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Oyindamolah:
* A girl who is with you only for money is not your girlfriend.
* You don’t love her desperately but fear that you will never get someone as good as her, if not better.

Few other points

-There is no such thing as unconditional love. Every friendship or love has at least 20% selfishness to begin with. In Fact we start with almost 80% selfishness. You want to Bleep that beautiful girl and she want to enjoy your company, status, knowledge or maybe money.
-True love takes time. It takes lot of sincere small moments of tender love and care for anyone to become your soulmate. But yes if that girl is gold digger even after a long time (maybe six months), then you must also treat her like a LovePeddler.

Remedy

Just leave that girl for 30 days. Your time starts now. Be brave. Tell her that you think it not working and you want to rethink about relationship. Tell her that you want to be her friend always.

Watch her reaction. Analyse her social media activities, see whether she contacts you ever on her own (on any pretext). Try to find whether she has any grain of love for you.

If she become sa bit restless, a bit unorganised, a bit off balance, you got your answer. If not, you can convince yourself to leave her forever.

Most Important Rule : You are not going to contact her ever in this 1 month rule, neither directly nor indirectly. You are only allowed to respond briefly in a ‘friendly’ way.

Sometimes people do love us but don’t realise themselves. They only value us when they lose us completely. Tests are designed to check love. Don’t get obsessed and start using her emotions. Mind games are like games. They are not war. You never kill in a game, in a war, yes you do.

Everything is fair in love and war but war is not fair in love.

If this is actually coming from a lady, you should wait and sit back and see those ladies that would come after you for saying this.

Don't be swayed cos I said this. Please kindly come out and attack her, don't dare hide.

Guys, I always tell my friends and other guys around me that giving when it comes to ladies you have interest in should be willing. Giving to ladies ( even if you are a cheerful giver) should not be to impress or thinking you can win her heart with that because its set some tunes to ladies especially the materialistic ones.


Every guy seeking a relationship owes no lady any dime. The only lady a guy is responsible for is his wife not any girlfriend. Helping a girlfriend should be at the guys discretion and free will.

I as a person can never tolerate a girl with this ENTITLEMENT MENTALITY, thinking once you show interest in them or keen on a relationship, they are now your responsibility, No! Until you are married, you and your parents/guardian should be responsible for yourself.

Its time guys wake up and stop promoting this mentality in majority of our ladies and stop polluting the society.

Asking a lady out is the expected norms in our society which I am against and of the opinion that since emotion does not choose gender before setting in place ( the guy can be attracted first or the lady first) both parties should be able to express freely without any discrimination from the society.

Since a relationship involves both parties benefiting, the ladies should please stop giving the impression of doing the guy a favour by dating him therefore manipulating his feelings by providing for their needs.

Ask a lady out and she is not interested, take a walk. Before you get down the road you will meet more ladies. Don't be desperate so as to avoid stories that touch or giving them an excuse for exploiting you.

Guys please stop. Once she is telling you there are guys out there willingly to do whatever she asks for, have a second thought because she is planing on manipulating you, getting control of the relationship and making you see her as a trophy. I once asked a lady of this thought " can you date yourself" she was quite dumb for a while and started saying nonsense.



Ladies you are not doing us a favour by dating us. We are both doing each other favours which should be mutual.

Mind you, most of this material girls offers nothing in the relationship except sex, nothing else and they expect you to show them you love them buy giving money and buying things they can't afford. Sex for money is an illegal profession which shouldn't be incorporated into our relationships.

Lamanii22:
A boyfriend has to be a giver.... What's now the essence of dating you when you cannot even give... You'd find somebody better my dear...

Run from this type of ladies.