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This is one of the reasons i laugh at the igbos when they think they are all too smart and the yorubas are stupid. More than 50% of their investment lies here in lagos while their beloved oil rich nation is floating with spill oil from exploitation. Think of the future not the present. So you people will dig up all your investment back to south once the war happens. You believe in the oil that the world is gradually neglecting to sustain your biafra abi.
Smart people indeed

I will advice you to just be yourself. That is the best you can do for yourself and him. You dont need to put on an act, you just need your discretion to handle him.

Spy360:
What changed in the midfield?

You saw his post about an attacking midfielder.

If we are to analyze the impact on the new midfield prior to the old one on our defense, we should check the numbers of shot targeted against us. if it has now reduced then we can say the midfield setup or probably the midfielders are really doing a good job but it is still in the same range we concede shot at us then the credit goes to the defenders or defence set up.

about the gab issue, i think he is saying his signing didnt have much influence on the defense because we still had the same midfield. He is saying the moment the midfield chnaged, it affected and complemented the defence. he is just saying even with ramos and vvd as how cbs we would still chop in goals.

Misslilbootay:
I am not a virgin because the guy I dated before made it seem like sex was the only thing that could keep him.
Unfortunately, that is another story of its own.


Recently, a friend of mine came and asked me if sex was necessary to keep a relationship. She told me the guy has given her everything she needed in a man but he couldn't stop asking for sex. She said that she wasn't ready to compromise her faith that premarital sex was a sin but she didn't want to lose this guy as he felt that her refusal to have sex with him meant she didn't love him.

The question I'm throwing now is
1. Can a man stay without sex in a relationship and wait till she is ready. (As in this case, she wants to wait till she is married)
2. Why is sex so important to men in a relationship? Do they see it as reciprocating of love especially when they spend heavily on the lady?
3. Also, most men wants a decent lady. Here is a lady who wants to keep herself for her husband but the boyfriend sees it as she manipulating him. Since you guys want a lady that isn't a borehole, why do you demand for sex when you are not sure if it will work out?

Your intelligent opinions will be appreciated.

if you want to keep yourself until marriage. Dont go into relationships until you are very certain you want to fiance.

Misslilbootay:
I am not a virgin because the guy I dated before made it seem like sex was the only thing that could keep him.
Unfortunately, that is another story of its own.


Recently, a friend of mine came and asked me if sex was necessary to keep a relationship. She told me the guy has given her everything she needed in a man but he couldn't stop asking for sex. She said that she wasn't ready to compromise her faith that premarital sex was a sin but she didn't want to lose this guy as he felt that her refusal to have sex with him meant she didn't love him.

The question I'm throwing now is
1. Can a man stay without sex in a relationship and wait till she is ready. (As in this case, she wants to wait till she is married)
2. Why is sex so important to men in a relationship? Do they see it as reciprocating of love especially when they spend heavily on the lady?
3. Also, most men wants a decent lady. Here is a lady who wants to keep herself for her husband but the boyfriend sees it as she manipulating him. Since you guys want a lady that isn't a borehole, why do you demand for sex when you are not sure if it will work out?

Your intelligent opinions will be appreciated.

if you wabt

[quote author=faithugo64 post=96615046]Try to have a heart to heart talk with her. Let her understand that the family can not shoulder the financial responsibility of another baby. Be polite and gentle with her. Let her feel that your decision is in the best interest of the family.

If after explaining to her and she is still being stubborn, you might want to involve someone that she listens to (can be her mum or a mentor).
May peace reign in your home. [/quoId

If i as her husband talked to her the best understanding way i could and she is still hell bent, i can grace either of her parent with the option of talking . But if someone else outside those two does talk to her and she finally listened. I need to reveiw my marriage. Who the hell is the mentor or whoever?

obembet:
Then u should have Bleep ur mother too. Animal

Ladies like you are the reason we men have a bad impression about you ladies. Your sense of reasoning is so absurd i feel why on earth would you have a phone in the first place talkess of a social media account. I am very sure the only thing you orfer in the relationships you must have had is that dugged up hole between your legs because that was the only thing you could think of in what could have been returned to her. That once glorified hole you regard highly have been value depreciating and will conitinously be so dont bank on it to secure you a commited relationshop.

Bkayyy:
I don't know about your own culture but in Igbo customs, once you break up with a girl whatever is left with her automatically becomes hers.
Just forget those properties, you can't win them back even in court

Does that custom implies also to relationships that has not yet lead to marriage?

Mrscarter:
Wtf. Who says that
Some ppl

The question sounds very weird at first but few seconds later I thought straight and knew she was evil for asking that.

The moment she asked who I loved .most between her and my junior sister. She is emotionally blackmailing. me. Someone cannot try to be manipulating me at this age.

sportybet is a big scam. I swear

doublegoldcrown:
Who cares about your disappointment?

Sorry about that. People are noticing you. Its more like a public disgrace. hahaha

doublegoldcrown:
The bride price is collected by the bride's father who is male the last time I checked.
Your pastor is male.
Court wedding was established by males.
You men make each other jump through unnecessary hoops before taking home your brides, showing you hate your own gender.
If you don't want to pay bride price, take it up with your future father in law.

How old are you please? Father or not that's not the essence, your points are severally myopic and I am highly disappointed with these points. Your pastor is a male? so no female pastors? court wedding by male? as in are you serious with this? The point is if you want equality fine. Take responsibilities men take. Feminism is all about opening opportunities to women in he society, that doesn't make us equal, a man is a man while a woman is a woman. The moment you start doing what men does, then you have just started your walk to a man. You don't want to cook or do house chores but wait for your husband for house rent/kids school fees and so on. MY SISTER, you are doing your self.

Our nigerian feminist. Something tells me the moniker is a lady personating a man. Lets assume that's not true, everything you just wrote is relative. because you experienced that or know someone who did, does that equate generally? or you just joined many scenes you've watched on movies to buttress your narrative. Your narrative is understanding but looks so fictional. No marriage is perfect, every marriage has flaws. A man who does all that or part is psychologically, culturally, morally traumatised and societal wise has a problem with himself and decision making. No society or culture is right/wrong but discretion is allowed. There are things about our culture/society that does not suit me, i just wont adopt.
Don't hide under Nigerian feminism and neglect your duties as a African woman. Incorporating western cultures that suit our ladies are now invoke. They now start complaining about cooking/house chores rights but no one is talking about bride price right or should I now say groom price if all things are equal.

Don't hide under feminism to become irresponsible.

Validated:
Buy none rather patronize local brand. Have imagine how many chinese use samsung or how many SKoreans use Huawei

Tell me a brand that is local?.
All this Techno, infinix promoters self.

[quote author=Muurian post=91251068][/quote]Ehn ehn, @no 5 . Did the your body tell you that? or wrote it somewhere for you?

Pebcak:
Sure

Thank you sir, can I have any of your contact details if you don't mind?

maltina:
i am a graduate of physics and am a radio frequency engineer with one of the telecoms vendor.... there are huge opportunities for a physicist in telecom

Good Morning sir, I intend to go into physics electronic option for my HNd and later in IT/ TElECOMS , would be glad if you can talk me through some stuffs and also considering the Nigeria economy and job market. thank you

Pebcak:


I am a proud physics grad Bsc Engr Physics & MSc Physics

You can go down the academic line if you are ready to put up with the frustration you ll get from profs, but if your GP is good write Toefl and start looking at schools in the US or Canada for ur grad program where you can get funding to earn your degree

You can actually look into IT (which is a field i'm in and I am happy with it) find what interest you programming, DB admin, Networking, security, system admin....

you can go into core engineering but you ll need a graduate degree in that field

there is no limit just find what you like to do and channel your energy and resources towards it and you ll live your life happy

Good Morning sir, I intend to go into physics electronic option for my HNd and later in IT/ TElECOMS , would be glad if you can talk me through some stuffs and also considering the Nigeria economy and job market. thank you

olu4life:
Correct. And also for you to work in a medical organization as a microbiologist, you have to be licensed under the association of medical lab warefa.

On graduating, had this challenge and took it upon myself to join no matter what. Made enquiries at the office in Yaba, was told they no longer allow microbiologist to obtain the license easily again. That i have to go to a school that has medical lab science as a course and register for a two year program before i can be licensed.

Guess what? That was the end of the road for anything related to microbiology in my life. Now working as an IT Expert in the telecom sector. Never regretted a bit.

If you have serious passion for it, go for it. But the sector that is a bit easier to work with as a microbiologist is the food sector. Work in the capacity of a Quality Assurance/Control.

#My2Cent

destinkoko has even broken it down and they are facts

Good evening. I am currently at a crossroad right now and I believe your experience as microbiology graduate and a working IT professional, you are good to help me out. I am to choose between microbiology, physics electronic, biochemistry, chemistry, environment biology for my HND option and I am confused because I have to put God first and also consider the Nigeria situation with unemployment. My focus are microbiology or physics electronic. please which would you advice. I sent an email already.

Spysees:
you got love for it?

yes

Spysees:
Physics/electronics? one of the best courses out there! Believe me; you good in mathematics & physics? Come on man, let's go do some, programmin', data analysis, web developin', circuit designin'... Let's come together & design a time machine, I hafta go back in time & see what Adam looks like... Lol

Adam, lol. how are jobs offers in Nigeria with his course?

Spysees:
Team "physics & electronics" oya gather here...

Is physics with electronic a bad option? please enlighten.

Heistman:
go sitdown oga , I'm sure u belong to the crew den dey dash singlet and boxers, it's very simple na wetin u worth u go get ...and btw what if I consider am a feat? E affect u? ... stingy aliens and their Itk attitude sha

He only made you realize the gift you got is below expectation since you are not stingy and the way you constructed your first sentence as if the following ones will include words like cars, house, trips and Worthy things a non stingy person like you should get.

Read the thread again and see people who got way better gifts than yours. See person criticising other.

I was very disappointed in what you got. Cheerful Giver.

darediamond:
Of all you rightly said, you get it wrong @ the emboldened
Relationship must be mutual so also Marriage and Matrimonial Life of the the Couple.
That the Man is the Head of the Family does not now mean the Wife Should not work to at least provides 40% of what the Family needs.

Never should you as an Husband to be marry a woman whom can not comfortably feeds herself.

Never should you as a Guy/Man/Hussy to be marry a woman who has Husband-Duty or Liability Mentality.

The Manness in a woMan gender names calls for SERIOUS Resposibilities before and after Marrige towards her Man/Guy/Husband to be.
So before you marry Her, you make sure she is a well trained Lady that knows and understand what Matrimony really calls for on her part.

That you have become his wife do not now mean He Should be the Sole Provider of all your needs and Children.

NEVER.
You yourself must WORK TO MAKE MONEY TO SPEND BY YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND!!!!
IT IS A MUST FOR ANY LADY/WIFE THAT WOULD REFER TO HERSELF AS RESPONSIBLE.

I understand bro. thanks

highfaculty:
You just too wise.
This is my complete thought. I wish everyone can read this!!!!

Boss, no one is wise. we have a brain for a reason.

Otunba2004:
I don't know whether you're Yoruba or not sugbon aye e a daa pelu oro ti o so yii koni baje fun e layelaye I so much cherish you not those maga calling themselves lovely man

Thanks, BlackSheep is a proud oduduwa.

hebenezher:
And what is my business if she sees me as immature!?
is her view about me supposed to affect me?

Guys please don't let this ladies talk you into this maturity nonsense. Why would a guy even say that he should be matured enough to let go the phone. such guys have had the ladies manipulative stamp and dna on them. All what they do will surely be manipulative with ladies gaining.

What if this is between guys would you ask OP to let go? most people here will even go as bar as saying OP destiny has been used cos a fellow man played game on him. Most would give him advice that only God can save the other guy but now that it involves a lady, that stamp on their brain is already working saying rubbish because they have been manipulated enough, their genes have mutated to always do everything in favour of the ladies ( not against any lady but always against motives/ manipulation.) and funny thing is they always think their decision is mature . If this was a guy to guy thing, you will have at least 70 abusive names tattoo on you.

OP has bleeped up already and he wants his phone back. This would have been so so good if the ownership of the receipt was in his name. If not the tables might turn against you. Please do this in public places and make sure you have proof that you bought her the phone( chats, calls, even record your conversation at the public place when talking Pre the phone stuffs and make your conversation detailed so you won't be killed by mob for alleged theft/ rape.

My 2 cents.