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Ladyhippolyta88:
What are you saying? You misunderstood my post.
I talked about having a skill which could come after high school or after the university.
Formal education is important whether it is just for certificates or not.

formsl education does not equate going to university.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Nawa so everyone would be unemployed after school.Speak for yourself some people have plans either they learn a skill or start up a business.Government cannot employ everyone you create jobs for yourself.

Why would you go to higher institution of learning if at the end you would end up learning skills? Not schooling doesn't stop education. After high school, university is not meant for everyone.you could have learnt skill after high school; that doesn't decrease your chances of making it in life if you know what you're doing.
People keep following the crowd. I know you could argue that going to higher institution of learning increases one's chance of meeting new people and all.

Yes, I'm a witness. I've only seen one new note of 100 Naira this year.

makydebbie:
It's still not justified.
Ask the op. After all, she didn't marry in love. The worst thing that could happen to a rape victim is marrying her rapist. I'll rather die.

who forced her to stay with him? She could have been single after the first pregnancy.Moreover, I can't be so gullible and credible to believe stories like this easily. Girls are the one that'd agree to have sex with and still say it's rapping. That's how my ex lied to me that she was raped by her first lover. Most girls are liers, just to gain the love birthed from empathy of the other.

ndindiatu:
My dear is up to u. Is ur life . I know u love her and she loves u too. I will advice u to marry her .marry her ! yes. Don't spend ur whole life and her life ng unhappy. I am telling u out of experience. I didn't marry my high school sweet heart and till today after so many kids and marriage l am still waiting for him to come to heal me which will never happen.Some people missed that one in life when they where young and can't find replacement till today. I tell u u owe her and she owe u . Is a pity the marriage scattered then what are u waiting for. I know our culture will say this or that but my dear marry her and be happy. Don't do what u will regret. As u see her now she can never be happy with any one. Goggle lost and found lovers by Nancy. But u guys have battles to look forward to to fight. But no matter the battle go and make agreement with her to love her kids. Even if u marry someone else u will still be having affair with her. Who is deceiving who. Abeg go and wed that babe and live happily ever after. A word is enough for a wise. People will curse u but some situations is only u can solve it.

smiles, I can say you've used your husband. Love is not enough. Even though it's important. Why didn't you think of your teen boyfriend before getting married to your husband ? And you're here advising someone to heal another person's shit.
You shouldn't have married in the first instance. You ought to have waited till the last day for your high school love. It's pathetic and saddening that people can't grow into love. Carried by youthful exuberance you think you're teen forever and he is as you were then. The way adult love is quite different from how teens do,the differing factor is experience.

makydebbie:
So in your little mind, it's justified.

its not justified. Domestic violence, women ain't animals but then, what's she looking for after four kids?

Sarang:
Because you are human.

not a good reason enough for me to like poems. By the way, what drives you in writing poems?

khiaa:
He is a rapist, who knows how many times he has forced her to have sexx with his nasty azz. I hope the opp is sincere in his feelings for her and take her out of that hell house.

i understand your enthusiasms however, your stand is not well represented. Now, nothing says they had no relationship before the advent of the raping and that's if it's ever true and not consensual. Girls are liers when it comes to this. So, you happen to be a member of op's family. I'm sure you'd be happy your lovely brother is getting married to someone of such history; won't you? He's never had any kid. You expect his to be from her?

Sarang:
I think am ludicrous bro

What does it mean btw?

Have you seen my signature?

being funny. I've just seen your signature. Why do you think I could be a lover of poem?

khiaa:
He's already beating her daily so how would you call that a marriage? The guy was a monster from the start and so are the girls parents.

he started beating her when he found out about her new low ordeals

khiaa:
There wasn't a home, her parents forced her to marry a rapist for God sake. What the hell is wrong with you people.

calm down. There wasn't a home? Smiles. She was forced to marry him but was not forced to stay with him; not even forced to give him four kids for crying out loud. How do you justify that? Why would she only reason when she's found a single man and all?

Sarang:
Nothing wrong with this though.. you love her right? It's really all that matters..
Go mahn!!

Please check my signature

love? You must really be ludicrous if you think love is enough.
Love is not all that matters my sister. We only get to know this during our course of journey in life. Why do people that start well in relationship end up breaking up; some even do so while still in love.

At first, I didn't wanna believe this. However,if it's true at all. It's ain't okay brother.
You need to understand that you're dippin. Yourself into a big double wahala. She has four kids and you wanna have something doing with her? Like seriously?
Yes, whatever the history is. Bla bla, she was raped and all. How was she even raped if they had nothing together at first. Not justifying raping however, the point is she's not the high school teen you fell in love with that time. She's now a wife and mother.
You don't have to ruin your life. She's part of your past and she has to stay there. Are you saying ever since you've been moving here and there in life you've not met someone you like?
I'm sure your family won't agree with this relationship of yours. You've to break all ties with her and leave her with her fate. Marriage is sanctity. If hers is not then yours should be.

Lolu, my guy. Wish you more success ahead. #loluforce

masks:
Dated a good girl back then in school who was ready to do everything for me. Got an I.T placement with intercontinental bank.... Found a cheap f**k and dumped my girl.... babe begged me and even solicited the help of my best friends to beg me... but the p***y had a choke hold on me.... after a year and I came back to my senses.... I realized that this girl was my soul mate... begged her for 3 years.... even went as far as searching for her on every platform.... she eventually changed her number and disappeared..... I felt broken..... Till this day I've never felt the kind of love I had for her.
Till this day I'm still searching for her or her details.....

hey yeah. You're chasing stars not knowing you're losing a moon. Live with it bro.

MrMakaveli20:
baddest guy.

not really. I'm in my final year in a university and I've not had more than three relationships. You wanna hear the gist about why I broke someone's heart?

sharpwriter:
Lol....chai...the guy na bad boy o, bastard somebody. So him eye don clear now, and he wan com back with a child outside. But I am sure yur cousin still has soft spot for him...Isn't it?

the gist is that none of his wife's babies survived. She had miscarriages and all. You could have imagined all the lashing they've had during those 10 years. All those years were wasted. This guy had nothing that time oo but recently secured job with a microfinance bank and suddenly started acting funny. Cousin was doing SU tuff before but now she wears trousers and make up well. She's more beautiful than she used to be.

MrMakaveli20:
lol. that's how it started o. I know Love will find you and Dante pretty soon. cheers

smiles. I don't think I've been heartbroken.. If there's such word in my dictionary, it's actually the reverse. You get? I could have broken someone heart a couple of times

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Im fully in the present. No time to waste over past events.

right. However, do not think what's happened is not happening to someone now. Such individual may learn from your story. Anyways,shalom.

Fussbot:
Mehn....imagine agbani darego asking you out? lol. She is that beautiful. We were good friends then she loved up, asked me out and I said yes. But deep down I never loved her. Not because of any other reason, but I thought marriage was not feasible. I sha continued sha lol.. First year I showed her pepper not calling and all. She would report me to her friends me I'd be laughing lol. Second year same then third year I lost guard! I didn't know until one day she said it was over.. First day strong man, second day strong man, third day I realized a part of me had left! Chai mehn I sharply arranged her friend to beg her! That was when it started! My God I loved her more she now loved me! ... 4th year mehn I had to let her go. Marriage not in plans for few years, I made a mistake of living in the future instead of the moment. Small ish I dabaru everything mehn.. I still miss her! and she is not yet married!but in a relationship. Who knows! Just who knows! my adunni ade! Sorry for the moments I made you cry, even though you made me cry too when I eventually was in love... Lol...Yap no serious relationship since then... Just girls to pass moment.. Waiting for my wife and give all the love jhor

youre the bad guy here.you broke her heart. Guys like you make good guys suffer.

whogoesthere:
Heartbroken by the only girl I;ve ever loved, we met in the church were really really in love with each other, took lots of risks for her yet she broke my heart, why?? Gave me the lame excuse that because I'm not igbo blablabla, invariably found out she cheated on me couple of times, made me further devastated.

Haven't been able to find love after then again, funny thing is I still love this girl, but I don;t trust her hence, it can't work, guess love isn;t enough.

Actually, many laides are whores but pretend to be someone decent. Most good guys would not know this.
Life is unfair. More often than not the good get the bad. It takes God to discern that which is true.

MrMakaveli20:
I passed through this same ish bro. the love was one sided. what didn't I do to make her stay? I became her driver, messenger and sometimes ATM just to make her happy. I was lucky if she replied my chats or picked up the phone when I called. she even stopped all forms of romance sef but I didn't mind.. ... this continued till I gave myself brain after she stood me up for a picnic that we planned for weeks. it wasn't easy healing my broken heart. I took solace in Asa's song 'moving on ', Passengers song titled 'let her go' and some others. she tried reaching out after some months when she had some problems. Baba I just jejely ignore. surprisingly I later fell in love with my close friend after some months of healing and today we are going strong in marriage with babies on the way.

. Falling in love with one's close friend ... That's sweet. I'm sure it all started with.... What's wrong with you ? .

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
No need Sharing the past.

people who still live in the past are those who are afraid of using it as lesson to others. Are you sure you're in the present?
Let's see.

Biglittlelois:
We dated for 5 years, i stood by him when he had nothing, last year july he got a job at an oil company, december he called to tell me he is not ready to get married anytime soon that i should look for some one else, there was no issues, fight or whatever.

Now i am almost 29 and my heart is stone cold, i thought men appreciates a lady that was with during tough times but i was wrong, if i go after men that are already made who would blame me? that is why i dont blame ladies that do, i am very comfortable but i cant bring myself to feel anything for any man, i hope it changes soon.

number one mistake girls have is that they fail to have a good mentor. The character that guy was portraying when he had nothing were not his.
Now, he has money. He thinks you're not good enough for him. How could guys be as cruel as this. That's why I don't pity some of them when they get dumped by a girl. A relationship shouldn't be more than 5 years before it leads to marriage. You really made a mistake that my cousin made. She dated him for 10yrs,she's now 28. Guy said he can't marry her due to church differences. Nigga got married to a lady that same year and impreganted her before the marriage. Now he's broken up with her wife and wants to be back with my cousin which can't be possible ever!!!

xcolanto:
Your confused.

to be indifferent does not any way translate to being confused. We can only speculate here. In politics, it's been argued whether there should be distinction between national security and individuals security.

Girls fail to understand that love barely comes more than once in one's life. It's saddening to see how well people start but end up being separated. True love is not Romeo and Juliet but Mama and Papa that live to fulfil many of life's dreams together.
We must endeavor however,to owe our future kids good fathers and mothers; be as it may. Sorry, mercy,you can't make anyone happy if you ain't happy yourself.

ghostfacekillar:
anybody that support shite movement and hate ipob is a hypocrite

right, could you please compare and contrast the two and let's see whether you ain't one either.

horsepower101:
Nigeria is only democratic on paper.

The constitution says "we the people" but the people never came together to write or agree on it.

It was strictly designed for domination and control.

smiles, we are miles away from getting there brother. I can only hope to see light at the end of the tunnel.

xcolanto:
You didn't seem to get the direction my post was headed too. All what you have put up there is totally unnecessary. Are you for or against the shitte?

indifferent.

Muckross1122:
Nigerian singer, wandecoal's Baby mama "Temitope Ogunnusi" claims that the singer and his mum abducted her son in 2010 and haven't let her see him since then.

Please, let me see my son!” This has been the cry of a mother for eight years in Lagos, and only God knows how much longer she would have to wait for her prayer to be answered.

Temitope Ogunnusi’s 10-year-old son, Joseph, was only two when he was separated from her by the parents of a Nigerian pop star who allegedly felt she was not educated enough to be the wife of their son, Oluwatobi Wande Ojosipe aka Wande Coal.

Temitope told  NewsmakersNG  that she was 16, when she met the popular singer at Jubilee Estate, near Otedola Estate, at the Lagos end of the Lagos-Ibadan expressway, in 2008, and they took to each other like duck to water. Wande Coal was 23 then.
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As the relationship waxed stronger, the lovebirds were seen together everywhere.
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Temitope revealed that the Tur-Key Nla crooner promised her heaven and earth, and his bed became their playground until he inadvertently scored a goal in one of the matches.
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When Temitope told Wande Coal that he was going to be a father, the successful singer rejected the pregnancy. “Do you want to kill my career?” he allegedly asked Temitope.

He denied paternity of the baby and left the neighbourhood so Temitope would not see him again.

Temitope said that she went ahead with the nine-month course alone, and gave birth to a bouncing baby boy.

Supported by her family and friends, she held the naming ceremony and named her son Joseph

Joseph turned out to be a spitting image of Wande Coal.

Temitope said that people who were not even in the know also acknowledged the speaking likeness with her son and Wande Coal, when in contact with the boy.

When asked if any of Wande Coal’s friends was aware of the love affair when it was blooming, Temitope mentioned another Nigerian Pop Star, Oladapo Daniel Oyebanjo aka D’Banj.

She said, “D’Banj was aware. He was close to Wande Coal, and he was the person I first complained to when the pregnancy was rejected. D’Banj was shocked. He said ‘No, Wande cannot deny this’.”

Source:
http://www.nairaplus.com/2018/04/wandecoal-abducted-my-child-after.html

Nowadays, it's a bit difficult the distinction between the oppressed and the oppressor.

xcolanto:
Yet these people have not been declared terrorist group and iPod that have never confronted the police is one??

This country is messed up!!

how are they terrorists? How's their leader a terrorist? He was captured, they killed his children and all and you expect them to be quiet ? You're not thinking. Because he's not Igbo or Yoruba. People don't care.
As the late sage, Obafemi Awolowp, ascertained,''Nigeria is just a nation on papers,there's British, French but Nigeria exist as a geographical location of people with no iota of unity''

I keep wondering, what country Nigeria is. Thought Democracy is supposed to be government by the people and for the people. The antithesis of this dominate the political spectrum of Nigeria.