₦airaland Forum

SQLmastar:
Please house, I need mature advice. This matter is tearing me apart.

I met this lady (a doctor)
4 months ago. I'm 35, she is 31.
She told me she was a virgin and I believed her because of how she carried herself. I was very happy and rushed everything – introduction, engagement, and marriage plans (I promised my mum that I would get married before December 2026). We were supposed to do our traditional marriage in one week’s time.

Last week, I received an anonymous WhatsApp message. The person sent pregnancy test results showing that my fiancée was pregnant for her ex-boyfriend during her 1-year residency. She had told me about this ex, but said they never had sex, and that was why they broke up.
I confronted her with the message. At first, she denied it and said it was fake, someone trying to spoil her name. But when I said I would call her best friend to confirm, she broke down and confessed the truth.
She admitted she got pregnant for the ex, aborted it immediately, and promised herself never to have premarital sex again. She said she was ashamed and didn’t want to lose me, so she lied about being a virgin.
Now I’m confused and heartbroken. I love her but the lies are too much.
On the other hand, I have already invited many people – including the chief of my village and my manager at work. Cancelling now will bring serious shame and talk in my village and workplace.

Please Nairalanders, what should I do? Should I go ahead with the marriage or cancel everything? Has anyone been in this kind of situation?

I need honest advice.

Cancel the wedding, that’s merely trickle truth. There are many many wild things you don’t know about the lady. Btw why lie about her virginity status, did you make it seem like virginity was a dealbreaker for you?

Godblessme1:
Clap for yourself. Mr cunny Fulani man enjoying the benefits from evil Nigeria government since 1980s

Isn’t it how modern day capitalism works?

shortgun:
For the fact that the girl is not a virgin at 14 and was already sleeping with men before meeting the pastor shows she was raised in a dysfunctional family.
You don't have to the emotional about it

So if she was a virgin, it must be put in the news story? How does her being a virgin make the case bad or good? Have you seen the CTC of the doctors report or rape kit to know she was already sexually active?

Omo smh

shortgun:
..and the 14 year old is not even a virgin.

The things some of us men say with our mouths. I really understand why women fear us. I don’t have anything to say other than someday may your 14 year suffer the same fact and someone else comes online to say she not even a virgin.

Oyedepo and Adeboye people

Desmond bye bye. Unfortunately you’re gone

P.S. I didn’t even know he said this on camera, I watched it this morning. Desmond should just decamp he will not win the primaries under any circumstances m.

Good luck to her. She’ll need it a lot.

This one is just grasping at straws. This is why I love whites once you cheat, and they cannot bear it, they leave, but when they want to forgive, they’ll forgive without prejudice. She cannot justify cheating for cheating.

Clearing him after 6 days which they did others, Ambode treatment incoming

Very good. When the time comes others will replace them

dibunotion:
I see PDP producing a governor
NDC can't

It is funny but you are right

He didn’t do shiit for his constituents. Let him go m. You will even know he was useless because no one is even speaking for him. No achievement nothing

sirchim:
Do you remember the baggi, "SCHOOL OF HARDKNOCK?"

For sure 🤣🤣

Where’s my Fubu jeans 🤣

These over sized dressing that’s now in vogue was exactly how we dressed 😂 we look at these new cats feeling fly and laugh

Hepatitis B is more deadly that HIV imo

Yorubastardz:
Time for the Pope to abolish this ancient rule of priest celibacy...

Catholic Church to allow priest to marry than to embarrass the church dooking around

Are all married lecturers faithful? There’ll always be bad eggs

Eternal rest grant your servant O Lord and let perpetual light shine on him, may his soul and the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercies of God rest in peace, Amen

I’ll keep saying it. The Politics that APC (the alliance of Buhari and BAT) pinky and brain 😂 introduced to this country. Has set us back my at least 30 years.

onyinyechi225:
You, you dey very very Silly sef, try dey apply understanding and take corrections that will help you in life.
My comment is from your myopic remark while you are there having your own having mouth diaohreaa over what i pointed out.
🙄🙄

Oga stfu and keep your principles to yourself 🤣
Corrections 😂 I didn’t even read past the first line 😂

onyinyechi225:
You sef..why you go get nothing to offer and you dey find woman?😂😂😂 when you kuku know how women dey behave🤌🏻

Una Guyman wey dey find woman,, abeg🙏🏻 make una dey try get something to offer first o..😏
E get why…
Cus most womens language is .. “care tor them”, spend on them”.. to really show you like them, that you like what you see and can do what is required to maintain it or make it better!..

No be say person wey no get shishi go just dey eye weytin big pass am..,
Dey eye pesin wey you no even one day offer to pay for as little as her lash extension🤌🏻 or her monthly data plan sef..
Cus Honestly,, na una dey use hand collect insult by una seff sef..

You dey very silly, try they read the topic before commenting. My comment is from the screenshots while you are having mouth diaohreaa

Some people were arguing with me that Wike is not stronger than this pastress 🤣 spiritually. The woman is a featherweight jare

Arkmanbuddy:
Wow, this is amazing! This should go into the Guinness World Record as the longest cassava tuber ever. Just thinking.

She should definitely contact the GWR

Employ the services of a quantity surveyor and stop these speculations. We really like cutting corners in this country.

Employ the services of a quantity surveyor and stop these speculations. We really like cutting corners in Nigeria

What a painful way to die 😩

RIP sir

udemzyudex:
He agreed to do one term and he switch to APC?
Use your brain naa, what was the need of decamping to APC if he already agreed to do one term?

How is Wike going to defeat him? Is Wike the leader of APC in rivers state?

You have spoken well😅 I won’t wanna argue with you. Let’s us see on May 21 who gets the ticket

peleson1:
Did you attend the meeting?

Fubara was in PDP
And Tinubu wants APC to win Rivers state so if the incumbent moved to APC to achieve that for Tinubu and APC ,what is the problem with wike that says he is in PDP?

Does fubara has issues with Tinubu? NO

Has fubara offended Tinubu or anybody? NO

Does APC want fubara the incumbent to win Rivers for APC? YES

So is fubara fighting wike? No oo for what reasons ?

Is wike fighting fubara ? YES ,fighting everybody


If Tinubu wins Rivers state and fubara wins Rivers state with fubara plenty supporters ,who dies it favour? APC and Tinubu
Will Tinubu want to risk Rivers votes by trying to stop fubara? NO !!
Will fubara as a incumbent make it ye work easy for Tinubu and APC to win Rivers !? YES

So will Tinubu fight fubara who is an APC governor supporting Tinubu re election in Rivers state? For what purpose will Tinubu fight fubara ?

So why will Tinubu create more enemies for himself when he actually needs more friends now than ever ? Just to message someone's greed?
It's political foolishness for Tinubu to fight another man's fight .

Who will the fight favour if Tinubu fights fubara ?
And for what purpose exactly should Tinubu fight fubara ? No gainful purpose

Is Tinubu foolish? No , Tinubu is a very smart man .

You have spoken well😅 I won’t wanna argue with you. Let’s us see on May 21 who gets the ticket

Say NO to Cultism! Drugs and internet fraud!

He is gonna lose the primaries. Wike has defeated him already, I believe he agreed to do one term before BAT.

Fubara is gone unfortunately. I believe he agreed to do one term before BAT. How will he undo it now ?

Gotocourt:
My family friends own about 15 filling station, the business barely managing. The price fluctuations has literally crumbled the business.
I can't go into the business, no longer profitable 🤷🏿

Really? I thought anything oil and gas is profitable, since no matter the price people will always buy?