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ifyalways:
This happens when you go into marriage believing your spouse is a super human. Trust if you want, but leave a space in your heart for failure since we are all still mortals .

You will heal, give it time.

Stop thinking about it. Be selfish a little if you can afford it. Indulge yourself, convert all that negative energy into positives and put your aggression into getting a job.Give yourself and kids a treat.

You will heal , cope , grow a thick skin, then learn how to handle and " corner" that husband of yours. Our mother's did. Some of us are doing it now . Be strong.

You are also right about the "super human" thing.
He was this disciplined person.
I could vouch for him.
But do you know that at a point he said he did nothing since they didn't have sex.
That statement tore my heart into pieces

ifyalways:
This happens when you go into marriage believing your spouse is a super human. Trust if you want, but leave a space in your heart for failure since we are all still mortals .

You will heal, give it time.

Stop thinking about it. Be selfish a little if you can afford it. Indulge yourself, convert all that negative energy into positives and put your aggression into getting a job.Give yourself and kids a treat.

You will heal , cope , grow a thick skin, then learn how to handle and " corner" that husband of yours. Our mother's did. Some of us are doing it now . Be strong.

Growing a thick skin is also part of my fear. My kind of person, when I eventually do, it would be very difficult to look back again. And my marriage will turn sour.

I have experience with some family members/friends that after they hurt me, I grew thick skin but I can't seem to be close to anymore no matter how hard I try.

Olalan:
You need to let go of the past and forgive him esp if he has stopped flirting with her.
BTW getting out of a marriage with three kids come with lots of responsibilities, burden and stigma.

I really want to forget but why did he have to stop communicating only after I threatened to expose her.
I had pleaded earlier but I got a No. I just don't feel loved anymore.

post=74647237:
We understand how you feel.
It will linger for a very long time.

But we cant say more on this matter because we dont know your definition of emotional affair!

It is well.

Non-sexual but professing love to each other. And could include sex chatting

consultancy:
dont worry about that, as time passes you will learn to forgive and forget. what you should worry about is the affairs he will have in the nearest future. men who cheat never stop, at least majority of them rarely do. they only grow smarter not to be caught same way u caught them before.

You just spoke out one of my fears. How do I trust again.

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