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i always told her i will go for paternity test for each of my child but she swore never to do that

AfroKnight:
Marry her na. Then you would need paternity test for each of your kids.

to answer your questions
i dont really know what i love about her,some of my friends even say maybe its a spell,i cant stop thinking about her,i dont know what is wrong with me .
yes its better to pay a fine
yes i did a check up two days ago,i took her to the hospital myself because i was scared about my health
i am emotionally drained right now
yes i met a very good girl,she is 23 and still studying,she is very serious about me.
the two kids are with the mum,she takes care of them and their dad are nowhere to be found.

biafranqueen:
1.What is it about her you love so much to forgive her so often? Was it the sex, her body, cooking just curious?
2. Is it not better to pay a fine rather then waste more time? Would you still pay if you can prove she is a cheater?
3. Are you getting check up regularly? Bro it's like your putting your health in danger with disease and mental anguish.
4. Why did you drop a good chick for a used cargo after you knew she was cheating? Do you enjoy the drama?
5. Where are the two children she already have Papa?
Answer and I will advise you.

hello everyone
please i want advice from the house
i have a south african girlfriend that i have been dating for i year now
i wanna summarise everything that happened

1 she asked me about marriage in our first three months of the relationship and where the everything is leading to,i replied her that i will marry her but i need at least one year to achieve some things and she said its ok ,she will be with me.
2 my friend told me about her infidelity at work but i didnt believe ,i still trusted her
3 after 6 months of dating i told her she can move in with me anytime she wants and so she told me she wanna move in with me the next month,but i decided against it because i was adviced to know the kind of person she is first by a friend,that i shouldnt rush things.
4 my friend came to me and told me he cant keep it to himself anymore,that my girl is cheating with alot of people at work they work in thesame firm)i confronted her but she denied
5 i came here on nairaland and learnt about whatsapp webb,so i did it on her phone to see for myself and i saw alot of evidence showing her chatting to men.i confronted her also and she denies but later accepts and apologises.
6 the problems right now is that i dont trust her anymore,so i had to get an alternative girlfriend who i care so much about
7 she learnt about my new girlfriend and started fighting and crying that i should leave the new girl that she was sorry ,she would change
8 i listened to her and put the other girl on pending,told her i wanted some space. and i concentrated on her hoping she changed
9 she never did change and continues on what she was doing,flirting on her phone and all that with men which she says she is not doing.
10 now i dont know what is going on in my life,everything is going down the drain ,i am even thinking about selling my car to foot some debts
because since she started all this,my life has been going down business wise and i am so confused(i also need to tell you that she has got two kids from two different men and 4 years older than me,she says those men broke her hear and other bogus stories)

my first question is this

why is she cheating?
is it because i told her to give me up to a year to achieve some things,is it too much for someone with kids already?why is she so much in a hurry ?
or
is it because i refused her moving in with me?i did because i didnt decide yet if i will spend the rest of my life with her.
or
is it that cheating is in her blood?
or
did i treat her bad?i tried my best to make her happy ,provided what i could when she needs help and turned her down what i could not
or
how do i satisfy a woman to be happy?how because i dont really know what to do anymore
where did i go wrong?

i am thinking about quitting the relationship because its so bad now,nothing seems to work,i wish she could say its over,i dont want her to sue me for being with her for 1 year without marrying her,its the law here,she will demand compensation
she is not ready to quit and i cant say it either,

i dont know how i got here ,i dont know how to get out of this