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thorpido: she said he said so just to end the conversation.
Like you said,i have a feeling they didn't have certain things sorted before marriage,like the reason for marriage was cos she got pregnant.

No. You are wrong. I got pregnant after getting married.

@guiterlife, SMH for you. Like cooger said, you are definitely going to be a father to another man's children if you don't change your odd mentality.
Imagine all the crap you wrote. Even saying i am used to sleeping with men who depend on drugs for libido! Na real wah for you! So in your opinion all men that satisfy their wives sexually take pills?

You really have to work on yourself and your childish way of thinking.

Your cakes are beautiful. Please keep it up.

bellong: @Barbiechick,

Speak with the lady I gave her details in confidence, I am sure she will be of good help. She is a professional sex therapist and can handle the likes of your husband. She had handled such cases before considering the question and answer section of her column I have read before.

I wouldn't know how she will do it but I know, she has a way of communicating to people like your husband. I have read testimonies of people on how she helped out in situation like yours.

OK. Will speak to her. Thanks.

Richfella: Sent ma'am.

Already received and downloaded. Thanks.

I won't give up on finding solutions to the problem though. I will follow the instructions given here including the diet. I hope and really hope that one day, things will change.

I will continue my duties as a wife, satisfy him and then find ways to satisfy myself).

Thanks to virtual media, they have varieties of stuffs that are pocket friendly. I just hope they are not hard like wood. lol.

We talked last night. He said he will do something about it (he said it just to end the discussion as usual).

I know about the exercise you guys talked about and have introduced it to him before but he doesn't believe it will solve any thing (Cos he doesn't believe there is any problem with him).
The sad truth is that my hubby doesnt believe anything is wrong with him. This is the major reason he hasn't sort for solution.

He has this 101% confidence that I will never sleep with another man for sexual satisfaction.

This is why I decided to come out and seek for alternative help.

I am very disciplined and can control myself so even if I start using the toy, I won't become addicted to it. Besides it won't be an everyday thing. Once in a while I when i will have my own privacy.

I just want to feel like a real woman again. I need that sexual release. Nearly 4years of marriage without good sex, imagine the torture. My hubby knows I am sex starved but he just doesn't care so long as he gets his groove.
There was a period I stopped responding to his s.ex needs. For weeks he went on about how he has paid for the sex( my bride price which is less than #12,000) and so he must get it.

bimbos3xy: So what does @op want to gain by airing her dirty linen in public?

Please get the hell out of this thread. Its for matured minds and from what you have seen so far, reasonable, intelligent, matured minded people have provided various solutions to the issue at hand. Its only myopic minded people like you that will say trash.

Dirty linen lo, dirty cotton ni.....

Richfella: My sis you husbands problem is Premature Ejaculatíon as Chiarcover said - and it's a common male problem. It is estimated to affect up to 30% of ALL males world-wide.

That thing must be hurting him REAL BAD.

There's no man that doesn't want to fvck the shít out of his babe. We take lots of pride in giving our woman a good time.

He needs two things. PC Muscle exercises - he should start seeing results in a month (these are very simple - google is your friend too).

If he gets this down and strengthens this muscle, he will ejaculaté ONLY when he wants...and if he doesn't ejaculaté, he won't lose his boner. He'll essentially have órgasms without blowing his load. And you will ALWAYS have a good time.


Secondly, he'll need to improve his fitness a bit eventually because...if he learns to hold it in, he won't last reasonably long if his cardio is not reasonably OK.

As for how to broach the topic; Chaircover is a very wise woman and should be of more assistance to you in this regard. Just note that this is very sensitive topic for him so you have to approach this with UTMOST tact, love and empathy.

Kindly provide an email address and I'll send you an ebook or two on the subject (you should quickly create one for this purpose). The Ejaculatíon Trainer and another.

ghoney80@yahoo.com. Anonymous email add. Thanks.

Its not stress.

He doesn't like sex talks. Whenever I try to introduce sexual topics, he won't respond. his reason is that he doesn't like those kind of talks.

I am a fun girl, 30yrs old, I know alot about pleasuring him and even getting him in the mood. but it doesn't freak him one bit. Even I have suggested to him so many times about love plays like tapping my bum bum surprisingly, giving me pecks on the neck, coming to hold me in the kitchen while I am cooking, you know those kinda lovi lovi stuffs. He just doesn't get it. I have a great body and I am very clean to the teeth, even wear sexy bum shorts in the house for him but he doesn't get moved. He loves watching porn but will never do any of those sweety sweety things they do.

His own is just wham-bang-thank-you-ma.
He is in his mid thirties and not even the church goer type.
He once said he has slept with so so many girls that he is now tired of the sex.

I am suffering it and its gradually affecting me.

@all, thanks. I have accessed the website and gone through their stuffs. Mehnnnn they have gadgets there oooooooo. lol. They are on break presently and will resume on 15th August. Abeg I already found something interesting. I have hope sha.

But like bellong said, it won't be like the real deal and worse of it all I that my hubby have the right large size that fits me perfectly. only he doesn't know how to use it.

Kulyie suggested pills........ won't it have effect on his health? I have thot about that but I am scared of the consequences these pills tend to have on the user later in life.

If you guys know how I am feeling now ehn, you will pity me.

I am currently pregnant on my late 2nd trimester and the hormones have increased my desire for good sex so much that I am a walking bomb.
Instead of my hubby quenching it, he will make it worse.

@Chaircover, will contact you.

The nature of my case is not one that can be discussed with
friends /relations else they may mock my husband.
I am a married lady with a 3year old beautiful girl.
I have a serious problem that has been eating me up for a
long time. Infact since I knew my husband, I have never
ever enjoyed 1minute of intimate pleasure. I am a healthy
chick with normal healthy sex appetite. You can say that I
have a very good intimate libido.
My hubby on the other hand is the exact opposite. Infact he
is dried in that aspect. He has a good organ but doesnt last
upto a minute. As matter of fact, as soon as he enters me, I
start counting down in my mind from 876543210 and before
I get to zero, he starts grunting irritatingly and bam.... its
over. He rolls off and the next thing you hear is him snoring.
Meanwhile I will start shedding tears quietly hoping and
praying for a day I will get a good sex.
He has never attempted to go a second time to atleast
satisfy me. He just wouldn't no matter how much I try to
resuscitate the lifeless d**k. It just remains in coma till
when next he wants to Be Intimate.
I give my hubby bJ very well but he has never ever
reciprocated the gesture. He says its not part of him to go
down on a woman. You see how dead my sex life is?

He knows I m not happy but he doesn't care as long as he is
getting hi satisfaction. I have discussed this ssue with him
several times but he will never ever do anything about it.
I am totally frustrated and been pushed to my limits. If i
dont enjoy intimacy now, is it when I am 50years? and with
who?

Now adultery is not an option for me at all. I am a novice in
the act of self-service and so I want to learn more about it
so I will start helping myself. I like and want the feel of a
strong rod going in and out of me and so I want to buy a
very good v.b.r.a.t.or or Love Machine.
This is what I need from readers:
1) an address in FCT (we are based in Gwagwalada) where I
can shop for a strong toy.
2) name of a good adult movie (not p.o.r.n please) I will
buy, watch and learn how to pleasure myself).
Its either I do this or commit adultery. I do not want to
sleep with another man. I would rather fvck myself with a
Love Machine. I need to relieve myself of the million
intimate tension inside me.

The nature of my case is not one that can be discussed with friends /relations else they may mock my husband.
I am a married lady with a 3year old beautiful girl.
I have a serious problem that has been eating me up for a long time. Infact since I knew my husband, I have never ever enjoyed 1minute of sexual pleasure. I am a healthy chick with normal healthy sex appetite. You can say that I have a very good sexual libido.
My hubby on the other hand is the exact opposite. Infact he is dried in that aspect. He has a good organ but doesnt last upto a minute. As matter of fact, as soon as he enters me, I start counting down in my mind from 876543210 and before I get to zero, he starts grunting irritatingly and bam.... its over. He rolls off and the next thing you hear is him snoring. Meanwhile I will start shedding tears quietly hoping and praying for a day I will get a good sex. All I have been getting from him are crumbs, tasteless crumbs.

He has never attempted to go a second time to atleast satisfy me. He just wouldn't no matter how much I try to resuscitate the lifeless d**k. It just remains in coma till when next he wants to have sex.
I give my hubby bJ very well but he has never ever reciprocated the gesture. He says its not part of him to go down on a woman. You see how dead my sex life is?

He knows I m not happy but he doesn't care as long as he is getting hi satisfaction. I have discussed this ssue with him several times but he will never ever do anything about it.

I am totally frustrated and been pushed to my limits. If i dont enjoy intimacy now, is it when I am 50years? and with who?
Now adultery is not an option for me at all. I am a novice in the act of m.as.tur.b.a.tion and so I want to learn more about it so I will start helping myself. I like and want the feel of a strong rod going in and out of me and so I want to buy a very good vi.bra.t/or or Love Machine.

This is what I need from readers:
1) an address in FCT (we are based in Gwagwalada) where I can shop for a strong toy.

2) name of a good adult movie (not p.o.r.n please) I will buy, watch and learn how to pleasure myself).

Its either I do this or commit adultery. I do not want to sleep with another man. I would rather fvck myself with a Love Machine. I need to relieve myself of the million sexual tension inside me.

Trash.