₦airaland Forum

It’s established that cheating and unfaithfulness is not something new under the sun in marriages and relationships. However, arguments abound as to who cheats more – the man or the woman? The man has the most tendency to be unfaithful in a relationship as a lot of people believe. There’s a popular saying that it’s in a man’s DNA to cheat, do you think this fact is true? It’s normal for most men to stop by at bars after work to have a drink with the ‘boys’. From there, most times, they end up on another woman’s bed before heading home to their wives. Women on the other hand, are naturally composed while in relationships. Their resistance to cheating is strong even though they may be lots of temptation. This is not to say women do not cheat, but on the average and by virtue of their DNA, they are keepers. They are programmed to keep the home alive and united, they hold the home with prayers, they fix meals, care for the kids etc. Where in this tight schedule does she have the time to cheat? Any day, any time, women are more faithful. Men are polygamous in nature.

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The obvious answer will be sure I will .Many people usually have reservations on many issues. Some never become friends again with their exes, probably due to the way they parted. Some cannot just face the emotion that runs whenever they see their exes. Some is due to sheer jealousy knowing or seeing their ex with another woman/ man.
Showing up or attending your exes wedding may have certain hidden reasons particularly if one of the party did not want the relationship to end. It is obvious you cannot love equally, one usually feel cheated or less appreciated in a relationship. Memories of good times and bad times linger in an exes and the time of marriage brings back such memories which triggers a reaction sometimes, overtly.

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The Universal Declaration of Human Rights guarantees the right to life for every individual. It proclaims the fundamental rights of the human person, including respect for his dignity and his value. The United Nations Convention on the Rights of Persons with Disabilities promotes respect for the inherent dignity of persons with disabilities.
God did not permit any man under any circumstance to take another man’s life or his own life as clearly stated in the Holy Books, but there are some persistent and unbearable sufferings that can make a person wish to take his or her life, is it justifiable to do this? Is it ever right to end the life of a terminally ill patient who is undergoing severe pain and suffering even at his request?
This issue has been at the Centre of many medical debates for many years and is surrounded by religious, ethical and practical considerations. At the heart of these arguments are the different ideas that people have about the meaning and value of human existence.

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Drug abuse is one major reason for the increase rate of crime in the society because once your brain is distorted by the drug/drugs, you tend to reason and act in an abnormal way. It may interest you to know that some people use drug to achieve sexual satisfaction, to get inspiration and to sharpen their memory, others use drug for medical prescription. Some experiment with recreational drugs out of curiosity, to have a good time, because friends are doing it, or to ease problems such as stress, anxiety, or depression.
It is not just illegal drugs, such as cocaine, marijuana and tobacco that can lead to addiction. The abuse of excessive painkillers can lead to death more than you can envisage. So many promising youth abuse drug until it affects their brain and makes them go insane. Drug produces different physical effects, all abused substances share one thing in common, and repeated use can alter the way the brain functions, causing a rush of the hormone dopamine in your brain, which triggers feelings of pleasure. Your brain remembers these feelings and wants them repeated.
Changes in your brain interfere with your ability to think clearly, exercise good judgment, control your behavior, and feel normal.

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The pressure of having an attractive skin is on the increase amongst men and women even if it means damaging the skin at the end of the day at the expense of looking good.
Many people have turned dermatologist in the quest of looking good. Some have regretted their actions due to the damage of their skin while others are still experimenting. For sure beauty products for skin are very effective as long as you find the one that suits your skin.

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The validity and importance of money cannot be over emphasized because invariably, money controls the activity of man; we work, hustle, study and dedicate our lives to hard work for the single purpose of earning a living for ourselves and others around us, all this is centered around earning money.
Money possesses power and commands anything you can think of but life. It magnifies or diminishes a man’s value; it also dictates the direction and quality of life any man can have. Everyone desires to have money but the question is what are you doing consciously to earn a legitimate and peaceful living? What are your reasons for the kind of wealth you crave for? Is it to oppress? or for the betterment of others? Did I just get you thinking?
It will interest you to know that money is a spirit, as such ,it possess, intoxicates and drives individual to engage in unimaginable things just to be known, thus the desperation of money compels people to engage in all manner of vices such that have assumed the coinage:

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Everybody acts out drama in everyday living aside their natural self for one reason or the other, but for some drama is a part of their lifestyle ,maybe because it excites them, gives them some level of satisfaction, brings attraction to them or it’s just a means to an end for them. These set of people are called drama queens .
They are very good in acting and making a less disturbing situation to be more disturbing. They are capable of manipulating others to have their way, use all means to get attention, would rather stir up strive between family members, friends just to have their way. They are very jealous and won’t hesitate to show it. Unfortunately, some men fall in this category, should we call them drama kings ?

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Are you feeling cheated, abandoned or used? You are not alone. Often we find out that people around us who we count as friends and loved ones may not really be who they claim to be. You seem to be always at the giving end trying to make them happy through gifts, words of encouragement and financial support but all you get back in return is gossip and ungrateful attitudes that makes you wonder. You sometimes go out of your way to please them at your own expense, yet they are always like Oliver Twist asking for more. You notice when you are in need or hardship they are never there for you. Some abandon you quickly and may not come back if they see that your situation does not improve. Others come around to laugh at your pitiable situation. These are what some selected group of people goes through. Some develop thick skin and fail to help further, some are tempted to do so while others just withdraw to their shell and wonder how wicked the world is.

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Are you feeling cheated, abandoned or used? You are not alone. Often we find out that people around us who we count as friends and loved ones may not really be who they claim to be. You seem to be always at the giving end trying to make them happy through gifts, words of encouragement and financial support but all you get back in return is gossip and ungrateful attitudes that makes you wonder.

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The New Age thoughts are “feel-goodism” (do whatever feels good, as long as you are not hurting someone else), “moral relativism” (situational ethics), and “pluralism” (universal tolerance). These believe seems to have found its roots in some practices such as Homosexuality, Lesbianism, Transgender and cross dressers. All these terms seem to have found their way in the diction and forefront in recent times.

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Chance and circumstances and the search for better living many a times have a way of affecting relationships. Often it is not planned but somehow we find ourselves in such circumstances where our spouse or loved one is far away from us. The challenges of long distance relationship could be enormous if certain things are not put in place to sustain the relationship for that period of time.
Is my spouse cheating? What is happening around him or her? Am i still loved by my spouse or someone else has taken my position? All these and many more are uncertainty that people go through. Long distance relationship can be very challenging especially when both partner are used to being close and suddenly have to be apart from each other for a period of time.

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I glared with disbelieve as I read of the possibility of my one- time hero spending the rest of his old age in prison. 79 or 80 years is certainly a bad time to spend ones remaining time on earth in confinement. But coming to think of it, I now believe there are 2 sides to a coin. Comedians are people who through jokes and funny acts heal, bring smiles and happiness to people who are stressed distressed or going through one challenge or the other. People pay to laugh and in turn be healed or happy and I can tell you now, it is big business in Nigeria.

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The fact that you suspect your husband or wife is in an illicit relationship is enough reason to wake up from slumber and realize that the home breaker may be smarter than you are. Crying or feeling sad is not an issue to consider. You should not join the bandwagon of men that conclude and say that all women are bitches or women who say all men are unfaithful. You could still salvage the relationship before its too late.

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Stanley accused his fiancée Louis of sleeping around like a cheap LovePeddler. She laughed profusely like she’s inhaled laughing gas, you don’t know what you are talking about, she responded. He became so furious that his girlfriend responded non-challantly.
This has been the challenges of healthy and happy relationship with assumptions maybe because of the friend around your partner and how they relate with them.

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Are you aware that Kissing can boost your immune system? According to researchers, a 10-second kiss transfers as many as 80 million bacteria between you and your partner. Yes! Hold on!! , more surprises awaits you. Kissing can improve your dental health and stimulates our salivary glands, and saliva helps buffer the acidity of the oral environment. Dental decay is caused by acidic by-products formed when oral bacteria break down carbohydrates. Saliva is relatively basic, so an increase in saliva helps our teeth resist this acidic attack.
However, you shouldn’t lock lips with your spouse for whatever reason, if he/ she has a bad breathe look for solution together so you don’t miss out.

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There are many reasons why young ladies are not married or it seems some few wise ones are getting married, whichever side of the divide you fall to, make sure you take to these useful tips that ensure that you are better off than your peers.

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In Africa it is believed that when you are married you are not just married to the man or woman but to the family members of your spouse, so it is very important to know how best to relate with your in-laws for peace and harmony to reign in your marriage.
A dating relationship is absolutely different from a marriage relationship. In the case of Marriage, couples have decided to love and share their lives together.

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Russia is the largest country in the world (covering one-eighth of the Earth’s inhabited land). Due to its incredible size, Russia spans over nine different time zones.
The Russian bid team pitched the World Cup as an opportunity for the country to continue to emerge from the collapse of the Soviet Union and work to develop its infrastructure. Its original proposal included an ambitious plan to host the tournament in 13 states and 16 stadium Russia’s budget for the world cup is running into $20 billion with the building of new stadiums, hotels, railways and expanding their airport. This world event will open tourism for the country according to them.

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NB: This is an inspiration from a true life story. Names and Location has been change and express permission has been sought from the characters involved.
Ismail Kura has found the love of his life or so he thought. Though brought up from a strict Muslim home, he had the privilege of schooling abroad and have met people of diverse cultures and religions which has given him a broader perspective to life.

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Getting back to school, I could not attend lectures for 2 weeks as depression took a better part of me. My lecturer Prof. Mike noticed I have not been attending his lectures so he sent for me. The following day, I went to see him and the moment he saw me, he queried, what’s the issue? You look troubled. I am now an orphan I responded and just came back from my mother’s burial. Prof encouraged and assured me everything will be alright.
He began to show me love and care. He got me an accommodation, paid my fees and gave me upkeep money from time to time. This must be God at work, I said to myself. But things took another turn
during my third year in the University, Prof started making sexual advances at me, I was overwhelmed with shock. I always prayed for Prof and his family in my daily prayers....

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My name is Rajuno, a native of Abi L.G.A in Cross-river state. I grew up without knowing my father as I was told he died in a ghastly motor accident when my mother was carrying my pregnancy. My mum, a woman full of determination made sure I and my elder sister got the basics of life; food, shelter and education. During my primary school days, my mum will ensure she pays our fees by working on people’s farm and doing domestic work for few rich men in our village. Mum was also a business woman as she fries Akara (Beans cake) and Pap very early in the morning and late in the evening, every day.

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There are a lot of complains by ladies’ who have broken relationships that guys walk away from them simply because they refused having sex with them. Some go the extra mile and give away their virginity just to keep the guy but still end up with a broken relationship.
The story of the ten virgins in the bible made us to understand that both the wise and the foolish were virgin; the other five were not allowed to see the bridegroom not because they were virgin or they lost their virginity….
NO! But because they were foolish and called foolish because they had no EXTRA OIL
And what is that EXTRA OIL if i may ask?
The EXTRAs (OIL) here is your character or those things you can offer in a relationship apart from SEX, VIRGINITY AND PHYSICAL BEAUTY.
Most girls don’t have the EXTRAs to sustain them in any relationship, while some brag about virginity, that’s all they got to offer.
Apart from virginity and sex what else can u offer to a man ?
Can you support him physically ?
Can you support him financially ?
Can you support him spiritually ?
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For any romantic relationship to happen, it takes two to tangle and mingle, the man also need to put efforts same as the woman. Men are engrossed with illusions or assumptions such as: All women are cheats; they are just after my money and what she can get from me. But guy wait, let me ask you some questions, have you ever ask yourself what can I do to make her stick to me alone? A lot of guys now play a “diplomatic role” in relationships; they are neither here nor there. For crying out loud, the lady will know what you are up to by keeping her in suspense.
Guys please hear me now, don't use material things to woo a Lady or “forming” something you are not just to get her to date you. In most cases when she realizes the real you, she is most likely to leave and then you will start raining insult and call her all sort of names. Give her the option to accept you just as you are!
Guys should be realistic in communication and be open as much as possible, it’s not about just satisfying her sexually as a lot claim but how have you helped her person in the relationship, it must not necessarily be giving of money or gifts, always suggest ways she can improve her business, career and self.
Just like a man needs a woman who will help him actualize his dream so also a woman wants a man who she can build a secured future with.
Guys look within and see how you can change the story of your relationship around. Be you married or about to.
Have you ever asked yourself why a lady will prefer another guy over you?
Maybe you brag too much?
Do you flaunt borrowed items at her?
Do you respect and care for her?
Are you a man of your word?
Brood over these:
Can I be a covering over her?
Can I defend her?
Can she lean on me at all times for support?
Does she feel secured with me?
Can she trust me and my judgement?
There is nothing as good as dating someone for the right reason, so that when challenges hit the relationship, you both will somehow find a way of resolving instead of finding solace in another's arm
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