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1Sharon:
Likewise, cook and clean sometimes.

When I see things like this I just feel maybe women in marriage paint pictures of there husband not doing anything to you ladies or you single ladies just assume it.

I cook,clean and even do more housework than my wife.
My girls prefer me cooking cos I cook faster and good with different meals.

Most of you who aren't married just assume we married men just cross our legs and our wife do everything from morning till night.

When my wife goes for few weeks due to nature of her work who takes care of the house??


It just annoying how single ladies always try to paint of married men don't assist there wives at all in the house.

AngelSlay:
I used to be lien you too, I struggle but the day my 45yrs old uncle open my eyes to see the enormous opportunities, I never looked back, you will only suffer for a few months or years and laugh at the end, PAY NOW, PLAY LATER (PNPL).

Are you married with kids ??

AngelSlay:
It's obvious you la k financial education

Here's what you need to do have the following money for specific expenses
1. Money for school fees and rent should come from investment not savings
2. Medicals should be done at the beginning of the yeardor the whole family
3. Your win vex money that only you have and you wife doesn't know about

Ire o!

People like you just sound like everyone has a good paying job or good business enterprise in Nigeria.
Like everyone have millions of naira sitting there bank accounts

Where is the fund to invest??


Not everyone is lucky like some of who give the advise....some of us struggle everyday to make money.

Pascal9:
he is never well to do, he was doing financially well. But he didn't plan well, no matter how an average financial person is, 4 kids is too much. An average man don't need more than 1 to 2 kids.

See we always forget life happens people make huge lost sometimes in life that is hard to bounce back.

You don't know him, so I how what I meant by he was well to do.


He is a businessman who was just so unfortunate with some business deal.

This was a man who could conveniently dash relatives 1million some years back.

PresidObi:


I heard that Seyi children bears middle names such as Uchechukwumerije, Chinemeremuezebube and even Nwannekammakariaego

Pepper den geng

I hope she can contest for elective post in her mother state.

Akalia:
If not for my two sons, I would had walked out of my marriage before now.
African version of marriage is a huge economic burden to men. Women are leeches for the most part.

I love my wife just that her selfish tendency sometimes hurt me.

I just feel it the way most of them were brought up, they just feel you are supposed to provide everything.

For instance this morning the bread she bought for 1500 each 2022 we buy it for 700. Jandol bread to be precise.
Despite weight of have been reduced it goes for 1500. She bought two with every other thing more than 5k dan waka.

It really very hard....let just keep doing for our kids.

Nice2023:
U have given ur life to Jesus.

Hahahahha.

Jesus that turned water to wine. A beg drink ur stuff in moderation and enjoy life while on earth.

My brother am doing that tonight cos I really need not to add any BP wahala join things.

Those people in general after checking my BP insisted I see the doctor but I knew what caused it so I just scope them an ran away.

Once I see the doctor I will.be placed on drugs for life and I reject that for my generation.

Patojargz:
Stop whining! Obj no just wake up put law… Business men Dey behind d background not to make it succeed.

Under who was the demonic 1999 constitution implemented??

ntyce:
Electric Power Sector Reform Act of 2005, how much do you know of this?

I don't know the reform act of 2005 but I know a whole lot of OBJ atrocities due to his greed and selfishness.


Who stated Godfatherism again after military rule??

djon78:
Actually I understand you
But this doesn't stop you from buying like 2/3 trousers or appareals/ clothes

It's great you are shouldering your responsibilities, I salute you.
But don't neglect yourself.

I used to be like you. Couple of years back I made a bit good money. But my madam, my home expenses, almost chop everything except the ones I invested back in my business.

Only for my madam, to ask me when we were quarrelling wetin I use the money do? Because I told her about the money. When I reminded her all the money I gave her, she no fit talk again.

That taught me a very big lesson. Now all my earnings, I still take good care of my family, but I don't neglect taking care of myself. I buy good clothes, shoes, etc. This year in Sha Allah I go take better vacation abroad even if na Rwanda or Qatar etc cause I no come this Life to watch others enjoy themselves. I work very hard and play harder

I really missed my bachelor days.....every weekend was pure enjoyments for me.

Have decided to take care of myself more .

occfx:
Every married man is seeing hell at the moment except those who are lucky with free flowing dough.

Just keep Amlodipin 10mg by your side and an anti depressant like Heineken or action bitters.

I haven't tasted alcohol since last year oct till date.
Not that I can't buy it but I just don't know why I just lost interest in it totally.

It been more than 2yrs I stopped taking beer but until last October I always have striker bitters in packs in my fridge.
Even last week my first daughter ask why I no dey take striker again....lol just told her have Giving my life to Jesus again.

I think I will get the drug sha cos my family has history of high BP.

Godwin4444:
is it real that people truly give their first salary to church?
Like seriously I have heard it a couple times but don't believe it's real

The day my wife tells me that is the day she will start taking care of herself n start feeding herself or better still she should b collecting money from those pastors

People do it ooo.

Am an MFM member and I confirm it.

I did it some years back and that was the only one and last time.

Am not against anyone that believes in it but I can never do it again.

highchief1:
no born more than two kids.and don’t over upgrade your life.i drive a 2014 car I can buy a 2024.Most of the time we start what we can’t finish.life no to hard na we Dey stress ourselves.i refuse to put my kids in the most expensive school even though I can afford it.i no Dey do pass myself and this have saved me from pressure a great deal.

I have just 2 girls and I don't pass myself.

The fact remains no one foreseen the economy will get this bad.

Inflation is making money made to be so lil......even managing small life style is costing two much.

Just to eat breakfast alone for family of 4 we spent more than 5k be it bread or yam.

Most money I make goes into foods and household needs so isnt as if am living a wasteful lifestyle

ibechris:
I have four children Mr,Gerard,and I am happy for them all.
I am 41 presently and I have more the means to take care of them. I am not boasting and I have not complain because my formular is working for me. My passive income takes care of my family expenses and why shouldn't I have the number of children I want. I work and my wife is a seasoned banker as well.

I no get money...I get 200million naira in various investments. And i don't engage dirty yahoo or fraud.

So why should anyone question why i should have 4 four children?...when my mates with less cash than me,have more than for four kids.

It is my choice and not urs.

Bros abeg show me the way oooo.

Any investment or side hustle.

Am really struggling to meet up with expenses.

djon78:
Your wife is right
Na you no want buy

There's what we call budget in a home
If you manage your house expenses
Well. You will still have something to take care of yourself.

Don't go on punishing yourself
You have no excuse for that

My actual problem is fear of the unknown and unforseen expenses.

For instance last year March my daughter just came back from school and by night she got really sick.
In just 6days we spent over 200k on hospital bills.

I don't have people to run to for help, infact I hardly even ask anyone for help...so I can't afford to be financially stranded.

So that my fear which limits me alot but I think I need to put it aside now.

ntyce:
Shut up, olodo...
You read every part but omitted where he said this

Attah said he was a member of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) at the time so Obasanjo’s disapproval wasn’t about party politics but about a faulty federal arrangement.

It wasn't about Obj the individual rather the existing law at that time.

As the President, he swore to obey the constitution.
What subsequent Presidents did was to amend the law.

Under who was the 1999 constitution implemented??

A president who had 5 senate president in 8yrs

Like he actually sincerely obey the constitution, those of us who are intelligent know OBJ only follow constitution when it suit him.

Fiscus105:
WHY WON'T YOUR BP HIGH AS YOU CONFIRMED IN YOUR OTHER POST?

Read it again before you continue your weeping, the man himself said, he was not about part politics but faulty foundation, but unknown man must wail to make himself happy.


Thank God another person has already shut ur mouth up, how you people use to feel happy still not known, and how people around you cope with a complete nasty and bitterness person is worrisome.

When lamentations too high it would definitely bring HP.

Under who was the demonic 1999 constitution implemented.

This year I wont be engaging morons on this forum....all that went with last year.

highchief1:
pray to have enough.family doesn’t take too much.I have been married for years.my house doesn’t not lack anything,I am also taking good care of myself and enjoying my outside life.Life is all about balancing.

Well you part of the lucky ones out there.

Most of us need to really sweat it out to make the cash every month.

Fidecoo:
,

Over 200k you said??


Sir, I dey run millions, I swear I couldn't buy myself just a pair of Jean trouser👖 or even a sandal throughout last year.

Nawa ooo.

We married men are really going through alot 😔.

chris2face:
Am currently in this situation,mine got lots of cloths and I jokingly reminded her how I haven't been able to buy new clothes, she said same thing
Indeed marriage just favours women

So we many on this table.

Chai men dey suffer

Acidosis:
From 2010 to 2025, one's financial status can deteriorate significantly. Just one of Tinubu's poorly thought-out policy, like the subsidy removal announcement has harmed many families' ability to save for a rainy day, and it appears that the rain is even getting harder by the day.

The man did nothing wrong by hustling till he died. His family is not responsible for his death. He died for what he believed in: providing the best for his children. There was nothing else he could have done in that situation other than become a deadbeat dad or join a criminal group like the APC. Neither of the two options is appropriate for a sane, responsible man.

He had choice.
He put himself under unnecessary pressure by taking up loans.

See one thing have learnt is one needs to reduce standards when the going get tougher.

Not been able to meet up made him worried and his BP got bad.

Imagine taking up loans and he was spending it on fueling cars and generator etc just to maintain certain lifestyles . That was a bad move.

peropoliet:
you didn't marry right

Lol.

No matter the woman you marry even if she an angel trust me they are selfish.


I married right but the economy is making things unbearable for we married men.


She knows I could afford to buy those things if want hence that statement....am the one that doesn't want to be selfish cos of the kids.

tensazangetsu20:
The man is a fool for having 4 kids and men can control child birth. What happened to getting a vasectomy after having the first kid. Nigeria is only going to get harder. 2 kids is even a lot for an average Nigerian. There has never been a time the economy of Nigeria has been good enough for the average person to adequately provide for 4 kids.

He was a well to do man . He had those kids when things were good.

We could ever imagine things will go this bad 10yrs ago.

You came blame anyone who got married 2010 who has 3-4kids. Things was good then

kernniejay:
That statement alone from your wife is enough to make you think twice about your self. This year, I have decided to be a little more selfish in taking care of my personal needs and make myself happy. If I die today, life continues.

Have made up my mind aswell and no going back.

I have to be really selfish.

PussyMiners:
Everyone can easily hide behind an unprogressive law to draw the country back.
How come saint OBJ didn’t remember the rule of law when he was leveling Odi and Zaki Biam. What about the extra constitutional methods he devised in removing some governors and senate presidents ??
Oh! I almost forgot how the paragon of rule of Law, Obasanjo, almost dribbled his way into getting a 3rd term that was clearly alien to our constitution.

It’s funny how defenders of inequities like yourself parrot rule of law only when it is convenient.

Like I always say, the Nigerian politicians hate anything that can benefit the common man .
It is akin to pushing KCl directly into their vein .

Don't mind them, they are funny set of people.


If we are to play OBJ tape that man has no right to open his mouth and talk about anything in this country.

SmartPolician:
Obasanjo did exactly what the law permitted at the time. That was why it was called the national grid (everyone has to add to a national energy pool) and it was on the exclusive list. Yes, Obasanjo was right!

How about states that don't generate power but they are enjoying power from Kanji dam and other power stations in Nigeria?

Now that the FG isn't ready to shoulder that responsibility alone, Tinubu/Buhari et al has enacted laws that allow states to generate, transmit and distribute their own power. State governors should start building power stations now.

Following the laws to whose detriment??

Anyway he allowed the demonic 1999 constitution cos of his own personal greedy of becoming the president.

Thank God attah even pointed out that demonic constitution you referring to.


Once it suit him he follows the law and when it doesn't he bend the law.

Some of us still have perfect memories of his tenure.

OBJ lead the foundation for Godfatherism politics and much more we are experiencing till today.

Akindoubleyou:
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Use or few month use with receipt

Particular product in mind and budget

PantShifter:
The government should make laws which make it mandatory for men to contribute to the upkeep of their children

So what if the kids is with the father ?? The law should only be for men right.


See until we tell ourselves the hard truth about both father and woman contributing to raise kids this type of thing won't stop happening.

When divorce happens bitterness is sowed and a frustrating life is reaped by anyone who has the kids custody till they come of age.

Jennyclay:
Why would he have 4 kids when he knows he’s broke and poor

Gone are those when people born as many as possible.

Take care of your wife and have just 1 or 2 kids that you can catheter for without stress. Simple!!

Most times I don't like arguing this things cos it like you women never be accountable for anything.

So having those kids was actually only the man decision The woman didn't want them to be 4 ,the man was constantly raping her.

They just gave birth to the children last night and since he went broke due to the economy he should killed 2 out of those kids so he can take of wife and the remaining 2 according to you.


It very easy to know someone like you isn't married.


No this fact today, left to most men just having 1 or 2 kids is enough but it is women who clamor for more kids in marriage.

skywalker240:
It is what it is

Even this year now we are battling how to make payments for school fees, house rent around the corner, the expenses keeps building up

Most times when I get home from work, after taking my bath, i just pretend that am sleeping and take a quiet place to reflect on what and what to do to improve the condition to favour

Life goes on

Nowadays, I don't work myself up, elders over here say

"Na the one WEY you chop for your Belle, na im be your own"

So most times when am at work and I see anything that i long to put in my stomach or for my satisfaction, I buy it, even if it means telling my wife a lie

Try to rest mostly on Sundays and when you get any chance off, lock yourself in the room and sleep

I'll never forget what A Man in his late 60s told me almost 10 years ago

He said if you as a family Man fall down and die today, the children you left behind will still achieve their goals and life purposes and yes they'll survive even without you.

Agree 100%.

The man who always put himself out there as a saint.

ObJ is the foundation of the problem we are facing today.

A very greed and selfish man. No one must outshine him ,he always has problem with anything good coming from other people.

skywalker240:
Sad but there's traces of truth in this write up


Men are going through alot, but As a married Man, yours is raised to powers >°

Is so bad that has a married man you can't even buy yourself new wears.

Throughout last year I couldn't get myself a new set of jeans trouser even tho I needed it badly despite having the money.
All the money I made last year 90% when into paying bills and household expenses.
It so crazy how you has a man you will have over 200k in your acc and you be scared to even buy yourself something of 10k cos of fear of the unknown.
In all of this my wife and kids still has many clothes they haven't worn I paid for you.

Last weekend my wife bought herself over 10 new shirt and when I saw it I reminded her how I couldn't even buy myself new jean....she told me nah me no wan buy nah.
It really hurt me cos whatever money I make the family expenses come first before my own personal needs but it isn't same for women.

I just feel marriage is design for men to suffer honestly.
People just taking from you and no one really care about what you need.