building” session and we decided to go to the cinema at Silverbird Galleria. Our boss being the gracious man he is, decide to treat us to the VIP experience. So there we were settling down till problem number one and the gravest of them all reared it ugly head.

All through the two hours we the movie ran, we couldn’t decipher what the actors were saying….I mean a WHOLE Silverbird couldn’t sort out their sound system before the movie began. Ok let’s ignore the problem- after all at one time or another all businesses have technical issues; let’s ask ourselves what a good business should do at the point where they know they aren’t offering quality service. Shouldn’t t the logical thing to do, be to shut down that movie and offer a refund to all the customers in order to preserve the quality the business is already synonymous with?

As if the sound issue wasn’t enough for the said day, the power supply literally went off while we were in the cinema hall! And this is the third time I have had this experience in Silverbird. I’ve also been in the Silverbird cinemas at least on three separate occasions and the ACs weren’t working. I mean c’mon! We had to bring out paper from our bags to fan ourselves!

Seriously monopoly is very bad for businesses(especially Nigerian businesses) because they tend to relax and dish out poor quality services when they know they are unrivalled in that sector. Again Nigerians are complacent people who never demand for services synonymous with the amount of money they dished out.

Advice to Silverbird and Ben Bruce? You need to get it together, when people say Silverbird they need to continue thinking “classy and quality service” and your business is fast loosing that.

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LOL! When I thought “blonde Naija celeb” I thought “Tonto Dike”, so it was only fitting I titled this post as I did. ^=^

Anyway, that’s Nonso Diobi’s new look. I personally I don’t dig it…but what do you think?

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