₦airaland Forum

spendoon:
I don't think I'll be able to write those books because I am really busy, but I can share the one of nich I found here for free, I just need 5 people to quote me and we are good to go.

SchoolPedia:
Congrats on your sale.

Keep grinding.

Gerarduq:
Of c, but as a family, anything you offer will not be disputed. I can even offer a free sample to enable you evaluate my ability.

Gerarduq:
I'll do it within one hour. Chat me up via my signature.

COURVOISier:
Can you ask the stuff here?

Dathypebruv:
Go to his profile and send an email manny

iLegendd:
In this 21st century and you're online? Hmm. I'm learning everyday. All the best.

iLegendd:
This message you wrote is not for me, but let me tell you something about life and humans.

When you're looking for help, don't tell someone to send you a message — it's considered an insult; even if you use please or kindly.

Even if you want to buy something from that person, it's still considered an insult. If you're a man and the person is a woman, then there is no problem, but when it's man to man, it's an insult.

You, the person requesting to be contacted, sounds arrogant and the person not obliging by contacting you as you wanted will seem rude and arrogant to you.

With this message, you've made yourself and the person to appear arrogant.

Successful people in their chosen careers hate being told to send them a message when in the end, you're the one to benefit more from the message. They are after more successes, not after distractions.

This is not ego or pride — it's just instint. They feel devalued and insulted when you order them to send you a message.

If someone who isn't my friend or a family member orders me to send him or her a message, the outcome of that interaction better be to my benefit.

When it's to your benefit, you're the one to do the sending and wait to see if you'll get a reply. If you don't, swallow your pride and move on.

Lots of people on Nairaland here posted: [/b]iLegend, send me a message on WhatsApp I want to buy your book."[/b] I read and ignored 99% of them.

It's not pride, it's disrespect. Because you want to buy a book of 10k you want to control me? Na wa oh! Even people who are willing to pay 200k
as they beg to learn book publishing get declined, let alone an arrogant person who wants to pay 10k for a book that will help his life.

So, you guys should learn how to approach others to avoid appearing rude and arrogant. Helpers hate that.

In one way or the other, we all have pride. Only an idiot doesn't. It all boils down to how you manage it without being too arrogant or becoming too weak while trying to act humble.

Solution to My Rant Above

The right thing to do is to request for the person's email or number to send him a message. If he refuses, but requested for yours instead, then you can post your email for him to initiate the interaction.

Dropping details and requesting your helper to contact you is TOO much of an insult. It's only cool when the interaction is between a man and a woman and the man is trying to show dominance, else, it's terrible.

That's all.

COURVOISier:
Go ahead.

COURVOISier:
Na people wey follow this op advice dey smile.