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Charles4075:
Op, your gf has started distancing herself from you. Instead of disclosing her needs, She's expecting you to do some mind-reading. When you fail, she withdraws her love. You, in turn, feel rejected and helpless to please her. Closeness evaporates, replaced by confusion and disappointment.
I have found that people slowly drift out of love. If it happened all at once, they would be able to react and change. Because it happens slowly, over time, the process just sneaks up on couples.
It's like the story of the frog in hot water: If you put a frog into a pan of boiling water, he'll do his very best to hop right out. But if you put a frog in a pan of water at room temperature and slowly increase the temperature to a boil, he'll stay put until it's too late.

Here are things you can do to begin to restore communication:
Talk: I know that sounds too simple, and I guess I could make it harder, but that really is where it begins.
Take a risk and begin to talk about issues that may have been difficult in the past.
Recall the times you were able to talk with each other and simply repeat what you did then.
Ask questions. Become curious about your partner's world.
Begin with, ``Can we talk about ...?''
Schedule times to be together and talk. I know this might sound funny but she needs you more than you can ever imagine.. Don't let that thought of she's cheating get into your head man, she deserves more from you. I wish you best of luck man
NB: Women are like abstract paintings, you may never get understand them but still you'll love and cherish them.

Thanks bro for opening my mind..
I will do it bro..

InZA:
The law of diminishing marginal returns has set in.



It happens in all relationships

Can you talk about this bro??

Thanks guys for ur help. Bro can you talk about this "law of deminshng stuff"

Me and my girlfriend is turning our first year anniversay this february..
I can see and feel how she really love me..and i love her too.
But theres one thing only disturb me is.. Shes not passionate like before.. She reply immdiately with my sms.. She answer my call quickly.. But then again as time goes by.. Shes slowly changing the phase were doing before..
For some reason i only know beside is shes working now far from me.
Shes always tired came from work.. But i do understand her.. Why is she acting this way is it possible that shes with another guy? That her attention is now wth someone else Or maybe shes getting too bored with our relationship?? Pls help me.. Need your advise.. Thnks