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Romance / Re: My Naija BF Tells Me he Is Married by BelleFamn: 8:40pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
STENON: Not physically, but I’ve spoken to a couple on the phone One of his best friends from Nigeria is visiting in the summer and he casually mentioned ill meet him when he travels here. Idk anymore |
Romance / Re: My Naija BF Tells Me he Is Married by BelleFamn: 8:30pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
ChimdiAC: I replied |
Romance / Re: My Naija BF Tells Me he Is Married by BelleFamn: 8:23pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
ednut1: This is very real. I don’t know what I need to do to prove this. It doesn’t sound real at all which is why I am making this post to make sense of it . I only have the information he’s given me. I did counter him and said .. how can his “wife” (I put in quotes because he says it’s just an arrangement) had a baby. I asked him, wouldn’t her having a baby by another man make this “marriage” look fake? When you go to the interview .. won’t they ask about this baby? I asked him if the baby is his and he said no. I went to his place and it’s just his , no sign of a woman. However , how can I not be sure that baby isn’t his ? This is 100 % . Sounds fake af, but I cannot make this up. I’m trying to make sense of it all. |
Romance / Re: My Naija BF Tells Me he Is Married by BelleFamn: 8:20pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
STENON: I search his name online but I cannot find much except his LinkedIn. How will I be able to do investigations with this ? Does anyone help with this type of service ? |
Romance / Re: My Naija BF Tells Me he Is Married by BelleFamn: 8:13pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
ChimdiAC: He cried and said he regrets this marriage he is in and he wishes he met me 2 years ago. He says he was on the dating app just to meet companion. He dates women previously just for fun and never had to disclose his marriage arrangement. He said with me he didn’t think it would go pass what it has with me. He mentioned it’s only been less than 2 months but he felt in his heart he could not hide it anymore . I cried so much last night because of this. He also cried. We both knew the end is approaching. It is so painful. For me .. it hurts because I meet this man but he can’t give me what I want currently. For him, he says he doesn’t want to lose me however he knows it is selfish to ask me to wait and he wants me to be happy. We both learned about each other cultures. I was looking forward to us growing together and we both have shared we see this long term. Now this ruins it because I don’t know how long he has to go. My heart is broken. |
Romance / Re: My Naija BF Tells Me he Is Married by BelleFamn: 7:56pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
LosC: I agree . He is technically married (he didn’t tell me until 7 weeks ). They went to the courthouse two years ago. She has a bf and just has a baby. He does not live with her , which makes no sense to me because I thought in these business arrangements the “couple” have to live together or share address ? What I am having trouble with is how lazy he was with the information. I assumed he would be more concrete and detailed such as : I got married this date My interview is this date I get my green card this date around estimate I will dissolve marriage this date And then allow me to decide . I asked him how would he feel if I entered such business marriage with someone and his face dropped. The more I write this out , the more sense I am making. |
Romance / Re: My Naija BF Tells Me he Is Married by BelleFamn: 7:21pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
thorpido: I agree. Integrity and honesty is something I have listed in my desires in a man. When one door closes, God has a better one for you |
Romance / Re: My Naija BF Tells Me he Is Married by BelleFamn: 7:19pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Notasaints: The issue i am having is I have deeply happy with him. I wish this was not happening. I wish he was either already a citizen or met me before . Reality sets in, and my logic kicks in. However my heart is pulling the strings and telling me , what if no other man can make me feel how he does ? |
Romance / Re: My Naija BF Tells Me he Is Married by BelleFamn: 7:04pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
ikh777: Will him canceling the fake marriage ruin his visa and chances to stay in the US? |
Romance / Re: My Naija BF Tells Me he Is Married by BelleFamn: 6:58pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Romance / My Naija BF Tells Me he Is Married by BelleFamn: 6:53pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
I (31 female) met this naija born man (39 male) on dating app. I am Haitian American born in the US , my parents came for US. At first we were just friends. I didn’t want anything serious. We met and instant sparks. Laugh, dance. The vibes were 100% He asked me to be his girlfriend about 6 weeks . I say yes. He has most qualities I am seeking. He tells me .. I have something important to tell you. I beg him to tell me , and he says he will in person. I asked about his visa status but he was never open about it. This was the red flag I wish I didn’t ignore He tells me he is married in a sham marriage . He was set up with a woman who he paid . The woman has her own life set up and boyfriend , baby. He is almost 2 years in the process . I asked him why didn’t you share this with me before asking me to be your girlfriend ? He says he was afraid I would not want to be with him. I told him he does not have the right to hide something to critical to me . Due to my feelings for him, it is now difficult for me to make sense of this. Logically, I KNOW I need to walk away and date someone who can give me what I deserve . I cannot wait 3-6 years . I told him I wish he was almost done with the process or met him before. He shares the same sentiment . I’m happy he didn’t wait until months later to tell me .. however I am sad he didn’t expose this before asking for a commitment from me . I am 31 years old. I am working towards getting my masters, home ownership, and children hopefully in the future. I wanted him to be ready on my same timeline but now I realize I cannot achieve my dreams with him by my side. I will most likely do this alone . Anyone have experience being US born citizen dating someone who is in a sham marriage ? Am I mad? |
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