₦airaland Forum

1Sharon:
You want me to stay on topic but you want to be deceptive about your identity?

Why do caribbeans especially Haitians and Jamaicans want to escape the Caribbean?

How? am Dutch! Is my skin color even important for this topic? We Arubans are Dutch by birth. (The Dutch colonise us, which is not a good thing, thats another story) but i still love my island.

If you want to know my island please come and visit Aruba its a small but beautiful place.
I can only talk about my island Aruba.
Caribbean is so divers and i dont know much about Jamaica and Haiti, but what i know is that Haiti is one of the poorest country in the world, some are in Aruba but they are so proud of their country,i remember during the earthquake in Haïti, the haitians in Aruba were doing alot of things to raise money to send to Haiti to rebuild the country.

But you cant compare Nigeria with jamaica and Haiti, Nigeria is a big country with alot of potentials its not a competition.

You are getting me wrong, am not stopping anybody to come to the western world, my questions was why Nigerians dont want to come back home? Even when they are settled?

I just want to learn, my kids are nigerians too and i want them to be proud of their country.

1Sharon:
So why didn't you say you were Dutch caribbean to begin with? Begging it.

And where are you right now

Sister can we stay on the topic, its about me coming to Nigeria and want to know why no nigerians want to go back home or their experiences, just for me to learn from them, thats all.

I dont know any Nigerian that want to relocate,when i ask them they are asking me if am crazy etc. As if Nigeria has war.

I know some Dutch expacts that lives there but they are expacts working for Shell or Heineken and they only talk good about Nigeria but my inlaws are talking bad.

People are travelling from ages to any part of the world, i want to show my kids the African lifestyle.

1Sharon:
Yes!

Am a proudly Black queen and even wish to be Nigerian by birth, my next life i want to be a Nigerian 😀

1Sharon:
What race are you? Because Caribbeans come in all races.

Am from the island of Aruba, The Dutch Caribbean.
You are asking about my skin color?

JeffreyJunior:
Story is about foreigner, a Dutch in particular but writeup smells Nigerian, the one that lives likely in Ogbomosho, not even Lagos or Abuja.

It's just like the case of "voice of Jacob but hand of Esau".

I'm fed up with fake stories here.

Lol am from the Dutch Caribbean sir, Aruba.
Am black,my ancestors are from Africa.

1Sharon:
Aren't you Dutch?

Dutch Caribbean sir, Aruba - google it.

[quote author=1Sharon post=123884351]Do it.

I relocated to Nigeria with my family and lived for 6 years. Did most of my primary Education. It helped me know my culture.

Be warned that your kids may not like Nigeria overall, but schools and extra-curricular activities will keep them going.

Give them a soft landing in Nigeria, put them in the best neighbourhoods, best schools, best leisure centres you can get.

4-5 years tops and then move back. Even the kids too will want to go back.

Don't move to any village to get the full "african experience"


Wow thats nice.
What was the reason that you moved back?
No, we are not going to the village, but the big cities.

Why are you saying to stay for 5 years? Can you tell me your reasons?

Icrave4u:
You have made money abroad now you want to come back but stylishly discouraging those who want to go abroad to hustle like you do, anyway majority of africans abroad even jamaicans who have made it there are relocating or have relocated back to Ghana. Cos all prefer to go to Ghana than any other african country , you can relocate to ghana you will find your likes there but not in the city of accra. Some have moved into their locals and there are doing very well. Ghana is now the hub of returnees from abroad.

Nope sir, to travel is good.
Infact travel because its good for your experience.
Am not discouraging anybody.
We are working online for the past 14 yrs so we did not made our money "abroad" and we are still working, we are still very young.
But its about the mindset, taking risk and apart from that i like to take adventure.
There are millions of people now working online from different countries

Indians, Bangladesh etc are working online, there are alot of jobs you can do online without blaming the government, you only need a good internet connection.

I know my inlaws, nigerians are very intelligent, creative, hustlers, educated and hard working people, but its just the mindset to think that everything western is good if we continue to think like this, the westerner will never respect us and will continue to feel superior over us.

A westerner will not go to Africa/Caribbean for a "better life" (he will not come for benefits) , but he will come to invest or to do business.

I would love to see my inlaws go back home after sometime and stop looking down on Nigeria

Ladiesdream:
As you're coming back, can I replace you where you're coming from? My humble appeal.

Lol to do what?
We blacks dont understand that we are blessed to live in Africa, lets build Africa and stop thinking about White man land, stop thinking that the west is the best. We can make Africa great. Even Nigeria.

VeryWickedMan:
Chinwetel Ejiofor will tell you better.
RIP in advance.

why? Explain?

We want to emigrate to Nigeria with our children, from Europe.
Under 18 yrs, we are Nigerian (husband) and dutch, the way the world is going, we would like them to have a bit of the African life experience. We love to travel.


Our family is used to travel and live in multiple countries, western world, But not Africa. We want to farm in Nigeria.

Am doing some research and what i found out is that there are a large amount of afro Americans that are moving to Ghana to settle down there, the Ghanian government even have a special treatment for them.

Even Ghanians are willing to go back home from the western world, when you go on YouTube etc, there are alot of stories about people relocating to Ghana with families from all over the world.

When i speak to the Nigerians in the diaspora, they are condemning Nigeria, talking down on Nigeria.
Even the Shell workers (expats) dont want to go back to Nigeria (even with pensions). Most Nigerians want to even leave Nigeria. The Nigerian students are not returning home after their studies to share their knowledge and to help build Nigeria.

This is so shocking to me because i have never heard any other African speaking countries speak so bad about their own country like the Nigerians do, even somalians are going back to Somalia.

My question is;
is there anybody in this group that went back home with children from the western world and what was your experience, how did your kids cope? How did yourself cope?

[quote author=StagethemTVee post=123862886]It’s my 17th wedding anniversary today and I would love to share a few tips.
1. Unmet expectations are the No 1 causes of divorce. Act like the success of the marriage depends on only you.
2. Communication must never stop. Avoid malice and separation under the guise of recovering or getting your heads straight.
3. You are one in the marriage and no party should feel like they are less.
4. Don’t involve family members in your marriage under the guise of seeking advise. Get a mentor with several decades of successful marriage.
5. Spend some time away from the stress together to bond and connect.
6. Be in the circle of people with successful marriages.

Happy 17th wedding Anniversary to me and my b


Beautiful!!