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uj_sizzle: Nice one, i'll read later.

No problem sweet heart, I mean it's not like we are going anywhere. Lol.

ladunsky: dating success? Crap....

So she said. Lol. Sweetie I get it. Trust me I really do. This might not the best tread for you to be reading.

I mean who likes their trade secrets exposed to the public.

I sure as heck don't.

Take heart sweetie. it gonna be ok.

Peace.

Nikky-paradise:
Lets pop champain....!!! 1st to coment.......i dedicate ds award of 1st 2 comment 2 almighty God 4d strength 2coment.,,2 mtn 4 der 5mb.,, 2ma mum 4 d 9ce meal and lastly 2 paradise

Congrats my man. it's not an easy thing to do these days on nairaland.

I think today’s topic is SO INCREDIBLY CRITICAL for men to achieving their dating success, I’d talk about it all day if I could.

The topic is simply this:

Too many guys confuse what they *THINK* it means to be “successful with women” with what it ACTUALLY takes to succeed with women.

To put it another way…

If you’re a guy who’s still looking for the relationship of his dreams (or maybe hasn’t even had much dating success yet) then tell me if any of the following statements apply to you:

===>You feel like there are specific REASONS that you haven’t had huge success with women yet — most of which involve feeling like you’re somehow not enough and there is something still missing.

===>You use these reasons to “explain” and “excuse” all of your challenges with women, from not getting dates to failing to build great relationships.

===>You believe that if you could just attain one particular statue, all of your problems with women would magically go away.

Okay, so how many of these statements apply to YOU?

Be honest with yourself nobody is watching you and to be frank with you, nobody really cares!

If you’re like most guys suffering from a lack of passionate, fulfilling experiences with women, I can tell you this:

It’s almost GUARANTEED that at least 1 of the above answers applied to you.

In fact…

I believe there’s a pretty good chance that you would actually answer:

ALL OF THE ABOVE.

Like I said…

For more guys than I can count, their beliefs about what it means to be “successful with women” are completely FALSE.

Unfortunately, most men make it impossible to get their love lives on track because they accept one or more of these “false evidence appearing to the real” as an EXCUSE for not succeeding with women.

They let their false beliefs about what it takes to be a “real man” drag them down in the mud in both life and love.

They let these false beliefs hold them back.

Worst of all, they let these NOTHINGS give them a reason to continue ACCEPTING PAIN and FAILURE.

Not great.

With all of that in mind…

If you’re a guy who can’t get a handle on what it takes to succeed with women, I need to share some information that you desperately need to hear.

Hold on tight, here it comes… the no 1 “False Evidence Appearing To Be Real” that might be keeping YOU from succeeding with the women of your dreams:

YOU NEED TO BE GOOD-LOOKING OR RICH TO GET A GREAT WOMAN

This false belief is like a terminal disease. I wish I could wipe it out with a vaccine or something.

The real FACT is this:

Although most guys may focus on superficial traits like a woman’s looks… WOMEN rarely does. Women tend to focus more on “inner” qualities.

Qualities like:

• Personality.

• Character.

• Self-esteem.

• Confidence.

Especially when it comes to intelligent, interesting, attractive women, the “inner” traits of CONFIDENCE and CONTROL are far more rare and valuable than just looking like an ass model.

But here’s the REALLY great news for every guy reading this right now:

Becoming the kind of confident, secure man that ALL women are looking for is actually a LEARN-ABLE SKILL.

Are you one of those guys who’s STILL can’t go out and successfully meet TONS of amazing women?

If yes, I don’t need a crystal ball to figure out why:

• You are afraid of getting rejected yet again
• You don’t know exactly what to say to her
• Every time you think it’s time to approach a woman your palm start sweating and your heart starts beating really fast
• You simply got shy every time and chickens out.

Am I close?

There are actually 4 other methods (some of them totally UNDER THE RADAR) for meeting AMAZING WOMEN in any situation!

Problem is, YOU (and 99% of guys) have no clue they exist, in my “NO B.S. ONLY THE TRUTH” book: NO B.S. GUIDE TO APPROACHING WOMEN IN ANY SITUATION AND ANTI-WUSS RESPONSE. I reveal all the secrets and techniques to overcome this challenge yourself without any help. This book is currently available on Amazon kindle here: ===>http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00EFWUT28

Have a great weekend!
Fidelis.

Glam fairy01: like seriously,y is it always d fine guys?

No, sweerie. Not always. I mean You haven't seen me yet. Lol.

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Raggedy_Ann: I believe, you date a guy to get to know him better and see how he fits you for a serious relationship. Dating doesn't necessarily include sex (or not immediately), it`s more like - can we actually enjoy each other`s company. That said, I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with dating several people at a time as long as you're all on the same page. Serial dating is just a huge waste of time.

If I really like a guy and it`s mutual, we could decide to crank it up and become exclusive. In this case he's now my BF and fidelity is no longer optional - it`s required.

*Drum Beat*

Now that's what I'm talking about!

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Best answer I have heard all morning.
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Thanks sweetie!

I'm almost sure that your BF is a very lucky man.

Lol.

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Yomii: Poster, i beleive in individual preference. What i call bad, some other person will call good. i have seen guys who play around with different chicks and the babes seems not to be aware that this guy actually have other gals. Like during my 3rd year in the Uni, i used to have a friend who do not beleive in dating just one lady but several others should in case one f*ck up the other will serve as replacement.
But there comes a time in a man' life when he needs to decide who he want to settle down with. God created Adam and Eve and not Adam and Evesssss. Real men date a single responsible lady.

Got it.

Spoken like a true over-educated, bulk-salary-earner type of man. Lol

I get it. You are a real gentleman.

So you are telling me, you never, you know... On the side be before?

Come on man, let's get it all out in the open.

teeo: Depends on what your looking for

True! but still doesn't say which you are for though...

Come on bro! No dull yourself.

Now this is what I call a controversy topic.

Earlier yesterday, I was having this exact same discussion with a very good friend of mine 'Chief Chijioke Mbanefo'. A.K.A ‘Osadebe Junior’ (Onyemmacha).

Is it wrong to date more than one woman at a time?

Should you?... Or Should you NOT?...

That’s the question.

Most guys ‘feel’ it’s WRONG to date more than one girl at the same time.

While some bad sharp ones feel there is NOTHING wrong with it.

Now, most girls have more than just a “feeling” about this. (Especially my Nairaland ladies. Or ‘N. Ladies’ as I like to call them)

I want to know your take on this topic.

It doesn’t matter if you are a man or a woman, Let’s hear your take.

Don’t hold anything back.

P.S. If you’re a man and want to know my take on this topic and in the process learn more about “women and dealing with them” then get my FREE Report at:

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Mr..Cork:
GAY ALERT!!... Bro i detect a signal!

I wouldn have expected this from everyone else but you.

Why?

Because you should know better.

Why call a brother 'GAY' just because he lose interest immediately after the girl become "too comfortable".

Let's face most 'average naija girls' becomes "too predicable" and "too comfortable" immediately hooking up with a guy, which will sometimes cause some men to lose "the spark"...

The guy just have to UPGRADE 'his choice of women'.

Learn and master how to do just that here...

http://www.woonaijawomen.com

mondi_cheeks: for a guy who's idea of a first date is going out for beer?

Well, no, the picture thing will not be for me (ok maybe a little bit) but do you know how many rich dudes we have here.

Be wise girl

Advertise!

Lol.

mondi_cheeks: must u always be on my case jus because u feel inadequate

Ouch!

Why hit on a brother with a word like that.

Take it easy girl.

The dude probably likes you. You never know where or when you will finally meet "THE ONE".

kambo: guy on a serious note , you lack content. really. u've not addressed any issue i raised just making barren exclamations.
as for the person talking of hating.. ? who's hating?
you're on an international website , marketing yourself and your product and
yet the product is riddled with holes?
my first post highlighted some inconsistencies in your product offering - you ignored it.
i made a second post summarising some points still you ignore --
you are suppose to be logically fortified to defend your assertions here .
your website name is woonaija (if i'm not wrong) , from the name alone its apparent you are targeting the nigerian market else you'd have used a more universal name.
the testimonial on the site is by a nigerian.
yet the marketing is contradictory, it raises brows.
indomie is marketed to the nigerian market, they made a promotional cartoon to advertise their brand - guess what - the super heroes in the cartoons were 'nigerianized' black skin etc why? - ask yourself.
yet your own marketing has caucasian models ? c'mon. use some sense here?
u dont need an mba to see you're sending wrong signals.
look at the dating tabs on this nairaland, dont you see a black guy kissing a black babe
and a black babe hugging a brown skin guy? why dont they use caucasians to model the product for the market (naija)?

>> you are supposedly a master coach - using an out of place line l ike -
inviting a lady for a "beer" not a drink but a beer.
the guy's who will be taking your advice will be wanting top chicks like 7-10 out 10 range , sophisticated babes something better than the typical types they attract
and first pitch is "let's go for a beer?"

>> you talk about exotic neighbourhoods , unique architecture, going for walks .
which raised eye brows.

i'm not a dating coach or interestd in being one or rivaling you,
but you came across un prepared and the loop holes in your presentation is so blatant.

They're dating coaches on youtube, with their own consultancies they run seminars,
you come across and not knowing what your saying with these cheap pitches of yours
and you'll drive nails into your coffin before wary prospects.
if at a glance i can see so much holes in your pitch what would happen to those who
are mor critical?
nokia 3310? - out of point remarks-..

Oh-oh!

You know, I might be wrong but - I have feeling that you simply "dont like me".

Like I said, "I might wrong".

What lead me to that observation?

Usually Others who dissagreed with my posts will start words like: Yawn!, Crap, I'm out of here, and other sweet words like that.

But you...

Nada... Nothing...

Instead you want to tell me how to run my website, the type of picture to upload - how to design it and everything.

Again, I might be wrong but it's as if you feel I owe you an obligatin to "defend myself to you".

I mean which other reason could it be?

It's not like I slept with one of your girlfriends... while you are still going out with her. did I? Lol.

Just kidding.

I'm sure our path never probably crossed, yet.

It's not like I don't appreciate a little contructive criticism.

Because believe me, I do.

But yours it's a little bit out there.

I mean, you wrote and I quote: "you're on an international website , marketing yourself and your product and
yet the product is riddled with holes?
my first post highlighted some inconsistencies in your product offering - you ignored it.
i made a second post summarising some points still you ignore --
you are suppose to be logically fortified to defend your assertions here .
your website name is woonaija (if i'm not wrong) , from the name alone its apparent you are targeting the nigerian market else you'd have used a more universal name.
the testimonial on the site is by a nigerian."

Listen bro, this post (as any of my posts) is from my personal research and it's not meant as a lincenced proffessional opinion - I think everyone here knows - so if you dissagree with my post here simply hit me back with your "can't do's" and we will work it out here.

But if you visit my website - http://www.woonaijawomen.com - and have any contructive advice for me, click "contact us" page and leave me your message. I'd appreciate it more. Believe me I pay people just to do that.

Are we cool?

Peace.

kambo: poster, my post is loooooooong cuz i raised issues with points u presented. Ur ideas clearly didnt fit into d nigerian environment that u want 2 market ur product in. I visited ur site saw ur books with caucasian models on d cover pages -- yet u targeting the black market ur either delibrately un savvy about marketing or a white trying to pose as a black . Get ur game right dude. U talkd about taking a girl out 4 a beer, how many nigerian first dates hav u gotten with tht line!? I assume u run a coaching business drop your number office address and line. Ur post reeks of un originality, the testimonial from the guy on your website is so fake it's obvious. If ur a nigerian, stop regurgating materials u got frm other dating books.. Research and come up with your own content. Hope u can read and understand this one (sent from my phone) he he he

Na wao!

-Get my game right

-how many nigerian first dates hav u gotten with tht line!?

I mean like, Are you serious?

Someone seriously took a bit*ch pills. Lol.

I mean you are telling me Nigeria books with caucasian models on d cover is a proplem.

Seriously "dude", Throway that phone you are typing with and go get yourself a "nokia 3110". Lol.

Let's play nice, bro.

Creamish: lolz . . depends on how much u give me to buy foodstuff in d mkt . . small money = indomie. Plenty money = correct native soup wit goat meat, okporoko, dried fish, nsam, canda etc . .

I have been falling a little bit asleep before... But now...

I'm back in.

I gotta be somewhere in fifteen minutes, inbox that phone digit.

Creamish: R U SERIOUS? . . . WELL, IF INDOMIE IS FOOD . .THEN YES

INDOMIE. Seriously?

Na. That's doesn't count as food.

As a matter of fact - That doesn't as anything.

I mean my 4years old niece can kiss-a*s on an award-cooking-indomie competition.

What else can you cook?

Make it count.

Creamish: LOLZ . . . just removed it. Check again.

Okay, Now we are getting somewhere.

You got my attention... But...

Can you cook?

Creamish: profile

Checked your profile...

Judging by the pic there - You might not be even legal to date.

Where are your parents?

Lol.

Creamish: Wuld u believe wat i say?

Maybe.

Then again... I can always ask for proof - so, no foul... no Harm.

So?

Creamish: HAHAHA . . .na so. .

Yeah.

What can I say...

I'm a sucker for Strong Independent Attractive Women.

I mean, you're gorgoues - aren't you?

190: Nigerian girls won't find this post funny

OP do you want them to starve

You are preaching to the choir.

Although most appreciate the openness amd uniqueness.

To starve them was not my intention, far from it - but for them to actually have more fun on a date.

And I think most girls are actually getting it.

...While some - well you can't please everybody.

Peace bro.

http://www.woonaijawomen.com

pro01: Bits and pieces of the post make a great deal of sense. Although it is nonsensical to expect a naija girl to pay when you take her out. It simply doesn't work in our culture. Other than this, I agree with some of the other points in the post.

For instance, I simply don't do movie and restaurant 'dates' because they are generally a bleeping waste of time. And yes, I agree they trigger unnecessary 'courtship' behaviours in some confused women. It's more effective to take them to lounges/bars and decent 'beer parlours' (lol) where you can have your beer/wine while she has hers, over plates of mende mende. I agree its a more relaxed and 'natural' environment than some stoopid and stiff fancy restaurant or movie theatre. Then again, it shows you are doing things on your own terms, playing by your own rules, which is always crucial.

I can only take a girl to the movies if she asks for it at some point, and then it must be a girl that I am already intimate with, not some new girl still trying to play hard-to-get on her fat ass. If she no gree, make she waka. Others plenty for queue.

If it wouldn't have sound a little bit "gay", I would have said "I love you man". Lol.

It's refreshing to see a man who "get it".

Keep in touch bro.

Creamish: On a serious note . . i think the guyz are the ones shooting themselves. If u dont have it, dont flaunt to impress. If she likes u without it, its genuine. On the other hand, if ur d generous sort, dont get discouraged. Just be careful not to fall mugu.

Personally, its not about the money finally . . its his xter dat matters. Iv got a great job so gifts dont impress me. A simple date like a walk down a quiet road, time @ d beach or just chilling at a park does it for me.

I couldn't have said it better myself.

You get it.

Infact sweetheart, You gotta give your number. I'm sure your boyfriend will understand.

My Indipendent Lady.

pleep: Good post man, i've been looking for other ways to date other than the same old dinner and a movie. Not only is it getting old but its not fun.

And you are right the hard to get stuff starts going into over-drive once you take girls on a traditional date. Nice observation, you clearly know what you are talking about.

Much apprech bro,

Now you are getting it.

Let's show them who the boss is. Lol.

Keep it up.

mondi_cheeks: Yes OP which girl doesn't like getting intoxicated (with beer) on her first date with a guy

Sweetheart!

Don't worry, I know a trick question when I see one.

And do me a favor, next time you want to make a post here, add pretty picture of yourself. (Preferably with your hot girlfriends) - there are way two many prospects for you here.

Be good.

kambo: this is not a nigerian -- maybe a foreigner with a black pix on his website.
i see pieces of other dating coaches writing in the write up..
besides this poster hasnt been or is based in naija.
visited your site -- if you're targeting the naija market ,
produce naija books (with real 9ja babes and models on the pages )
the intro isnt even naijan.
"lets meet for a bottle of beer"! -- guy , naija babes dont have a beer drinking culture.yeah some trip over guinness but to be guzzling over over sized bottles of
gulder, star etc - in the west their beer bottles are smaller and the trend is
setting in here but it is not the wide spread culture for a naija babe to
guzzle beer not to talk of going on a beer date.!!

"alternatve neigbourhood" - u wish - where ? in the many littered middle class or slums
in naija (guy u're plagiarizing western content or a westener trying to sell your wares
in naija soil. better come live here for some years to adapt to the setting.. )
".. with movie shops etc " -- before silver bird brought it galleria (wich isnt even popular)
movie going was a phrase we heard or saw in western media.
naijans dont have a movie going culture dude.
movies are watched at home or on laptops or pc's.
try telling naija girl - "lets go to the movies .. in sokoto or anywhere where silver bird no dey "
. and any babe in her late 20's aint no movie going fan.

alternative places? "every city has these?" --
you dont live in naija.
a sandwich of some decent places - with clear intention to keep it out of access of
the non rich.
some sprinkling of middle class neighbourhoods
stretches of slums.
middle class neighbourhoods contain blocks of houses same with rich neighbourhoods.
people dont walk around -- its considerd poor - everybody wants to drive cuz
in most cases there no town planning for walk ways -
its just one lane road for cars and plots for houses.
and when you're driving in a car you can't drive slow enough to sight see ,
most roads are jammed with traffic in the morning and night when workers are going/returning from work..
so sorry guy -- you'r selling western content or your head is in the clouds..


you pay and she pay..
ha!!
most naija girls are dead ass broke-- forget their externals--
they buy all them externals to attract a guy (that's all they got going)
so you a see a nice looking girl and put this proposition for
splitting cost 50/50 -- you'll either get her clutching her pride and sprinting
or buckling and confessing "nothing dey.."
for those naija babes who aint dead broke -- none students, working sisters,
rich/well-off peeps ,
most won't buy your proposition - they just dont give.
believe me.
a naija babe can have N100 000 idle cash around and still want to collect N500 from her bobo for
recharge card. they're this stingy.
A naija babe can be dating a guy for 6 years and never for once advance a gift worth
N10 000 despite her being a working babe! if a naija babe spends on a guy - there's
a catch - she has eyes on locking in the guy (in marraige ) , she can go the mile to
polish him up (lie steal cheat sleep around etc ) even sponsor him abroad IF AND ONLY IF
she's sure she'll bag him at the end like a metal trophy!
that's the exception.
when a naija babe spends on a guy - its an investment.
so mister , wake up -- you aint no naijan.
and stop pulling the wool over our eyes with this crappy reeeky white western bullshit.

Ah-ha!

Alright bro, let's see what the pros is here.

Although your post is somewhat "jaga-jaga", not well formated and waaay three long for a reply - hence making it hard to read and understand - I think I kinda fell asleep in middle. Lol.

Just kidding.

From what I can make out your post, it seem your issue is not so much from this post - but my credibility, and whether I'm a true Naija guy or not and also if this post really apply to Nigerians.

Am I right?

I think "pro01" ansered the question - if this truely apply to Nigeria society.

And Finally "Creamish" put the final nail in the coffin with her response.

And guess what bro, SHE IS A LADY.

So, what does that tells you?

I'm sure I don't need to say anymore.

Am I truely a Naija Guy?

You bet your a*s - I am!

And a very proud one at that.

Every materials and photos you saw on my website 101% me and all apply to Nigerian Culture.

Keep it light.

http://www.woonaijawomen.com

TalkingToYaSelf: ^You Alwayz on some Bitter Bullshit

Some Nigerian Women Took you to the Cleaners

Stole ya Heart, Ya Cash, Ya Cars, Ya Soul, Ya Spirit, Ya Spine, Ya Life.

Every GodDamn Thang......

Some Woman took the Total Essence of Your Complete Vital Being

Relegated You to an Anti Woman Forum Preacher of Some Sort.

She Extracted Your Soul My Niqqah, The Total Exodus of Your Existence

Have a Good Day Sir.

Nice! ANOTHER ONE AGAIN.

Okay sweetie, let me see if I can reply this real quick.

#1. You describe me with so many words (both the ones I understand and the ones I care not-to) that it's a bit hard to reply to your post.

#2. I got to ask. Why use all that color? I mean it's not like we can't see what you wrote in black.

#3. Your language. This might be another one of "my personal opinion". But you don't really sound "Lady-like".

In you post, you said and I quote: "Some Nigerian Women Took you to the Cleaners

Stole ya Heart, Ya Cash, Ya Cars, Ya Soul, Ya Spirit, Ya Spine, Ya Life.

Every GodDamn Thang......

Some Woman took the Total Essence of Your Complete Vital Being

Relegated You to an Anti Woman Forum Preacher of Some Sort."

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Which begs the question...
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Have you NOT been paying attention at all?

I mean I have answered and responded to all the: "woman broke your heart so you are taking it out on other women" comments.

I going refer you back to a respond I made to "Sapphire86".

Pay attention sweetie, it goes a long way.

Or do you just like "TalkingToYaSelf". Lol.

I always have a nice day.

Peace.

http://www.woonaijawomen.com

tpacalipse: What is wrong for a woman to pay for what she consumed or about to consume?

Absolutely NOTHING.

I mean, I like it when the woman pick up the bill - or tried to - as the case may be.

If you can get one of those, big "kposaa" for you (did I spell that correctly).

Keep living it up.

Gamji007: Its seems many ladies are not finding this wonderful piece interesting!

Nice one op.

Yes bro, they are really not. I mean I'm like under open fire - which make it more interesting.

Thanks bro.

Peace.

Sapphire86: Of course it is easier 2 get online n say u r d f**king best.
Nobody asked u 2 treat women good above ur terms!

Get it!!

You are a feisty one, aren't you.

I like it.

Well, you don't have to tell me to treat women good - just the way my mama brought me up.

And for the record, yeah I got it.