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Siena: I beg to differ. Your family's also your concern, unless you're not close to them.

Like the OP, I too am surprised about the response he got from his sister-in-law. I have asked my sisters-in-law their expected delivery dates, and they've been pretty straight with me. It's not like we're strangers, we're family. My first SIL actually told myself and my sister her EDD, we didn't have to ask. I would feel a bit hurt if I was lied to, and our relationship would definitely have taken a hit.

I suppose it's different with every individual, our families have always been quite close knit, and have shared things without question. My own brothers and sister also knew my wife's EDD, it wasn't a big deal, and my wife didn't feel uncomfortable sharing.

Bizz, I would say it depends on the level of closeness and bonds that exist between yourself and family. Your SIL wasn't straight with you. Simply, she lied. It's the same when the average Nigerian female has three different ages, and will even lie to their own kids how old they are. I've never understood the secretiveness about something as mundane as age, especially when it's your children who wish to know.

SMH.

. I fear O̶̷̩̥̊͡ my bro......definitely the rship has taken A̶̲̥̅ diff turn cos I tot we were that close O̶̷̩̥̊͡.....

chaircover: My dear its a naija thing jare and Ive never understood how so many people declare, bind, cast out and proclaim etc but are still very fearful of simple everyday things.

The other day I was in a shop and a baby was playing on the floor and I caught the eye of the baby and smiled at her and one could actually feel the mothers discomfort. Meanwhile I remember taking my 10 day old baby into Tescos to shop and I cant count the number of people who topped me and were oooiing and ahhhing over the baby.

Like I said, it seems to be a Naija thing, where a woman cant tell her brother-in-law when she is due. My family knew I was pregnant the same day I saw the positive pregnancy test and we all went through those 9 months together. Same with my sisters. oyinbo will even ask you if the pregnancy was planned or an accident lol.

People have miscarriages all the time, ive been there too. It was Gods way of saying Not this one, and that is the way i see it, not because my tennants daughters mothers friend found out that I was pregnant and killed the baby. People should read their bibles more and understand Gods plan for us and not be fearful of everything. . . . and by the way heaven helps those who help themselves is not in the bible!

@poster, dont bother asking them anymore epecially as you dont really have any use for the information anyway.

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greatgod2012: Firstly, its an odd questin to ask, how do you even get to open your mouth and ask such, you must be very bold, thank God those you have asked are not razor-mouthed, if not so, you would have regretted ever asking, so dont ask, except those who tell you themselves without you asking. Your business is with your clients, not your friends or relative.
Secondly, its fear of d unknown, which has to do with d impression of harming/hurting the babies, and i dont blame those women, this is the part of d world where a coin usually have more than two sides, so, its better to be secretive about it, so, dont be angry about it, since you are not their doctors.
May God help us all.

Amen my sister.П̥̥̲̣̣̣oW̶̲̥̅̊? A̶̲̥̅♏ really thinking of D̶̲̥̅̊ question and I guess it seem odd.I will try not to ask outside D̶̲̥̅̊ hospital again except my wife.°•··♡·♥τнänκs♥·♡·•° A̶̲̥̅ lot

ferhyntorlah: Poster, you can't blame them. This is Nigeria, anything can happen. They only want to be on the safe side. Haven't you heard of some women being pregnant for 1year before delivery?

I remember in my final year, a coursemate of mine got pregnancy and when some of us asked her the EDD, she politely told us that she couldn't say it because it wasn't appropriate due to tradition or something like it.

Even my mom never discussed her EDD with anyone. She said the only people who knew were her doctor, my dad and herself.

You can't trust anyone; this is pregnancy we are talking about especially in this part of the world where PHD and jazz abound.

The whites aren't like that because their way of life and doing things are different from ours.

So, don't bother asking your pregnant friends and relatives their EDD. You should only be concerned about the EDD of your patients.

. Чε̲̣̣̣̥a̶̲̥̅̊ђ I guess I won't be askin dat again.I just tot since we were family it was kα̲̅γ̲̣̣̥.really surprised tho

armyofone: OP, you forgot the superS side of your sister and married ex. . . you know not wanting to tell the delivery date so people don't winch the unborn baby .

I have heard of some nigerians who refused to let others/friends know they are pregnant until after the baby is born. No discussion abt the baby or gift
Pregnancy is hush hush.
From day 1, our oyinbo people will make noise/plan baby shower and refer to the unborn baby by name. Ricky is kicking, Sandy don't like hot room or broccolli so I get heartburn etc

So next time you see a pregnant lady, don't ask questions. Just do as I do, smile that oyinbo smile, folding your upper and lower lips.

. N̶̲̥̅̊ they want gifts....anyway °•··♡·♥τнänκs♥·♡·•°

ileobatojo: Is that exactly the way you ask the question? "What's your expected day of delivery"? Is it an attempt to show off your medical terminology skills or do you have a touch of Asperger's? I'm sorry to seem a bit harsh but it is such an odd question to ask when you're not their doctor, especially coming from a guy.

Women in Nigeria are pretty secretive about their pregnancy. Same thing with health concerns in general, people don't go around publicizing this info. They mostly only give out information on a need to know basis. It still feels weird to me when I see my white friends on facebook chronicling every part of their pregnancy complete with pictures and ultrasounds all the way to the end. Many will announce their pregnancy the minute they see 2 blue lines on the stick. So far, I haven't seen a single Nigerian do the same, it's when you start seeing "congratulations" that people will know they were pregnant. Except for close family and friends and those that get to see them.

woww °•··♡·♥τнänκs♥·♡·•° .....not dat A̶̲̥̅♏ showin off but I just ask to know

I A̶̲̥̅♏ A̶̲̥̅ medical student (almost through) and I see women of all sorts in D̶̲̥̅̊ hospital.I ask them questions(normal check up questions) and they give me right answers but A̶̲̥̅♏ surprised at D̶̲̥̅̊ attitude displayed bƔ my sister in-law and my married ex.
I saw my ex wen she was pregnant and during our discussion I asked abt her expected date and she just didn't sound thesame.kα̲̅γ̲̣̣̥ I felt she just wasn't in D̶̲̥̅̊ moodm
My sister in-law just delivered some days back and I remembered asking her same question and she told me dec.
Pls I need to k̲̣̣̣̥n̶̲̥̅̊ø̲̣̣w̶̲̥̅̊ if I A̶̲̥̅♏ asking D̶̲̥̅̊ wrong question or A̶̲̥̅♏ just not suppose to ask that outside the hospital

devour129: God forbids ! am a lady but i hate to see a man lowered to a position of a maid accept he is a maid.mi first boyfriend i left to marry mi hubby(yes av only dated two guys and married one )is because of this.the guy wants to cook,clean and even wash mi pant and it really irritated me .i wasn't brought up that way so it was so strange i thought the guy was possessed.MY MAN SHOULD MAN UP,HE DOESN'T HAVE TO CLEAN AND COOK TO SHOW LOVE EXCEPT WHEN HE WANTS TO.I WORK AND TAKE CARE OF MI HOME AND I TAKE IT AS MI RIGHT.EVERYTHING FROM CLEANING,TAKING CARE OF MY KIDS AND COOKING IS MINE TO DO AND THE SECRET LADIES IS THAT WAY,HE WANTS TO HELP OFTEN COS HE WANTS TO BE PART OF THE HOME MAKING ! IF YOU CANT DO IT ALL GET A HOUSE- HELP,COOK,DRIVER ETC IF YOU CAN AFFORD BUT PLEASE DON'T FORCE THE GUY TO DO IT.ME PERSONALLY I HATE WEAK MEN(bring on the bashing,i wont be coming back to this page to read it )

. Ur hubby must be A̶̲̥̅ lucky man.....

loswhite: wats is there to carry your own child in d middle of night n y do you hav to think dat ur father did dat because he wants to reduce stress frm ur mum pls 4 ur info men luv their kids n they won't mind bathing or dressing them but what we hate its when u start saying I will cook today n 2 Moro will be ur turn dats wat is annoying .4. Ladies if u want ur husband to help tell him politely n jokingly trust me he will gladly do more than wat u ask.
But 4 those ladies dat cums to nairaland n say I work n he works so there 4 we must share d domestic works I tink is not abt d work but more of competition which is bad 4 relationship

. Gbam....nice one

Boss13: One thing I understand from this thread is that all the married women who pretend to be married are all blessed with wonderful husbands. Hmmm I thank God for them and I pray it continues like that throughout the marriage. Women please know that men are ego-centric. Women should study the behavior of a male lion - never does anything but sleeps. Yet he commands the respect of the pride and the lioness never disrespects him. Women nothing is more insulting than when you tell your man that this is 21st century (to either backup an action or an argument).

. U̶̲̥̅̊ r so so damn right..

JallowBah: He works, I works.
He pays, I pay ( house, food, bills. )
I buy my own beauty-things with my own money, he buys whatever he needs with his money.
I clean, he clean.
I cook, he cook.
I get up with the kid in the night, so does he. ( After breastfeeding stopped.. )

And for me, that is how I want it. I do not wish to go to my husband and ask for money for clothes, shoes, or a coffee for that matter. And I do not wish to put the whole responsibility for bills on him either.

. I k̲̣̣̣̥n̶̲̥̅̊ø̲̣̣w̶̲̥̅̊ U̶̲̥̅̊ have A̶̲̥̅ nice heart but sincerely if U̶̲̥̅ want him to do all U̶̲̥̅̊ do....there is goin to be A̶̲̥̅ prob somday.my advice....just let him help the way he can.

°•··♡·♥τнänκs♥·♡·•° .....really informative

He is like A̶̲̥̅ fada to her. For me their issue is strictly theirs to settle n̶̲̥̅̊ if she feels ♓A̶̲̥̅ƿƿƔ being wit him....then G̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡ for it....smiles

Naija is turning to somtin else.well I tink somtin went wrong along D̶̲̥̅̊ way,father prof,sons dropouts?

Appreciation....He has made A̶̲̥̅ difference.All °•··♡·♥τнänκs♥·♡·•° to God

Jonaaa is on top of this..

We all k̲̣̣̣̥n̶̲̥̅̊ø̲̣̣w̶̲̥̅̊ where dis whole stuff wil end.....

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So what would u have them do....at least for a start

We should worry ourselves more about what will happen when a political party is running d government solely.i think we will see d highest form of corruption.gush..... Are these guys thinking at all

I am f**kin ha nxt.go on fitin....ha ha

I am just curious.dont u have a bf at d moment.

Atheists: I am an atheist and l don't believe in any Nigerian witch doctors, oops l meant 'man of God', but l will come to the rescue of Tuberculosis Joshua. No Zimbabwean pastor has blacklisted him. Tuberculosis Joshua is an ally of the main opposition leader in Zimbabwe and he is the one who invited him to the country for a prayer meeting. The ruling party headed by President Mugabe is afraid that his rally - I meant prayer meeting - will attract hundreds of thousands and sow seeds against the President and his ruling party. So the state run and anti-opposition newspaper called the Herald has taken upon itself to spread propaganda that Tuberculosis Joshua is not welcome in Zimbabwe. That is far from the truth. The Zimbabwean populace is very religious and want the 'man of God' to pay them a courtesy call.

It is also of paramount importance to note that the other reason they do not want Tuberculosis Joshua in Zimbabwe is because he predicated the death of Mugabe's only remaining ally in the SADC (Southern Africa Development Committee )region. I am talking about the recently deceased President of Malawi.

In a nutshell, this has nothing to do with religion. It is all politics.


Btw, l am Zimbabwean journalist and l recently wrote a column about the whole TB Joshua Saga in Zimbabwe. I won't post the link here because my family doesn't know l am atheist plus l don't want you guys to know my real identity.

then u must be a silly journalist.u r not professional at all.dont u know his name.why call him that.its unfair.u r supposed to make rational decisions.how would u feel if people started calling u bad names because u do what u know how to do.get professional my friend

justwise: Its obvious that this is fake, watch the video carefully you will see that the couple were just there to be used.

Story about passport and visa that did not add-up, the man who claimed to have gone for the passport could not remember a thing while T.B.J seems to know about the whole story, suddenly the wife is possessed by spiritual husband and freed.

Joke.

God forgive u

Ptolomeus: Expelled from Cameroon and now in Zimbabwe ... coincidence? Jealousy?
Joshua calls himself a "prophet" and says he is inspired by God ...
With this "alleged divine inspiration" Joshua predicted sports results (something ridiculous, inappropriate for anyone who claims to be profveeta of God). It is unethical for a true prophet, that kind of crap vaticine on behalf of God.
But let another subject even more serious.
In January 2012 Joshua told the world that if Argentina was president underwent surgery, she would die.
Joshua's word is despised around the world ... he does not exist as a prophet, even as a circus clown, so the president of Argentina underwent surgery, and the result was magnificent. Today, five months after surgery, the president of Argentina has a great health!
Joshua believed that thanks to the great distance that exists with Argentina, his "prophecy" would be forgotten, and his terrible mistake would be concealed. But here I estoyu, denouncing the fact that nobody can deny. Joshua falsely announced the death of a person. There are many more examples.
Such a fraud, it can be called "prophet"? That is an insult to the prophets.
It can be said that Joshua is inspired by God? That's a lot to underestimate God (heresy).
Cameroon and Zimbabwe begin the list, many other countries will drive out the fraud. It is a matter of jealousy.
Cameroon Bravo! Bravo Zimbabwe!

may God forgive you.do not lie against the prophet.i do not think it was in january if said it.post the link to butress ur points.JESUS christ faced persecution,rejection etc while on earth.who is joshua not to.i pray God strengthens his weakness and make him reach more men and women around the world.

U romance ur gf friend in d kitchen while ur gf is washing ur clothes outside....God is watching u

dsenator: it is not debatable that pastor tb joshua is the most criticized pastor we've had in nigeria at least in the last 10 to 15 years and the question i ask myself is upon all the namecalling,slander and other negative comments about this guy he has kept waxing stronger and stronger.Sincerely speaking,when it comes to spiritual healing,synagogue is the place you will see a whole lot and this man does not collect a dime from people.people should know that if you are a good preacher of the word of God nobody will ever look at your side in condemnation so also if you are a good teacher but the moment you have that uncommon gift of healing,tongues will start wagging as per the source of the power.it even happened to our lord jesus christ when some alleged he was using the power of belzeebub.where are the "genuine" men of God that can not do one tenth of what the Lord is using this man to do,does it mean the powers from satan are greater than the ones from God?.If you are a man of God and everybody accepts you wholeheartedly then you have to check yourself as more than 95% of the true men of God in the bible faced one persecution or the other.We go to churches where people are being slapped and people come up with excuses for it,we go to churches where they sulk us dry without gaining anything in return and we don't condemn our pastors this man i learnt is in the process of establishing a university where the brilliant children of the less privileged will be attending at no cost at all whereas we know how much our children pay in some other universities established by other men of God where some non christians even have their children whereas some of the offering and tithe paying foundation members of such churches can not send their children because they can not afford it.This man does not need to associate with any faith for people to patronise him with this power he's endowed with.I am a member of a church where my pastor even condemns this man but as an educated man nobody can impose his thoughts on another person.Division in christianity has brought a whole lot of problems to this country and the earlier we do away with it the better its going to be for all of us.pls nigerians allow TB joshua to be and on the day of judgement we shall know who is who.GOD BLESS NIGERIA

u r wise my friend.we better learn to appreciate God's blessings in our daily life.

[quote author=S@NNiE]The Cameroonian government has blacklisted Prophet Temitope Balogun Joshua of the Synagogue Church of All Nations, saying that he is an agent of satan hoodwinking unsuspecting members of the public with “diabolical miracles”.

Cameroon Foreign Affairs Minister, Mr. Henri Eyebe Ayissi, in an official communiqué he issued titled: “The Devil Is In the House”, described T.B. Joshua as a “son of the devil” pretending to be “a man of God.”

The minister warned hundreds of Cameroonians, trooping to Lagos, South West Nigeria, for miracles in Joshua’s church, to desist from taking the trip or face the consequences, as the country will not stand by them.

The communiqué written in French read in part: “The Ministry of Foreign Affairs warns those who by naivety or deception of Emmanuel TV’s captivating images, or even those who by hopelessness, envisage taking the pilgrimage to Pastor T.B. Joshua’s Synagogue Church Of All Nations in Lagos, that they will do so at their own risk.

“The Cameroonian Government warns these pilgrims that they will face the consequences alone. This is motivated by the painful and shameful fact that Cameroonian men and women, in search of deliverance and blessings, once in that church, find themselves in bestial and pitiable conditions.

“Women are raped; pilgrims dispossessed of their belongings by armed robbers and left to sleep on the streets at the mercy of gangs. Many cases of assassinations have even been recorded. And this is without other cases that are not recorded at the Cameroonian Embassy in Lagos with the victims too ashamed to narrate their infernal odysseys once they are out of Hell,” the minister said.

The minister said that while the bible asks us to be discreet with gifts and donations to the poor, T.B. Joshua is seen daily dolling out bags of rice to indigent people.

It was learnt that hundreds of Cameroonians who sold their properties or borrowed money in the hope of getting miracles in T.B. Joshua’s Church, only got disappointed in Lagos.

It was also reported that Prophet TB Joshua’s TV station has gained popularity in Cameroon and many people are tempted to take the trip and receive healings and sudden blessings. It says that Joshua is now in many households in Cameroon and many people believe the flashy images they watch on television.

http://www.leadership.ng/nga/articles/23915/2012/05/07/tb_joshua_officially_banned_cameroun.html[/quote]u should have ur head examined.why didnt u add the date so people will know.this is old news and its not funny.go get something new.

are u ok at all.d fact that u can write anything does not mean u can give us fake news deliberately.last week you posted an unverified news here.what is ur problem self.this is really really old news.dont u have anything new to say.if u continue like this i will likely remove this site from my bookmarks.please i employ everyone to verify news read on this site cos i will not believe anything i read here again because this site is becoming something else