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Sapphire86: Gbam!!
Luk @ d poor excuse of a man talking. I pity all the females in ur life e.g wife, daughters, sisters etc

You know I love it whenever my writing generate such heat. It makes me be 100% sure that I got gold.

And for comment that you "pity the women in my life" - actually sweetie the opposite should be the case.

I mean got like testomies to comfirm this.

All the women in my life, always tells me that, I'm the most wonderful and generous man they have ever met.

Sound like a lie, doesn't it?

But it's really not.

You see, if you pay a real attention to all my posts, you will see the core of what i teach.

Which is NOT: TREAT WOMEN BAD.

Far from it.

BUT...

TREAT WOMEN VERY GOOD... BUT... ON YOUR OWN TERMS!

Get it?

Idowuogbo: Blah blah blah and more fevking BLAH! Broke mudafuckers.

You know sweet heart, if I was just any other guy, I would be offend by your words.

Well, thankfully I'm not. And for the record - I couldn't possibly be broke - atleast for more 20 years to come. Lol.

Let's play nice, alright.

aadetoyin: No mind am. Na real copy and paste. This article doesn't relate with the African society at all.
I can count the number of times that I have paid for dinner when I go out with Hubby, its either his birthday or just one of those days that he deserves a treat. If not, he is paying.

Sorry sweetie, but I don't think you "get it".

Let me try to explain.

1. This topic is for "men only".

2. And when I say men, I meant "single guys" who don't yet have someone like you to call their own.

You know how you used to hated it when every guy that approached you try to impress you with expensive dinner, fancy car and bosting about how much they are worth.

I know you get it.

Well that's exacly what I'm teaching my fellow bros to avoid doing.

Peace.

pDude: Copy and paste oyibo bullshyt.

Trust me bro, none of my posts is copy and paste. (I currently got 2 products on this subject to back it up)

As for the "oyibo bullshyt" as you put it, well all I can say is, it depends on where you live - which will ultimately decide the type and kind of women you meet.

Be good.

baibijay: what is this?

Something you probably shouldn't be looking at, honey.

This is the most challenge that all men face (especially single and searching guys)

"To pay or not to pay, that is the question."

Here are some of the problems that "paying" creates:

1. It sets you up as the one who is "pursuing" the woman, which gives away your power to her.

2. It can be expensive.

3. It usually causes women to play even "harder to get".

4. It triggers all kinds of "courtship" behaviors. Like her making you prove yourself, waiting to have sex, etc.

5. The places you'll be going to "pay" are often not the best places to actually get to know another human being.

Movies, fancy dinners, etc., aren't natural environments and they don't lead to people "being themselves".

So, what other choice do you have?

Well, the FIRST thing you should do is CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK ABOUT "DATING"...and "paying".

Most guys just naturally assume that if they're "taking a girl out" that they need to take her to a show or movie, a nice restaurant for dinner, etc.

And by the way, this is actually part of a much BIGGER issue...that most guys feel OBLIGATED to give things to women, buy them things...and basically PAY for their attention and affection.

Of course, these are basically the WORST places to go with a woman in the beginning because, as I mentioned above, they aren't very "natural" places to be.

Instead of asking a woman "out to dinner", try this...

When you're talking on the phone about getting together say:

"Let's meet for a bottle of beer. This way, if YOU turn out to be a complete spoiled brat, I can run away easily."

This will get a laugh, and it will get her thinking to herself, "Wow, this guy is funny and different, I can’t want to meet him."

In-case you don’t this…

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This is exactly where you want her to be.
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When you meet for drink, actually drink beer.

After you have drinks for 30 or 60 minutes, decide how YOU like HER. If you want to continue say either:
"Hey, let's keep talking. I want to shop for a bit, come along."

...or...

"Hey, let's keep talking. Where are you parked? You can follow me..." (to your place, of course).

In either case, just assume that she will go along with whatever you're doing, and she almost always will if you're doing a good job well.

If you do go out "shopping", go to a funky alternative neighborhood that has movie shops, record stores, ethnic food restaurants, etc. Every city has an area like this, so go there.

These places are SO GREAT because they have fun and interesting conversation BUILT RIGHT IN.

If things are going well, and you're enjoying the time with her, you can then have her follow you over to your place.

Again, just tell her that you're enjoying the conversation, and that you'd like to continue...and for her to follow you.

Total expense (if you pay for her drink and yours):

A few bucks.

How much better is this than taking her out to an expensive meal and trying to have a normal conversation across a table while being forced to stare right at each other all night?

You do the math.

If you actually do a little creative thinking, you can figure out ALL KINDS of great things to do that cost little or no money at all when you go out with women.

Extra bonus:

When you don't do "normal" dating things, women will tend to play "hard to get" less. They'll expect less in the way of gifts and money spent on them and they'll actually HAVE MORE FUN.

That’s right. Seriously.

And if you're reading this right now, and you haven't yet downloaded my FREE REPORT on dating and meeting women, you really need to get a copy. It's the foundation for everything I teach in these posts, and it will make EVERYTHING about women and dating make more sense.

It's at...

http://www.woonaijawomen.com

Ebestsms.com:
All this things for her!

Wahala dey ooooo

Is she queen Elizabeth. Imagine in a country were women plenty like Northern mosquitoes.

Queen Elizabeth, huh?

She is not that hot, bro.

And I think any man who is what his salt, MUST know how to ATTRACT WOMEN.

You see bro, One of the things I’ve realized is that dating attractive women, supermodel or actress isn’t going to automatically change your life and make you “all happy” on the inside. In fact, if you believe that attracting a woman will be the answer to all of life’s problems – sorry think again…

But I can also tell you from experience that learning how to successfully meet women anytime, day or night, in any situation will bring you HUGE benefits.

I have now come to realize something that I think is very very important to any man…

If you don’t know how to successfully meet women, then you’re probably going to walk through life feeling like “less than a man”. It’s not an easy thing to explain to someone who doesn’t “understand it”, but I’ll bet that you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about.

If you DO know how to meet and attract women, you’re going to have an inner confidence and “mojo” that other people can sense INSTANTLY.


If you really want to handle this area of your life, then I know a place you can get a complete knoledge on MEETING AND ATTRACTING WOMEN AND DATING - Find out at the Link below:

http://www.woonaijawomen.com

oluking: Make e no be like say person no Comment for your Post i for no comment

AWW!... That's so sweet. Thanks for being so considerate. Lol.

Hey guys…

It’s been awhile since I posted my last post here… Been a little busy with my product launching…

Anyway…

Below is a question I received from a student of mine… read it through and who knows you might pick up a thing or two along the way…

It is very crucial especially for guys who are in a relationship or a Jonny-Just-Come in a relationship.

Are you ready?

Let’s hit it…

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Mailbox-Question From A Real Student
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Hi Fidelis,
Thanks for all your great info that I have been receiving over the past several months. I have been putting into practice the things I learned from your e-book and newsletters with much improved results in the dating scene...........in one of your newsletters you mentioned that jealousy is the strongest of all emotions. How do you deal with it, if your woman who tries to make you jealous. What's the best mindset and way to handle it Fidelis.
-Dammy Abuja

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>>>MY OWN COMMENTS:
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Jealousy is such a fascinating topic.

I'm not sure that I said it was the "strongest" of all emotions... but I probably did say that it was one of the most powerful.

Jealousy causes people to do all sorts of stupid and crazy things... but it can also keep relationships together.

For instance…

If a woman knows that other women are interested in you, she'll want you more.

On the left hand…

If a man finds out that his girl is sleeping with another man, he can fly into a rage that often leads to violence (or worse).

Women are very notorious for trying to make men jealous.

Many women intuitively realize that jealousy will make a man more interested and make him work harder for her attention and affection.

If a woman tries to make me jealous, I just laugh in china.

If she says:

"Oh, this guy I used to date called me last night to see if I was single..."

I might laugh and say:

"Well you should go out with him."

At this point a woman will usually realize that what she's doing isn't working and say, "No, I don't want to go, why did you say that?"

Or

I might be with a woman and another man calls her, she picks up and it was obvious to you that person on the other end is a man – after she ends the call (75% of the time) she will frowns and tell you so so guy have been disturbing her to out with him.

Laugh and say:

“Well, you should go out with him then”

This response always throws a woman off balance as that was not the response she was expecting from you.

It's important to overcome the natural tendency in life to have your emotions triggered by outside events.

It takes some work in many cases, but it's worth it.

Jealousy is an almost useless emotion. Do your best to realize that you don't need it... and then communicate that you're not easily played... and you don't get jealous over other men.

Works wonders, and makes you even more attractive.

If you are reading this post and feel like you need more info and advice on this topic: “Meeting Women and Dating” then visit the link below for a FREE SPECIAL REPORT that has your name on it.

Ciao!

Source:
http://www.woonaijawomen.com

Hey brothers… I think it is good idea to have a laugh or two and also a few “AH-HAA” moments at the expense of our better half’s (or so they say)…

I found these online and thought: "who is better to share them with than my brothers"

Let’s go…

1. Women are not actually looking for an honest answer when they ask you, 'How do I look?'

2. Women are definitely NOT looking for an honest answer when they ask you, 'Is that girl hot?'

3. Women are never wrong. Apologizing is a man's responsibility.

4. It's okay for two women to dance together and not be considered gay. This cannot be said when two men are dancing together though.

5. A Saudi Arabian woman can get a divorce from her partner if he doesn't offer her coffee.

6. It is illegal to be a prostitute in Siena, Italy if your name is Mary.

7. If a man goes on a seven-day trip, he’ll pack five days worth of clothes and will wear some things twice; if a woman goes on a seven-day trip she’ll pack 21 outfits because she doesn’t know what she’ll feel like wearing each day

8. They say that when a man holds a woman's hand before marriage, it is love; after marriage it is self-defense.

9. When women are right about something, they just sit there quietly without saying anything. They might nod at you with a sarcastic smile which is a sure sign that they don't believe a single word that you are saying. Have you noticed how men go on and on to prove their point?

10. Women never have anything to wear. Don't question the racks of clothes in the closet; you "just don't understand".

11. Women keep three different shampoos and two different conditioners in the shower. After a woman showers, the bathroom will smell like a tropical rain forest

12. Women need to feel like there are people worse off than they are. That's why soap operas and Oprah Winfrey-type shows are so successful

13. Women will always ask questions that have no right answer, in an effort to test you (if you been following the newsletters I have been sending you – then you know what “The Tests” are and how to pass all of them each time with flying color).

14. Women never shudder when a male character gets kicked in the groin in a movie.

15. Women will always be attracted to the bad boys, and will only “settle” for the nice guys as the back-up plan. You just have to discover the secrets that make women feel The-All-Time-ATTRACTION for the bad boys.

For more about women and dating checkout the source below:

See you guys later…

Source:
http://www.woonaijawomen.com

I’m going to reveal some simple secrets here, and if you learn them, you’ll be able to confidently go out anytime, any day and approach the most beautiful and attractive women, and walk out with more phone numbers and dates than you can handle. But before I do that, let me describe 2 scenarios to see if you can relate with any of them:

Scenario #1:
You’re out having a drink with your buddies, and notice an attractive woman. You make eye contact, and feel like you “have a chance” with her. But you don’t know how to start the conversation. By the time you figure out what to say and work up the courage to talk to her, she’s talking to a different guy Or worse She’s gone. Imagine if you had a “lock and load” system to start a conversation, create some “chemistry,” every time?

Scenario #2:
You probably know this: Attractive women who obviously have NO problem getting attention from men carry themselves in a way that says, “I am a powerful sexy-beautiful woman, and this to-die face and body can get me anything I want.” You know that they can have any guy they want. You know that every guy is looking at them. But you also know that she’s just a woman. And you know that if you only knew HOW to do it, you could get her attention and connect with her. What would it be worth to you to know how to break through her beauty power defense, start a conversation, and get a date with her?

Now, as you were reading those scenarios you might have been wondering how I could describe situations you’ve been in so perfectly. The answer, of course, is that I’ve lived those situations over and over and over…

To Discover:

==>The 3 Deadly Mistakes Guys Make That Guarantee They’ll Meet No Women, Get No Dates, And Go Home Alone

==>2 simple ways you can grab a woman’s attention IMMEDIATELY

==>How to “Stack The Odd” In your favor every time you meet a woman

==>Dozens and dozens of step-by-step strategies and techniques for approaching women and starting conversations, making women choose you over other men, how to get in with the very hottest women in a bar or a club

==>And Much much, more…

Click here http://www.woonaijawomen.com/blog/category/approaching-beautiful-women to read the whole post on today’s blog

Source:
http://www.woonaijawomen.com
Helping You Achieve Your Maximum Success With Women Is My Ultimate Goal.

Hey bro, if it will make you feel any better- about 98% of Nairaland readers doesn’t have a clue on how to start a conversation with women either.

And you know what else?

Today is your lucky day… because I’m here!

Do you know who I am?

Well, I will leave you to struggle and figure that out by yourself… in the meantime here is what you need to know:

It doesn’t really matter what you say!

What!?

Yeah… I can hear that from here but unfortunately…

I don’t really have the time to explain this here today… but fortunately for you- I just posted an article on this exact topic on my BLOG this morning… I will highly advise you leave everything you are doing right now and head over here: http://www.woonaijawomen.com/blog/approaching-beautiful-women/girls to absorb this information.

After reading that and you still wants more in-depth advice on dating then I recommend you join my Inner-Member-Cycle here http://www.woonaijawomen.com It doesn’t cost a dime and you will receive a FREE eBook immediately you join

Best of luck
Marc Fidelis
Nigeria #1 Dating Coach For Men

Hey guys, How is the weekend going...

I have a question that I received from one of my students that I wish to share with you here on this platform because I know you will benefit greatly (especially if you are a man) from it.

...And just so you know, you don't have to agree with everything I say... So don't be afraid to let me know what you think...

...But in any case, if you did agree with me, then, good for you, and I will see you on the other side...

So are you ready... Let's go...

***DATING QUESTION FROM A READER***
I recently ended a relationship with a girl I have been dating for over six years after I caught her red handed cheating on me with another man. After breaking up with her I found myself having a hard time making connections with women after being in a 6-year relationship. Before I met my ex-girlfriend I considered myself as a "player" and had little trouble finding girls to go out with. After being out of the scene for so long, I had lots of trouble trying to get back in to the swing of things. Your eBook and emails have instantly put me back in the game and I am now getting dates with very attractive women! It's been amazing!! Thank You!

Now for the question. All these super-beautiful women (or as you refer to them the “The complete 10s”) have brought something into my dates that I am not used to, for example Currently, I am dating this "super-babe" occasionally when we go out on a date, men will hit on her as soon as they get a chance. If I turn my back for second, some guy will try to make eye contact or say something to her. I don't blame the guys because she is very hot, but how do I deal with this in a way that shows I am 100% confident? Typically, I just laugh and continue to have a good time by ignoring the weak attempts to pick up on my girl, but there has to be a way that I can turn this around to make me look more confident in her eyes.
You're the man,
Sunday from Lagos

>>>MY REPLY:

Well then...welcome back, brother!

I've noticed that the period after breaking up with a long-term girlfriend is often a difficult one.

I think it's easy for men to become so comfortable and emotionally dependent in a relationship that they experience a lot of FEAR when ending that relationship...

"What's going to happen?"

"Will I ever meet another woman?"

"How do I get started?"

...etc.

I can remember breaking up with long-term girlfriends in years past, and feeling an empty, fearful, LONELY combination of emotions in my gut that was HORRIBLE.

That feeling ALONE is enough to cause a lot of problems.

And to Add to that, not knowing where to start, what to do, or how to "get your mojo back" if you had it in the past, is usually balls chattering.

I've learned that knowing how to go out anytime and meet women has a couple of MAJOR benefits when it comes to this area:

1) When you know that you can meet women anytime you want, it makes you stop acting so NEEDY and CLINGY in a relationship. Most needy and clingy foot-mat behaviors are rooted in the FEAR that you'll never be able to find another woman.

2) When it comes to ENDING a relationship, this skill makes things MUCH easier. Too many guys stay in relationships that are bad for them, and are afraid to END it because of that deeply-rooted insecurity that comes from not knowing how to walk out the door anytime, anywhere and meet women. When you know how to do this, you won't try to hold on like a pussy-whipped-girly-man, sacrifice your own respect and dignity, pleading and begging, and ultimately make the situation much worse than it would have been if you would have just walked away.

In short, what I'm trying to say is that I think understanding this area called "How to attract women" is KEY to having a good relationship.

When you have that inner swagger and KNOWING, it makes you more attractive...

Now let's talk about what to do when there is competition from other guys...

First I want to talk about what I believe is at the ROOT of the problem:

1) INSECURITY.

2) JEALOUSY.

When you are insecure, you're always wondering if some other guy is going to come along and carry your girl.

This often shows up as a combination of feelings that make you worry about losing your girl, and at the same time worrying about not being able to find another one if you DO lose this one.

This is a BAD, BAD for business because for one it then CLOUDS YOUR THINKING, and creates an illusion that the woman you're with can do so much better than you and that you don’t deserve her.

I’m talking about some deep issues here, but this is the stuff that triggers the ULTIMATE FOOT-MAT types of behaviors.

Then, as if that weren't bad enough, you go out with your girl, and other guys start approaching her right in front of you.

This triggers MORE insecurity, and then the “KOKO” problem...JEALOUSY.

Jealousy is a very powerful emotion.

It often leads people to HURT people they love.

When you're out with your girl, you turn around to order a drink, and when you turn BACK around there's some guy talking to her with that "I'd love to take you home and do things that Jehovah forbids", it can trigger a few emotions...

This is very natural. I personally believe that every man come pre-wired with BOTH of these things:

- We come pre-wired to want women that other men already have

- We come pre-wired to feel jealousy if we suspect that our girl is cheating or if we think that someone is going to take them away from us.

This is all normal and natural stuff.

Now, jealousy doesn't always lead to insecure FOOT-MAT behaviour, sometimes it leads to insecure STUPPIED behaviour, like getting into a fight.

Some men enjoy fights and violence.

And some women have no problem dating a man who likes to beat other men up (or beat her up).

I personally think that violence and hurting other people is the IGNORANT way to deal with things.

But, I also know that there are a lot of guys out there that don't share my views and that’s okay because you entitle to your own opinion.

The POINT I'm trying to make is that insecurity and jealousy make people do all kinds of stupid and thoughtless things.

These emotions take over your mind and body, and can trigger some of the most short-sighted behaviours you'll ever experience.

These are complex emotions that have evolved over thousands and millions of years...and they're not going away anytime soon. In many cases, they literally take control of your mind and body.

For instance...

Continue Reading this Post by going to the blog below:
http://www.woonaijawomen.com/blog/fear-and-jealousy/jealousy-lover-learn-simple-techniques-boost-self-confident-feel-jealous-girl-again

On the Blog, You will discover:

• What triggers jealousy in any man

• What to do every time another man approached your girl in front of you

• Two major benefits to knowing how to approach women anytime you want

• What almost every man does when another guy hits on his girl and what you should do instead

• What getting angry or jealous anytime a man approached your girl does to you and what you “MUST” do instead.

• And much, much, more…

I will see you on the other side…
Your Friend,
Nigeria No. 1 Dating Coach For Men
Marc Fidelis

I woke up this morning and log into Nairanland to know to what’s happening around and read some trending news about our country.

But as I was browsing around on the romance section I can across one post that stood out that I think many guys are struggling with.

After reading this post and others comments on nairaland, I felt compel to republish the question here and give it my best short for other men who are currently going through similar dilemma.

Stay with me on this one to the end...

****Post from Nairaland****

Subject line: I Need To Woo Her Please¡¡¡

Please I am seriously in love with a lady that is more expensive than me....she has a better job, she has a ride while I don't have. We have been on friends for a week

Kindly advice me on steps to take and how to approach her because we have a date tomorrow.

Thanks
by Administrator:

****My Reply****

Okay, after reading this post and others comments from people on nairaland, I can't help it but burst out laughing...

I mean it's hilarious, some of the suggestions say some things like:

• Pray about it and ask God to help you.
• Try to hold her hands. If she allows you, move closer for a kiss.
• Be her secret admirer. Write secret admirer letters to her and put them where she could easily reach it.
• Show her that you care and love her. Even if you don’t have alotta mula, show her that you have more to offer her than a man like Hugh Hefner.
• Pray over what you want, just like Esther in the Bible prayed over what she wanted and she had. Defeat her pride in the spiritual reign with prayers. Win her in the supernatural through prayer.

Trust me, I didn’t edit any of these comments.

Hey, Not that I have anything against praying and asking God for clarity... But this one is like waiting for an accident to happen… in a slow motion.

Someone suggested he be himself, man up and tell her how he feel.

While I’m a big fan of being oneself and manning up, this option might work, but it can also backfire, big time.

Some men think that by professing and telling a woman how they feel, she will automatically develop the same feeling for him.

Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way.

That’s just a wishful thinking.

You see, the fact is "men fall in love a lot quicker than women".

A Man can immediately fall in love or in lust (as the case may be) with a woman he sees on the street for the first time... But for women their pattern is much more complex.

Any good looking-eba-eating guy with some gut can easily approach an average woman on the street anywhere and can easily walk away with her number in less than 2 minute flat or even take her home with him the same day (hey, I’m guilty of this so I know it’s possible)

But… and trust me and it’s a big BUTT. Bigger than InI Edo’s

...When it comes to high quality intelligent and super-beautiful women. It’s a whole new ball game.

My suggestions:

I don’t have the space nor the time to go deep into this subject today, so I’m just going to give you TWO brief concepts to use when attracting super-beautiful-intelligent women:

Solution #1:

Don't Just Tell Her, Show Her.

You have to learn how to communicate with women non-verbally. Once you master this concept the rest is just too easy.

As someone who has been exactly at a similar spot and knows what he is talking about, I can't stress this concept enough.

Solution #2:

Don’t Treat Her Differently.

Almost every guy makes this mistake, when dating a beautiful woman. We tend to treat them differently. We never scold her when she becomes bratty for no good reason, instead we apologize even though we know she is being silly. But the sooner you “get it” the better off and more successful with women you will become.

If want to be really successful with beautiful women then you have to learn treat her with no different than an average girl. Whether on a date or wherever, lay-back as you do when you are out with your close pals and make jokes. Treat her like she is your little annoying bratty little sister. And whenever she shows any not-so-cool attitude, call her on it (in a friendly "I'm only saying this because I care about you" tone).

The truth is if you really want to win the heart of super-beautiful woman, the ones I refers as “The Complete 10”... then you need to master both your inner and outer game.

I created such Complete Program called “How To Be Successful With Women By Being A Bad Boy”… This book will work you through the practical step by step on how women thinks, what they really want and what make them tick. (In this book you will discover in full details why women say they want a Nice guy but in reality when presented with two choices they choose the bad boy)

And much, much more…

You have to read this if you are a single guy or even if you are currently in relationship, order-wise you'll be missing out.

Just being yourself, professing your love to her and hoping for the best won't cut it.

Check out the website below for a FREE in-depth tutorial on Meeting The Love Of Love Your Life.

I remain the "dude" who have been there over and over again, therefore knows what he's talking about.

http://www.woonaijawomen.com

Yes!!! Na me again.

It's time again...

…time to jump into my Readers Questions and answer an actual email question from one of my loyal student.

Stay with me till the end because it gets interesting, (don’t even think of reading three paragraphs then skipping the rest and asking me to summarize it for you because it too long. Not A Chance) take a look at the question and my answer, and then let me know what you think.

I expect your replies at the end… you don’t have to agree with everything I say… so don’t hesitate, STICKING IT TO ME… Lol

Okay let’s begin, shall we…

*Actual Question From A Reader*

I met this girl at a filling station, (where she works) and we have become friends since. I have recently started to like this girl a lot. I see her almost every day, because I will go there to buy fuel everyday (even when I don’t need it) we flirt all of the time, but I don't want to be the one that admits that I like her first.

Her friend told me that she told her that she likes me, but she hasn't really had too much experience in dating.

She is a very nice and very beautiful girl (with long legs and you know that’s a big PLUS) and a good conversationalist so I don't really understand why.

I really want to tell her that I like her, but I have read your book and your weekly articles you always seem to push getting the girl to admit it to you first.

I think she may be too shy to do this though. Would it be ok to admit it to her first in this situation? I know you probably think hanging out with her everyday seems needy, but she is the one that calls me every day and it is very hard to turn her down.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks.

Okay, Now it’s my turn to answer and I promise it ain’t gonna be pretty. So brace yourself…

…You ready?

Nice!

Today’s definitely your lucky day, because I'm going to give you (and all my nairaland readers) advice that will probably be priceless to you. First though, let me start with some ranting and confusing-talk, and then we'll get to the good stuff.

Are you down?

I'll begin by verbally abusing you for NOT paying attention to what I always say, then get into exactly what to do in your situation...

Until You Finally "Understand and Master It," Success With Women will fell like a rocket science to you.

It's annoying when I go through all the trouble to explain a concept in detail... and try 100 ways to say it in my newsletters, eBook, etc. and then someone just doesn't get it.

But I'm a very patient man, obviously...

In your email you said and I quote:

"I really want to tell her that I like her, but I have read your book and newsletters you always seem to push getting the girl to admit it to you first."

Now, what I'm about to say might sound a little bit trivial to you. You might call it semantics, (like the people wey go school do). But, pay attention. Read my lips…

… Or in this case …my hand…

I do not recommend that you get a woman to admit that she likes you first…

…Why?

Because… Getting a woman to admit that she likes you first naturally implies that you admit it back. And I do not say, admit it back, either, or anything else of the sort.

Why is this so important? Simple, really.

I personally believe that telling a woman that you "like her" is one of the worst things you can do.

Surprise, are you?

If you want a woman to know that you like her, the best way is to have her figure it out by the fact that you guys are getting physically involved.

DUH!!!

...here's what you MUST do to succeed with women in general, anytime, anywhere:

You Must Master BOTH Your "Inner" AND "Outer" Games

You see, telling a woman that you like her and FEELING like you really want to tell her are two completely different issues, and they're BOTH bad... but for TWO different reasons.

Telling her is bad because it takes the magic, the suspense, the mystery, and the sexual tension out of the situation. It breaks the magic. It kills the chemistry.

On the other hand,…Feeling like you want to tell her and then asking about how to tell her is bad because it shows that you still NOT getting it.

This is why, before I go on, I really must suggest something to you in particular...

What many of you REALLY need to get your hands on is a copy of my The Dating Game program and learn to get some control over your Fears and Emotions.

I'm serious here... your "inner game" (also known as how you think and "feel" is KILLING your chances with women, so go check this out... it's guaranteed to help you big time

All right, on to the issue number 2...

You mentioned in your email that this girl you're seeing is inexperienced in the dating world. If she's really inexperienced, then you might be in big trouble. See, she might be falling IN LOVE with you.

All of this seeing her every day business (pretending to wanting to buy fuel, when you don’t really need it. By the way, that’s lame.) But not taking things to the next level (and feeling like you want to tell her how you feel really really really badly) might be setting her up emotionally for a late-afternoon drive to high court registry.

If a woman is inexperienced, then it's very important that you not screw this up. If you do, it might be bad.

Now, Let's Talk About CREATING ATTRACTION

Attraction happens for reasons that are difficult to explain to a person who has a "bad model" of how it works. Let's just say that if it does happen, you want to amp-it. You don't want to weaken it.

One of the problems with "telling her how you feel" is that it instantly changes the dynamics of the situation.

When you say, "I like you" - in her head the woman hears: "He is admitting to me that he likes me, which gives me all the power, which, for some strange reason, makes me not like him as much anymore."

Hey, I realize that this sounds crazy (and if you say it doesn’t, I will be a little worried), and doesn't make a whole lot of logical sense, but it's what usually happens. It has a lot to do with the fact that when most guys say, "I like you" they sound like needy children... which isn't exactly "attraction creating" stuff.

Like I said... if you want to tell a woman that you like her, the best way to do it is to advance physically. In other words, take things to the next level.

If you want me to spell it out for you…

Don't Say Something... DO Something.

Words are to be used when actions don't work better. And this is NOT one of those cases.

Have you read about "The Kiss Technique" I talk about on my Blog? Then use it. Do you remember the sequence that I describe in the bonus booklet that you get with my The Dating Game eBook called "Do’s And Don’ts?" Then use it. This is advance stuff.

Finally, let me give you some advice about this whole situation of, "She calls me every day to hang out and I can't turn her down"... Here's what you need to do:

You Have To Learn How To Turn A Woman Down

Basically, if you're in love with this girl and want to marry her, have kids with her, then forget what I'm telling you. Who knows, you might have found one of those rare, wonderful women that so many of us are looking for.

But, if you're just at the stage where it's time to take things to the next level, then do it with your ACTION, not with your WORDS.
Are you with me?

Now, if you're reading what I'm telling this guy and saying, "I really need to learn how to make women feel attraction for me" - then I have to agree with you. You really do need to learn. It's important. Very important.

And my latest FREE controversial book, HOW TO SUCCEED WITH WOMEN BY BEING A BAD BOY, will give you a behind-the-scenes look at how to trigger that magical physical and emotional response that we call ATTRACTION.

Inside, I'll teach you why there's a huge difference between what women say they want in a man... and what makes women feel attraction. I'll also teach you how to go to work on yourself to become the kind of man that automatically and instantly triggers this attraction in the women you meet and interact with.

I could go on and on, but you should just go to the below this article and get that eBook FREE and be reading in 5 minutes:

That's about it for this week's Reader’s Questions. I have a bunch of emails sitting here in my inbox that I'll be answering SOON, so be sure to visit my Blog regularly for my next "Readers Questions" post.

I remain the dude that Nairaland ladies hate… but will love to go out with.

P.S. By the way, if you're a "shy" or quiet guy.. Did you know there's a way to make your personality work FOR you instead of AGAINST you?
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carefreewannabe: disagree

Well then... Let's agree to Disagree...

I want to help the "helpless"... Not the Clueless...

carefreewannabe: Exactly, there is no formula.

Ohh honey, But you don't know how wrong you are...

There are always a formula to everything in Life... I'm going go out the LIMB here and quote one my favorite mentor, DR. SUNNY OJEAGBESE...

The HUGE gap between the RICH AND THE POOR is the... KNOW HOW!

... And that also applies in DATING and WOMEN.

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Crown Prince: thank you poster...
*runs off * I have some wooing to make.

De Crown Prince... I Love that name dude.

... well, start wooing away... The world is your oyster.

uj_sizzle: That was exhausting, but in a good way. OP made some good points.

Thanks babe... New RULE: All posting from the ladies MUST include a picture...

candieangel12: Damn this is a long post. Stopped reading after the 3rd sentence...whenever someone reads this post finish, please kindly summarize it. Thank you

AWWW... But sweerie, you know what they say...

If it ain't long... then it ain't worth it

AM I right? or AM I RIGHT?

Today I was digging through tons of email that I received from my Students and royal readers, and I found a question from KC one of my student, that could have a MAJOR IMPACT on *any guy* long-term dating success.

Have a look at the question and my answer, and then let me know what you think:

Fidelis,
Thank you for what you do. Because of you I don't even have to ask girls for their numbers anymore.

I have one question though. This girl I like, we went out to beer parlor the other week.

Well the night went great and I did some of your one step forward/two step back stuff on her and she was giving it back laughing and giggling the whole time.

Now I really like this girl and I don't want to ruin my chance with her, I'd like to make something out of this. I would like some advice from the Big Brother Marc on how to follow up on this one.
KC, Lagos

Okay, First of all, bear in mind that this not the first time I had received this kind of question from guys asking me how to follow up after a first date… and it certainly not going to be the last…

I decided to answer this “Golden” question here because, I know a lot of guys will find it useful…

So are you ready?

Okay, Let’s go…

When it comes to following up after a first date, there's an old saying that holds the whole key...

It sound like something our forefathers might have said back in 1950’s, but stay with me on this...

Here's how it goes:

“If you love something, set it free.”

If it comes back, it's yours forever... or for at least as long as YOU want to have it around.

Okay I’m busted, I added that last part myself.

But the point is...

As simple as it sounds, this “far-back-oldie” couldn't be truer than when it comes to successfully taking things to the "next level after a first date...

The point is, as illogical as it sounds, you have to, knowingly, gently, subtly, skillfully push a woman *away* if you want to make her feel "drawn" to come back for more.

My friend EAZY calls it the… PRINCIPAL THE HOLY GRAIL... the KEY TO IT ALL... the ONLY thing that MATTERS when it comes to success with women and dating...

... And that's creating irresistible feelings of ATTRACTION.

In other words -- NO woman starts to feel attraction for a man who comes across as needy... everything-no-problem-at-all… a pushover... which equal to, a total FOOT-MAT.

The kind of man that women DO feel irresistible attraction for are guys who are confident... in- control... mysterious... a challenge.

Doubt it?

…Thank God this is a forum, so you ask the any girl here… with just a click away…

Anyway…

That in mind... here are my 4 NEVER-FAILS-RULES for keeping things going after the first date and keeping those first feelings of ATTRACTION building in a woman:

NEVER-FAILS-RULES #1: FORGET ABOUT HER

Wait... say what now?

I can hear you say that…

Things just went great on a first date, and now I'm telling you to forget about her?

Well, not really… hear me out first…

Have you watch one of those movies, where a guy takes a girl out on a date… The date went great and at the end of the night he dropped the girl off… kisses her good night… then drove off and never call her for at least a week or two.

What does the girl usual do, when this happens?

Right!

She starts moping around and asking following questions:

Why hasn’t he called me? Didn’t he like me? Didn’t he have a fun when went out? Did I bore him?

You get the picture.

And I don’t have spelled it out for you that this exactly where you want to be.

Here's what I'm saying:

Now more than ever, it's time for you to GET BUSY and stay that way with other things in your OWN life.

Hang with your friends. Start reading a new book. Even better, go out on more dates with OTHER women.

This is the best way, full bar, to amplify any feelings of attraction a woman may have for you after the first date.

And listen, I totally get it...

I understand that most guys first impulse is probably, to make yourself feel more secure by trying to keep this girl safely in sight after beer night... seeing her every day... constantly texting and calling her.

Well, you can go ahead and FORGET IT.

And forget HER, just for the moment.

This is critical:

For the next few weeks, make sure that you do NOT see her more than once or twice a week.

And... if you MUST give in to your "Inner Jibity" (I just made that up, by the way) and call her the next day... always remember:

RULE #2: BE COOL ON THE PHONE

Here's how you do it:

Above all -- make sure you don't come across as overly eager.

You already did some of your best stuff while you were knocking down bottles -- so now's the time to pull back a bit on the humor so it doesn't become "too much."

Don't lay on the “one step back/two steps forward technique” too strong over the phone, where she has no visual cues, and it's far too easy to come across as a jerk.

Also: make sure to avoid another common "Inner Jibity" follow-up phone call mistake... trying to set up another date because you feel so sure she'll never want to see you again if you don't strike while the iron is still hot.

Here's what I suggest:

Call her up and say, "Hey, How are you doing?" Then... bring up about something she said to you last time while drinking... something *SPECIFIC* that makes it clear you were listening and interested in her.

Assuming you was listening to her when she was talking.

Then make a little small talk.

Then hang up.

That's right... you heard me.

HANG UP.

**WITHOUT** asking her to go out again.

The goal here is to keep her thinking about you... which is the #1 most powerful ways to keep ATTRACTION building in any woman.

PERIOD.

By the way...

If you'd like to learn a bazillion OTHER guaranteed ways to keep a woman practically OBSESSING about you after you first meet her, check out the LINK at the end of this article and sign up to receive my Controversial Book "HOW TO SUCCEED WITH WOMEN BY BEING A BAD BOY" AND my FREE Newsletters.

When you click it, it'll blow your mind how EASY it is to keep a woman thinking about you after you've just met her...

... to the point of making HER do all the hard work of chasing YOU!

But okay... for now, onto my third NEVER-FAILS-RULES for following up on a first date:

NEVER-FAILS-RULES #3: DON'T TEXT HER

It's a fact of modern life -- nowadays people find it much more easy and "safe" to email and text than to call.

Makes perfect sense... but it's also FAR too easy to let your "inner-child" tendencies to blow up in your face here...

Texting her sends all the wrong signals after a great first date:

1) It tells her that you're insecure and possessive
2) It tells her that you lack the "morale" to call her and talk to her live. (I know... I told you not to call her either, and that still stands.)
3) And worst, it tells her that you don't have a life

Which leads us directly to:

NEVER-FAILS-RULES #4: GET A LIFE!

See a theme developing here?

As I already said a couple times above, it's the WHOLE BALLGAME when it comes to following up on a great first date... and by the way, when it comes to SUCCEEDING WITH WOMEN IN GENERAL...

That's why I gave it its own Rule.

If you have a problem with that, feel free to contact your local NEVER-FAILS-RULES Committee...

But seriously, what I'm trying to say here is this:

Until you've made the decision that you really like a particular woman, it's critical that you don't focus too much energy on her.

I learn this the hard way.

Focus too much energy and time on a woman that you've just been on one or two date with, and it will:

a) Creep them out
b) Then make them start avoiding you
c) Then make them want nothing to do with you.

If these stages of post-first-date failure sound familiar to YOU, then that's a HUGE red flag...

REVIEW NEVER-FAILS-RULES #1, #2, and #3 ABOVE RIGHT NOW.

And remember... they say a watched pot never boils... so keep heating up water in those OTHER pots!

If you're not currently seeing OTHER women, then start getting numbers and dates.

If you need a a lightning-fast, fail-proof primer on how to do it, click the LINK below.

Meanwhile, here's my last suggestion...

Also use this time to discover what you want in life for YOURSELF (that is, besides lots of dates with great women).

Begin to explore the goals, passions and pursuits that make YOU feel fulfilled and excited in life.

Because... before you know what these things are... it's VERY difficult to come across as the kind of confident, passionate, exciting guy that can make a women feel ATTRACTION.

And listen, this doesn't mean you have to "master" all of your passions and dreams...

No one expects you to become the next Bill Gate or Dangote... even Mark Zuckerberg... overnight.

But, at least once you know what your passions are, you can begin transmitting all the right "signals" to a woman... signals that say you HAVE A LIFE and won't be following her around like a LOVESICK Sheep any time soon.

Okay, I think that about covers it.

Bottom line:

Follow these 4 NEVER-FAILS-RULES for following up on a first date, and there's no doubt about it...

*YOU* will become the one in the driver's seat.

*YOU* will be the one who decides when you go out with her again, and how often you see her.

*YOU* will be the one she spends HER time obsessing about (instead of the other way around).

And Best of all:

*YOU* will become the kind of man that OTHER women are fighting over to go out with.

Sound good?

Thought so.

Thanks again for reading.

I feel like I did a lot of good here today... I'll go pat myself on the back for awhile.

See You, When I See You.

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it’s no more a big shock that... I get email from a LOTs of guys who want to know how to behave around women.

And 80% of these questions are focus on the *first meeting* and the *first date*.

That's why I want to devote this entire post to a concept that I feel is VITAL to understanding how you MUST behave around a woman you've just met...

In a few moments, I'm going to share a SIMPLE, *3- GUARANTEED PLAN* that ANY man can use to avoid the biggest mistake most guys make to screw up a date.

But first, as usual, let's get right to "the problem":

THE BIG MISTAKE THAT ALMOST EVERY GUY MAKES...

I think you can agree with me that: there's a KEY difference between the way men and women act when they first meet a "potential mate"...

Women usually act in a way that can be characterized like this:

"Oh… You're interesting to me. I'd like to get to know you better, and we can see where this goes."

Men on the hand usually act in a way that can be characterized like this:

"I am *so very* interested in you that I'm nervous. In short, I'm already thinking of how many children we are going to have, what their names will be, what they will look like, and where we are going to live... or at least a one-night stand."

In other words, women are usually casual and laid-back when they're first meeting a guy...

But GUYS tend to act like every girl is a POTENTIAL WIFE.

As you can imagine, this creates a lot of tension and pressure.

And it’s not the GOOD kind.

I'm talking about the kind that makes men shiver and shake with nervousness, and women feel uncomfortable because the MAN is acting uncomfortable.

I KNOW that you can relate to this in some way.

And if so... chances are good that *you* are a man who starts acting all freakish and nervous when you're talking to a woman... and therefore you MESS EVERY THINGS UP before you even have a chance to get started.

But… that's OKAY.

I was exactly in your shoe, not very long ago.

And listen... treating a woman I'd just met as if she could be the love of my life was something that I would always do...

... Until I learned a very different approach that actually WORKED.

I began to ASSUME, and therefore ACT like, every woman had SOMETHING that was going to annoy me, bother me, or SCREW UP HER CHANCES with me.

Sounds Crazy, right?

Well, not exactly.

The MAIN reason that I did this?

SURPRISE...

It's because IT was actually TRUE!

The fact is that MOST women are NOT compatible "long term" with MOST men.

In other words, if you do get into a long-term relationship with a particular woman, the chances are that she's going to have things about her that you don't like.

That’s GUARANTEED.

This is why one of my favorite themes to follow is, "You're screwing up your chances with me."

Here's how it works:

Let's say I'm walking down the street with a girl to have a bottle of “Shine Shine BOBO” (bottle of beverage “Star”. If you No be *Niger guy*). We'll assume that she and I just met the night before, I got her number, and now we're walking from my place to bar.

On the way in the door to the bar shop, let's say she trips over the doorway.

I might look at her, shake my head in an "overly dramatic fake annoyed" way, and say, "This relationship just isn't going to work."

Then, let's say fifteen minutes later, she spills her drink on the table or herself.

I'll shake my head again and say, "What did I tell you about this kind of behavior?"

In other words, I'm communicating the exact OPPOSITE of "You're a potential wife."

Instead, I'm saying, "I'm so comfortable around you that I can even make fun of you without caring what you think of me or react to it."

Does this sound maybe... just maybe... a little bit crazy to you?

Awesome. It should.

But trust me.

If you spend a couple of hours having regular, normal conversation... enjoying yourself, NOT trying to impress her, and generally demonstrating that you could care less how things turn out...

…You’ll be FAR more likely to take things further than if you act as if she might be the love of your life and you wind up acting so nervous, and DUMB that she runs away.

Oh… by the way...

If you're a guy for whom being naturally, effortlessly, CONFIDENTLY funny with women doesn't come naturally (just like it didn't for me...)

... then I want you to know that there's a "magic cure" that I discovered for this "disease" that quickly CHANGED EVERYTHING for me.

It's an incredibly simple way to go from being a "stick in the mud" to the kind of guy who always knows EXACTLY what to say...

... at EXACTLY the right time...

... in EXACTLY the right way...

... to make a woman laugh and therefore create the first SPARKS of irresistible ATTRACTION.

Whether you need the full "magic cure" for becoming your Real Self... or you just need to "fine tune" the skills you already have... then you should take a minute and check out the Website at the bottom of this post.

But anyway...

Back to the 1 thing that most guys who are unsuccessful with women do that screws things up... and a SIMPLE, *3-GUARANTEED PLAN* to keep in mind to make sure you never do it again.

Again… here's the one thing that YOU need to AVOID...

MAKE SURE THAT YOU *NEVER* TREAT A WOMAN YOU'VE JUST MET AS IF SHE'S A POTENTIAL FUTURE WIFE OR GIRLFRIEND.

And here's my simple plan for what you need to do instead:

Umm... Okay, you what? ...Let’s stop *right here* for today.

...Keep your eyes on your an eye out for the concluding part of this article…

...Or better still check out the website below... For even more advanced stuff...

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Lol!

She doesn't feel "it" any more!

What an irony... I just wrote a post relating to this particular situation a few days ago...

I laid it all "Butt-naked" here on Nairaland... But some guys still doesn't "Get it"...

Please dear refer back to it... all the answers you are looking for are there:

https://www.nairaland.com/1073610/fear-killing-chances-women-learn

... In return...Tell me how it goes...

Deal?

ikechukz: na wa ooo.it worked for me sha.
@Op thumbs up.

Thanks bro, Although I welcome the critics... I appreciate this more

Let me ask you a few questions…

Do you get nervous and start stuttering whenever you saw a beautiful lady and wanted to get her phone digits?

Does your palm “sweats” whenever you saw that girl you always want get with but don’t know exactly what to say to her to get her number and get her to go out with you?

Do you get “shot-down” Anytime you used the old-tired-line “why don’t you give your number and I will call you?”

Or worse, have you finally given up on approaching women altogether because you afraid she might slap you or disgrace you in front of your friends, so you always makes up excuses every time you saw a woman by saying: “she is not my type?” or “she probably has a boyfriend?”

Just give me a “silent nod” if one of those questions hit home for you…

… Trust me, it’s nothing to be ashamed of… I have been exactly where you are, so I get it.

Today’s letter is designed and armed to attack and handle this for you… and after reading this and you still couldn’t approach women and successfully get her number in a minimum record time… then you seriously need more help than I thought…

So are you ready? Let’s go…

I perfected the art of getting phone numbers a couple of years ago.

If a woman is single, I can walk up to her and get her number in about a minute or two (if I’m in a hurry). I found out later, after working like a mad scientist on this, that GETTING PHONE NUMBERS ALONE DOESN’T EQUAL SUCCESS.

When you call a woman for the first time, she’ll often start acting stand offish or even worse, just plain rude. It’s almost like she’s a different person than the one you met.

I’ve found that getting an EMAIL address is not only easier, but it gets more positive responses later on. It’s almost as if women appreciate it that you’ve taken the time to think about what you’re going to say when you write an email to them and they think of you more like someone they know.

So without further ado…

Here’s How to Get a Woman’s Number Fast:

After I’ve talked to a woman for about 2 or 3 minutes, I’ll often say something like “Well, it was nice meeting you. I’m going to get back to my friends.”

They usually don’t know what to do, as they’re used to guys clinging to them. Most of the time, they say “It was nice meeting you too…

”Then, just as I’m turning to walk away and we kind of disconnect, I turn back and say “HEY! Do you have email?”

The “HEY!” is a bit surprising and “Do you have email” is non-threatening. In fact, I’m technically asking her if she HAS email, not if she’ll GIVE IT TO ME.

If she says “yes,” I take out a pen and paper and say “Great, write it down for me” and I have her write it down. (This is great, as I just treat the ‘yes’ that they give me as a yes to get it from them as well. And they’ve almost ALL gone along with it so far) Then AS SHE’S IN THE MIDDLE OF WRITING, I say “Write your number down there too.”

When you ask for an email, it’s very low risk for a woman, so she’ll think “Fine, I’ll do that.” Most women will give out an email address without thinking about it, because they know that they can choose later to just not answer.
The magic of asking them to write their phone number down WHILE they’re in the middle of writing down their email is all about the psychology of human behavior.

She’s already mentally said “OK, I’ll give you my email address”… and she’s in the middle of writing it down. When you say “And just write your number down there too” it’s only NATURAL to just write it.

I’ve gotten to the point where I can often do this in a minute or two – no kidding!

In other words, it’s a MUCH smaller step than giving out the phone number all by itself. It took me a LONG time to figure out this simple move, but it works like magic! You will have women writing their phone numbers down without even thinking twice.

Like I said, I’ve tried all kinds of things. And I’ve gotten hundreds of phone numbers. And I use this exact sequence every time I talk to a woman and I want to get her phone number. I’ve gotten to the point where I can often do this in a minute or two – no kidding!
Note: Carry a pen on you at all times. I prefer the Fancy small industrial pen. Because women love small and classy things. (No pun intended, Lol)

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My Today's post is CRITICAL and VERY interesting... I know you're going to want to hear this, so stay with me to the end...

The other day I was watching a movie (KROD MANDOON) and there was scene where KROD (The supposedly ‘savior’ of the human race) was having emotional discussion with his girlfriend.

As it turned out, his girlfriend was breaking up with him, and he was trying to understand why. The interchange went something like this:

Her: "We need to break up… I’m not attracted to you anymore"

Him: "Hey, don’t say that! I love you and I would do anything to make this work... We can go to Relationship counselor... I can change… just tell me what to do… "

Her: I’m not going to a relationship counselor with you and beside "That's the problem. You just don't get it...
Have YOU Ever Been In This PAINFUL Situation...?

Have you ever had a girlfriend break up with you, or just drift away, and the more you tried to hold on, the further she ran from you? And the more you tried to be a "good guy" and please her, the more distant she became?
Well, me too. I've been there more than once in my life. And believe me it always sucked.

The worst part about it was never understanding what on earth was going on!
I can remember being that guy I just told you the story about... and asking "Why? Why are you confused? Is there another guy? What do I have to do to make this work?" I was willing to change, act different, buy her anything she want or whatever.

Little did I know at the time, that it was this EXACT ‘attitude’ that led to all the “WHAHALA” in the first place.
If you've read my newsletters and posts for awhile now, you probably know that women don't feel the main ‘KOKO’ called ATTRACTION for guys who kiss her ass and act weak, needy, and insecure.

But unless you know this to begin with, then it's all too easy to become a nice, overly-accommodating, uninteresting, predictable, boring guy... and even though it seems logical that a woman should love to be treated like a queen at all times, you've probably found out, just like I have, that this combination usually leads to a woman either:

1. Leaving you
2. Becoming increasingly controlling, and domineering
3. Banging one your friends or Nabors (who sabi) behind your back

So what's up with that? Why does this happen? And more importantly, what can we do to avoid getting into this horrible position of losing a woman's attention because we're trying to be nice to her?

After studying this stuff for many, many years now, here are the 3 SOLUTIONS I've discovered that are absolutely CRITICAL for you to understand right now:

Solution #1: Attraction Is Not A Rational Decision

It took me a while to finally get this. We humans don't choose who we feel attracted to... and, just as important, who we don't feel attracted to. Attraction happens for reasons all on its own, and these reasons have evolved inside us over time.
While culture, peer pressure, and trends can shape our natural drives slightly, the fundamentals never change.
Men are attracted more to looks and shapes. Women are more attracted by your personality, what you say and do.

Most men can't believe it, but to a woman your looks just aren't that important. Yes, if you don't take care of yourself, don't bathe, and let two of your ‘front goat teeth’ rot out you might scare away the ladies. But for the most part, women will look past just about ANY physical issue if she feels that all-important emotion called ‘ATTRACTION’.

This concept is the cornerstone of everything I teach. In fact, I wrote a world-famous book about it. To get simple, step-by-step training for changing your life FAST with this concept, you can learn more about my book… BUT… it’s a big BUTT… Bigger than “Ini Edo’s”… I’m not here to sell you anything…

So, let's talk about...

The next thing you need to know and accept is the proven fact that:

SOLUTION #2: Women Are NEVER Attracted To "Weak-Men"

My friend Eazy calls this type of men ‘FOOT-MAT’. I’m gonna leave it at that… Nuff said

SOLUTION #3: You MUST Pass Her Test

When a woman begins to feel a romantic connection with you, she faces an interesting problem... how can she tell for sure if your character and personality are the way you're expressing them?

Anyone who is been in the dating world awhile knows men and women both show off and exaggerate their good sides while downplaying and hiding their negative traits at first. This is why men brag, and show off... and why women wear makeup, do their hair, and shop all day for new clothes.

If you were a woman, and you needed to figure out if a man was showing you his "true self", how would you do it?

Exactly!

The only way is to TEST on an ongoing basis, and to keep escalating the tests to be sure.

Put all this together (with a bunch of other factors that I don't have time to talk about right now...) and you get an interesting problem that women face...

A woman responds to a man that stirs her emotions, and causes her to want him so badly that she'll put aside all logic and reason to be with him.

But what if the man is just pretending? What if he only seems to be this confident, funny, manly-man on the outside... but he's actually a push-over FOOT-MAT that is insecure… and makes up for it by acting like a tough guy?

Or worse yet, what if he's a FOOT-MAT all the time, and she just happened to settle for him because he was available and persistent... and she didn't have anything better going on at the time... but now she has other options?

Well, these are the kinds of situations, that when played out, lead to the story that I started with... a man begging a woman to stay... pleading with her to explain what he has to do to keep her.

Of course, this is all worst behavior, and it only serves to put the final nail in the coffin, convincing the woman of your desire that you are absolutely, beyond the shadow of any doubt, a FOOT-MAT.

So what's the answer?

The Answer Is To NEVER Come Across As A "FOOT-MAT" Again!

Listen. Being "nice" and "accommodating" and "understanding" is great for friendships and social relationships, but it's a death sentence to ‘ATTRACTION’.

If you want to make your dating life a whole lot better and easier, then stop and think about your behavior... and resolve right now to stop acting like a foot-mat for the rest of your life.

An interesting, attractive woman doesn't want a guy that she can push around and walk all over. She doesn't want a guy who does what she wants him to do. No

This doesn't make logical sense, I know. But it's the truth. These submissive qualities will only work in attracting a woman if she likes dressing up in short incredibly mini silk skirt... and charging N10,000.00 an hour. (Depending on your geography) And my guess is that this isn't the kind of woman that you're looking for.

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Tajsagay: My work collegue jst broke up with her very rich bf. I was absolutely shoked coz I know he was really caring, doesn't smoke nor drink. Very devout catholic and also very very rich. I asked her, babe wetin happen? My mind 1st went to, "ok he's cheating, or maybe is a same sex kinda guy". She replied dat she decided to end it coz.....wait for it, he's too soft. She went futher to explain that when they argue, he's always quick to apologise even when she's out of line. I was like WTF. So Ladies, is that wat u really want? Cos am confused right now!

Asking any sane person to explain why women behave the way they do will be like asking y rain falls. it's no rocket science or anything, it's just nature.

I think all men can I agree with me when I that Women Are Craszy.

If you don't agree wit me, it's okay (you are entittle with ur own opinion) but check this:

A woman will wear a skimpy top showing of her breast then complain that men look at her like a piece of meat.

I can begin to name examples but all and all we brothers better begin to learn The Game is played.

Hello my brothers,

I registered a business name (A limited company) through an agent introduced to me by a friend. but lately I have been having doubts if the name was ligitmately registered with CAC.

How do I found out for sure if it was registered? So not to be another victim to another scammer.

I would appreciate any form suggestions from you guys.

LilMizzGood: Through out my life I have never fought over a man and I'm 100% positive that I'm never going to.
I have seen, heard and know women that fights over a man. My question is .......

Q: Why fight over a man?

To all those women that have or is in the processes of it, haven't you heard a saying that goes " Hakuna Matata" meaning NO WORRIES!
So why fight for something that belongs to you or why fight for something that is not yours and even if you don't get the man there are plenty of fishes in the sea. I'm sure that God in his merciful ways did not make one man.
Beside if the man truly loves you he will stay with you. Don't you think so?

It's just a curiosity of mine to know why would a woman wants to fight over a man.

I don't know how to answer that without being disrespectful, so instead I will just live you with one of favourite quote: "Anything Worth Having Is Worth Fighting For".

Get that sweerie.

Alright sweet thing, Dr. Broken heart is here.

After reading your story (which in opinion, I think it's too long though) I realised two things:

#1: The guy is a real douche and has had it in for you since day one. Trust me on this, it takes one to know one. I was actually kinda laughing when you said <I went to visit him as usual and one thing led to another and...> like that ever happens. believe me, it was all already staged for you before you even get there.


#2: You are a sweet naive girl.

Time for some tough love.

Listen,I am all about let's brame it all on the "douche bag" but the little cold hard truth is, it was part your fault as well as his.

That being said, it time to move on sweety. Be like me don't point fingers and dwell on what could have been.

I'm not the one to tell people what to do but I know enough to know that seating at home pinning and being the victim ain't gonna solve anything. Go out with friends and family and have fun. if you are a church person, go join the choir group or something.

If you ar not ready to date, you are allow to have fun. Accept your admirers (did I spell that right) invitations and go have fun on dates. (Yeah, I said "dates" not "date". date a couple of guys at the same time, I hear it suppose to be fun for women).

You know the saying: The only way to get over someone is to get on top of someone or in your case... under someone.

Good luck in all your future endeavors. ( is that correct?)

Danm I'm good.

;DThat a token has a key holder doesn't mean you should carry all the iron wey dey for your house hang am untop. you be mumu. (by the way, how is my pidgin?)

Anyho, i have one and has been using it for over a year now and guess what, it doesn't have so much as a scratch on it.