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victorVIC1:
Mehn....I regret ever renting an apartment in this environ. The place is just so messed up

sorry.. We were at the primary school this morning playing our ball jejely before the policemen came to move us out due to the primary that was about to be held in the early hour of today... We knew it's going to be bloody though mere looking at those present...

Heard about it too this evening..... Pathetic!

Shaykh Ibn Taymiyyah [رحمه الله] said:
❝A man should not give a Mahr that exceeds what he can afford without hardship.❞
(Majmoo’ al-Fatāwā, (32/194) | Translated By Abū Ruqayyah 'Abd us-Samad)

Where is snapscore ke?

The update is actually old

Demmzy15:


#yimu!

it is allowed

Demmzy15:

when I saw the mention I knew you gonna be the one with a funny emoji.... E kuse ooo

What's happening here

snapscore:
Would you ever consider marrying someone against your/their parents wishes?

it actually depends on the reason the parents don't want them be together. If it is something the sharia agrees with, one shouldn't go against them. But if it is the opposite, like the parent(s) doesn't want his daughter to marry a sunni but a bid'ee, such child can go against them in this after making efforts to enlighten them.

snapscore:
Would you ever consider marrying someone against your/their patents wishes?

parents right?

Demmzy15:
Tear rubber!!! Chaiiiii, that vicinity is very funny o, I might come around some time!

don't come empty handed sha

bbeautylik:
Yes

will those stuffs be his or yours?

AbdelKabir:
The term "tear rubber" is what that poster finds derogatory....

seriously! I didn't mean she would be asked in that term. Just the slang we use among ourselves.....

A sister once told her husband (some time after their nikkah) that she felt really bad when he asked her if she was a virgin at the time he wanted to marry her.....

snapscore:
Even if someone specifically wants to marry a virgin?

I don't think there's anything wrong in that. One of my friends actually wsnted a tear rubber (virgin) as a wife during his quest but as Allah has decreed, he couldn't get. He got something better I think.
Tear rubber is of the slang we use among our brothers in my vicinity for virgins....

AbdelKabir:
You asked if its proper.....and I'm trying to put you in such shoes.....so would it be proper for you to be asked? With all the signs of piety that is apparent... Would you like such question...

*modified*

I hope you didn't read this wrongly;

I only need your opinion(s) about it,not the usual ways Nigerians use question to answer question.....

^^
You haven't answered the question

I have been wanting to ask this, is it proper for a brother to ask the sister (who looks righteous and chaste) he intends to marry if she's a virgin. I could remember someone asked Ustadh Paiko about this and he replied "she should slap the brother's face" in a lighter mood and everybody laughed. Or what do you think/feel about this? Is it necessary to ask or not to?

There are few sisters that actually have that kind of attitude. Sisters too want Olohunsogo now, no more igbeyin Adun. I pray you find such sister

RABIUSHILE04:
Akhee, the agboye I meant was dat with a limited amount of income One can be nikka-ed, dat is where the agboye of d ukhtii comes to play.

Women generally like to be very comfy, but it takes a sister with higher Imaan to be with a man with limited source of income and still be happy with the akhee.

Putting it in mind that the brother tries his best to get money but Allah did not 'kadara' wealth for him and he's patient with Allah in his trial.

Toor! BaarakAllahu feeka akhee

RABIUSHILE04:
Pity me bi ti bo?

Agboye can't really solve this kind of situation most of the time

RABIUSHILE04:
Lol, u r right by Allaah. It's quite funny but true.

An 'Agboye-d' sister is the best, Wallaah.

Emi eyan gan a Wa relaxed!!!!

Barakallahu feekum akhee to sahih.

I pity you

IF YOU FIND A GOOD WOMAN...
A whole lot of men don't know how to identify a good woman. They're busy looking for Ms. Perfect, while they are nowhere close to being Mr. Right themselves. They expect her to be level-headed, dropdead gorgeous, good in the kitchen, great in bed and yet, never grow old!
Perfect women are not in this world. They are in Paradise. But good women do exist. They're everywhere; you just need to look closer. The caveat is that, some are ready-made while the majority are raw. The raw one requires some refining with lots of patience. Give her some time, and that's it!
A good woman requires consistent maintenance and a handsome sustenance, to remain as good as new. In fact, she can be better; she can be excellent (not perfect). All she needs is your support.
A good woman is not a flawless woman. She will mess up sometimes. She will add too little or too much salt in your food. She will have mood swings and throw tantrums. She will get angry and speak harshly. She will complain about flimsy things. She will get jealous. She will get tired and sick. She will cry and you won't know why...
A good woman is not an angel. She is human. She has blood flowing in her veins. She has natural instincts. She has needs. She has cravings. She is a creature; accountable to the Creator. She has a life to live with or without you. This, you must understand. This, you must accept.
A good woman is a righteous wife as described by the Prophet (saw)... "This world is all temporary convenience, and the greatest joy in this life is a righteous wife". (Saheeh Muslim, 1468). A righteous woman believes in Allaah and His Messenger, obeys His do's and eschews His don'ts. She might not be sinless, but she always hastens to repent. She might not be an Haafidho, but she always reads her Qur'an. She might not fast on every 13th-15th, but she is very generous...
If you find a good woman, hold her real tight. Don't let her slip away. Guide her wisely and correct her gently. Let her grow. Let her feel comfortable. Let her feel loved. In short, be to her, a good man.
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AbdelKabir:
You be president for your branch?

I will not answer that

RABIUSHILE04:
I don't get source of income dat 's y .

E dey my mind o, gaskia.

haba! Just look for a sister that has "agboye" now. You will feed her with dates and water....

We are into this together. Nobody is leaving unannounced

AbdelKabir:
I don't deny the possibility of her inability to adapt...
But the possibility of that affecting the marriage is very very low, unlike the other case.... This I say because I'm a male, and[b]I know how our minds(the male gender) works[/b]....

bbeautylik:
As a lady, My culture demands I provide some of the things I will need including Television, Gas Cooker, Bed and wardrobe refrigerator and so on... My dad ended up spending about 1.5 million

you are from the northern part right?

NO GAMBLING IN MARRIAGE.
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Many people think that simply because the famous hadith mentions "deen", so every muslim is now a marriage material!
If that was the case, then there would be no need for istikharah and istisharah anymore, we'll just marry just anyone who prays facing the ka'bah, simple.
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HELLO,
As much as all that glitters is not gold, all that's fade is not also advisable to be purchased, a faded item does more harm than good.
If a man has been practicing sunnah for 5years and he still says:
"Astanga-fruullah"
Is that a sign of a serious person who is willing to learn? Such is an unserious students of knowledge and it shows he is far away from the scholars and gatherings of knowledge.
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Don't think that people will suddenly improve after marriage, the way people are before marriage is the way they will be after marriage, nothing changes overnight, except in extremely few cases. Do not take that risk.
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Imran bin hittan was a scholar among the tabi'een, he was very eloquent and there is no person he admonishes except that the person would embrace islam.
So he wanted to marry his cousin sister who was one of the khawarij, so that he will change her to the sunnah, but when they got married, she was the one who changed him and imran became a khawarij and later became the amir of the khawarij of their time.
(Siyaaru alaamin nubalaa).
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This is what we are saying, if a sister promises you that she would start wearing hijab after marriage, do not take the risk, let her start wearing it first out of the fear of Allah not for your sake, before you marry her.
If a brother tells you he will stop partying or living a gangster life after marriage, don't accept his proposal, until you see the changes in him, even at that, do your istikharah, it maybe that he is only pretending for a shortwhile.
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There is no management in marriage, do not marry anyone out of pity or out of mere hopes that they would change.
This is why we see some niqabites married to niggas today, some brothers are married to slay babes today.
You don't have the unseen knowledge, it may turn out positive or negative, the risk is not worth taking, marry a man who is better than you not worse than you.
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Sheik uthaymeen said,
People do say:
"I will marry a woman who is not religious, perhaps Allah will guide her through me"
We say: you have no knowledge of the future, it may be that you'll marry her hoping that Allah will guide her through you but she would rather change you to her wayward lifestyle
(Sharh al mumti, kitabun nikah, 14)
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When we buy fruits, we choose the best, when we buy clothes, we go for the best, when we cook, we prepare it well, when we take drugs, we go for the best, when we marry, we even go for blood test so that we don't endanger the health of our kids, but when it comes to religious commitment and aqeedah, we marry anyhow.
We go for blood test but we don't examine the aqeedah of the person.
Marriage is a lifetime contract and your partner will either mar you or make you, so do not go for anything less, there is no management in marriage.
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AbdelKabir:
Lol.....zobo(with ginger) and cabin biscuit loading....

SMHFY.... Kuku add kulikuli too

May Allah make it easy...... Finally, rice is loading..... ...

It begins with you s w