@ochu
i am not fixated on virgins and i am not sure where u got that idea from

@bolagurl
according to her, she is not into any other man. for the past days i had this feeling that she might like someone else or has fallen for another guy. i just hope its not so

thanks for the replies. It might be difficult to understand but i have really changed and i can swear that i will never ever cheat on her again. I have been trying to tell her this and even act upon it. I realise that it might take some time but i am willing to go the extra mile for her.

And NO i am not after her virginity as someone mentioned and NO i am not asking for pity on this thread. I just feel very helpless because i am scared that i messed up what was/is a promising relationship with a gorgeous girl, over a fling and i need some SERIOUS advice.

My girlfriend is not stupid, she just has a forgiving heart BUT i know this is my last shoot, she would not take anymore nonsense from me and i know that. She has made it CRYSTAL CLEAR, however she said if her feelings towards me dont change soon enough, she would just have to move on cause no one can say that she DIDNT try. I never knew this could affect me this much.

@haywhy

u might be right about that and thats what scares me the most.

@all

i really understand ur viewpoints, and i know i messed up BIG TIME. but i have really changed and regret everything. After the second incident (chatting with my fling), is when she really didnt give a F**** anymore and that was even before i started to change for better

I Think I Messed Up! Need Advice!

Well, I am 25 years old and have been with my current girlfriend for over 14 months now, but to be honest with you Nairaland users out of the 14 months i have been giving her a hard time for 10 months. She stood by me when i was broke. I never ever bought her things or had the opportunity to take her out and she was very understanding. But I was and idiot and cheated on her, hardly kept appointments, left her at home till about 3 am (after telling her that i will be back shortly) and so on,

She found out about my affair and i obviously denied it, but she knew better. After pleading, begging and crying, she was willing to give me a second chance. she told me to cut the girl off immediately but as stupid as i was, i still chatted with her online once in a while. My girlfriend found out again and she went furious. She said she hast lost a huge amount of trust in me and that her love for me is dying. This was a wake up call and ever since then i deleted every flings number on my phone and my email and i have really been faithful ever since. However, i still have the feeling it is too late. She changed. . . . she disrespects me by calling me names whenever we have heated arguments, she does not do the things she used to do, she loses her temper easily and i think its all due to the fact that her love for me is dying. Now that she is slowly "fading away" i am really getting scared. My girlfriend hasnt cheated on me until this date cause when i asked her she said that she wished she could cheat but it wouldnt make things better for her. Another statement she makes is that she is very happy she never lost her virginity to me (she is still a virgin). She is very pretty, very independent, hardworking and basically everything a man could ever wish for. I really love and appreciate her NOW and feel ashamed aobut the way i treated her, but i think it is too late.

what do u think?