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pls what is going on here?

hello peeps, if dis happened to you what would you do?

i was in a relationship with this guy, and like every relationship we have had our fair share of ups and downs,
but for some reasons issues surrounding his previous relationships came up! and he has been too economical with the truth about this.

one my way to his house very late at night i found him leaving his street with this very girl, didnt know she was the one at that time cos he denied and said she was just a friend!, he later accepted and said he was going to tell me sometime later so i dont feel hurt.

anyways some weeks ago i happened to stumble on pics of him kissing the same girl on fb!, these pics were taken while i was dating him, first i thot of confronting him with the pics but decided not to,
i sent him a msg to let him know how dishonest and deceitful he has been, but never mentioned the pics i saw to him. though it hurts, i hv severed the relationship and focusing on taking my life a step ahead and being happy,

what do you all think? should i hv let him know i was aware of his deeds, also some friends adviced i shldnt have given up on him just too soon, but i cant stand deceit especially with issues of the heart.

Like some candid opinion please

hmmmmm _{sigh of relief}! for once NLers have spoken reasonably,  i actually ask because i am dating a guy who will turn 27 this year, we have been dating for almost a year but he still leaves with his eldest sis in a rented apartment. now his sis will be moving to her own house by January next year and i asked my bf if he will be getting his own place or moving wt her, he says he will move wt her!
he just started working this year, tho his salary isnt much, i just felt he cld at least set a target for himself, was just wondering

hmmmm

Hello guys, i need u to help me clear my doubts on this issue, At what age should a guy attain independence?

@Poster.
in my candid opinion, if i know my boyfriend is going to spend 75% of his LIFE SAVINGS on air ticket i would not approve of it! HOHA!
what the hell! and if my mathematics are good if 75% of ur life savings= air ticket from USA then u do not have much!
u guys should be real to urselves! u have been dating for 5years now so u should be able to tell urselves some basic truth!
if she buys her ticket with 75%, then she comes home, u have to take care of her, give her trips and all abi? when shes going back, u will buy her stuffs abi? and u want to engage her abi? money for the engagement ring nko?
then when shes back in yankee u will be left with 10%? HABA!

i understand u love ur gf but be calculative bro! what is urs is urs!!

hmmmm. hope they dont sack him. didnt watch the show, but people should know their onions in in watever field they find themselves in.

Kill urself, then u wont be disturbed abt having the baby

i lost my BB storm II , wish it comes back

@omega, its not like my mum is enjoying it, her eldest bro has asked her to leave and that he wld not be alive to see his sis suffer in anymans hand.
, but my mum said she cant afford to leave her matrimonial home especially as her children are still in school,
if she leaves and another woman comes in, things will never be the same for us,
and its not like she doesnt hv an income, but we all go to private schools, she wont be able to handle it on her own,

@sayso, what is ur definition of stubborn, when a man treats his wife as secondary to anyother thing and she complians about it does that make her stubborn? or when she has a son that disrespects her and she complain to her husband does that mean she is stubborn? i bet u do not blv in hitting women or disrespecting them do u?

@Falajuro yes she was and still is. but how does that relate to the issue at hand?

correction:
"i was shocked when i heard this. i had to call from school, and i told him point blank that my mum is not obliged to take care of his mum when her daughter was alive and kicking, and she doesnt owe my aunty any thank u for taking car of her own mother"

thanks guys, i am 23 a female. and i hv an elder bro as well. its rather painful that my bro supports my dad. he direspects her totally. i know my mum is not a saint. she has her own flaws, but i personally blve that any man that lays he's hands on a lady is such a looser, no matter how much he has achieved.

the recent incident b4 i left home was 2 months ago when my grand mum died. my grand mum was previously living with my dads sister is onitsha. he said in the five years she was there my mum never took care of his mum. when she died, he asked my mum to call his sis and tell her thanks for taking care of their mum

i was shocked when i heard this. i had to call from school, and i told him point blank that my mum is not obliged to take care of his step mum when her daughter was alive and kicking, and she doesnt owe my aunty any thank u for taking car of her own mother.

he send my aunt more than 50k a month for grands ma's upkeep and never give my mum money, she has to beg for anyone he gives her. i told him that was not fair and he said that he put her in a job that thats his own way of helping her, that was the shock of my life.

he picks offence at the slightest thing, anytime there is a pro in the house his sis will be the first to hear. they do things without involving my mum. no one regards her in the family. i guess he uses this a punishment for my mum anytime he offends her, the other day she had to go for scan after a fresh round of beating of which he refused her money to see a doctor.
the last time i tried to speak to him he hung up on me telling me that my mum has indroctrinated me and i mam taking sides.

the truth is dat i am trying my best but its like nothing is gettin better, no matter how anyone blackmails my mum she is still my mother and i dont want anything to happen to her.

pls advice me on how to handle this

my house is always on fire wt quarells, my parents still fight till 2moro, he still beats her no one seems to listen to advice, they hv been married for over 20 yrs and the kind of things that make them fight is amazing. they are not setting good examples for us

please how do i handle this