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Dr. Lorenz:
@OP

I think if i were you, i'll go with Moneyrules' advice. The fact that she told you doesn't mean she won't do it if push comes to shove. Remember she's mentioned the guy's name before. Our emotions are unpredictable and can't be trusted. Don't fool yourself by thinking bcus you visit her regularly will stop her from doing anything bad if she wants to.

Like i like to say, girls will always crave for attention when they want to be the center of attraction. Most girls, if not all, loves and craves for attention, and she's deff looking for the guy's. . .no matter what she says. U see her 4 times a week or a month? How many times does she see the guy? Granted she might love you (am not disputing that), but the heart and head are too different things.

It's a case of the spirit willing to stay truthful to you and the body weak in following the spirit. I totally agree with MissSexy. Take things on the level and a clear head, and i believe you (your heart mostly) will come out unscathed. My advice to you is that you should hope for the best, and prepare for the worst. . .that way, if worse comes to worst, you won't be left hangin'.

Good luck man. . .

I totally agree with you, we spoke yesternight and I just jokingly asked after the guy after so many minutes of talk. She said they were in the same auditorium on Sunday, that they rarely even talk cos he is a usher, and she is a choir, and that I should just forget about the issue cos it seems am getting jealous, I was like No that im just pulling her legs, she said she cnt go out with him, that she has had crushes for guys she never went out with at the end of the day, I just quickly changed the topic so it dnt sound assive am taking it serious. I am hoping for the best and preparing for the worse also.

ruskiee:
For all we know,there might not be any guy-just a character that she has made up to test you.
Seek out your reaction. It's not impossible as i believe girls do such sometimes.
But on the other hand if there is a guy, her telling you means she likes you a lot.

Just keep true to your feelings. She needs to know that you love her-it's your job to always assure her of this. She needs to know that she is secure with you and you with her.

You have a point there too, but it could be the other way round, who knows.

whitelexi:
Your girl is on her way out, it will only depend on how long it takes this ibukun guy to realise he has her at the tip of his fingers and next thing u know, they're shagging  It always starts with the girl telling u "oh, there's this guy, he's quite cute, bla bla bla". I cant recall how often i've heard that line and it always has one outcome, i find my way out

Its a sad reality but it will happen.  Dude, have your fun now and prepare to not be surprised.

You must be a very experienced dude in this relationship thingy, and I kinda like observe you have gone through the ups and downs of relationships. But your post is more on a one-way passage, it cnt be that bad like that, I mean you would have stated what u posted and also state something positive, you know not all girls that said what my girl said would do what u have posted.

I love u all that have replied. Thanks.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Remember you told her to date him. . .when that happens, please avoid lamenting to us[/color]

Gurl are you ok? Didnt I say I tested her with that statement? And she knew later that I was only joking. Baby is my heartbeat.

danexd:
it is time to make your game tight!!!at least she was sincere not many girls have that virtue/though some use it to mess up

Thats true, I have to step up my game even better.

jidesamuel:
remember,that at times girls always like to look the thier guy's reaction to circumstances,u may later discover that she was not true about wat she told u
i like your response though (it's not that u are ok by telling her to date the intruder) if i were u,i will later reverse the game by telling her that u have a female friend that cares so much like she does,then see her reactions

I think you have a great point here, because she has tested me times without number, but when she was telling me this, she sounded more serious and she has actually mentioned this guys name before. I also came up with my own later on, that I met a girl in Unilag, that we are just friends but that I kinda like her sense of humor, she squeezed face and grumbled. Later on told her I was kidding.

tpm:
Dude, i like the replies so far. But just as they said, enjoy it while it lasts. The mind is very deceptive. Such secrete fantacy could cause her to step into act that could desrtoy your relationship with her. Do not rejoice she told u. She could be carried away by her feel for the guy that she didn't even know when she let the cat out of the bag. If she loves u as she claimed, then she should see u as her hero cute or no cute. Beware

I have thought it through well today, I dnt think she will betray me, I go to her school at least 4 times in a month to see her, and she once told me she cnt date any1 in the school because she wont be comfortable with herself knowing fully well that she keeps appearances.

OAM4J:
I think she is just a very sincere person, who doesn’t know how to pretend. I prefer a lady like her. Don’t worry OP, she will get over the crush, at least her head is working better than her feelings.

I pray so.

gram:
honestly, i dont know how old you are but i think your girl really loves you, i also believe she is very immature, honestly, disatnce is likely to hurt your relationship in the nearest future, if she sees more of you, she will forget that guy, if she sees less of you, anything can happen, so be prepared.

Just like I said, I visit her 4 times in a month. I love her too much.

pc guru:
You're even lucky she told you.Don't see shit wrong there.You will always admire others doesn't mean you want to be with them.But statistically speaking most adolescent relationship are bound to fail so enjoy while it last.Cuz it won't unless you getting married.So expect the worse.I like being subtle.

Thats exactly what am saying. Prevention is better than cure, I fear the worse thats why I am seeking for advise,it will be more painful having to know that a more attractive guy took her away from me, I have got all the swags and love she needs, so why should looks distract her attention,however I do not know if this guy has got game like i do.

190.yaris:
see poster
me tink that u shouldnt worry yourself
ure girl loves u and for her to open up and tell
you that she loves u then there aint no big deal~
if she hadnt tell u,wud u have known
never,
me tink that even u as a guy trip 4 other girls
as well,its jst reciprocal so dnt bug yourself that much
u shud be happy that the guy aint interested in your girl cos
that wud have auto given him the green lite but since she's the
only person secretly trippin then no biggie deal~
play on she loves u
dats my advice

peaceout~

Yes I trip for other girls but would never be with them because I have never seen any girl that can match my girls beauty, sense of humor, brilliance and all that, but she is only talking about the guys look.

MoneyRule:
Clearly, she does love you but generally, crushes like this do not end well for the boyfriend especially if the guy in question knows she has a crush on him and has got game.
In my own opinion, let her believe you trust she would stay faithful to you because of the love she has 4 u but, brace urself for the worst cos we all know this can go either way and hope it goes the right way.Goodluck!

Now you got my legs shaking as I AM TYPING. I DEY FEAR.


I forgot to add that she said she is trying to control herself so that the guy does not know she is striping, in order to avoid the guy to start worrying her. And this same girl loves to talk about us getting married once she has finished school and having a job. Any smal yarn, na marriage.

hi there

Someone will be mocked for sure.

I went to check my gf in Covenant University yesterday, she was happy to see me and all that, the firs statement she made was " Do you still love ", although she said it smiling and it sounded jokingly, so I would not know if she was serious or not.

I replied back to her, saying Yes I do. We gisted for a while and then she said there's something she wanted to gist me about. I said what is it, she said that there's this Ibukun guy he is tripping for, but that she has to control herself in order for the guy not to know she is tripping. She also stated that the guy is 4 months her junior in age, and that he is very cute. Nairalander's I'll be sincere, as a guy I know there are alot of more attractive guys that me, but I hate it when my gurl is attracted to some1 else, I know for sure some guys on NL would feel me on this aspect. I now tested her saying, go out with him if u want, that dnt mean I do not love you, she said No that she cant, that its because of me she will never date any other person.

Nlander's I am beginning to feel uncomfortable with what she told me, I am already feeling hurt that she is tripping for a guy, she even said she had to sing well in a choir session in order for the guy to notice her. My hand just dey fall inside of me. I really love this girl and I dnt want to be hurt, is it worth breaking up with her now before I get dumped? Because if she dumps me, my life will be shattered into a million pieces.

Thanks all!!

Honeyboy09:
With all due respect all you Novice about the spiritual things of this Life should shut up and learn from the Poster , D Spiritual Controls the Physical and I've had an experience of what he is talking about , he is strongly right and i can explain further for you to understand ,

We all know it that Adam was deceived into eating the forbidden fruit by Eve a (Woman) and Eve was lured into deceiving Adam by Satan , after that incidence the Devil has a soul tie with women and that is the way he creeps into men's life through women , that is why a lot of women has spiritual husband that keeps them in bondage and most of these women are so beautiful that canal men can hardly resist them and when the man get's into a relationship with her and then has sex with her the spiritual husband fights him to a non stop, first attacking his finances and most time men who are not lucky enough loose their life's ,

That is exactly what is happening to that Poster so he is right because it has happened to me when i dated a very beautiful girl , a lot of big men was after her some came to my house with cars offering me money to have her but i noticed while i was dating her my finance was getting really bad , it only took the divine intervention of God before i broke up with her because i was almost begging for food, when you look at my picture you see for yourself that I'm a guy who has a good fiance so having a bad finance because of a woman i dated few years ago should go a long way to tell you that Spiritual husband are Real and PLEASE GUYS WE SHOULD BE CAREFUL

Very right brother, sometimes now I have to survive on asking people for money to eat, something that has never happened to me before. Bro whats ur email add, I need to share something vital with you.

Airtime:
Do sm thing b4 d worse happens i won't post wat 'll happen to u. Pray very hard

What bad would it do to u offering a word of advise?

2Legit2Qui:
@POSTER

You do make me laugh.

1. How do you know she is the cause of your failure so far?

2. Why will you sample your life with other people's predicament.

3. You accused her of having a spiritual husband - i.e. you accused her she is a spirit, and she in turn accused you that you are a goat, so, look, if you dont beleive her that you are a goat, how do you want her to believe you that she is a spirit?

Why not agree to her that you are a goat first and look for your solution out of your goatish nature?

The thing never hook you, if na true this story wey u tell us here, you go forget all diplomatic means and leave in a rush without leaving your used condom, or else, you go turn from goat to dog, to sheep, to duck, to mouse to rat, to elephant and stay put as an elephant.

Duh!!

michelin89:
What a stupid topic.

So now a beautiful lady must be spiritually possessed? The level of sexism in Nigeria is unbearable.

Can you quote me on where that was speculated? Besides she has once told me she had a deliverance before, so I am aware of her spiritual problem, but never knew the extent until now.

Nairalanders, Please help!! I think I am in deep spiritual mess. I have been going out with my gurl for almost a year now, when I first met her, My mind told me this girl is more of a spiritual girl that normal. But I overlooked it due to her extra-ordinary beauty and personality. The relationship went on, but I figured out that ever since the first time I made love to her, things started going the wrong way for me, At first, I felt it was just a normal up and down situation, but as a person that observes himself well, I later on figured out it was with her I am facing different kind of problems.

Some few days back, I was with a group of friends, and one of them was gisting us about a girl she was dating, he was actually trapped because of the huge ass the guy posesses, but later on confessed that the girl was just some sort of blessing stopper, things went sour for him and he got a revelation from an area pastor that he was going on with a girl that has a spiritual husband, and that her spiritual husband has been the cause of what is going on with him. So i quickly borrowed that situation to sample mine. So 2 days ago, I went to visit my girl, and I opened up to her that she has a spiritual husband and that the spiritual husband has been the cause of what has been happening to me, becoz she is also aware of my problems. She paused and didnt say anything thereafter, later on she says am a goat that my thoughts are always foul. I didnt say anything thereafter, not until later that night, she told me she dreamt that she gave birth in her dream, and that was the third time she has given birth in her dream.


I asked her when the other two dreams occurred, she said that was months back, so I now thought to myself that if I didnt tell her she has a spirit husband, she would have never told me she has been giving birth in her dreams. Now Nairalanders, this is a serious issue, I have made love to her 11 times, and I in fear of my life, in as much as I believe she has a spirit husband, so do I believe my life or future could be in danger. I am planning to leave her, but it has to be done diplomatically in order to avoid bigger problems for myself. What do u think Nlers? What should I do, how can I go about leaving her without her being hurt or having to know I left her because of my findings?

God bless you all, but blessed more are to those who share my views and express their sincere opinion.

Thanks.
-Beckly.

VINCENT GC:
Hi Beck, I would love to encourage you by telling you that 9:11 does not mean anything bad. You don't need to wish yourself bad thing. the 9: 11 means that you will experience GOOD things that the RIGHT TIME! Whenever it occurs to you, ensure to give praise to your GOD. Don't allow that "Spirit of Fear to reign in your situation. you are not given the Spirit of Fear, But of Love, Power and of Sound Mind.

Your faith(believe) will determines what will happen to you.
Be Courageous!
Be Courageous!!
Be Courageous!!!

Sis, I have been a strong and courageous person, but we are all humans, when something is getting out of hand, you have to seek others knowledge.

VENUSS:
Pls reset d clock, may b it stopd workn nd u neva notice. Or simply  put it off. 9:11 is just numba

Bro the clock did not stop, its working perfectly fine, and the time on it is correct

Riff-Raff:
Have u seen d movie Final Destination?
It means u ar goin 2 die a VERY PAINFUL Death soon!

For more info call me on 23480, Or pay 1 million dollars in2 my account 2 avert dis oncomin treagedy.

Every1 is entitled to their own opinion, thats yours and I reject in in jesus name.

Nairalanders, since the past 6 months I have been experiencing this terrifying thing.
Whenever I am driving, be it morning or in the night, when I look at my car clock, I always see 9:11

The issue here is that, if I need to check the time, I am always naturally obliged to check my writst watch, but trust me whenever my eyes go to the car clock unconsciously, what I see is 9:11, and it always the right time at that moment, it aint like I was thinking to check the time, but my eye just goes there. Nlanders I am not a superstitious person, but for the fact that I have been experiencing this since the past 6 months consistently, I am beginning to feel endangered. Is it just a mirage or a sign of bad thing to happen? Please this is not a joke, I REALLY NEED SOME ANSWERS.

Please help people, My brother got married yesterday, during the church service when both groom and bride were given their declaration, my brother said his first, then when it was time for the bride, on that part where some1 says " for richer for poorer" she made a mistake by saying for for ritual for poorer, then she reversed the word and said it the right way " richer".

Now people are taking this out of context, that it could be their families intention to use my brother for ritual, I think thats a very stupid thought, people can actually make such mistakes, its called slip of tongue, but the worrying part is that some people wont just believe.

People please look into this issue and share your thoughts on it.
Thanks.

Listen guys and girl, no long thing at all, this is the yahoo yahoo lounge, lets discuss what is on reign now, things we need to step up the game, share your feelings about whats going on, speculate problems surrounding the yahoo yahoo environment and how to overcome it. Needless to say, some people are here that might want to hide their identity, create another username to post here.

As a new comer here, I would like to ask any yahoo boy or girl, where to purchase a good smtp server, there are more we can discuss as posts goes n goes. Step in bros and sis, nothing do una.

TheSeeker:
Sorry! I don't think it's got to do with her age. I suspect you've let her got used to you taking the blame and she feels anytime you don't yield to her childish tantrums, you're far away in touch with her emotions and she in turn, vituperates.

WORD!! @Eyongero, I think she is so much in love with u, confusion of love makes her do all those things.

I am not sure about having a replacement for my gf on the lowlow, but whoever wants to hook up can holler at me: babalose2002@yahoo.com

Im a nice, funny, outgoing dude, check out my profile for pic, wanna see more? lets chat.