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annford:
I bought an accidented 2024 Camry Sports for N9 million and spent about N7 Million fixing it. You'd never know the car had been involved in an accident before. You can always buy an accidented car and fix it as long as the engine and chassis were not affected by the accident.

A 2024 for 16m really ?

Ojudu oba while those children are in captivity 😦 I need to leave this country.

If you kept her for one year plus after delivery, then Na you find trouble.

Where is Sandra Ezekwesili or has she suddenly gone deaf and dumb. Where’s Enoch Adeboye and all those who used the bring back our girls movement to distabilise the Jonathan administration.

Dey play. Well Ned should set you free so you can enter your single mom/hoe phase properly.

Privateworld:
I did traditional marriage may 2024 and this month makes it two years now. My main issue is my wife hasnt put to bed and i dont have patience anymore. I want a child and i dont want to be disrespectful by having an affair while been in marriage. I want to return her bride price and look for someone else.

I need advice on the how to go about the process of returning bride price. She is a calabar girl and I'm from Adamawa .

Lmao Na she marry you ? Aren’t you the one who paid the bride price, if customary marriage was the only marriage you did, then nothing stops you from taking a second wife. Or just telling her to go.


This is why I’d never do customary or traditional marriage, then court and church because it’s like doing two opposites. It should be either you do traditional and abide by customs and traditions OR you do court and abide by the laws of the state.

Nawa o Africans taking gbas gbos both home and abroad.

A look at the notice tells me not everyone is affected but some persons.

Useless party

Ameduedwin:
Good afternoon house, I will like to be brief here.

I am about to take my wife home to her parents even though her both parents are dead, I married this lady 2019 with two kids, fast forward to 2020, immediately this lady delivered her first child, she changed, started misbehaving, talking back at me, with insult, nagging and all sort of aggressiveness towards me.

I call some few members of my family to come and talk to her, after talking it didn't yield useful result, in many case, this girl doesn't want me to touch her sexually, I have to manage her like that for seven years now, but now I have fed up with her character and I have decided to take her home to her parents house.

As of now nobody in her mother's room now, the room is under lock and key, and only their step mother that is in the compound for now.

My worries is my children, am I not exposing them to some danger of any kind? As for my wife she doesn't fill remorse at all, she have already started preparing her belongings to travel maybe because she knew my children are so glue to me, she thinks I can't send them home.

What did you advice me to do in this case. Thanks you all..

If you have decided on separating and you want to be in contact with your children, rent an accommodation for them within your area. Then start custody proceedings whether permanently to you or co parenting.

DiamondJLove:
I have come to realize that tasting shawarma is one of the many things I have never done in my life.

As a young lady in her late 20 s, people tend to laugh at me when I say it.They act as if eating shawarma makes us complete as young ladies, somebody ones told me that"don't let people hear it".

Anyway I prefer local dishes, give me better fufu and egusi/achi/afang/ogbono soup with original palm wine, I will pray for you forever.

What's so special about eating shawarma?

There’s nothing special about made in Nigeria shawarma, to eat proper shawarma you have to eat one made in the Middle East or by person from that region Iran, Iraq, Türkiye, etc. It’s a local food for them.

While children are in captivity. All those who destabilised GEJs government with the Bring our girls movement are sudden deaf and dumb.

Good rewarder of his loyalists very very bad leader of the masses.

His name is Toyin so obviously he has Yoruba heritage

IyanAtiEgusi:
Even if dem tie explosive for ur mouth, e no go blow

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Stephen0mozzy:
If this is true, food don done.
First, the lady should ensure this email came from a number or mail that is traceable as an official outlet of the said loan app.

THEN SHE SHOULD PAY THE LOAN.

Now, go get a lawyer who likes to cash out. Sue them, and make una settle out of court for like #5million.

5m too small, if you ask the court for 5m it might give you 1m.

My friend asked the court for 1bn in 2016 the court gave 11.25m, the government paid 12m in 2020.

samuelson06:
You'll make no example of him. Did the report say the video was seen in any of his social media channels? Did the report say they have a link of the video and that link takes them to VDM's channel? You guys would just be talking without thinking. Is VDM the person that posted the so-called video? So you think you're more intelligent than VDM? You people should go sit down somewhere please. You don't have anything against that guy.

I have come to realise that lack of comprehension of the English language is actually more prevalent. How does what you have written correlate to what I wrote or the post ? Am I bayo onanuga?

Lmao VDM has now gone against one important law of power. He’d be made an example of when he is caught

imismimum:
As far as she didn't cheat on you in all of this , things are still fixable but it seems you have already made up your mind

A person that’s dirty is a deal breaker to almost everyone, even if such person is a saint. It shows a basic lack of hygiene and maturity.

oarowosola:
Honestly, you guys are funny as hell. Some of the roasts had me laughing, some were annoying, but overall I enjoyed reading the comments.

But one thing I need people to understand is this, I didn’t come here because I was looking for relationship advice. At the point I made that first post, my mind was already made up. I was already mentally done with the relationship long before I even typed anything.

The reason I shared the story was mostly because I was exhausted mentally, and I also wanted people to see how extreme certain situations can get in relationships. Sometimes people think you’re exaggerating until you start explaining the details.

Truth be told, this breakup didn’t happen overnight.

I had already been thinking about ending things for a very long time. The only thing holding me back was the fact that she is actually an amazing person in some ways. She has a soft heart, and I knew breaking up with her was going to hurt her deeply, so I kept trying to find the best possible way to do it without completely destroying her emotionally.

But the events of that final weekend just pushed me over the edge.

The way she left my kitchen after staying over, combined with everything that happened the night before, was what finally made me snap internally. It wasn’t that I suddenly realized all the issues that day. No. Those things had been building up in my mind for months.

Before I eventually sent the breakup message, I had already started emotionally withdrawing from the relationship. I stopped calling as much, stopped texting often, and stopped engaging the way I used to. She noticed it too. She kept asking what was wrong, and I would just say I’m fine, even though she knew something was clearly off.

Eventually I realized I couldn’t keep dragging it out forever. I didn’t want to keep pretending while mentally checking out. So I finally sent her a message telling her I was no longer interested in continuing the relationship.

At first, she was shocked.

She kept asking how someone could end a relationship of over a year through text without explanation. She asked if there was another person involved. She begged me not to ignore her. She said she was trying to stay calm because she was outside in public.

Honestly, reading those messages affected me because despite everything, I’m still human. I’m not heartless.

So instead of completely shutting her out, I told her we could talk later because I was busy with work at that moment.

Later that night, I finally picked up her call.

And for the first time, I explained everything fully.

I explained how draining the relationship had become for me mentally. I explained how uncomfortable I constantly felt because of the difference in our lifestyles, hygiene, responsibilities, communication patterns, effort, and overall approach to life.

I explained the incidents that stayed in my head for months, the constant untidiness, the dirty environments, the financial imbalance, the times I felt taken for granted, the moments I cleaned her entire house just to prove that basic cleanliness was not impossible.

And no, cleaning her house was never a sign of weakness or simping to me.

I did it because I loved her.

I genuinely believed maybe if I showed her how simple it was to maintain a clean environment, things would improve. That was all. But instead, things kept repeating themselves over and over again.

I also explained how frustrating it felt to constantly give financially, emotionally, and physically while feeling like the same level of thoughtfulness wasn’t being returned consistently.

By the end of the call, she broke down crying and started apologizing repeatedly. She begged me to give her another chance. She promised she would change. She promised she would work on herself and become better.

And honestly… I softened.

Maybe because deep down, despite everything, I still cared about her.

So I gave her another chance, but I made myself very clear.

I told her this wasn’t about pretending for one week or acting differently temporarily because she got called out. I told her real change has to become natural. Cleanliness, responsibility, effort, and self awareness cannot be something you perform temporarily just to save a relationship.

I told her:

“Please change for yourself, for your future kids, and for me too. Don’t just act differently now and later return to old habits. Let it become part of you naturally.

As a lady, I honestly expected you to even be correcting me on certain things, not the other way around. I’m putting a lot on the line emotionally, and I don’t want to regret my decisions later in life.

I’m not saying this like I’m doing you a favor. There are billions of men better than me, just like there are women better than you. Nobody is irreplaceable. But while two people are trying to build something meaningful together, both people should be actively working on themselves.

You are free to call out my own flaws too because I’m not a perfect human being. Relationships are supposed to be about growth, accountability, and complementing each other. The moment two people stop growing and start merely tolerating bad patterns, the relationship slowly becomes exhausting instead of peaceful.”


So yeah… that’s the full update.

Some people roasted me in the first post. Some understood me immediately. Some thought I was overreacting. Some thought I was being too soft.

But at the end of the day, nobody truly understands how emotionally draining a relationship can become until they experience living inside that reality themselves.

Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/8677133/cleaned-girlfriends-house-instantly-wanted

Eiyah thanks for the update. Hopefully each other you would be alright

Do people still use fake passport in 2026 ?

Well this makes what the lamani guy on here preach about marrying only a virgin true

udede:
Person go dey where she dey create aesthetic appearance for food, food go dey there sawa, flies go dance on top am taya, mesef, I taya for Una.

Na the only thing wey come your mind be this?

Ever since I realized that INEC gives all political parties some money during elections, I now understand some of these gimmicks

Because the cost of purchasing it over there might not be budget friendly to them. I have a friend who was gushing that his wife was making a dress for a client in the US for N200k.

By every metric that’s a lot of money for one dress in Nigeria but imagine how much, that same person would charge if they were over there.

Every one loves cheaper labour

Goo0dHardDick:
Simp men will not understand what's happening here.

Y'all should calm down let me explain what she meant.

Women are generally attracted to men that possesses power and authority. This is exactly why they love bad guys alot. They know it is only a bad guy who will have the boldness and audacity to tell them to shut up! A weak Simp men dares not, simply because he is afraid she might get angry or that she might leave him. And such traits annoys and irritates women alot. They see those Simp men as losers!

Now, this lady wants a bad guy as husband because she wants a man who will lead her however she wants to. This is exactly why women love toxic men alot and there's absolutely nothing you can do about it. They believe they can tame those bad guys and the more they can't, the more they're attracted to him and keepz trying to tame or change him.

Must everything be bad guy vs good guy. The men who beat their SOs are part of the bad guys abi ?

Seyzi:
There is a lady, a friend of mine had been in relationship with for 2yrs now, planning settling down next year, which all of a sudden the lady came up with the issue her mum aren't approving the union later her dad and sisters on the ground of Christianity spirituality and before my friend can gets a hold of it he has been blocked and restricted

My question is how will 29yrs old woman can't decide for herself but My guy really loved the lady, he has invested emotionally from what have seen in the union, if anybody has been in this type of situation before how do you guys manage it

There’s nothing he can do about it, he just move on .

Javid13:
Best car...i drive same.

I see the Casio Duro 🤝 nice watch great car!

Lmao what was Amechi thinking anyways?

Congratulations OP ! 🥳🎉🎊🍾

more characters nee

gracias124:
She blocked me after that convo

You didn’t speak maturely in the conversation. Why are you telling her about menopause? Why are you trying to prove yourself to her ?

Stephen0mozzy:
I'd rather take Gatorade Sir.

😂😂😂😂 nice come back