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Why Goats Behave the Way They Do (And Why They’ll Keep Coming Back 😄)

“Are these animals cursed or just naturally stubborn?” This was the question I asked myself as I watched a woman trying to chase away some goats from eating her stuff but they kept coming back. They run away a little, pause, turn back to look at the woman but as soon as she left,they zoomed back to location! If you've ever tried chasing a goat away from compound, farm or even a particular spot, I'm guessing this question has probably crossed your mind also. This made me do a little research and here's what I found.

The truth is—goats are not cursed. They are actually one of the most intelligent and interesting farm animals you’ll come across. Their behavior may seem annoying, but it’s rooted in natural instincts and survival strategies.

Let’s break it down.

1. Goats Are Extremely Curious

Unlike some animals that avoid trouble, goats are natural explorers. When they see something new—or even something they’ve seen before—they feel the need to investigate it.

So when you chase them away from a place, they don’t always interpret it as danger. Instead, they think:
“There must be something important here if this human is making noise about it.”

That’s why they keep coming back.

2. They Are Independent Thinkers

Goats don’t behave like sheep or cows that easily follow instructions or move in groups without question. A goat has a mind of its own.

When you try to force it away, it doesn’t always respond with fear. Sometimes it simply resists, pauses, or even returns immediately after you leave.

In short, goats don’t like being controlled—they prefer making their own decisions.

3. Strong Memory (They Don’t Forget Good Spots)

If a goat finds:

- Food
- Shade
- Water
- Or even something interesting to chew

It will remember that location very well. And not just for a few hours—sometimes for days or longer.

That’s why you’ll see goats returning again and again to the same place, even after being chased multiple times.

4. Persistence Is Their Superpower

Goats are naturally persistent animals. In the wild, this helps them survive tough environments by constantly searching for food and resources.

But in your compound? It just looks like stubbornness 😄

They don’t easily give up on something they want.

5. Sometimes… They Think It’s a Game

Believe it or not, some goats actually enjoy the chase. Running away and coming back can stimulate them mentally.

So when you chase them repeatedly, you might unknowingly be entertaining them.

Interesting Facts About Goats

- Goats can recognize human faces and remember them
- They are very good climbers and can balance on narrow surfaces
- They taste plants before fully eating them (they’re picky eaters)
- Goats communicate using different sounds depending on their needs
- They can form social bonds with humans and other animals

Conclusion

Goats are not wicked, cursed, or deliberately annoying. They are simply:

- Curious
- Intelligent
- Independent
- Persistent

Understanding this makes it easier to manage them instead of getting frustrated.

So next time a goat keeps returning after you chase it away, just remember—it’s not trying to annoy you. It’s just being a goat 😄

bluefilm:
For a moment, I almost thought it was a hairy clitoris

Lol. Broseley, you gbadun like this?
How now? Chai!!

free2ryhme:
Why are you not directing this question to your family and household people is it that dey dont have the skill set to contribute to this conversation

Why are you also directing your question to me, don't you also have family and household people to ask?

Does a very sexually experienced person have a higher chance of cheating in marriage than a sexually restrained/inexperienced person?

Short answer:

Yes — but not automatically, and not for the simplistic reason many people think.
Because the real issue is not merely:
“How many people has this person slept with?”

The deeper issue is:
“What kind of habits, beliefs, appetites, and emotional wiring has that sexual history built into the person?”

That’s the real question.

And this is where the conversation becomes very interesting.


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Let’s break it down properly, the theory basically says:
“If someone has been highly sexually active with many people before marriage, won’t that make it harder for them to suddenly become sexually exclusive after marriage?”
That is a very reasonable thought because human beings are not robots.

You don’t spend years training one pattern of living and then expect marriage ring to suddenly perform miracle surgery on your instincts.

That’s not how people work.

If someone has spent years in a lifestyle of:
novelty, multiple partners, casual access, secret meetings, emotional detachment, thrill-based intimacy, low restraint, high sensual stimulation
…then yes: that person may carry those grooves into marriage.

That’s not “judgment.” That’s just how conditioning works.

Why past sexual behaviour can increase cheating risk

There are several reasons.

1) Habit formation: This is the biggest one. When someone repeatedly lives a certain way, it becomes normal to them. So if a person has lived by: “follow chemistry”, “if I feel like it, I do it” “I can separate body from commitment”, “private pleasure is not a big deal”…then marriage does not automatically erase those mental grooves.
This is why I believe:
Marriage does not create character. It reveals and tests it.
A wedding can give: structure, legitimacy, companionship, accountability. But it does not magically produce: discipline, integrity, restraint, self-governance. Those things must already be growing in the person.

2) Sexual novelty can become part of their appetite: This one is huge and people don’t talk about it honestly enough. Some people are not just attracted to sex itself, they become attached to: newness, variety, the chase, the forbidden, being desired by different people etc. That is a different beast entirely because now the issue is not:
“I need sex.”
It becomes:
“I need stimulation, novelty, validation, conquest, or excitement.”

And marriage, by design, is stable but novelty addiction feeds on: unpredictability, secrecy, new bodies, fresh emotional chemistry, ego validation. So yes:
someone heavily trained on novelty may struggle more with exclusivity.
That’s very real.

3) The person may have weakened their “internal brakes”: This one is psychological and spiritual. Every time someone crosses a line and keeps crossing it, one of two things happens. Either:
they feel conviction and turn back
Or
they normalize it. And once something becomes normalized, it stops feeling “serious.”
So if someone has repeatedly done: sneaky relationships, cheating, casual intimacy,
emotionally overlapping relationships,
…then over time their conscience can become less alarmed by those behaviours.
So yes, repeated sensual looseness can reduce moral sensitivity. That is a real thing.
And that matters more than people admit.

4) They may confuse desire with destiny
: Some people are trained by life to believe:
“If I feel strongly, it must be meaningful.”
That’s dangerous. Because in marriage, you will still meet very attractive people, emotionally interesting people, people who “get you,” people who spark chemistry.
If your whole pre-marital life trained you to treat chemistry as a green light, then yes, you may be more vulnerable to cheating.
Why?
Because marriage requires the ability to say:
“This feeling is real… but it is not a command.”

That is maturity. And not everyone has built it.
But now let me balance it, because this is where many people become too simplistic.
MEANWHILE...

Sexual history does NOT automatically mean the person will cheat
And this is very important because some people hear:
“Body count matters”
…and then jump to:
“Ah! Once she has a past, she can never be faithful.”
That’s nonsense.
Too simplistic.
Too online, and of course
Too Nairaland 😄

Because some very sexually active people genuinely change deeply.

And some sexually inexperienced or “innocent-looking” people still become terrible cheaters.

So the real issue is not merely:
“How much have they done?”
but
“Who have they become?”
That’s the deeper thing. A low sexual past does not automatically mean faithfulness. This is the part many men miss badly.
A person can be “novice” and still cheat later if they are: emotionally hungry, validation-starved, immature, entitled, resentful, easily influenced, thrill-seeking, conflict-avoidant, lacking self-control. So a low sexual history can lower certain risks… but it does not guarantee fidelity.
Why?
Because cheating is often not just about sex.
It is often about: ego, loneliness, fantasy, revenge, attention, resentment, boredom, emotional hunger, poor boundaries.
That’s why some people with “clean” histories still derail.
So What predicts cheating better than “body count” alone?
If you want to estimate whether someone is more likely to cheat, these are more useful questions than just:
“How many people have they slept with?”

1) How do they talk about boundaries? Do they think: “Nothing is wrong with harmless flirting”, “I can handle myself”, “It’s not cheating unless sex happens”, “My partner is insecure." That’s a red flag because cheating often starts long before physical action. It starts in permission structures.
2) How do they handle desire? Can they say:
“Yes, I’m attracted, but no.”
Or do they live by:
“If I feel it strongly enough, I should explore it.”
That difference is massive.
3) Do they have a history of secrecy? This one matters a lot. If someone is comfortable with hidden chats, backup lovers, coded communication, emotional double lives,
…that is a much stronger warning sign than “number of partners” alone.
4) Do they crave external validation? Some people are dangerously powered by being desired.If a person needs to constantly feel wanted, admired, chased, chosen,pursued,
…then marriage can feel “too normal” after a while and that person may become vulnerable to outside attention.
5) Have they actually repented / matured / changed? This is the big one. It's not: “They said they’ve changed.” but have they actually become different?
Signs of real change include: stronger boundaries, honesty, accountability, less appetite for chaos, less need for attention, more self-respect, more respect for covenant, less secretive behavior, more discipline. That is what matters not just “She said she’s not that person again.”
Words are cheap. Patterns are expensive.
To conclude,
Yes, a person with a long pattern of sexual looseness, multiple partners, and thrill-based intimacy may have a higher statistical and practical risk of cheating later in marriage but the reason is not mystical.
It is because they may have developed:
habits of novelty
weak restraint
normalized boundary crossing
high stimulation appetite
Comfort with secrecy
chemistry-driven decision making
That is what raises the risk.
But there’s a spiritual dimension too. From a spiritual and moral lens, repeated sensual disorder can do more than create habits.
It can also create:
desensitization, appetite disorder, attachment confusion, weakened conscience and what some would call bonding fragmentation.
Meaning: the person’s inner world becomes trained to separate body from covenant, pleasure from responsibility, and desire from discipline.
That’s not a small thing.

So yes:
there can be a moral-spiritual dulling effect if someone repeatedly lives in unrestrained sensuality.
That is very real.
But again — and this is important —
it is not irreversible.
Some people genuinely turn around.
But they must actually do the inner work. Marriage alone won’t do it for them. I rest my keyboard.

7 Signs a Woman Has Been Conditioned to See Men Mainly as Providers

(Not always evil. But definitely important to notice.)
What brought about this topic? Recently, I was chatting with a lady, the vibes was good and she was just daddying me, and viola! she dropped the "i want to eat shawarma, it's just 5k now..." and I'm like, this soon, moreover, I'm supposed to be a stranger to you!!!
So, First, an important disclaimer:

This is not about attacking women.
And it’s not saying every woman who likes provision is bad because let’s be honest, most adults want some level of stability, generosity, and competence in a partner.
That’s normal.
This is about something more specific:
When a woman’s mental model of men becomes heavily transactional
Meaning: “A man’s value is strongly tied to what he can provide materially.”
That kind of conditioning can come from past relationships, family upbringing, social media, friends, survival mentality, or sugar-daddy type dynamics and when it’s there, it often shows up in patterns like these:

1) She introduces money too early: This is one of the clearest signs. If a woman barely knows a man and already money is entering the conversation through airtime, food, transport, “small help”, gifts, “just 5k”, “who will spoil me?”, “I’m hungry”, “I need data” …that is usually not random. It often means she is already operating from a frame like:
“Let’s see whether this connection can produce something tangible.”
Now, some people do this playfully but playful billing is still billing and once money enters too early, it often tells you: provision is not a later layer for her — it’s part of the opening script.
That matters bro!

2) Her strongest attraction language is “what can he do for me?”: This one is subtle but very revealing. Watch how she talks about men she likes or respects. If her admiration is heavily centered on things like: “He takes care of me”, “He spends on me”, “He sorts me”, “He handles things”, “He doesn’t come empty-handed”, “He knows how to spoil a woman”…then you’re getting a clue.
Now, again, there’s nothing wrong with appreciating generosity but if the core admiration keeps circling back to: resource output more than character, values, emotional intelligence, integrity, compatibility
…then provision may be sitting too close to the center of her attraction map.
That is worth noticing.
3) She treats financial gestures as proof of seriousness: This is a very big one. In this mindset, a man is not truly “serious” unless he spends. So things like listening, consistency, emotional maturity, honesty, effort, presence,
may not fully count unless there is also money, gifts, payment or “sorting. Tha creates a dangerous dynamic because it means:
sincerity alone may not be legible to her unless it becomes material.
And that can quietly push a man into a loop where he starts feeling like he must: prove himself, keep spending, keep performing financially just to maintain emotional standing.
That’s not healthy.

4) She’s very comfortable asking — even when it’s inappropriate: This is one of the loudest tells. Some people won’t ask because they still have an internal boundary like: “No, that’s too soon.” But a woman who has become heavily provider-conditioned may be surprisingly comfortable asking for things from men in situations where many others would hesitate.

Examples: asking a stranger for money, asking early in the chat stage, asking repeatedly without much shame, framin requests as normal banter, acting surprised when there’s resistance. That comfort level is important because it often means:
the request no longer feels unusual to her.
It feels normal. And that kind of normalization doesn’t usually appear from nowhere.

5) She uses softness, pet names, or emotional tone as a bridge to extraction: This is a big one. She may not always say:
“Send me money.” Instead, she creates a mood where the ask feels emotionally natural.
This can look like: “Daddy 🥺”, “Aww now…”, “You don’t care 😞”, “Who will help me?”, “It’s just small na”, “I’m hungry 😩”, “I wish I had…”

This is powerful because it makes the request feel less like a transaction and more like:

a caring response to her emotional state.
That is how many people get drawn in. It doesn’t always mean she is consciously manipulative. Sometimes it’s just a relational style she has learned works. But either way:

softness can become a delivery system for extraction.
And that’s important to recognize.

6) Her “jokes” about money are too consistent to be just jokes: This is one many guys ignore. A one-off “my love language is money” joke means very little.
But if the money theme keeps showing up again and again through: “credit alert”, “spoil me”, “my love language is money”, “money makes me happy”, “money bouquet”, “who go sort me?”…then at some point, you need to stop saying: “Maybe she’s joking” and start asking: “What if this is actually part of her real value system?” Because often repeated jokes are disguised declarations. People frequently hide their real orientation inside humor because humor gives them deniability. So if you challenge it, they can always say: “Ahn ahn, I was joking na.”
But if it keeps repeating, pay attention.
That repetition is data.

7) She seems more energized by benefits than by connection: This is the deepest sign of all. The question becomes: What really lights her up? Is it: meaningful conversation, mutual understanding, emotional safety, shared humor, values, chemistry? Or does she come alive most when there is money,
gifts,“sorting,” material possibility, provider signals?
That distinction is huge because some people enjoy the atmosphere of being liked but are especially animated by the rewards of being valued materially.
That can create relationships that feel exciting at first but are structurally unbalanced.
And those are the kinds of dynamics that often leave one person feeling: “I gave a lot, but I’m not sure what this really was.”
Painful, but common.
So what do you do if you notice these signs?
This is the part that matters most. Don’t become: bitter, insulting, or self-righteous. And also don’t become: naive, generous-by-pressure or emotionally blind.
The correct response is:

Boundaries + observation
That means: don’t reward early extraction, don’t rush into provider mode, don’t confuse chemistry with character, don’t assume warmth equals sincerity and don’t ignore repeated money framing
Instead, ask: “Who is this person when money is removed?” That one question can save you:
time, stress, confusion, and unnecessary debit alerts 😄 Because when you remove: gifts, favors, airtime, transport, “small help,” you get to see what actually remains of the connection.
And that’s where the truth often lives.
Final reality check

A woman can be sweet, funny, attractive, warm, emotionally expressive…and still fundamentally relate to men through provider expectation.That’s the part many guys struggle to accept because they think “But she’s nice.”
Yes.
She may be nice but niceness and non-transactionality are not the same thing.
Very important distinction.
Final street translation 😄

If every road with her eventually bends toward: money, sorting, spending, or “what are you bringing?”…then my brother, she may not be building with you. She may just be budgeting you.

I’m posting this so another person doesn’t fall victim.

Recently, I was almost scammed by people using the name VBet. At first, everything looked convincing. They made it seem like I had won money and was about to cash out.

The funny part is that the initial promise was around ₦1.4 million.

Later, the story changed and they told me I had actually won ₦10.4 million.

That was the first sign that something was off.

How the scam started

The whole thing was happening on Telegram.

The scammer was using a female profile and sweet-talking language like:

“my love”

“today is the day to collect your winnings”

“you can trust me”

“management gave you a 30% discount”

At one point, someone even called me and was faking an accent just to sound more “official.”

That was comedy in hindsight.

The main scam

They eventually told me that because my winnings were “large,” I had to pay ₦250,000 for security / verification before they could release the money.

That was when the whole thing started smelling badly.

Let me say this clearly:

> If any betting platform tells you to pay money before they release your winnings, the payment itself is the scam.

That’s the main trick.

The red flags I noticed later

Looking back, the signs were obvious:

1) No verification email

Even if they opened an account in my name, shouldn’t I get an email from the company asking me to verify my email?

That never happened.

2) Everything was happening on Telegram

No real betting company should be handling serious withdrawal issues through random Telegram chats.

3) The amount kept changing

It started as ₦1.4m and later became ₦10.4m.

That is not normal. That is manipulation.

4) They used emotional pressure

Instead of acting like proper customer support, they were using:

pet names

false reassurance

“trust me” language

“you are lucky” talk

That is how scammers lower your guard.

5) They sent fake “proof”

They sent me screenshots of other people who supposedly paid and then got their winnings.

But when I looked closely:

there was no transfer ID

no proper date and time

just name and amount

Very suspicious.

6) The payment page showed multiple Nigerian bank accounts

This one was a dead giveaway.

The so-called payment page had up to 6 different Nigerian bank accounts with different names.

That is not “company verification.”

That is a collection center for victims.

No real betting company should ask you to send money to random personal accounts.

I’ll be honest — I actually sent ₦76,000

I’m saying this so others can learn from it.

Before I fully investigated, I sent ₦76k.

Why?

Because part of me was thinking:

> “Maybe they’ll first send the money and use that to prove they are legit before trying to lure me deeper.”

But instead, they came back asking for ₦250k.

That was when I knew this was nonsense.

And to be honest, I also had to admit to myself that greed / hope played a role too.

Because if we are being real:

> how does ₦76k suddenly become ₦1.4m, then later ₦10.4m?

That should have made me pause earlier.

How I recovered my money

Immediately I realized what was happening, I acted fast.

I contacted my bank

filed an erroneous transfer complaint

pursued it seriously

And by God’s grace, I was able to get my ₦76,000 reversed.

I know not everybody will be that lucky, so if this ever happens to you, speed is everything.

I also contacted the real VBet

To be sure, I emailed the real VBet.

They told me clearly that:

they do not operate in Nigeria

and they do not ask people to pay fees to release winnings

That confirmed it fully.

My advice

If anybody tells you to pay for any of these before withdrawal:

verification fee

security fee

profile activation

anti-fraud clearance

tax release

account unlock

just know you are likely being scammed.

Simple rule

> If they need your money before giving you your money, run.

What to do if this happens

1. Do not send more money
2. Screenshot everything
3. Contact your bank immediately
4. Report the receiving account
5. Block the scammer
6. Contact the real company through official channels
Final word

I’m posting this because somebody else may currently be at that same stage:

excited

suspicious

hopeful

but still tempted
That combination is dangerous.

If this saves even one person from sending “verification money,” then this post has done its job.

I don't know whether to vote for against just that in my compound I know of a girl who has slept with one of my neighbours, then moved to the next one, moved into his room, they were shacking and banging and she later got pregnant and now na husband and wife everybody they call them. Meanwhile, na d same compound o. Even went to church for baby dedication. So, of na ur destiny, bro, if not why not?

Everyone is absolutely responsible for the outcome of one's life. Yes, your parent/nation/environment might give you some advantage but ultimately, you are responsible for the outcome of your life. Stop finding who or what to blame.

Ibrahim1985:
You made a very good point but at the same time, some kids are negative affected. What if they were neglient parents or was just a very bad influence e.g dad was not around due to gambling so kids flaunt schools or did not attend school because school fees was not paid. I know a person particularly whose parents were on drugs and lack of parental guidance almost made him a hooligan. After all , there is saying we are products of our environment

I do not agree with that saying; we being a produ t of our environment. Yes, our environment can be a factor but truth is what the environment does is to present you with a choice. My dad was a complete alcoholic. When I mean alcoholic, I mean a confirmation confirmento one. The area I was born and gree up in back then in oke-ona, ifako, agege had beer parlours in them, in short, the face2face we were living in had a shop that was actually a beer parlour (I can still remember what the owner looks like) but you know what, I'm 32 years old and I've Never for once tasted alcohol. In short, the smell irks me and this is not even a Jesus's factor. So, if na environment mesef for don dey drink up and down and messing myself up for the whole street and neighbours to see. It's all about choices bro. So, even if your parents are "wayward" you still have a choice to decide which way you want to go. That choice could be passive or active. You can choose for yourself or allow others/life choose for you. One love bro!

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