Billyonaire:
You are not financially stable but the fact that both of you have survived togetger means its possible to live together. But where will the bride price and wedding expenses come from ?

Will your present residence be okay for you guys after marriage ?

What about kids ? Will you hold on to that after marriage ?

These are real questions demanding real answers. And the answers will determine if you can go ahead.

I wont recommend anything. But truth is...marriage without solid financial footing is suicidal.

ayogabriel:
It's no big deal for a lady to be the bread winner, the questions I think you should be asking is, who ll foot the wedding bill if you both eventually agree, will it be both of you secret? Will her family be okay with that, so you are married now, if you remain in your status say for 1 more year God forbid or 2, will her attitude change, will she continue to be supportive? Among others though.

blackboot:



she suggested not having kids till after 1 or 2 years just to give me time to sought out myself. As for the wedding, i can afford a small wedding and my parents will support me. its just the monthly income am looking at.

Luizkid:
u should understand where she's coming from and sinx she's supportive i suggest u guys plan a low key marriage. its not easy for a girl to choose u over rich suitors, she believes in happiness with u. But make sure u guys are ready b4 d kids stats coming

blackboot:


i believe she will be supportive. she has not changed. it is actually her wish we get married now than wait till a better job comes except i want to loose her. we wont have kids till when we are ready.

blackboot:


thank you for the advice

blackboot:
my girlfriend of 2 years is about to leave me. the signs are everywhere. i am not financially stable for now but i love her so much. my income is small(30k) a month and i am planning seriously to get a better job before settling down. she is 29 and already worried because she has a very good paying job and a lot of pressure is coming for her to settle down. family and friends are worried why she is still single and alot of other guys have been coming for her. a read a chat with her and her friend on her phone one time and the friend was telling her to leave me for another rich dude. she has been very patient with me but its like her patience is running out since she is getting close to 30. she said she is ready to marry me the way i am that we will manage our income together till i get a better job since her income is better. she also said some families dont even earn half of what she earns and they are fine, she said she cant wait for me anymore that she wants to settle down but am scared because i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man. should i go ahead and marry as she suggest since she has a good job or i should beg her to be patient till i find another job so i can be a better husband. i dont want to loose her, i believe she is my wife and i told her from the first day i met her. pls how can i handle the situation. matured advice please.
NB. we met during nysc and she was lucky to get a very good job before me

Billyonaire:
Then go ahead. I spent 10yrs with my lady supporting each other. We worked from nothing and built an empire and got married. Dont rush about kids until you have not just money but emotional balance to raise kids.

lofty900:
A 29 year old woman is not my dream

Omotayor123:
I think she really love you. And since she is willing to accept you the way you are and settle with you. I think you should give you a shot.

The Love you have for each other will help you scale through.

blackboot:



she suggested not having kids till after 1 or 2 years just to give me time to sought out myself. As for the wedding, i can afford a small wedding and my parents will support me. its just the monthly income am looking at.

blackboot:
my girlfriend of 2 years is about to leave me. the signs are everywhere. i am not financially stable for now but i love her so much. my income is small(30k) a month and i am planning seriously to get a better job before settling down. she is 29 and already worried because she has a very good paying job and a lot of pressure is coming for her to settle down. family and friends are worried why she is still single and alot of other guys have been coming for her. a read a chat with her and her friend on her phone one time and the friend was telling her to leave me for another rich dude. she has been very patient with me but its like her patience is running out since she is getting close to 30. she said she is ready to marry me the way i am that we will manage our income together till i get a better job since her income is better. she also said some families dont even earn half of what she earns and they are fine, she said she cant wait for me anymore that she wants to settle down but am scared because i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man. should i go ahead and marry as she suggest since she has a good job or i should beg her to be patient till i find another job so i can be a better husband. i dont want to loose her, i believe she is my wife and i told her from the first day i met her. pls how can i handle the situation. matured advice please.
NB. we met during nysc and she was lucky to get a very good job before me