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We celebrate every milestone in life and they all come with their own level of excitement, no matter how ephemeral. A lot of people would say, without flinching, that Marriage is overrated in terms of celebration. Maybe it is but, we find ourselves in a society that ascribes a lot of importance to marriage. People do not consider you to be successful when you are single at a certain age.
For me though, Marriage doesn’t really relate to success neither is marriage overrated. I think it is a big deal and probably the biggest step anyone would ever take. For this reason, I feel all the excitement that comes with marriage is no fluke. However, I sincerely think that whatever excitement that comes with you wanting to get married should commensurate with your financial status.
We should understand that Marriage and wedding are not the same though they are used interchangeably. A wedding is the celebration of love and symbolizes the beginning of a marriage. Marriage, on the other hand, is a lifetime institution which is why the certificate is given at the beginning, the wedding day.
While most guys might have fantasized about what it feels like to marry their dream girl who would support them, travel round the world with them, and have children. Some might have gone as far as giving their children names to their expected children. Most girls tend to have their fantasies lingering around and about ‘MY WEDDING DAY’. Guys also wish to have a grand wedding but the “craze’ is definitely not as high as the females. Hummm, are you wondering why?
Ladies, on the other hand spend their whole life fantasizing about that day. Many have used the ‘on my wedding day’line on their friends and family. Some feel a grander wedding would make people know that they made the right decision while others succumb to the pressure from family and friends which by default extends to their partners. Perhaps, others is due to the phrase ……..at last……, I have finally gotten Mr. Right……..

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The closeness between a father and a daughter is often perceived as natural. However, there should be certain limits to the closeness particularly when the daughter has reached adolescence. Often, we hear of incest, it begins from somewhere. Why will you tell me that seeing your daughter’s unclothedness will not arouse you? It is a lie? You are human; it is only your Church mind or call it moral that tells you it is amoral to follow your arousal to a logical end!
Similarly, being very close as to sharing bed and cuddles/ hugs are easy temptations to lead you to do the unimaginable. A woman once complained to me that since her daughter started sleeping on their matrimonial bed during the time of her illness, there has been a gap in the intimacy between her and her husband. She said had to send her daughter back to her room when she sensed danger.
Every human should be able to assess his/her level of weakness. If you know that you are weak when it comes to the opposite sex, you should take all measures to prevent you from falling along your line of weakness. Never say it can’t happen with my daughter! it may happen. Being over protective or possessive of your daughter may do you or her no good in the long run. You daughter sees you as the typical man, she grows to believe in you and become so close that she repeals other men maybe due to all you have told her or your excessive possessiveness. Allow her to mingle with young men of her age though you are there to guide and watch her. Give her the privacy due to her. Stop bashing into her room anyhow and at odd hours, she could be changing or sleeping naked. Bring her close to her mother; remember mothers do have a role to play in her upbringing.

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Bringing a child to the world is viewed by many differently. Some men believe hard work in terms of sexual satisfaction birth a child, some think there is no effort needed at all. Whichever side of the divide you belong, the issue goes beyond that. After 5 or 10 minutes “pleasure” God in His infinite mercy approves a child or children are birthed.
Only a woman who has birthed a child can explain the process from conception to delivery. I am persuaded that the experience differs from one woman to another. What seems to be common is the pain at the time of delivery. A woman once told me it is like being caught between Heaven and Earth. I wonder what that means! Another told me is like a brief period of pain and then a great relief afterwards. Some say the pain is unbearable and I hear some women curse their husband during child birth claiming that they are the cause of their pains.
A woman once told me of how some nurses make jest of them at child birth saying ‘’ wen you dey do the tin , ede sweet you shei? Meaning when you were having sex were you not enjoying it? Why are you complaining of the pain at delivery now?
Some women, am aware give up in the process of child birth while some loose the child. Sometimes a deformed child is birthed all adding to the pain and sorrow some family share. Before I forget, some women undergo caesarian session, and some opt for it to avoid the pain of child birth. Hummm, all seems scary! But the underlying factor is the risk.

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It all happened the day my sister travelled to see our sick mother in the village. I took up the responsibility to take care of my sister’s husband. Had I known it will get to this! I served him food parked his plate but one thing I noticed; his eyes were all over me particularly my cleavage. I shrug the thought “I am just imagining the unimaginable”
The day past and it is 3 days of my being in the house with my sister’s husband, handsome, lanky always with a smile that never wears off his face. I knew him back in the days he was wooing my sister. Ade is friendly, frank and discipline. I never thought I would be caught in his web.
Yes he breezed past my room. I was totally naked. “I hope he did not see me. I must be stupid to have left the door opened” I muttered to myself.
I felt warmth so sweet and comforting. I noticed a turned on? My nipples hardened and I knew I was dreaming. One of those weird sweet dreams. It continued until I felt a thrust within me and this looked real! I tried to open my eyes, am I asleep or awake? Someone was on top of me breathing hard and thrusting. UNCLE Ade!!!!!! , I tried to whisper! I could not shout, it was about 2.00am. I felt a liquid substance inside of me and bang someone rushed out of my room. Yes it has happened. Who else could it be? We are only two in the house. I got up and noticed by undies were off me. I am wet all over. These weird sweet dreams have been happening. I always took it for granted. This one looks too real and to top it up, I am in my fertile period. Humm. What will I tell my sister? What if am pregnant. I did not catch Uncle Ade on top of me, yet I felt a presence in the room.
I noticed the cup of water I drank shortly before going to bed had falling sideways with traces of the water on my nightie and bed. My novel was stock between my legs, my reading lamp was on and my door was locked from inside. Yepa! This is strange. Oh! Is this the story in the novel am reading?

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Attraction is interest aroused due to a person’s personality, carriage, charisma, or certain behavior that draws attention. Usually, a positive one. It is like a force or power driven by interest in a particular individual or thing. It is more than just sexuality; it is about being drawn to some one’s presence, openness and their responsiveness.
Attraction should precede any relationships as it helps in bonding of couples. But, in few circumstances, it can diminish and result in a feeling of disconnection between the parties in a relationship. Attraction can be lost due to betrayal, as it is very difficult to harness connection and passion from a place of distrust. In such a circumstance, repulsion becomes inevitable. To rekindle attraction usually takes a long process that requires patience.
When partners are not responsive to the moods, expressions, intent and desires of spouses, the bond begins to diminish. Most times a lot of people result to blaming their partners whereas, the deficiency resides more with the accuser. But, at the point of realization, it becomes obvious that you alone can usher in the change you want in your relationship.
High level of responsiveness helps in revitalizing passion and reviving interest. Genuinely inquire about his or her intent, because in such situations most spouses result to abstinence, which brings a barrier to our communication. This is done by carving out time to receive his or her words with openness of heart. And while doing so; be less defensive as the aim is to arrive at a compromise.

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Age, they say, is just a number. Yet as humans from this part of the world, age tends to breed sentiments in our everyday life. To some it is nothing as they believe relationship is a thing of the heart. On the other hand most people feel age should be a major factor when making decisions that concerns relationships. There are lots of people who believe maturity plays an important role in how issues are handled and therefore wouldn’t date anyone who does not fall within a particular age bracket. They are not willing to tolerate the immaturity that comes with relationship. Research has shown that women tend to be more matured than men.
In recent times, I have met guys who would not go into anything serious till they meet ladies much younger than they are. Reasons being that they don’t want the “When will we get married?” pressure associated with older women. Another reason why most men would prefer dating a much younger lady is due to the arguable conception that women grow old faster than men do. ‘No one wants to marry a woman who would looks years older than he is in the nearest future. Interestingly, in other climes, the age gap between an older woman and a younger man does not breed sentiments. Though there are bizarre cases where the age gap is alarming and people tend to think that material procession has taken prominence instead of love.

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Calabar is fondly known as a home of tourism with lots of beautiful sites to behold, the museum which houses hundreds of historical facts about slave trade in Africa coupled with the hospital nature of the people, and a lovely slogan ” Come And Live And Be At Rest” seems to have in recent years, degenerated into what people call a huge “gay community”
There’s no religious faith that supports being gay neither does societal moral condones it. The Nigerian government prohibits gay, lesbianism or calls it whatever name. and has attached a penalty of 14years imprisonment for people caught in these act. Unconfirmed statistics suggests that one out of three girls in Calabar are gay / bi and one out of five males are also gay/bi. I mean its not hard to believe, is it? No. My personal research revealed that over 80% of girls who attend Federal Government Girls Colleges in Nigeria would participate in at least one gay activity before graduation and about 30% of the student would graduate gay/bi. Yes… you have your daughter there right?, The boys are equally not exempted. We have all read reports from male friends who have had encounter with older gay men trying to lure them into being gay with valuables especially money.
Gay community has no face. Many gay people are hiding their status because of fear of being penalized. Even the obvious guys cat walking around refuse to accept the very clear fact. However, they do understand and accommodate one another. Most times we see them in cliques in events and bars. So they are around and continue to grow in population. Recently the Lagos state police swooped on a group of young men at a hotel in a suburb of the state. They all denied being gay, but I asked myself how will there be a party where males outnumber the females grossly? It is usually the reverse. Your guess is as good as mine.
So is this a bad thing that we have such a huge gay population? Sadly yes, I’ll explain… I believe that nothing that people do in hiding is good. Why be gay when you cannot be proud to be what you are?
There’s this controversy that gays aren’t inflicting harm on others but rather themselves, well i believe the social factor will directly lure innocent boys and girls into becoming gays either in school or even on the street. Keeping mute and acting as though they are not harmless, i bet you our young children are susceptible to such gay influence so we need to start to speak up regarding gay. Calabar, I can tell you is not the only state with gay activities, there are many others. Have you heard the name Bobosky? Yes a cross dresser he is called but walks around free in Lagos. Seem to me to be very rich but something tells me…….; this is also a dangerous trend with a likely underground hidden agenda. Did I hear you say GAY? I am always critical of these people cos of the moral decadence their act is causing the society. If no one criticizes them, how then would they change.

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This is going to be a tough one”, Tolu muttered under her breath. She took another step towards the staircase. Her heart palpitated. She had never imagined herself getting married to a widower. If there was anything she was scared of, it’s karma.
She also had a step-mum and her step-mum wouldn’t pass her as loving and Tolu never did well enough too. She can remember once sneaking into the kitchen to lace her step mum’s soup with more salt. Or was it when she mischievously added yaji to her step mum’s red powder.
She sighed, prepared to call out to Leo. Leo popped out almost knocking her to the ground. “You startled me.”, Tolu gasped. “Please don’t do that again. “Leo threw his head back, laughing hysterically, making that throaty noise that always did funny things to her. She hit him slightly on the arm.
“Have you seen Lucas?” Leo asked with excitement. “I think he was peeping through his window. I called out to him but he didn’t respond. ”
Maybe this is all a bad idea! She concluded. She has been at this for months and the attitude of her stepson to be has been indifferent. It’s probably just karma. She should probably walk away .

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Early on in our relationship, it was a fairytale story for me and Desmond. The charm and connection we had for each other seem like an unbreakable bond between a mother and her child. We were the true definition of a perfect couple admired by friends and family. Each time we were together, there’s this tingling feeling that makes us feel like butterflies.
We were both happy in our relationship until one day Desmond began to entertain assumptions in his head without asking questions, comparison also creped in from nowhere, my goodness what’s going on I thought within myself.
Just like every relationship has its own challenges, we thought it was one of those challenging period that will fizzle out as soon as possible but that wasn’t the case for me and Desmond.
Our relationship that was once the envy of others gradually became a shadow of itself, at this point it was obvious that all was not well.
To achieve a happy and durable relationship, it takes hard work and considering this few ways will help maintain that healthy relationship you have always wanted

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Joel and Sophy had met 4 years ago. She was young and lovely, everything good could be attributed to her. They hooked up in a whirlwind romance and two years later, they decided to walk down the aisle.
“What a catch” Joel had thought. He was head over heels in love with her. Who will blamed him? What are the odds of finding an educated, well behaved, passionate and beautiful lady like Sophy. His friends couldn’t believe she agreed to marry him. But that was what they did. They got married. All was well and couldn’t have been better until 8 months ago when Joel’s world started cracking. Sophy’s attitude changed. His once peaceful home became a battle field. He couldn’t say if she was frustrated or lonely, all he knew was things got worse with every response he gave.
Joel sat on the staircase leading to the balcony… he was pensive, trying to carve out a way to avoid Sophy. I just can’t deal with her incessant talks this night, he thought. He had no strength left for arguments that have turned out to be the welcome song he got every night. Just then, Sophy walked in. Like a bee perceiving perfume she began;
“Who does this?” You came home and instead of looking out for me you sat here. Is this our bed? Did it not occur to you to at least remove your clothes first? Oh! you are not the one washing them. All you know how to do is come home looking tired.
“Be like your friend, Jude, and score goals instead, all you do is watch Arsenal and Chelsea, argue Ronaldo and Messi don’t forget those two are fathers already.” She fussed clapping her hands. “Do what your mates are doing, Joel, make me a real woman, i’m a complete league yet you can’t find a suitable club to fan. Please excuse.

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Sometimes No one wants their properties to fall in the wrong hands when they are gone. The only way to prevent this is to have a will that states clearly who gets what. Without a will, your next of kin is legally entitled to your estate. With a WILL , you are free to make whoever you must whenever you should your next of kin. , I was reorganizing my documents. A friend of mine walked in and picked one of the documents lying idly on the bed “Your sister is your next of kin?”, he asked with a hint of surprise. “Yes, why?” I asked.
Choosing next of kin goes beyond gender. At a time in history when gender equality and feminism is taking giant strides, it is surprising that most people would rather put the name of their younger male child as next of kin on their documents.
“My daughter will only be a next of kin for as long as i have no son”, my friend said. “My daughter would get married and go into another family; her husband will now be the one to enjoy my property.” He continued.
Most people believe a next of kin is a close relative who gets to inherit your estate. Others believe a next of kin should be someone matured enough to make decisions on their behalf when they are incapacitated or deceased.

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Having a baby comes with a full package of responsibilities and challenges and research has shown that couples are more likely to feel burden and awkward once they start having children. Mothers are often occupied with the physical care of their kids while neglecting their partner; similarly the fathers are occupied with meeting up financial demand of the family, thereby unconsciously leaving a gap in their relationship.
Parenting styles are a growing cause of concern in marriage, Perhaps your partner is in favour of sticking to a strict parenting routine, while you prefer to be more flexible. Maybe you disagree on whether you want exclusive breastfeeding for the baby or not. Whatever the issue, it can become a source of stress in your relationship, particularly if the problem is brought up repeatedly without reaching to a compromise.
Communicating effectively is key, so be sure to schedule some time to discuss parenting due to changes in intimacy. The new moms’ body and hormonal changes affects her desire for intimacy thus leading to reduced sexual desire after birth. While intimacy is an important part of sustaining healthy relationships, it’s really important for couples to discuss how they feel considering the fact that both of them have different sexual behavior, arriving at a middle ground with no sense of judgement will help you restore intimacy back at whatever level. Note that the physique of your partner (wife) may not be as attractive as before. She needs some time to firm-up and look attractive after birth.

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Who needs a man to be happy? The thoughts ran through her head as she sat in a chair with her back turned to the entrance. She leaned towards the window, the evening breeze brushing her cheeks. “I am wealthy and passionate about something that makes me happy.” Grace thought to herself beaming with pride. Being a humanitarian who derive joy from helping the less privilege, she was focused on building a legacy that’d go down in history. This had been her vision, a dream that has given her contentment for a very long time. Everyone knew her for her kindness and love, though she tried to be discreet about it.
“My lady”, a voice said pulling her out of her head. She shook herself to get out of her thought. She wasn’t expecting anyone. She turned her gaze towards the entrance, the prince of Noland kingdom stood smiling… Awestruck, her eyes lit. “My lord, thank you for stopping by.” She said.
She ushered him in, gesturing to an empty chair. He settled into the chair, his arms folded, his gaze not leaving her flawless dark skin. Anxiety flushed her face as she patiently waited for him to speak again. “I know we met not too long ago and though the thought of this has brought me so much fear and anxiety, I plead with you to take me by my hand this day. I ask for your love, understanding and companionship for that’s all that matters.”

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It takes a lover to understand and feel the pain of heartbreak. Life in itself comprises of relationship(s), therefore everyone needs one or more relationship to function properly. The intimacy of a relationship will determine the depth and level of pain one goes through. We all experience heartbreak one way or the other in life. Often we lose loved ones, end a relationship we hoped will translate to our perceived dream, disappointed by friends we least expect and so on. The bottom line is, it’s more painful if the “heartbreaker” is someone you love and hold in high esteem
Ending a relationship is never easy especially when there still love, in the process some victims of heartbreak barely survive while some others commits suicide. Some inflict violence on their ex-partner/ or offender as the case may be in order to retaliate. The good news is, heartbreak may feel like the end of the world, it won’t last forever and certainly shouldn’t stop you from achieving a good and better relationship with someone else.
The duration of time it takes an individual to heal from heartbreak varies, for some the recovery is faster while others it takes a longer time to completely heal.

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I once heard the story of a man who had a heated disagreement with his wife. He felt he was right and decided to borrow a page from her book. He ceased every form of communications with her. After about a week, he was holding on strong but there was a problem, his alarm rarely wakes him – that was a job his wife carried out effectively. He had to be up early the next day and was tempted to call a truce till an idea struck him. He tore a piece of paper and on it wrote: “I have to be up at 5am tomorrow, please wake me up.” He left the note on his wife’s side of the bed and went to sleep. The next morning, the ray of sun filtering through his window jerked him up from sleep. He checked the time and it was past eight. He rushed to the kitchen. “I thought I dropped a note pleading with you to wake me up by 5am”, he lamented. “When it was 5am, I dropped a note telling you to wake up.” His wife replied.
As kids, we had ways which we use to get what we want from friends and family. Most people will agree that one of the trusted means was to cease every form of communication till the other party adjusts their stand. As we grew older, we got to know such approach by the word: Malice . Most people will agree that communication is key in a relationship. There’s nothing more blissful than having a good chat, laugh, brainstorming or intellectual discuss with someone you love yet only a few relationships maintain this trend. A couple who were jolly and lively partners would suddenly become cold to one another or rarely have a good talk. Few couples who built their relationship on good communication tend to cease it after a disagreement.

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Discrimination of the sex of a child has been a bone of contention for centuries. Women have suffered in the hands of their husbands and in-laws for giving birth to a particular sex (Female). Perhaps a lot of these issues has to do with culture and believes. In Africa, the need to have a male child is very important as some feel there is a need to have continuity in their family name which only a male child can offer considering that the female child loses her father’s name once married. Male are also seen as “capable to rule, organize and put things in order should there be issues in the family” Educated men somehow neglect the scientific research that explains that the chromosomes of the male determine the sex of a child. The males have the XY while the female has XX and the Male sperm produce either the X or Y chromosome which when matched with the Female X determine the sex of the child.
Some of the recent researches show that daughters care more for their parents. Also a study shows that 41% of young men require financial assistance from their parents as compared to 31% of their female counter parts, this means daughters are more independent than sons. Some people believe masculinity beat femininity. “Males are superior in anything and everything”
Even in the animal kingdom the male dominate. These views may be derived from the natural order as shown in types of work (Manual) that men and women engage in and of course the female disposition. However, it is believed that Males causes most of the societal problems ranging from thuggery, armed robbery, kidnapping and so on. The list is endless.

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Let’s get real here. For most of us life is fast-paced and chocked full of family, relationship, and work stress. This reality, along with the ever-increasing pressures of technology and society at large, can really take a toll on your relationship/marriage. As a result, difficult emotions like anger, confusion, fear, loneliness, and sadness, just to name a few, can arise. Emotions like these are often the most present and powerful forces in life.
The key to overcoming these difficult emotions is mindfulness! Practicing mindfulness enables you to calm down and soothe yourself. In this state, you have space to reflect and thoughtfully respond,rather than react.
Following these Four steps will help you to understand and deal with your difficult emotions in a mindful way
1. Identify and label the emotion
Instead of saying, “I am angry”, say, “This is anger” or, “This is anxiety.” In this way, you’re acknowledging its presence, while simultaneously empowering you to remain detached from it.

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Technology has made life so easy in this 21st century ranging from using the cyber space to navigate everything you can think about. Smartphone are not an exception in this regard especially with the level of technology embedded on a little device with amazing features to play around and make everyday living less stressful and meaningful compare to the basic phone. A smartphone is a type of cell phone that can do many of the things that a computer can. These smartphone can usually, for instance, access the internet and take photographs, as well as letting you video chat with friends and loved ones.
Smartphone are small enough to fit in your pocket. However, they carry the strength of a home desktop computer. Smartphone has its benefits likewise does have it challenges.
Addiction to smartphone cannot be less emphasized because of the frequency of usage and other everyday application we are most likely to cling to unconsciously, finding your fingers on your smartphone is something most people cannot help even when they are on a busy road. divided attention with your phone can cause accidents including road users who drive and use their phones at same time.

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In analyzing situations and people, you can be right and wrong, black and white or better still you could have facts but not the truth.
There is nothing in between.
It amazes me that so many of us
actually try to live by wanting to seat on the fence, its so ridiculous.
Bigotry is an attempt to explain to ourselves
all of the hate we carry around in our hearts.
Racism is only one form of bigotry.
It is ugly and perverse and does tremendous damage to everyone blinded by it, but these same effects can be seen from every kind of bigotry.
Families and cultures teach bigotry against
bosses, rich people, poor people, women, men, nationalities, and gays…
and tall people, short people, fat people, beautiful people,
people who have beards or get their noses pierced or wear too much makeup…
and, mostly, people who “just don’t look right” and people who “aren’t like us.”
We’d rather believe we hate “them,”
than that we carry hate for “us.”

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When you get together with friends, sometimes you want to do more than just gossip or dance. Deep conversation topics will help you learn more about each other, stimulate some awesomely conversations, and even generate laughter. After couples have been married for a while, intimacy can be lost without deep conversation. Deep conversation topics for married couples increase connectivity and closeness. Good conversation can answer questions about dreams, goals, raising children, and how to improve the relationship. Couples who talk about everything seldom have problems; even if they do it will be resolved as soon as possible. In some instances when you and your partner don’t talk a lot of assumptions start creeping into your heart and this may pose a threat to the relationship.

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When you hear the word zoophilia, Bestiality and necrophilia what comes to mind? As far as the existence of ancient Egypt and Greece this practice has been. The order of creation was very clear, God created Human being above all other animals but across history and centuries perversion of Gods original plan has become the other of the day. All aspects of sexuality are pleasant to talk about. When confronted with one of these more difficult topics it can feel easier just to sweep it under the rug, or to talk about it as quickly as possible and move on because it’s abnormal for human beings, if human and animals belong to same family group of homo sapiens according to scientist, is that why they is a form of emotional and sexual activities between them?
Bestiality and zoophilia are two such issues, ones that for most of us, we’d rather not even think about, let alone have to talk about. But the problem with not talking about something is that it makes it much harder to figure out exactly what it is, why some of us do it, and how we might go about changing it.

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The happiest, most satisfying relationships rest on a foundation of absolute trust. If you want your relationship to be all it can be, both partners must learn how to create trust. Most couples only think of trust in terms of being sexually faithful, though essential, there’s more to it than just that. Trust, here is not only limited to couples but friends, relations, and acquaintances. The level of trust you have with a person is determined by the degree of relationship you will have with that person in that area of concern. People avoid certain contacts or contract with certain people because of the level of trust. Usually money issue has been the most affected in terms of trust.
Consider the following useful tips:

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The happiest, most satisfying relationships rest on a foundation of absolute trust. If you want your relationship to be all it can be, both partners must learn how to create trust. Most couples only think of trust in terms of being sexually faithful, though essential, there’s more to it than just that. Trust, here is not only limited to couples but friends, relations, and acquaintances. The level of trust you have with a person is determined by the degree of relationship you will have with that person in that area of concern. People avoid certain contacts or contract with certain people because of the level of trust. Usually money issue has been the most affected in terms of trust.
Consider the following useful tips:

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Planning is a required regime for success for any individual. Some persons do have their plans on how and when they want to achieve some life’s goals. The age of when to get married amongst men and women is not an exception but sometimes your plans don’t usually work out as planned due to some factors beyond your control.
What do you do when your plans for marriage doesn’t materialize as planned?
Comparison is not healthy for anyone aiming at reaching their goals in life, same ideology is applicable on the debate of the appropriate age to get married as a woman and a man respectively. Different strokes for different folks, some will prefer getting married in their teens, others when they are in their early twenties, some when they are ready and functional enough to solve their own problems and help someone else with theirs. Alot of factors helps in determining the age one get married for women and men, some of this include; Parental influence determining the marriage age bracket for their children, for instance in some families they is a laid down principle as regards what age to get married. Peer influence is also a factor for some people as to what age is acceptable to get married even if they are not ready. Cultural beliefs dictates the most suitable age to marry a lady out, most often from the ages of 15 for women and 20 for men.

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Autism and Down syndrome intervention is a costly process with a range of specialized services and professionals involved in the care and education of the child.
Due to the triad of Autism effects on the child, a combination of treatment approaches are vital to Autism treatment/management.
Such treatment approaches amongst others are Applied Behavior Analysis-ABA, Speech therapy, Occupational therapy, Dietary Intervention etc.
Professionals/members of intervention could include but not limited to a behavior analyst/specialist, pediatrician, pediatric neurologist, child psychiatrist, psychologist, occupational therapist and educators like school teachers or Special Education teachers.

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Every couple looks forward to have a health and normal child. It hardly ever crosses ones mind that a child born will have any kind of disorder whatsoever. Some couples face this stark reality which are not immediatly detected in a child at birth . Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is a complex developmental disability, typically appearing during childhood and affecting a person’s ability to communicate and interact with others.
The characteristic behaviors of autism spectrum disorder may be apparent in infancy (18 to 24 months), but they usually become clearer during early childhood (24 months to 6 years).
What distinguish Asperger’s Disorder from classic autism are its less severe symptoms and the absence of language delays. Children with Asperger’s Disorder may be only mildly affected, and they frequently have good language and cognitive skills. To the untrained observer, a child with Asperger’s Disorder may just seem like a neurotypical child behaving differently.
Autism is actually only one condition under this umbrella. Other conditions include Rett’s Disorder, which is a neurodevelopmental disorder that begins to show its symptoms during early childhood or infancy. This condition seems to affect the girl child more than boys.

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Jide’s porn addiction started when he was just 10. His dad was a News correspondent to a Media organization, so he had a lot of newspapers and magazines piled at home. One day as he was looking for one of his textbook he stumbled on a magazine that had pictures of naked women on the cover page, immediately his curiosity was raised and all he wanted was to have more glimpse of nude pictures. He got admission into a boarding secondary school where there were strict rules of expulsion if caught with any implicative material. It was a single school so he became friend with a class mate from a rich background who was lucky to sneak in a mobile phone into the hostel, one night as his friend was using the phone, he requested to show his friend something on the internet of which he would love, this was how Jide and his friends started watching porn videos in their hostel every night. Throughout his secondary school days Jide watched porn with varying but increasing frequency, this was the beginning of an unholy sexual relationship between him and his friend.
He could no longer concentrate in his school work as he started harassing other junior student sexually, one of his victims was bold enough to report him to the school authority and he was expelled from the school. After his secondary school education Jide decided to become a bisexual and his very proud about it.

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Pornography is definitely intertwined with prostitution and other sexual activities. Sex workers have existed throughout the history of man and prostitution has been described as the world’s oldest profession, as it was practiced all over Asia during the BC. A sex worker can be a prostitute (male and female), lesbian, gay who sell their bodies for the sole purpose of financial rewards or favor.
Pornography is viewed across all age board. Do you know that 30 percent of all data transferred online is porn? That makes the internet a susceptible tool for anyone to access porn pictures and videos. Even if you don’t search for porn images of naked girl’s pops up on your device just to tempt you – in this instance what will be your response?
According to psychologist, porn is addictive as it promotes sexual crime in the society such as rape, sexual violence can also occur between couples , as the content of porn registers in your brain you might want to practice it with your partner or better still through rape.

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In many traditional communities of developing countries (especially in Africa), widowhood rites practices is carried out either on the widow, (a woman who has lost her husband) to prove the innocence of a woman whose husband dies at an early age. Even in Africa not all communities practice widowhood rite but the communities that practices it subject the widow to all kind of demeaning and non-human practice such as shaving of the woman’s hair, compelling her to drink the water used to wash the corpse of her husband proving her innocence, depriving her of participating in family decision, ensuring she weeps at night and day, sleeping in same room with her husband corpse
and bathing in a river for spiritual cleansing after which her cloth will be burnt. Widowhood represents a “social death” for women. It is not merely that they have lost their husband, the main breadwinner and supporter of their children, but widowhood robs them of their status and confines them to the very margins of society where they suffer the most extreme forms of discrimination and stigma.

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Education as a basic right for every child often leaves parent that can afford to educate their children with the choice of which educational facility suits them. Another major decision is whether your child goes to a single school (same sex) or mixed school which hinges on personal conviction, experiences and upbringing on their part as parents. Which is the better choice?
Parents who chose a same sex school for their children may nurse some fears they don’t want to come to reality at least at that time. Some of the perceived reasons include: less distraction from the opposite sex; It is often perceived that as children grow into adolescence, the tendency to be attracted to the opposite sex based on environmental factors that influence them without cautioning them of the consequences of such actions such as people kissing on T.V and other indecent acts on T.V, exposure to pornography through peer group, inquisitiveness and change in body features.

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Lots of questions flood our heart on a daily basis but our perception determines the answer. We have different schools of thought about a particular subject matter or life’s issue.
Some people think that if you’re still keeping in touch with your ex, there is a tendency of sparking new emotions which may definitely not be healthy for your new relationship or marriage, so they advise you stay clear, even if your ex is trying to get your attention, you can simply ignore them.
Let us assume you still keep in touch with your ex, what would form the content of your discussions? Pause and answer these questions:

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I got talking with my neighbor Mrs. Okoro about how my friend Blessing met her husband James on an online dating site some years back. They got hooked up and became interested in each other as he requested if she would date him, Blessing jump at the offer as it seems like an opportunity to explore online dating. She was 5years younger than him. They kept the relationship from everyone around them because of the believe that online dating portrays desperation, social insecurities and all of that. After some few years of them dating without seeing each other physically, to clear doubt, he decided to invite her over to where he resides to introduce her to his friends and family as he was amaze at how easy going and loving she had been, on her arrival he gave her all the attention and affection he can as he’s already fallen in love with her, on introducing her to his parents they seem to like and accepted her. This is one of the successes of the social media

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