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honimun007:
pls pls pls,do not marry her cos u feel pressured to cos u might later regret it.the fact that she says u can both manage ur incomes,does not mean that tomorrow financial issues will not arise. and trust me ,bro,there is nothing as frustrating as you not been able to have a say as a man in your house cos of your financial status. unless,u want to take a goose chase and be optimistic that in the future,u are going to get a better job. bro wise up

I don't feel pressured in anyway. before a reasonable man will date a girl of marriageable age for more than 2 years, he has to have plans to.settle down. How do you expect me to open my mouth and tell her to marry someone else when am the one that delayed her for this long.. is if fair at all. I will feel very bad if I can't keep my promise to her. she has gone through a lot for me and the last thing I want to happen is to see her marry a man who will treat her badly just because she married him out of desperation. she has every reason to be worried. she is a woman.

IamOpemipo:
U know I had to log in to like ya comment, so impressive. Can I buy u a drink?

it is not as easy as you think. I made her a promise 3 years ago.that we will get married and now I can't meet up with it. I feel bad,I last thing I will want to happen is for me not to keep.that promise.

maxwell60:
you are talking as if marriage is by force or compulsory.I most tell u bro your advice is the most stupid advice I have read concerning this issue so far only a fool will take it.

na wa oo

Luizkid:
u should understand where she's coming from and sinx she's supportive i suggest u guys plan a low key marriage. its not easy for a girl to choose u over rich suitors, she believes in happiness with u. But make sure u guys are ready b4 d kids stats coming

thank you for the advice

EastGold:
There is no seriousness in you

how do you mean?

youngest85:
Person go deh worry hmsef coz of kpekus weh full everywhr.......

hmmm, this is more than just kpekus ooo , after investing in a relationship for almost 3 years, everyone knows you and her, we are use to each other, its more than kpekus my dear.

Blessedward:
please assume you are the lady..will u b able wait that long at 29 when suitors are trooping in??
she has told u she will remain with u regardless of ur income becos she loves and believes in u but it seems u want to personally oversee the wrecking of the ship u are boarded...if u are destined to be rich u can't evade that as long as u remain faithful to her.

hmmmm,so what should i do

ayogabriel:
It's no big deal for a lady to be the bread winner, the questions I think you should be asking is, who ll foot the wedding bill if you both eventually agree, will it be both of you secret? Will her family be okay with that, so you are married now, if you remain in your status say for 1 more year God forbid or 2, will her attitude change, will she continue to be supportive? Among others though.

i believe she will be supportive. she has not changed. it is actually her wish we get married now than wait till a better job comes except i want to loose her. we wont have kids till when we are ready.

Billyonaire:
You are not financially stable but the fact that both of you have survived togetger means its possible to live together. But where will the bride price and wedding expenses come from ?

Will your present residence be okay for you guys after marriage ?

What about kids ? Will you hold on to that after marriage ?

These are real questions demanding real answers. And the answers will determine if you can go ahead.

I wont recommend anything. But truth is...marriage without solid financial footing is suicidal.

she suggested not having kids till after 1 or 2 years just to give me time to sought out myself. As for the wedding, i can afford a small wedding and my parents will support me. its just the monthly income am looking at.

Please I Need Advice From Real Men And Sensible Ladies On This Issue


My girlfriend of 2 years is about to leave me. the signs are everywhere. i am not financially stable for now but i love her so much. my income is small(30k) a month and i am planning seriously to get a better job before settling down.

She is 29 and already worried because she has a very good paying job and a lot of pressure is coming for her to settle down. family and friends are worried why she is still single and alot of other guys have been coming for her. a read a chat with her and her friend on her phone one time and the friend was telling her to leave me for another rich dude.

She has been very patient with me but its like her patience is running out since she is getting close to 30. she said she is ready to marry me the way i am that we will manage our income together till i get a better job since her income is better. she also said some families dont even earn half of what she earns and they are fine, she said she cant wait for me anymore that she wants to settle down but am scared because i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man. should i go ahead and marry as she suggest since she has a good job or i should beg her to be patient till i find another job so i can be a better husband. i dont want to loose her, i believe she is my wife and i told her from the first day i met her. pls how can i handle the situation. matured advice please.
NB. we met during nysc and she was lucky to get a very good job before me

my girlfriend of 2 years is about to leave me. the signs are everywhere. i am not financially stable for now but i love her so much. my income is small(30k) a month and i am planning seriously to get a better job before settling down. she is 29 and already worried because she has a very good paying job and a lot of pressure is coming for her to settle down. family and friends are worried why she is still single and alot of other guys have been coming for her. a read a chat with her and her friend on her phone one time and the friend was telling her to leave me for another rich dude. she has been very patient with me but its like her patience is running out since she is getting close to 30. she said she is ready to marry me the way i am that we will manage our income together till i get a better job since her income is better. she also said some families dont even earn half of what she earns and they are fine, she said she cant wait for me anymore that she wants to settle down but am scared because i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man. should i go ahead and marry as she suggest since she has a good job or i should beg her to be patient till i find another job so i can be a better husband. i dont want to loose her, i believe she is my wife and i told her from the first day i met her. pls how can i handle the situation. matured advice please.
NB. we met during nysc and she was lucky to get a very good job before me