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Liliyann:
I judged him based on his post, I don't have to be told to know he is disrespectful to his wife
A man that can't handle his home, comes to the public to cry is not fit to be married
Learn to call a spade a spade...it wouldn't hurt to be sincere for once ..one thing I will never do is exchange words with a kid, you can go with the 5mins fame!!
You have been noticed kid!

Can sango inclusive of obatala strike you own yet? If you feel i came here in public to rant, it shouldnt be ur problem to come here and spew garbage shit on this thread, talk of visiting this section. You should be allergic to this kinda thread, thus not contributing. Shame on your low life.

Up until now, im in-secured is the subject matter, not you put the children under in-secured watch. Mehn marriage nor be play play oo, if na baby mama now, i for don find my way carry my children run/

Liliyann:
Pele o wife material 1000yards
Your use of words shows how uncultured and ill mannered you are!
Why not be plain enough to tell the Op to divorce his wife and marry you since you obviously know it more than the wife?
I choose not to trade words with kids online!

Keep shut home destroyer, u are doing more damage than mending, we know ur type, u offer nothing but horrible utter gibberish thinking u are making sense, everyone is actually entitled to their own opinion, but in your own case, your opinion doesnt not stand a chance.

Point of correction, my children were not present at the time of our discussion. I had it planned, during going to bed time, will discuss it and making sure no need for argument that will end up to quarrel. The moment she said it wasnt a big deal, was where i sort of toned up my voice, that if its not mere carefree and careless attitude that nobody in this life will live his/her children with a stranger, unless though u guys have a good friendhship and u feel u are comfortable enough to leave them in the car with a stranger, she now turned the issue of having a good relationship with her barber otherwise, saying am insecure, she switched the matter of security of the children to saying am insecured. Inside life.

Liliyann:
I hate nagging husband
You think it's easy caring for kids and the home while one person sits in one place giving orders?
You are just being paranoid!
I bet if you should switch role in a day, you will collapse!
Lastly, mind the way you talk to your wife in front of your children. For your daughter to report the mum to you for chastisement is outrightly disrespectful and means she can't trust the mother to take care of them. Don't encourage her! Immediately she brought the tale to you, the least you could have done is to tell her, mummy has her reasons and not to bother then you can correct your wife in your bedroom without the children hearing!!

You jyst chatted the greatest shit of your lifetime, why are sexist so extremely insensitive like this? My daughter did the right thing by reporting that they were left with a stranger, if the kids were kidnapped, would this ur stupid statement you made come off ur head? Hell no. I work my ass out to make sure everything is fine, i take care of the kids too, we have an housemaid, she rarely does much for the kids, so hush up if you dont know more about whats going on around here. Says am nagging over insecurity of my children, i doubt ur married, even if u are, u must be barren.

I have tried my best, both in a loving approach and a "change am for you" tactics, its remains the same way. I have always tried to be diplomatic with my approach, None seems to work. Over the years, once am not there, she plays to her own rules, not what we agree upon.

my dear husbands and wives in the house, there is a matter that bothers the most in my family, which is a major cause of concern to me the most. My wife is a care free and no cautious woman when it comes to the kids. Security wise, she has zero concern, she blvs she can trust anybody. I dont want to say much, its been going on for years in different forms, leave kids in the house with worker or house maid, the recent one is my daughter told me today that when they went out yesterday, after trimming low her hair cut, her barber had asked for a lift to 7up which is way far from and not in no way a route to home. She said she branched to get food at a restaurant and left she and her little brother in the car with the barber. That she wanted to let me know because she was aware of the fact that mummy should not leave us with strangers. I spoke to her of this and she got on the defensive. Dear fathers, how would you have handled this situation, because my asking her this now turned out to be that i am thinking otherwise about she and the barber, leaving the major issue of security which was what my worry was about.

Graxie:
My problem is that your father in-law seems to be irresponsible, I am sure your wife is also taking weed. Pray for her, God hates divorce. Continue petting her, shower her with gifts. A good man builds his home. No perfect marriage anywhere. Meanwhile, let's hear her version too, a wife can not just start carrying knife just like that that. Lest I forget, midnight prayers does wonders. Please answer some of these questions, where did you meet your wife? Didn't you notice her anger issues ? How are you sure the next woman will be better? Some of our parents endured more or are you cheating already? Please be patient with your wife, women are babies. Thanks.

We only met just 2 weeks after she got pregnant, 1 month later we were forced into marriage.

Hi guys, this episode am about to drop happened 3 and the half years ago. It might a bit of a long write up, its just for the sake of deeper understanding of my plight here. My wife and I went to a restaurant where I normally go during lunch hours at work, I am pretty known there by the employees. On getting there, it was only madam that wanted to eat, so as were about to pay for the take away food, the lady at the cash point said, sir are you not eating? My wife exploded in a loud tone which sent tremble down the spine of most customers in the restaurant, she said how is that your business? Can he not eat from what I bought? The lady was like no sorry mah, hes our regular customer, i was surprised he isnt eating, the tension was in the air for about some minutes, I was mute though cos I didnt expect the outburst from my wife,although I was a bit embarassed.

On getting into the car, she started with me, its ur fault, i said how, she said if its not for the fact that the lady is tripping for you, she ought not to have asked you if you wanted to eat or not, i was like wow, my fault? how in the hell would u define that as my fault? That im the one in the position to express disappointment in your public outburst. We got home oo, next thing...am taking the kids out in a raging voice, i was like to where, she was like i dont know, then I replied saying u know the rules, u cant take kids out without me having knowledge of where you guys are going, next thing is i am sure you have something to do with the girl, since you are not in support of my ourburst, saying she will make sure she does something in return to make me feel bad,i was now like that is an olosho attitude, you cant pay evil without concrete reason. Next thing, she had gone to the kitchen to get a knife, threatning to stab me, which initially was like the 5th time she would threaten me with a knife in a time frame of 3 years. Immediately, I informed my mum about the incident and told her I want to hold a meeting with the father with her attendance, am ending the marriage, I cannot die because I married.

Its a long story though, so i will need to cut it short, during the period when the meeting was called for, she had hinted her father of the ongoing issue, no father wants a divorce, so i overheard she and her sister saying she and her dad already planned to pin something on me so as to overturn the allegation i have against her. I just waited to know what it was until the day the meeting was held. The man came and I explained myself and why I want the marriage dissolved, next thing the man would say to her daughter is, do you have anything to say, she said well the reason why she has been misbehaving is because she saw weed in the glove compertment of the car. I was stunned to know that that was their initial plan, next thing the man just stood up, if you are truly smoking weed, then aiye e ma baje ni, meaning your life go spoil, I was moved to tell him to get out of my house, then my mum winked at me to chill, next thing he sat and started rambling then out of his anger started hitting my 74 year old mother on her shoulder, then I was about to stand up and probably just do the unknown, my mum winked again, I was so angry that I could not do anything, the tension now dampened, nxt thing my 3 years plus son came out from the room and said, grandpa dont say that, with his finger placed on his lips, showing a keep shut sign, that is in approach to the fact that he laid curse on me, it was basically based on what i have thought them, the man responded, am sorry..the initial moment when shame caught up with him that a 3 year old came to caution you.

All in all, he was calm, begged and asked me to forgive her, laid rules and promised she will never do such again, my mother too alligned and that was the end. From then till now, no issue of weapon though we still have numerous issues. Not until some days ago when something came up, i gave her the silent treatment since i figured she was raging, in order to get me to talk, she used my ailment to make gest of me, i got angry and pulled her clothe to tell her that, no matter what, you dont use peoples ailment to form abusive attack or to attract cheap attention, she was with a biro, and was pointing that biro towards me like she was going to pluck out my eye, that gave me a resounding reminder that, one day something heated might just make this woman end my life one day, am thinking of fleeing away when my kids are about the age I can feel comfortable doing that,since them no want make i divorce am. Am still sort of living in the fear of the unknown, maybe one day she'll just end me.

5thElement:
This is bad. Maybe you need to take your daughter out for a daddy-daughter quality time alone and use style ask her about her dreams and what she thinks
Dreams are mostly a replay of events or an interpretation of what we witness while awake.

I'm sure your daughter knows something she might not know is important for you to hear.

Hmmm, shes too young to be drilled farther.

JoannaSedley:
Your wife must be super hot.
You are not even worried about being locked up, just the mere mention of another daddy doing your wife had you in titters even to the extent of begging nairalanders for advise.
Insecurity is an understatement where you are.

You must be mad, its not too hard to know that you a sexist, husband killer, and home wrecker association Chair lady.

Eyinjuege2:
So what do you want to do about it?
Divorce your wife because she might remarry if you die? It's better you pray you don't die young, so you can be the father to your children.
If you do, there's really no justification for your wife not to remarry o. Most marriage vows say till death do you part, and if any one of the partners die, the other is free from their vow.

You dont get the drift, the dream says i was arrested, does that mean I am dead? The reason why this issue of disloyalty is brought to subject is because, I am only arrested and another daddy is already on topic.

ferhyntorlah:
Sir, in my opinion you should be more worried about your daughter's dream not coming to pass and not your wife's loyalty. That can be tackled later.

For now, please embark on a fasting and prayer session to cancel that dream. I don't JOKE with dreams at all. Any dream I don't like, I cancel it from manifesting via fasting and prayer.

Any negative/unpleasant dream, whether from you, your daughter or anyone else, please reject/cancel it immediately.

Sir, you don't want to experience police brouhaha. I tell you that. A relative had such and it was a terrible one that she had to be attended to by a medical personnel because of the trauma of being locked up.

There's nothing like freedom:
Freedom to eat and drink whatever you like at anytime.
Freedom to urinate and defecate.
Freedom to have your bath at any time.
Freedom to go out.
Freedom to have control over your space.

Once incarcerated, that freedom will be taken away and you'll be treated like a criminal.

I'm shouting it now: PLEASE CANCEL THAT DREAM VIA FASTING AND IF YOU VALUE YOUR FREEDOM AND PEACE OF MIND.

Thank you for reading.

I sure will, but not mandatory, coz in most cases, when i see negative things in my dream or being told by a close relative or a friend, its always a sign of victory, or danger averted already.

I feel you my people, but nobody seems to be talking about the dream.Could it mean something? I mean her statement.

I woke up this morning, and my 6 6 years old daughter told me, Daddy i dreamed and police took you away and you didnt do anything, then mummy said dont worry, we will get another Daddy. I just told her dont worry, its just a dream nothing will happen. This now took me back to when I was with an ailment which she and I have discussed never to share with anybody until I finally get it cured, I was down at the hospital because I was given dosage of pain killer which literarily would make sleep, but I was half awake for unknown reason. We were at general hospital at around 4am, the place was filled up, so i was getting drip inside the car outside the hospital complex, then gbam, our secrets and everything started leaking off her mouth, she thought i had passed out, leaked all the secret of my ailment in front of her brother and my daughter, cos my dear daughter followed us to the hospital that late night, from that day henceforth, i started getting worried about the woman I married if she's being a loyal, trustworthy and real woman. Husbands, if you experienced this, what would be your thoughts? Plz note that am not using judgement here to apply to my own wisdom. Good morin everyone