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Lalasticlala, seun, ishilove. Please front page.
More awareness has to be created on this, so the practice can be abolished.

However, I worry that even if it's abolished, the stigmatization will remain.

Dyonne:
I get it, I'm just saying that personally I think I would defy the norm.
It's my happiness at stake. They have lived their life, I have the right to live mine.


Edit: I just realized you're the OP.

I think a lot depends on the man in question. If you're willing, and he is brave enough you guys can "cut chain".
Don't force him or emotionally blackmail him into it. It has to be his decision so he realizes the implications and is ready for it.

I wish both of you the best of luck.

Thank you.

Dyonne:
Well this is just sad.

I would go ahead if it were me but then maybe I'm just saying so because I'm not in that situation.

I still believe I'd go ahead. Family shouldn't interfere, they should limit themselves to advice and support whatever decision is taken by the couple.

I hear it's not so easy. Imagine the whole family faced with being excommunicated.

It's just a lot of complexities. Little wonder it has eaten deep into the core of those who may want nothing to do with the practice.

The question is, how long will humanity endure this?

Unik3030:
the other day when a topic like this was discussed n many warned about d implications of marrying an OSU,some indomie generation children came here n were insulting everyone claiming "they are living in the past".

The reality is that there is a sharp difference between social Media n life itself.We all can come to social media n b saying shits all in the name of forming woke or civilised but there are some facts we have to face when we log out

Though it's still painful that this thing still exist in this time but at this point we all have to accept some bitter facts n learn to live with them till we finally find a solution to it

Could these implications be from the way people think? An attraction of evil because they believe in it?

samtinx:
If you think say your mama na born again Christian wait make you carry osu linage babe, come show her,na that time you go know say your mama na better traditional practioner

Everything is for fun and laughs.

MightySparrow:
ON a serious note.
Racism is decried all the world over. When the blacks are discriminated against we all condemn it; now, this a sad case of blood relations. Will black race ever develop with a tradition borne out of crippled mind like this?

A large number of people on this table feel it is normal. None of this is normal! Sadly, not a large number will care because it doesn't affect them directly.

MightySparrow:
Aparthied in Biafra. Afonja caused it

The sarcasm.

Sad reality.

I've been with this man for a little over three years. Great relationship in most sense of the word. We were hopeful to spend our lives together.

Last year, I got some truth about my "identity" from my mother. She sat me down to lecture me on traditions when she asked questions about the man I was dating (I'll call him Steve).

Though we're both of Igbo origin, it seemed we're now of different worlds. She explained the Diala and Osu concepts and it became clearer that we've been tagged as "Osu". I didn't quite understand the gravity until I spoke to Steve. He said it was forbidden to marry an Osu in his village and his parents follow traditions. They believe there are curses attached as souvenir packages when they marry one. We cried together and became hopeful for an abolishment before we're ready to tie the knot.
"What do we do?" I had asked.
"We would cross the bridge when we get there".

We were too in love to let go.

Some trends lately signalled his family that he is getting ready to settle. They begin to ask questions and try to get more details to "investigate" me. The curses were sung to his ears and the importance of marrying a Diala stressed. There's no way in the world they would bless a union like that. He told me.

We lost our souls weeping. Never have I felt that hopeless. Not because of the tag but because I was about to lose out on someone who gives meaning and colour to my world. And we can't fight it, except we elope. What if we elope, what happens to our kids? Will they be constantly plaqued by our decision?

Someone said "it's tradition. It is like a marriage where the partners are of AS genotype".
Don't say that to me! AS marriages are of health reasons. Our case is man made. Our ancestors ate sour grapes and our teeth are now set on edge.
And we're Christians, new creation.


In this modern day and age, with all the enlightenment, religion and education we have, it is sad to know that some people hold on to beliefs that some people -of same tribe- are inferior. I may have lost out on being with someone who I deeply love but someone out there will have some hope. You're not inferior, you're not to be pitied!

It is worthy to note that this practice has been abolished in some parts of Igboland but the bitter truth remains, there's still a lot of segregation going on and I've witnessed it firsthand. This archaic, devilish and unreasonable practice has to end, people are robbed of true love and happiness because of this!

#EndOsuCasteSystem.
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P.s A new moniker was created to share this and I had to keep most thoughts regarding fighting for the relationship personal. This is an intentional act to only focus on the caste system.

Cc Rocktation, farano, ishilove, seun, lalasticlala, mynd44