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ibietela2: Confused guy

See d non confused guy...if u call not supporting a political party confusing, den something is wrong with ur coconut head. Get a life @ss.

ChrisOD: Get a view of the Ibadan area outside IITA, i.e., SAgbe. Idiose, opopolaiye.

Lol...pls ujoinme u dont wanna post such - beere, oja oba, idi obi, molete, idi ayunre, oke are etc

Ibadan se wa pa

EasternLeopard: Enugu international airport

Well, that's good.

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Dis one was taken from the upstair of ur house. Which kin area be this?

chinolization: .

Na only one road u get for Bayelsa? Cos am only seeing one road snapped @ different kms

berem: Snapping pictures of the same road in different angles and calling it a pride of the nation is an insult to Bayelsans and Jonathan. Chino,you deserve a ban!!

I tot i was d only one dat noticed it ni. He not only deserve a ban but a brain check.

Sloan: Houston, a city in Texas is oil producing as Bayelsa. Now, I will not even compare them in any way but why on earth can't ALL these roads even be marked and well delineated and landscaped? Yes, I know this was the best or one of the best roads you found and took a picture of but I am surprised you do not see this is a disgrace? Yet Bayelsa has a population of less than 2 M but a budget topping almost all the other states when you factor in their oil derivation component? So, in essence from Alamadeighna and Jonathan and the 2 loonies that came after him, they still could not make one proper marking on that stretch of road? No sidewalk on that very long stretch?

Na the same road the mumu guy dey even show.

Smartsyn: And yet we're here e-battling for them, while they are living the good life, devoid of hatred and lasting enmity..

Thank God some1 is beginning to get sense. They make billions together, eat together only go on twitter to fight and newspaper will package it to sell, and u nigerian youths? U battle each other online.

God have mercy

DankemzI: Haba GeJ is not that clueless, even slowpoke knows if you got beef with persin then something happens to him you're a suspect.

Buhari is an extremist, see the xtent he goes jst to prove GeJ a murderer

What ever happened to assasins? Buhari you're a fool if GeJ wanted you out, he would have done it subtly jst like M.K.O

So MKO was killed by ur father bah? Eediot. Fighting another man battle while Buhari and GEJ will still drink tea together on the same table.

Go check GEJ and sanusi.

Bjfirst: Na wa oooo. plane crash here and there. Bt me no mind o, if i c opportunity now now, na flying tinz o

I'll advise u dont fly plane...witchcraft still remains the best form of transportation ever.

EasternLeopard: Have said it

NL is filled with witches and wizards

Any plan against GEJ die by fire fire fire fire fire fire fire.

GEJ TILL 2019

Its none of my business who wins, am neither of the two and i support none. But quoting a word from someone who has killed, kidnapped in this country..dats something else.

The last time he went to Benin Republic, he was even arrested but here in 9ja, he's a king.

I av a question thou..i hope u av an acheivement u can bodly say u benefited from GEJ govt or else ure just wasting ur precious time ni o.

oladapolif: This Asaru is a national disgrace and especially to him state, tweeting rubbish.. i wonder why him get twitter account, if only technology don advance to dey check brain...

In a sane society, he should be behind bars burying his head in shame but na 9ja..criminals like Asari are celebrated.

ojimbo: if actually you were not breastfeed with cow bell. You will know that asari dokubo always got a point when ever he tweet not like el rufai and oby ezekwesiri

A militant got point, what is wrong with our people in this country? How cum we celebrate failures. Oby was once a world bank leader - a position none of ur family and generation to cum can neva attain.

Use ur head d.ickbrain

Tranquill: Can you read at all?

Please read what? Read tweets from a militanat in the niger delta...someone who shouts war up and down.

U just flow with the subject without using ur head, even if the matter is jargons.

EasternLeopard: Perfect analysis

Northern demons desperate for power even if it cost Buhari his life

U must be an eediot to believe wotever dis guy says.

Can someone please tell this guy to shut up, in a sane society, should someone like Asari Dokubo show face?

Nigeria..breeding and encouraging criminals since 1960!

I though this man performed well, so sad. I hope dis will not 'anger' fifa again.

Effects of hard drugs is wot we see below. FOLKS, DO NOT TAKE DRUGS

emmiej: If El-rufai said this is an assasination attempt on GMB, I therefore suggest that he should look within his own political party -APC, instead of pointing accusing fingers on president GEJ. We are aware of People who are in APC that sees the General as an Obstacle to their Political ambition. Now they want to take advantage of the fact that the General criticised the President and achieve their aim and then blame it on the presidency. Why would Jonathan want Buhari dead? Someone he defeated and PDP are praying earnestly for APC to field him again, because APC fielding him again will guarantee Jonathan a free ride to Aso-Rock. I strongly suspect Buhari's opponents in the APC for the presidential tickets especially that one that his name started with 'K', who thinks he owns 'KAN.......O'. That man is very dangerous. Buhari should be very careful with them....Nigeria should be careful about that man.

ggrin: She dy craze

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omicron: The strike is not baseless, and could have been avoided by the government too. But your opinion is well respected too.

Then i bet u dont know what they are fighting for, welfare and conducive environment is second to claiming superiority among pharmacists, physciologist and nurses..that is what they are fighting for. Go confirm.

Doctors are one of the best paid among govt workers, go see dem @ housemanship levels - most of the even buy cars then, Corpers nko? They pay them more than the others and they also get good posting, we wey do engineering nko?

madridguy: Israel killed more than 600 civilians.
# where_is_Obama ?
(The Nobel piece prize winner,2009)
Israel bombed 79 schools.
# Where_is_Malala_Yousafzai ?
( activist for rights to Child education )
Israel destroyed UN buildings,offices
nd violating human rights.
# Where_is_Ban_Ki_moon ?
( United Nations Secretary-General)
Wot a shame . .
Muslim's Are Called Terrorist
Thee Media as Always is Silent But My
Allah Answer's You Through
Thunderstorm, Rain and Hurricanes . . .
Innumerable Life's And Billions of $
Gone Foreverrrrr . . .
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What are u saying, isrealites are majorly jews, like someone said..use ur brain effectively. So ur god does not speak by itself unless he talk thru u. I shake my @asss 4 u.

omicron: The point is, doctors are still doctors, no matter how much you villify them, at your weakest point, they will still gladly be of help. It's an irony, when we castigate them at the slightest chance, yet they tend us at our hardest times


No one understands the Oath more than the doctor. Yet, everyone deserves their due.

I disagree with u, in as much i respect them..what they are fighting for is basless. The strike is avoidable but they decide to embark on it.

NgeneUkwenu: Aregbesola! LOL. Whoever is contesting against him is wasting his Corn, Rice, Kerosene and Time

Y is Omisore using a FG plated number jeep?

Godmystrength: Maybe TELEVISION.

I tire for the guy o, all his comments/post always end with TV

oba009: The Super Eagles duo were not listed in in the 26-man squad for the tour which was released by Jose Mourinho on Monday. Anglo-Nigerian youngster Dominic Solanke was however named

in the squad along with the newly-signed trio of Cesc Fabregas , Diego Costa and Filipe Luis.

The future of both players at the club has been in doubt in recent times.

Moses was farmed out on loan to Liverpool last season, but following an unsuccessful spell with the Reds and multiplicity of options at Stamford Bridge, his future currently hangs in the balance.

Mikel on the other hand, has been unsettled at the club since the turn of the year having lost his place in the team to Nemanja Matic.

The 27-year-old has already been told to look for new employers, with the club agreeing to lower their asking price.

Source: http://www.nigeriasrenaissance.com/index.php/sports-news/item/43660-mourinho-leaves-mikel-moses-out-of-chelsea-tour-list

Both are on extended break becos of world cup, d same goes for brazilian players.

ednut1: one of the shiitest ever player h seen is mikel obi, slow and sluggish back passer, mr moses go to everton or wba, moses is beta dan salah tho

Salah thinks faster and make use of the ball but Moses is too sluggish, b4 he pass d ball opponent go don recover.

Lobolintin: She was my babe in school then..... I married the former Ogun state governor daughter...happy for her

Wake up.

TV01: Nash dude, how far?

You are late, this is already happening; apart from double barrelled names - which are old hat really - we now have "meshed" (amalgams) names or alternate (father then mother) surnames for the offspring.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/womens-life/9664227/Couples-fuse-surnames-in-new-trend-I-now-pronounce-you-Mr-and-Mrs-Puffin.html
http://www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/advice-support-40/families-relationships-50/881485-gave-your-children-different-surnames-please-help-me-i-have-less-than-24-hours-all.html - (hint marry him you dimwit)

Weak men, over to you.

TV

What is TV?

SeaGold: The way you all rant on nairaland looks like you're all having a perfect life out there. You read a story without taking into cognisance what might have prompted the woman to "act" irrationally rather you spewed your hasty reprimand.

Which woman would want to end a 10 years old marriage without fighting back?

which woman will want to abandon 2 kids or become a single mom in her late 30s?

Who really need a divorce anyway? Not a practising Christian that I know.

Have you taken into cognisance the psychological trauma the kids and family will be subjected to if there is a divorce?

Marriage is a thing of maturity and it requires 2 thinking individuals to be involved in for it to work. Just like in economics we say diminishing returns, marriage has it own fair share of return no matter how hard the partners involved pretend over it. Sometimes it takes the mature one to keep the marriage going and here the wife seems to be the intelligent one trying to sustain it.

Majority of men experience mid-life crisis as in dwindling fortune, peer pressure, inability to accomplish set target, health issues, family challenges etc and it can rub on their emotional and spiritual life thereby threatening their homefront but it will take a mature and intelligent woman to suppress these challenges and be for the man at such trying moments. Yes the man might act irrationally but that's all there is to it. Only a good woman would stand by him no matter the storm and testimony will abound later.

The woman initiated the sex just to have a hold on her dear husband. That was her evidence at the court that she is still in love with the husband and that she is Prepared to whether the storm. She is doing the right thing and I pray dear lord that her husband comes back to his senses.

Not every storm in marriage should make a woman exit like a flashlight.

You know i personally neva tot abt it deeply like dis, God bless u and give u more knowledge, wisdom and understanding.
The poor woman was just trying to hold the marriage together.

Do u know d funniest thing..most women abusing her on nairaland will even do the same thing.

Thank you for this comment, it shows we still have reasonable people in our country.

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Titilayo Adetayo and her two children became destitute overnight. They went from being comfortable occupants of a semi-detached duplex in Lekki, Lagos to squatters at a makeshift shanty in Ibeju-Lekki area of the nation’s commercial capital.

Her fate and that of her kids took a bitter turn because she became bankrupt. Adetayo became a squatter, three days after her husband died of heart attack, because her in-laws threw her out of her home with her two teenage sons.

Adetayo, who relates her ordeal to our correspondent in the apartment she shares with her childhood friend in Ibeju-Lekki, says she has suffered an ordeal which she wishes no other woman experience.

She says,“It was in December 2012. A few days before Christmas, my husband had complained of chest pain before he went to bed. He started gasping for breath around midnight. My brother-in-law and I drove him to the hospital. An hour later, the doctor called him aside and told him that my husband had given up the ghost.

“I collapsed due to shock. So, my sister came to stay with me at the hospital that night. It was around 10am the next day, when my neigbours who had gone to my house to sympathise with me told me they were prevented from entering.

“My sister left to check on the kids in the house. She came back with my children. It was at this point I knew something was wrong. I was told that my brother-in-law, who was living with us then, was searching the house for some documents.”

Instead of empathy or sympathy from her husband’s relatives, Adetayo was served an eviction notice on getting back home.
She adds, “I thought I would meet them in tears. As I came in, I heard my husband’s aunt shouting that I should not be allowed to enter. She said I killed her nephew, their only hope. They said I murdered him in his sleep.

“I tried to fight back, but my brother-in-law held onto my clothes and demanded the keys to the house and the car I drove to the hospital. My sister said I could not give them the keys. Then, his aunt told me that they would not bury my husband, if I did not release the keys to the house and the cars.”
Embracing the reality of the stance of her in-laws, Adetayo, a full-time housewife whose late husband was into real estate, adds, she had to give them the keys, which ultimately led to her eviction from the house.

She says instead of support, what she gets from her husband’s relations, who still believe she has access to some of her husband’s properties, are threats on her life and those of her kids.

But Adetayo’s problem seems to be rooted in the fact that her husband did not leave a Will behind. Although she is the next of kin, she does not have access to necessary documents.
She explains, “My husband did not write any Will. He was young and his death was sudden. We never thought he was going to die at 41.The only property he had was the house we were living in and he would have left it for us, if he knew his relations were going to snatch it from us.”

Adetayo has suffered a typical fate that many widows experience. Based on pressures that usually arise after the husband’s death, many believe that there are too few shoulders for a widow to lean on in Nigeria. According to experts, the challenge of survival, stigmatisation, disinheritance, traditional and social abuse lie ahead of a woman who has lost her loved one in most cultural settings in the country.
Many have been beaten, battered, turned into outlaws and called murderers, just because they lost their pillar of support-their husbands.

The cruelty a woman who has lost her husband passes through in many traditional settings in Nigeria knows no bounds. In some cultures, while the bereaved is still grieving, she is made to perform horrendous rites that would ‘clear’ or ‘establish’ the cause of her husband’s death.

Our correspondent’s interaction with some widows reveals that tradition, and not the law, still rules when it comes to sharing of inheritances in most families in Nigeria. Here are the moving stories of young widows and how they have been coping many years after their husbands died.

‘NEXT OF KIN WORKS JUST ON PAPER’

A next of kin is the person or persons mostly closely related by blood to an individual. It is the relative or relation entitled to share in the personal property of one who dies in intestate.
One of them, Chairperson, Lagos Branch, International Federation of Women Lawyers, Mrs. Ifenyinwa Awagu says these properties may include financial entitlements from the deceased’s place of work, investments and other documented assets.

Unknown to many, a woman is her husband’s next of kin by law. Automatically. Even when the husband states otherwise in some other documents, lawyers say there are provisions under the law that allows her access to his properties and entitlements – once they are legally married.

They note that the constitution ordinarily recognises the fact that a woman and her children should be the husband’s next of kin even when the deceased states otherwise and when there is no Will in place.

However, even in cases where the women were made their husbands’ next of kin, experience still shows that a lot of things still work against widows.
Indeed, widows who spoke to our correspondent say that though they were their husbands’ next of kins, it did not change their circumstances.

According to them, sharp practices by relations force employers to grant entitlements wrong people while bureaucracy at the work place also causes delay.
It was the case for 36-year old Glory Akpan, whose husband, Godwin, an engineer, died after a brief illness in 2009, leaving her with two teenage boys and a girl.
Though she was her husband’s next of kin, she was still denied the total entitlements accrued to her late husband.
According to her, she was accused of killing the man, an offence which, they felt, should naturally disqualified her from accessing his properties.

Akpan says,” My husband was an engineer. He worked with a company in Lagos for more than six years. I was his next-of-kin and his relations knew that because they made inquiries after he died.

“He did not have a Will as he felt there was no need for such yet. He only had a house in the village. We did not think he was going to die even though he was sick for some months before he died.

“After my husband was buried in Ikot Akpan-Itam, Akwa-Ibom State, his relatives told my kids and I not to come and look for them. They took everything, including the house which, I heard, was recently sold by his brothers and demolished by the new buyer. They left us nothing. And they have not asked after us till today.”

Not only was the house taken from her, according to Akpan, further inquiries revealed that her in-laws had gone to her husband’s workplace to get his entitlements.
Akpan says,”I was given N27.492.21 at his place of work. I thought it was too small and started making inquiries. It was later that I found out that my-in-laws who had never come to check on us had gone to his office to get part of his entitlement.

“But my husband appeared to me in a dream and pleaded that I should not take it up with them, since they also did not get the full entitlement as they were not the next of kin too.”
Akpan, who our correspondent encountered at a political meeting in Oshodi, Lagos, where she had come to perform, says she ran an entertainment outfit with her husband before his death and adds that she now sings with her band at events to cater for herself and her three children.

“I have a cultural dance group and we perform at social events. That is what I did with my husband’s support when he was alive and still what I am doing to cater for my kids. Though my children’s education suffered some setbacks, they are still going to school.

“My first child is now seeking admission to tertiary institutions. My second child is in secondary school while the last kid is still in an elementary school. I give glory to God. If not from support from my church, some NGOs and my work it would have been impossible of them to go to school.” she adds.
The fact that 40-year old Abolanle Kasumu is her late husband’s next of kin, has not made it easy for her to get his benefits from his place of work.

Kasumu, a civil servant, explains that her husband, who died at the age of 40, was also working with the Lagos State Government and the process of getting the documents needed to get his entitlement has been tedious.

“My husband did not leave a Will because as a young couple we did not really have much. We were just starting up, but I am his next-of -kin.

“I haven’t collected any entitlement because of the stress of ‘Bring this and that’ by the people in charge and it is taking a long process, but I have handed everything over to God. I believe that at the right time the entitlement will come because I am his next-of-kin.”

On how she has been coping since her husband’s demise, Kasumu, who operates a catering outfit on days off work, says the support from her church, in-laws, family, friends and co-workers has been overwhelming.

She notes, “The issue is that death is what nobody prays for but when it happens you must rise to it. A woman must work. Have a job or vocation to generate income and support the family left behind before people start coming to your aid.
“If not, when a widow starts running around for help, people will see her vulnerability and want to advantage of her. And this also is applicable to every single mother.”

‘SHE KILLED OUR DON FOR MONEY’

Thirty- seven-year-old Abosede Ige was denied her late husband’s inheritance based on allegations that she, among others, killed him. Even though her husband had a booming transport business before his death, things have since gone awry for her.

Not only has the business collapsed, the deceased’s landed properties have been snatched from her family. Unfortunately, the man did not have a Will.

Ige says, “I remember that day vividly. He had asked me to prepare beans and plantain before he went out. Two hours later, his friend called that he had been admitted in the hospital. He was on a wheelchair and he could not talk when I got there. Doctors tried all they could but he died the following day.

“His death was a shock to us. He did not write any Will, but he left some money in the bank .I was able to collect the money as his next of kin, and that was what we had to manage. But the lands were taken from us. My mother-in-law took over everything and almost arrested me for killing her son. It was a lawyer that intervened.

“I was selling food stuffs, but after a year of his death I could not continue because of the upkeep of the home. Things got so bad that we had to pack out of the three-bedroom flat we were living in to a one-room apartment because I could not afford to pay anymore.

“I withdrew three of my kids from private schools to public schools. It was too much for me to bear,” Ige laments.

"DISINHERITANCE AFTER DEATH'

Writing of a Will is still an unpopular practice especially among adults in Nigeria. In fact, the act of having this legal document, which will invariably secure one’s spouses and children’s future should the inevitable happen is seen as prophecy of doom.

Some myths surround creating Wills, as they are at times seen as an open invitation to death while, to some, having a Will is a reserved luxury and privilege for the rich and those with choice properties and assets that could become contentious after their demise.

Stakeholders say that legal battles that ensue after the death of a loved one arise because their spouses had failed to put their house in order. Awagu, says that creating a Will is one of the most critical things married couples can do for their loved ones.

According to her, the contents of a Will is not only binding in court, they are also binding on other legal arms of the society.
She notes that creating a will should not be seen as acknowledging one’s demise but an intelligent move to ensure that one’s possessions end in the right hands.

Awagu states that because of peculiar traditional practices in Nigeria, it is important for adults to actively prepare it.
“Putting your wishes on paper helps your heirs to avoid unnecessary hassles, and you gain the peace of mind knowing that a life’s worth of possessions will end up in the right hands.

“A Will is what your heirs can use to contest or claim property rights in court and otherwise. Many people are even ignorant of this and many more do not have it. Not just men, even women with property do not do it. Even when it’s in place, women in this clime shy away from legal battles.

“I say, ‘Be bold to go to court! There will be no decision to make if you do not go. Even it will take five years, go to court. There are lawyers out there who offer pro bono services to widows. Get a lawyer that is ready to defend you. Let them know it is your constitutional right to take prayers to court. They must listen to you.”

MEN SHOULD PROTECT THEIR SOPUSES – PAT UTOMI

To stop unnecessary harassment and hardship that widows face after the death of their husbands, the founder, Centre for Values in Leadership, Widows Support Centre, Prof. Pat Utomi, says that men must make legal, social and financial preparation that would secure their wives and children’s future.

Utomi notes that the majority of the injustice that women who have lost their husbands experience should be blamed on their husbands.

Utomi says,“We need to talk some sense into men in this country. They need to be educated that their action is what will secure the lives of their children and their wives after they are gone. Men must protect their women. They should be prepared to prevent situations where their wives are battered or dehumanised after they are gone.

“I have had to legally intervene in cases where a man died and his wife and children were locked up over issues of inheritance. We live in an unjust society that continuously hurts women, who form half of the population.

“Marriage is supposed to be between two people who love each other. However, in Nigeria, marriage is between the spouses and their relations and so it is in death too. A man must do what is necessary for his wife. The society, government and the women must champion a strong advocacy to make men prepare for their future and that of their kids. By doing so, we are all securing our future. We have had great men who were trained by widows.”

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