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Romance / Re: Do I Tell My American Patient He's Being Scammed By A Nigerian Romance Scammer? by Beverlypie: 11:10pm On Aug 13, 2020 |
ALEX182: I think u have to tell him.....give him some Nigeria swear words to send to scammer and see what happens |
Family / Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Beverlypie: 1:20am On Oct 20, 2019 |
The level of hatred and bitterness from some girls on this forum is highly disturbing, do you know u can read and just follow the thread without commenting if u’ve gat no clue about the subject matter..... u will learn more when u listen more and speak less..... Why do you have to be so hateful of someone u know nothing or little about because of their choice of a partner ? Isn’t it about time we learn to respect people’s decision. I’m beginning to question the age bracket of most girls on this forum..... if u have so much hatred for your Nigerian men then marry a fellow woman abi? Unfortunately most of these girl can’t even hold a meaningful convo for 5 minutes in real life. I have read people saying I don’t have control of my wages or she doesn’t want to have my baby and shits like that. Where in the write up did u read that.? I have female friends from other African countries and I can honestly say their reasoning is abit different I’m not trying to disrespect anybody, I respect the few hardworking Nigeria ladies out there. Who are good wife, partner and mothers... Most white ladies will choose to keep a pregnancy from broke boyfriends or even a one night stand and become a single mom. Whereas some of u ranting here have aborted several times for your Alhaji, chiefs, yahoo boys,pastors and even long time boy friend just because u hoping for a richer guy or because u don’t want to suffer with him. Only a tiny proportion of white ladies will do that. And that’s why we still appreciate their honesty and would marry them anyday. When I met my wife, I was a struggling final year University student. She loved me for who I was and not what I had. Whereas my long time Naija babe had just broken up with me because of a 2k BBM subscription. Today by the grace of God, I can give out a car without thinking twice and do u think I have any regret about the decision I made several years ago?. Absolutely ‘NO’. My advise to fellow Naija brothers is to be smart and go for whatever is more promising. I’ve picked up my answers from the meaningful comments...,, and thanks to everyone who had taken the precious time to say meaningful things here. 4 Likes |
Family / Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Beverlypie: 4:41am On Oct 19, 2019 |
Goddeywithme: Jah bless .... U said the mind of all legitimate hustling brothers... marriage is actually a risk irrespective of who u marry...... but if sex is the only thing the woman wanna bring to d table, then the man should be ready to be a double looser except if he’s born with a silver spoon. |
Family / Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Beverlypie: 6:06pm On Oct 17, 2019 |
tobianthony: Thanks my bro 1 Like |
Family / Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Beverlypie: 10:22pm On Oct 16, 2019 |
khiaa: Lol .... u are right |
Family / Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Beverlypie: 8:20pm On Oct 16, 2019 |
khiaa:im not in the state, but those white folks are everywhere. I give them my change when I have any. I can’t really blame them. It takes true sickness to understand the value of health and true hardship to understand opportunity when u see one. Some of urs had the opportunity to experience hardship before comfort so we will never abuse it. Some of those guys don’t really understand what life is all about. |
Family / Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Beverlypie: 6:31am On Oct 11, 2019 |
theButterfly:u really don’t know much.... u only reading around...lol 4 Likes |
Family / Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Beverlypie: 12:00am On Oct 11, 2019 |
Yes u are right...thanks FYI : the father of those kids is also younger and she sponsored him to live in this country as well.... he’s not even from African country and because his country men don’t go about writing stuffs like this about themselves, nobody would call it scam.... our mentality is what put us where we are globally and the reason we get stereotyped....I believe some of the stuffs she read here on NAIRALAND contributes to the problem in our marriage. theButterfly: 1 Like |
Family / Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Beverlypie: 10:15pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
theButterfly:Yeap and sometimes wish I haven't so I can find my way. |
Family / Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Beverlypie: 10:14pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
Mstick:To get it straight, she's not refusing to have kid and she prays and cry to God on that daily, she just want it naturally as she doesn't really believe in advance science...... 1 Like |
Family / Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Beverlypie: 10:08pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
LordKO:sorry I'm not.....thanks for your concern |
Family / Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Beverlypie: 10:03pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
flyca:thanks for your comment, but most of your assumptions were wrong. I'm well educated, well established here, decent job with a global company and a permanent resident of the country we live in. If u know my real moniker here on naira land, u won't say 1% of what u said ....lol.... But thanks for being YOU . 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Beverlypie: 9:56pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
sisisioge:u on point.... Thanks |
Family / Help: Married In Diaspora by Beverlypie: 2:08pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
Hi N’landers. This is a new moniker for privacy reasons. Pls I would really appreciate some mature advise, well I know it won’t come without criticism or abuse either. I’ve been in an interracial marriage for a few yrs now(actually less than 5yrs). I won’t give exact figures just to remain anonymous. It’s started as a long distance relationship which lasted for about 3-4 yrs before we finally met and got married. She’s been everything in the world to me ever since our relationship started. She believed in me and trusted me despite the stereotype about Naija people, peoples comments and what comes up in the news daily about us. We got married in Naija and few months after our marriage, I migrated to live with her and we’ve been living together ever since then. But things haven’t been too rosy since we’ve gotten together, it’s always been ups and downs just like every other relationship. Our culture clashed several times. We are a few years apart with her being on the high side even though u can’t really guess the difference. And that caused a bit of insecurities and false accusations towards me even though there was not tangible evidence against me, as I have always been faithful to her.. Then came in a little bit of jealousy when I got my first job, it escalated into financial disputes and family feud as I don’t really have the best relationship with her kids... but they have a good relationship with their father and they spend time with him always. I never get into any arguments with them or treat them badly.I just don’t have a deep connection with them because in my own word, I find them disrespectful and abit lazy. But still do the necessity for them. After I got a job, I wanted to save up to repay my loans, to have another qualification and also to establish myself in a foreign land. But with that being said, my priority was my share of the house bills which I was paying about 50% for the 4 of us in the house as the kids are still in school. The arguments never seems to end, from money issue, to personal issues. Even to the extent that she would call me different names. Called me scammer and all sorts even though she knew I can never scam anybody. She became really abusive and maybe toxic that I went into mild depression and anxiety as she was all I had here when I came. I wanted to end the relationship and move on but I really love her and she’s gone through a lot with me. I didn’t want to give up on her so fast because I know deep down she loves me and wanted our Marriage to work. My conscience won’t just let me walk out, but there was no progress.... one minute we’re sweet lovers the next minute we might be yelling at each other. She knows my pay rate but still tell people I was not honest because she doesn’t see my payslips, I felt like most of the time she’s playing the victims card. She doesn’t support the idea of me having a side savings to pursue my careers or whatever. But she wasn’t against it 100% either We don’t have any kid together even though we both dreamt about it but unfortunately our chances of having kids is gently fading away....but she never see it as a big deal, even though I explained what having own kids means to us in Africa. She always tell me to leave the house at every provocation then turn around and say she didn’t mean it for me to leave. I’ve recently moved out just to be happy again, I still miss her and she’s regret her actions and been begging to come back. All the sweet memories of us still plays in my head. But I really don’t know if going back into that house is a wise decision. She’s got a very beautiful heart but unfortunately her emotions gets hold of her most of the time. Please people who have gone through separation or divorce, how did u handle living without someone who has been a big part of your life for so long. 2 Likes |
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